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btw if you have dermatillomania or trichotillomania or onychophagia or rhinotillexomania or any other bfrb i love you & i hope you're having a great day & that you get a good night's sleep tonight

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It's okay if you failed. It's okay if you didn't live up to your expectations. Your worth hasn't diminished, and it never has. It's hard to accept, but it is okay to fail.

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Hanif Abdurraqib, In an Interview with Krista Tippett

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i don't get nauseous, per se, but i get really itchy and on-edge until i do it. sometimes to the point where if i don't, i'll have to dig my fingernails into my skin to create a feeling other than the need to pull

Do you ever like...feel sick when you dont do it? Like my therapist and I are working on not doing it and I felt physically nauseous

Not that I know of. Maybe it's more common in those with "stronger" bfrbs?

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i've figured it out!!!!!!

people with ocd just live life in hardcore mode

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[Image ID: “I deserve to be accommodated.” End ID.]

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it is not an evil thing to look at yourself with kindness. your life was never meant to be a punishment

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having triggers is so fucking annoying bc you can’t ever fucking explain them to ppl how the fuck do you explain 7 PM, lamps and hot sauce are triggers without sounding like one of those annoying chronically online ppl

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your body is beautiful, and not disgusting or disturbing....

with feeding tubes, stoma bags, and ventilators

with transparent skin & varicose veins

with large scars, or many scars

with missing or shrunken eyes and ears

with limb differences

with a cleft lip

with hypermobility

with a rotation plasty

with an atypical face

with large bruises, every where

you are not beautiful despite these parts of you, you are beautiful with them. your body is worthy of love. your body is not body horror, it is not something to be disturbed by.

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If you lost your teenage years to mental illness and/or trauma, I just want you to know that you did not "miss out on the best years of your life" and that it isn't actually too late for you to have fun, explore yourself and grow into the person you want to be. There's still plenty of time for all of that. I promise.

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OCD emotes (left to right: intrusive thoughts, compulsions, and trying to detach intrusive thoughts from your own identity)

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shout out to folks with dermatillomania or trichotillomania or other body focused repetitive behaviours. you aren’t gross or shameful. you aren’t a bad person. and you are much more than any part of your body. 

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If someone with dermatillomania or trichotillomania is picking or plucking and you physically smack their hand away, we are legally allowed to hunt you for sport.

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it’s not too late to remember you are so so worth it and whoever told you otherwise when you were a kid failed to see the complex human being that you are. you’re not here to be perfect and to always be good. you’re here to experience everything that life has to offer in your own way, to make mistakes along the way, to feel and to choose for yourself who you are.

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PSA: less diet culture, more dietitians like this

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I feel like the line between “fluffy uwu self care” and “get your shit together self care” is thinner than people seem to think. Like, sitting in a quiet space with a book and maybe some twinkly fairy lights gives me the spoons to go call my damn doctor like I’ve been meaning to. Bath bombs or shower steamers make me feel content and/or sparkly, which gives me confidence to go out in public. (Plus, I bathed.) I dye my hair funky colors so if I feel like people are staring at me I can say it’s at that instead of whatever my anxiety wants it to be. 

The two are not mutually exclusive, is what I’m getting at, and I never see that mentioned, just either “self care is being nice to yourself” or “self care is kicking yourself in the ass to function for a few hours”. Kick yourself in the ass with niceness.