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"Por quê que a paz é sempre a justificativa para a violência?"

Arcane - Temporada 2

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If someone makes you feel, let them.

Reyna Biddy

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We could have been happy. I know that, and it is perhaps the hardest thing to know.

Ally Condie

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From a state hearing in Texas

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man the crazy thing about babies is that like, some people would think that reading a baby a book about farm animals is teaching them about farm animals, but really it’s teaching them about the concept of a book and how there’s new information on each page of a single object, but really, beyond that, it’s teaching them how language works, and beyond that it’s really actually teaching them about human interaction, and really really it’s them learning about existing in a three-dimensional space and how they can navigate that space, but actually, above all it is teaching them that mama loves them.

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i don’t think people understand how much of life is grief. not just people dying, but losing the version of yourself you thought you’d become. grieving the city you had to leave. the friends you lost not in argument, but in silence. the summer that will never come back. the feeling that maybe you peaked at 12 when you were reading books under the covers and believing in forever

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That's so true not only for neurodivergence, but for all of us. Please please learn how to interact with every person in a way that is comfortable and a pleasure for both of u. It is possible.

I have a lot of neurodivergent kids in my family. And I’ve worked with a lot professionally. And I often see their parents think the kids don’t want to connect, when they would love to — they just want to do it differently.

If they don’t like jokes and teasing, they might like silly noises or yes-and improv.

If they don’t like playing a competitive or narrative game with toys, they might like to take apart a toy, or sort/stack/line toys up, or get buried under toys.

If they don’t like biking or walking a trail in the woods ‘properly,’ they might like to walk along fallen logs, stand in the creek or look under rocks and leaves for creatures.

If they don’t like hugs and cuddles, they might like to bump shoulders, touch fingers, hand hug, spin around together, or (if they like more intense input) wrestle, push faces together, squeeze each other hard or run into you.

If they don’t like putting on kids’ music in the car or to dance to, they might want to listen to a game or show soundtrack, nature noises, a podcast, binaural beats, house music or metal.

If they don’t like animated movies where sad or scary things happen, they might like younger kids’ gentler shows, or adults’ science and history shows, or live zoo and nature cams.

And so many of them would benefit so much from the adults just slowing down. Not scheduling so much in the day, not rushing them through an activity, not stopping them playing the same song or watching the same bug for an hour, letting them absorb everything their way. Seeing it as a meditation instead of a problem. Joining them there.

And if you were one of those kids being rushed and scolded, trying to make yourself like teasing or competition or intense movies or a full social schedule — I’ve been reparenting myself and you can too. Whenever you notice something isn’t giving you joy — you can do it differently. Not everyone is forcing themselves through things they hate for “fun,” and we don’t have to.

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A alma não se rende ao desespero sem haver esgotado todas as ilusões. Estou impaciente com tanto ruído. Antes, vivia-se onde se vivia; agora, estamos todos desterrados compartilhando padecimentos longínquos. Já não bastasse sermos um pedaço infernal de nós mesmos, agora temos de abarcar, impotentes, as dores de todo um mundo.

Carla Madeira, A natureza da mordida

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Hipernormalização: Barulho inaudível da ruína

Em seu estudo sobre os últimos dias da União Soviética, Tudo era para sempre até deixar de existir, publicado originalmente em 2005, o antropólogo russo Alexei Yurchak (2024) cunhou um conceito fundamental para entender as formas de vida presas em sistemas agonizantes: a hipernormalização. Naquele contexto, o aparato estatal, os cidadãos e as estruturas sociais sabiam — em diferentes graus — que o sistema soviético não funcionava mais. A retórica oficial havia esvaziado de sentido. Tornara-se uma ficção absurda. Mesmo assim, todos continuavam agindo como se a ordem vigente ainda estivesse de pé. Não porque acreditassem nela, mas porque não conseguiam imaginar outra coisa senão aquele regime que afundava por todos os lados, ainda que todos fingissem e simulassem que não era assim. A falsidade era hipernormal. O absurdo virou rotina. O colapso do sistema, embora visível em múltiplos sinais, era vivido como algo impensável, inconcebível, inimaginável.

Continua

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Argumentei que abri mão de um pouco da minha juventude em troca de conhecimento.

Maya Angelou - Eu sei porque o pássaro canta na gaiola

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Minha disposição de fazer isso foi atrapalhada por uma ignorância abundante de como isso devia ser feito.

Maya Angelou - Eu sei porque o pássaro canta na gaiola

(Sobre arrumar o quarto)

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“Today’s society is no longer Foucault’s disciplinary world of hospitals, madhouses, prisons, barracks, and factories. It has long been replaced by another regime, namely a society of fitness studios, office towers, banks, airports, shopping malls, and genetic laboratories. Twenty-first-century society is no longer a disciplinary society, but rather an achievement society. Also, its inhabitants are no longer “obedience-subjects” but “achievement-subjects.” They are entrepreneurs of themselves.”

— Byung-chul Han, The Burnout Society

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Call me conspiratorial, but when I see the brightly-coloured Instagram posts encouraging me to cut off my friends and focus on myself, I can’t help but notice a convenient side effect of isolation: it forces us to rely on paid relationships in order to grow. The relationship between you and your therapist is transactional and safe, free of the messiness of attachment or stakes or love. And there are times, to be sure, when that can be a very useful relationship to have. But a serious issue arises when professional, unattached relationships are positioned as a replacement (or a requirement) for fulfilling, challenging, passionate ones. When people say that one ought to go to therapy to become a perfectly stable, functional, “healed” individual before they dare try to experience love or community, they are imagining a world in which a fundamental purpose of human connection has been replaced with a capital exchange. Welcome to the ideal relationship: one between two perfectly realized individuals who would be totally fine alone but choose to hang out because they like splitting rent and watching Law and Order. No passion, no growth, no difficult conversations — that’s your therapist’s job.

Rayne Fisher-Quann, no good alone

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“Dos nossos planos é que tenho mais saudade.”

— Renato Russo    (via for-superhero)

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