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... I want clean

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-No you’re not too fat

-No you’re not stupid

-No you’re not cringe

-No you’re not unlovable

-No you’re not worthless

-No you’re not terrible person

-No you’re not disappointment

-You are enough.

-You are smart.

-You are strong.

-You are great person.

-You are loved and you deserve to be treated with love and respect.

-You are kind.

-You are beautiful.

-You are unique.

-You are interesting.

So eat something that you really like, watch move that you enjoyed watching as a kid, drink your water, take everything shower and be kind to yourself 🩷

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How to Be Social Without Becoming Overbooked

by Soleau Club

You don’t have to be the friend who’s always “so busy” just to feel connected. In fact, constantly overbooking yourself is the fastest way to feel resentful, burnt out, and weirdly disconnected from yourself.

Here’s how I’m doing soft, sexy socializing — without losing my peace (or needing three days to recover).

1. I Choose Vibes Over Obligations

Not every invitation deserves a yes. I literally ask myself:

Will this feel fun for my nervous system?

Do I actually want to see this person?

Would Future Me regret not going?

If it’s not a hell yes, it’s a hot girl no.

2. I Set My Social “Caps” Each Week

I decide ahead of time how many hangouts I actually have energy for that week. For me, it’s 2 max — 1 friend date and 1 group thing. That way, I’m not crowding out time for rest, workouts, grocery shopping in peace, or literally just vibing in my robe.

3. I Romanticize Small Moments of Connection

Not every catch-up needs to be a 4-hour dinner. I’ll send voice notes while on a walk, FaceTime a friend while making matcha, or walk to a cute café for 30 minutes of real talk. Low effort, high vibe.

4. I Say “Let Me Get Back to You” More

This phrase changed my life. You don’t owe anyone a real-time RSVP. I buy myself time to check in with my calendar and my energy levels. Spoiler: if they’re a real one, they won’t be mad.

5. I Don’t “Make Up” for Being MIA

I used to apologize for not texting back or not being free every weekend. Now I just show up when I can, fully present, no guilt. That’s hot girl energy.

Because friendship isn’t about constant availability — it’s about intentional connection.

6. I Protect My Weekends Like They’re My Hormones

Saturday and Sunday are sacred. If I book anything, it’s something nourishing: brunch with my favorite girls, a walk with a podcast twin flame, or a beach day where we all lie on towels and pretend we’re in a Sofia Coppola film. That’s it.

7. I Let Friendships Flow With the Seasons

Some friends are weekly, some are quarterly, some are annual wine-and-catch-up energy. I stopped trying to make every friendship fit the same schedule — and everyone’s happier for it.

8. I Trust That Saying “No” Isn’t Rejection, It’s Respect

Respect for myself, my energy, and the people I love. Because when I do show up, I’m not tired, checked-out, or secretly wishing I was home. I’m there, and I’m glowing.

You can be social and selective. Fun and free. A hot girl with boundaries is just a girl who glows longer.

Follow @soleauclub for more soft lifestyle edits, self-protective rituals, and dreamy living that doesn’t require burnout.

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