#choose yourself

[iamanother]

wrong person.

I am always wondering, "Why are those people that I used to like already in a healthy relationship? Am I the wrong person?". I feel insecure whenever I see them happy with someone else. It feels draining whenever I am thinking about other people's success in love while comparing it to mine. Why do I always focus on them when I can focus on my own? Sometimes, we cannot hide the fact that we always think about ourselves as a "wrong person,"  but have you thought about the reason why you are still not into the right person, and why does fate always let you go to those people who are not deserving? Maybe you are still finding the answers to those questions in your mind. Maybe you are still finding the right person for yourself.

The right person in your life will come at the right time and in the right place. For now, learn how to become the right person for yourself. Choose yourself while you are still waiting for the right person who will love and cherish your existence, just as you love yourself too. Don't lose your patience; you're almost there.

written by: iamanother.

Photo by: Anubhav Saxena

[free-my-mindd]

You absolutely gotta choose yourself this time.

[positivelypositivethoughts]

[arisingsun]

[serenityquest]

[alchemyofmaya]

It’s freeing when you no longer live your life waiting to be chosen.

[svdaily]

My goals are self love and peace. And I don't care who I've got to drop to reach them. I'll keep my energy clean every time.

[classycookiexo]

[labyrinth-of-my-mind-j]

live your life not to satisfy others, but to fulfill your heart desires. prioritize your mental health, your happiness, and your peace of mind.

[calmmyfears]

Sometimes people don't react the way you want to positive growth of your own and that's when you need to be the bigger person and remind yourself that choosing your own happiness is necessary and more important than how others see you. It's okay to put yourself first! You can and must choose yourself.

[free-my-mindd]

The best thing I’ve ever done for myself is letting go of energy draining people. Toxic people have a way of holding you back. Choose yourself every time.

[positivelypositivethoughts]

[liyazaki]

vague posts can be annoying, but I'm making an exception for posterity: as of today, a traumatic, time-consuming ordeal that's taken up years of my life- & kept me off Tumblr a lot this year dealing with it- is finally, finally over.

I know it can feel so much easier to stay where things are comfortable, known, "safe"- even when it's killing you. but your happiness- your mental health & well being? it's everything. we've got one shot at this beautiful mess called life, so if you've been looking for a sign- consider this it.

your gut isn't lying to you.

you feel the way you do for a reason.

you deserve to feel safe, loved & content. you deserve peace. you deserve joy.

please: fight for yourself even when it feels impossible because you. are. worth it.

I don't know what you're going through, but if you feel like you have no one? know I'm cheering you on from my gay little corner of the internet.

[prettyprincess02]

I want to be seen so badly Understood acknowledged for everything i do and have done loved without question

[dksw0rld]

How I achieved being the happiest I’ve ever been during the hardest year I’ve ever been through

I stopped waiting for the weekend to live life

If a friend asks me to go out to grab a drink on a Thursday for happy hour I now say yes. If I want to go to the movies on a Monday I go on a Monday. I began to refuse living a life that waited for the weekend to live. 

I stopped feeling guilty for spending money on myself

When I began to make my own money in high school, I would save all of it and not spend any on myself. A lot of this was honestly due to my parents paying for everything, they wanted me to save the money I was making for college and the future. Don’t get me wrong having parents like that was and still is a blessing. At the same time, it led me to associate money with needing to hoard it to be prepared for the next step. I began to recognize and heal those thoughts. I embarked deeper on my self love journey and adopted the mindset of recognizing that I am worth every penny I spend and more, whether that be spending money on experiences, on self care, or for my future self.

I re-started a hobby I loved as a child

When I was younger, I did ballet among a few other activities. I loved all of them but ballet was (and still is) my favorite. For years I wanted to start again but let life get in the way. This year I said enough. I looked up in person classes in my area and found that all of them were way out of my price range but, instead of giving up, I found another way. I found a program that taught lessons online with an instructor. Re-starting ballet truly makes my inner-child so happy. 

 I prioritize experiences

This ties into not waiting for the weekend to live life but it deserves it’s own point. I began prioritizing finding ways to live. I look up events in my area and actually attend them. I attend events I find that bring me out of my comfort zone like dance classes in the park, roller skating with a group of people I don’t necessarily know, attending a sunflower festival, etc. I also joined a few social groups that host events and I attend those. I take weekend trips with friends. I take myself on staycations and solo weekend trips. Life really is so much fun when you actually go outside and do things!

I volunteer

I grew up volunteering and I stopped during college. This year I realized how much I missed it. I also knew it would be a great way to meet new people and foster relationships. I’ve always loved being around horses so I knew I wanted to volunteer at a barn. I googled horse barns near me and found one 8 minutes away from my apartment - this barn is a true hidden suburban gem. It’s a therapeutic horse barn for kids with special needs. I volunteer there every Friday and Saturday and am absolutely in love with it. It brings so much to my life. I also volunteer through my church home but more about that in the next point. 

I prioritized finding a church home

I grew up in the church as my Dad was an elder there for 15 years. I sort of lost touch with my faith in the past couple of years. This year I renewed my faith and prioritized looking for a church home after putting it off for a year and a half. I googled churches near me and visited one every Sunday until I felt I found the right fit. I found the church I’m at now and I cannot explain to you how life changing it’s been. I joined a community group through the church to meet more Christians my age and those people mean so much to me now. We meet every Tuesday night, we go on runs together, volunteer together, had a Friendsgiving this past year, it’s just been amazing. I’ve grown so much in my faith.

I stopped prioritizing finding love

I am truly a certified lover girl. I have so much pure love to give and craved someone who would give me the same type of love. I tried to find that person most of my life and while I’ve had some great men in my life they never were “the one”. This year I genuinely stopped prioritizing finding my person and started prioritizing myself and my life. It feels like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. I’m now filled with trust that my person will come along when it’s time and until then I’m truly enjoying my season of singleness! 

I don’t care what anyone thinks

I’ve genuinely never cared what people think, even when I was younger, which has been a huge blessing. I’ve always marched to the beat of my own drum. I’ve never been ashamed to like what I like or to not like what I don’t like, no matter what the people my age were doing. I’ve always done what I’ve felt is best for my life. I never get embarrassed about anything. This notion has just intensified this year.

I don’t care about social media

I stopped going on Instagram. I deleted the app off of my phone. I deleted Twitter years ago. I don’t go on TikTok. I only use Snapchat for extra picture and video storage. I genuinely do not care about social media anymore. I don’t care for everyone to know what I’m up to. I don’t care to know what anyone else is up to. I know what’s going on in the lives of people that matter to me because I actually talk to and spend time with them. I personally don’t see the point in posting on Instagram. I don’t care to know what “celebrities” are doing. I just truly don’t care about any of it. 

I prioritize privacy 

This year I realized how important privacy is. For a whole host of reasons. Some of them being peace, less evil eye, safety, not having the pressure of trying to “keep up”. I can go on and on honestly. This year I’ve begun to say less and observe more. Since choosing private over public I’ve seen my happiness grow and my life blossom. I’m very careful with who I let into my circle. I don’t tell anyone everything. I’m selective with whom I share with and what I share. I’m truly in love with privacy. I love having beautiful experiences and no one or only the people I’m having them with knowing. 

I pay attention to myself 

This year I began to truly pay attention to myself. How I act in certain situations, my thought processes, my emotions, what I still need to work on, how I’ve grown, what triggers me, etc. Once I started doing this, healing, growth and making changes has become so much easier. I finally feel like I know myself through and through. I feel in touch with who I am. I know how to love myself and make myself happy.

I pray this new year you begin to choose happiness, because happiness will always be a choice. This year was NOT easy for me at all but I still prioritized myself and my happiness and I truly have never been happier. I pray this new year you choose yourself. I pray this year you begin to truly live.