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Optional: call Poj yawm txwv txooj (Npooj aw) first.

Tswv teb tswv chaw

Tswv luaj tswv av

Tswv npaj tswv moos

Thwv looj thwv siv

Zaj txwg zaj laug

Hnub no

Kuv/wb/peb tuaj txog

Nej thaj nej chaw.

Kuv/wb/peb tuaj no

Kuv/wb/peb tuaj dawb tuaj huv.

Kuv/wb/peb nco ntsoov xub hu nej

Los nrog peb noj .

Thov pob fwm pov yawm

Kom peb rov mus txog tsev.

Ntis teeb meem,

Ntis kwv phom sij,

Ntis kev sib cav sib ceg.

Txhawb peb dag peb zog,

Txhawb peb koob peb hmoo.

Kom hmab txhob nrawm tes

Kom hlua txhob nrawm taw.

Cua tshuab los tsis pub qaij

Dej tshoob kos tsis oub qaug.

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Love should set you free, not shackle you.

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Today, I am proud of myself for listening and responding to voicemails. It sounds so basic but with my mental health challenges I have right now, the task was so difficult. My heart is still pounding.

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I wish that I could just rewind

Back to a much simpler time

When the world seemed a much safer place

For I knew not the dangers I would face

A time when wounds that had long bled

No longer hurt as if still fresh

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Calling your spirit back when you've been frightened

Kuv tau ceeb tau ntshai

Plig txhob pw ntawm no

Caw no tsis yog caw nyob, tsis yog caw pw

Caw no yog caw tsw quav, yog tsw zis

Nag los nag ntub

Tshav tuaj tshav kuv

Neeg thaug neeg tsuj

Sawv los nyob ntawm khoj khom nruav khoj khom cev

Mov los tau noj, dej los tau haus

Sawv ntseem los nos nawb au...

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Isn't it crazy that the more we love someone, the more we are willing to let them hurt us in ways we would never let anyone else?

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Supervisor: You seem really caught up witj your work. Can you do some back up for your colleague?

Me in my head: Well actually, the deadline for several of my tasks was 1-2 months ago, but everyone here is just so chronically overworked that being this behind looks like stunning performance to you, but yes, absolutely I will do backup because everyone here knows just how much we get punished for not having perfect lives and healthy bodies, so we all gotta help each other stay afloat.

Me aloud: Yes, of course, I can definitely do that.

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Listen, but do not follow, bad advice from your superiors about how to get your work done, especially if it involves an impossible "performance" plan. Your superior is not going to be held accountable for your poor performance if you attempt to follow their plan. In the end, they only want results. If you know a better way to get results, trust yourself.

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You don't stop having potential just because you age. Give adults a chance to grow, too.

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Employers: We're hiring! Tell your friends!

Employees to their friends: Do not apply

I repeat, do not apply!

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Covid-19 giving me lessons on my attachment style.

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I could use my stimulus check to help lower my debt since I'm an essential employee, but Covid-19 got me in survival mode so I'd rather prepare for disaster.

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You may be okay with someone having a different opinion than you, but that doesn't mean they're going to be okay with you having a different opinion than them. Heck, sometimes, you might even be that "someone" who is not okay with others having a different opinion than yours.

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Hmong Murder-Suicides

In the past two months, at least three Hmong women have lost their lives in a murder-suicide committed by Hmong men. Mainhia in Minnesota. Se in Wisconsin. Chia in California. We are now left to mourn the loss of these amazing women as we pour our energy into stopping the loss of future Hmong women. It’s hard for me to understand why this specific form of domestic violence has become such a familiar story in my community. A cursory review of articles and research online--likely based on communities other than me own--cite various “risk factors” of murder-suicide: domestic violence, economic insecurity, possessiveness, jealousy, discord, tendency to blame others, self-centered attitudes, etc. I can only surmise that the various horrors my people have suffered--war, racism, and classism--have exposed the shaky foundations of masculinity. Regardless of why murder-suicide rates are so high in the Hmong community, our community is unifying its efforts to reduce those rates to zero: By recognizing the value, autonomy, and agency of women;  by developing healthier, less toxic foundations of masculinity; and by increasing accountability and intervention.

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Problems of an Intovert: When your life goal is to help others without having to interact with others.

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More Privilege means Less Resiliency

Patriarchy grants men unearned power and privileges but also makes men less resilient to stressors and setbacks. This masculine fragility, combined with toxic masculinity, can translate into violence--violence against one's self and violence against others.

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Own Up To Your Love Style

People love in different ways. Some people want to spend every minute of their day with their loved one. Other people need their space, but needing space doesn't mean they have less capacity for love. It's okay to be in a relationship with a person who loves differently from you, so long as you can respect each other's love style. But if you're the kind who needs space, you need to own up to your love style. Don’t lie to our family and friends that your partner isn’t there because they don’t want to be there. Your partner doesn’t deserve that. Admit that it was you who wanted time apart, and your partner chose to respect that.