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Effective ways in communicating

Please see my video about the "Effective Ways in Communication" https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Y-EEdF8p2EI

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For the whole semester studying and learning in this class. I can say that it was great to meet new people, which we can learn from them. Also, I can say that I've developed my skills in communicating with someone to build up a good relationship. I learned what are those effective ways in communicating so that the bond that I was trying to build won't break, it gives me an idea on how to be an effective communicator and speaker so that if I would approach someone I can be sure that I can catch his/her attention. Aside from learning these new ideas, for the whole semester, it was fun and enjoying, sharing ideas and learning with these people. Well, I could say that there also things which it needs to develop, like how to get the strength to have the courage to talk to people especially that we are not in the same field and age.

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A Book Review: How to Win Friends and Influence People

In the book of Dale Carnegie entitled, “How to Win Friends and Influence People.” he wanted to point out what are the key principles or an effective way of gaining friends and how to influence people effectively. He even points out 8 things that his book will help the readers to achieve. The (1) get out of a mental rut, think new thoughts, acquire new visions, discover new ambitions, (2) make friends quickly and easily, (3) increase your popularity, (4) win people to your way of thinking, (5) increase your influence, your prestige, your ability to get things done, (6) handle complaints, avoid arguments, keep your human contacts smooth and pleasant, (7) become a better speaker, a more entertaining conversionalist, (8) arouse enthusiasm among your associates. He divides his book into four parts, in which each main topic has its own principles, these four parts are namely, Fundamental Techniques in Handling People, Ways to Make People Like You, How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking and How to Change People Without Giving Offense. Given this principles, it doesn't mean that everything is useful in handling the situation in reality, because sometimes, there are principles that are not that neccessary to be used in a situation. That is why in reading this book, we readers need to be critical on what principles are really neccessary to do, because again not everything is applicable.

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VIDEOGAMES: A WASTE OR USEFUL?

please see my post on my Facebook account

https://www.facebook.com/BREBusarang/posts/2943692172325612

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Ego, according to the dictionary it is “the part of the mind that mediates between the conscious and the unconscious and is responsible for reality testing and a sense of personal identity.” this helps us to decide what is the right thing to do or response in a situation

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An Intimate Relationship

     A story of these 3 strangers that became friends. It all started back from 2005 when I became a kindergarten student. It is hard to seek someone to become your friend, knowing that I'm still a kid. I do not really know what to do and how to adjust in this kind of situation without having anyone, but all I can see are strangers around me. At that very moment, I met these 2 strangers willing to know who I am, and on that day it was the start of the story of these 3 people, from strangers to close friends.

     Jack and Wennie, that was their names, we became friends starting on that day. Aside from being my friends, they are also my cousins. I gave my trust to both of them, I share my secrets and I open up my problems to them. We value respect and honesty between the 3 of us. No secrets that are needed to be hidden. Friendship does not last long according to other people, once it faced the problems it will just give up everything, we are different from others, we are different knowing that we won't leave each other whatever it cost.

     Like in our situation before, I went to Negros Oriental to study as a senior high school student. The two of them asked me that I should stay in our hometown and study there, but I cannot, knowing that I am not the one who is financing my school fees. It was hard to adjust to another environment without them. Until the time that I was so focused on my studies and I don't have time to spend with them and the bond that we have as friends, as cousins, is getting weaker. In which at first, I thought that they will abandon me because it feels like I forgot them, but my thought was wrong.

     So, at that time when I got home to my hometown from Negros, the first thing that I thought of, is to approach them and talk to them or even asked forgiveness if they felt being abandoned. They accepted my reason why I was been busy and from that we tried to understand that we are not children anymore that we won't worry about other things. From that, we continue to strengthen our relationship between the 3 of us, by understanding each side and giving solutions to each problem that we have.

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Intercultural Communication

RELATIONAL PATTERNS OF COMMUNICATION The identity management theory argues that individuals perceive their identities differently at different given points across time and space. It distinguishes between intercultural communication (speakers from different cultures) and intracultural communication (speaking sharing the same culture). My work focuses more on intercultural communication which means communicating with an individual that has a different culture. It depends on the individuals that are communicating on how they will see each other so that they may understand each other. There are also things to observe when communicating with other individuals who do have a different culture like, what could be the interests of both cultures so that it may have an agreement on the topic that they will be talking with. Also knowing the culture, specifically the differences of each culture so that it would help the individuals to know more about each other’s culture, and to form a good relationship. Next would be the face of the individual is an important aspect, for it will reflect the individual’s cultural identity. It could be either a positive or negative face, which has meanings on how they will see it and interpret it, like seeing a positive face, like smiling for it would be a sign of acceptance from the individual. An example of identity management theory is when a Chinese and an Indian individual meet at the first time, both would have a different greeting in which it would be hard to communicate with, but they will then look for familiar points like, a universal language to use which is English, talking about religion like Buddhism or foods that can be seen in both cultures. Identity management theory is all about how to communicate effectively with other individuals who have different culture and practices, also it makes the communication interesting by finding the interest of both cultures.

Identity Management Theory. (2014, November 10). Retrieved from         https://www.communicationtheory.org/identity-management-theory/.

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“Who is Me”?

Good day to all, to everyone that will see this post. Let me introduce myself. I am Butch Rafael Estenzo Busarang, born in Dumaguete City, Negros Oriental on April 25, 2000. I’m still young, I’m still 19 years old even though on the outside I do look like a middle-aged man. I’m from the southern tip of Cebu, from the municipality of Santander. I don’t really know where I should start, but let us begin this way. I’m the kind of person who does not take problems seriously. I do believe in my own saying that, why would I worry about problems, it would only create a new problem. Also, I’m the kind of person that talks a lot and I do not really know when to shut up. Honestly, I’m the most annoying in our class and in our batch. This is just a little piece of knowing who I am. You will know me more soon enough. I do believe in a saying that, "You can discover more about a person in an hour of play than in a year of conversation."  — Plato