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might start growing my hair out again i dunno

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Katherine Mansfield, from a letter to Dorothy Brett featured in The Letters & Journals of Katherine Mansfield

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I get that some people don't understand things as easily, especially with an intellectual disability but I feel like it's condescending to explain it to them simply. I feel like I'd feel like I'm infantilizing them.

i don’t really know how to respond to this other than saying that you’re not a disabled advocate/ally for everyone if you will not explain things with simple language if someone doesn’t understand a topic.

i need people to explain things to me “like i’m a child”, especially new and complex topics. but that doesn’t mean that someone is being condescending, rude, or infantilizing towards me, it just means that they understand my needs and are willing to accommodate them.

a lot of autism “advocacy” nowadays already ignores autistics with ID, level 2/3, and m/hsn autistics. refusing to use simple language is not allyship.

this isn’t being said in a rude way, it’s just blunt :) i tend to come across blunter in writing than i want my tone to be. i’m trying to say this very gently.

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I can't believe this is even a debate but even if someone's disability is genuinely fully caused by their own actions they still deserve accommodation and community

Yes this applies to substance use yes this applies to reckless behaviour yes it applies to purposefully injuring yourself.

If someone disables or injures themselves on purpose to such a large degree then they need aid regardless of how you feel about their actions

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decentralize and clean up your life!!!

use overdrive, libby, hoopla, cloudlibrary, and kanopy instead of amazon and audible.

use firefox instead of chrome or opera (both are made with chromium, which blocks functionality for ad-blockers. firefox isn't based on chromium).

use mega or proton drive instead of google drive.

get rid of bloatware

use libreoffice instead of microsoft office suite

use vetted sites on r/FREEMEDIAHECKYEAH for free movies, books, games, etc.

use trakt or letterboxd instead of imdb.

use storygraph instead of goodreads.

use darkpatterns to find mobile game with no ads or microtransactions

use ground news to read unbiased news and find blind spots in news stories.

use mediahuman or cobalt to download music, or support your favorite artists directly through bandcamp

make youtube bearable by using mtube, newpipe, or the unhook extension on chrome, firefox, or microsoft edge

use search for a cause or ecosia to support the environment instead of google

use thriftbooks to buy new or used books (they also have manga, textbooks, home goods, CDs, DVDs, and blurays)

use flashpoint to play archived online flash games

find books, movies, games, etc. on the internet archive! for starters, here's a bunch of David Attenborough documentaries and all of the Animorphs books

burn your music onto cds

use pdf24 (available online or as a desktop app) instead of adobe

use unroll.me to clean your email inboxes

use thunderbird, mailfence, countermail, edison mail, tuta, or proton mail instead of gmail

remove bloatware on windows PC, macOS, and iOS X

remove bloatware on samsung X

use pixelfed instead of instagram or meta

use NCH suite for free software like a file converter, image editor, video editors, pdf editor, etc.

feel free to add more alternatives, resources or advice in the reblogs or replies, and i'll add them to the main post <3

last updated: march 18th 2025

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i’m gonna hold your hand with a glove on when i say this

when disabled/chronically ill people tell you they can’t do something, then that is not your cue to tell them that they can actually or that they’ll always find an excuse if they’re looking for one.

when a disabled/chronically ill person says they can’t do something, sometimes that doesn’t mean it’s outside the realm of possibility, sometimes it means if they (attempted to) do that, they will seriously hurt themselves.

when a disabled/chronically ill person says they can’t do something, sometimes it’s preventative care, and they refuse to do that thing to prevent a flare up from happening/their symptoms getting worse in the first place.

disabled/chronically ill people are not “looking for excuses”, they are giving you reasons why. something they don’t even have to do! so maybe just accept the reasons they give you.

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wow sepsis sucks

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— Homer, from The Iliad (via lunamonchtuna)

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something that never fails to upset me is that when i ask a question or when i don’t understand something, the person doesn’t actually explain or try to simplify it, they just repeat what they said the first time

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⌇ pink coquette dividers

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　 𝜗୧⠀⠀⠀𓈒⠀⠀⠀dividers by me ۪ㅤ🐏◞ ྀ

　　 　 　 ⠀˖　⠀˙⠀　｡　⠀rb to use/save

credit to @abyslita for using one of his dividers:3!! vv sorry, forgot to credit so mb <3

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Just saw that horrid reblog from that terf, and I just want to say they know nothing about you or about the lives of us trans people (I'm transmas myself)

<3

thank you!! 💕