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I'm selfish.

I'm selfish because I do my own laundry.

Because I won't do the laundry for the entire house.

Because if I don't do my laundry then it never gets done at all.

I'm selfish because somehow, I only think about myself.

Was I selfish when I took on the responsibility of your children from 2 different fathers?

Was it selfish of me to dedicate the last 10 years to helping raise two kids who look at me like I'm the antichrist?

Was it selfish? Am I selfish?

Was I selfish when I helped you overcome your depression?

Was I selfish when I gave everything up to be with you? (Yeah, that one might be selfish)

I guess. Because of laundry. I'm selfish.

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Finding Happiness

Finding something that makes you happy is important for leading a longer and more fulfilled life for several reasons.

First, pursuing activities that bring you joy can have a positive effect on your mental and emotional well-being. When you engage in activities that you enjoy, your brain releases endorphins, which are chemicals that act as natural painkillers and mood elevators. This can help reduce stress and improve your overall sense of well-being.

Additionally, having a sense of purpose and meaning in your life can be a major contributor to your overall happiness and satisfaction. When you have something that you are passionate about and that brings you joy, it can give your life direction and a sense of fulfillment. This can help you feel more motivated and focused, and can also provide a sense of accomplishment and pride.

Furthermore, engaging in activities that make you happy can also have a positive impact on your physical health. Studies have shown that people who engage in activities that bring them joy and satisfaction are more likely to take care of themselves, which can lead to better physical health and a longer lifespan.

Overall, finding something that makes you happy is important for leading a longer and more fulfilled life. It can improve your mental and emotional well-being, provide a sense of purpose and meaning, and even have a positive impact on your physical health. So don't be afraid to pursue the things that bring you joy – they may just be the key to a happier and more fulfilling life.

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Why do i need to leave the house?

Outdoor fitness has numerous benefits that go beyond just physical activity. It allows you to connect with nature and enjoy all the beauty and wonders that it has to offer. Here are just a few of the many benefits of outdoor fitness and connecting with nature, backed up by some medical facts:

Fresh air and sunshine: Being outside allows you to breathe in fresh air and soak up some vitamin D from the sun. Fresh air has been shown to improve brain function, boost the immune system, and increase energy levels. Vitamin D, on the other hand, helps with bone health and can even improve mood. According to a study published in the American Journal of Epidemiology, people who get sufficient vitamin D from sunlight have a lower risk of developing multiple sclerosis and type 1 diabetes.

Stress relief: The great outdoors has a way of helping us relax and unwind. The sights and sounds of nature can be very soothing, which can help reduce stress and anxiety. A study published in the Journal of Environmental Psychology found that people who took a walk in a natural environment reported lower levels of stress and better mood compared to those who walked in a busy urban setting.

Improved mental health: Being outside and engaging in physical activity can improve mental health. It can help reduce the risk of depression and improve overall well-being. A review of research published in the Environmental Science & Technology journal found that spending time in nature can have a positive effect on mental health and well-being, particularly in individuals with depression or anxiety.

Increased creativity: Being outside and surrounded by nature can also spark creativity and encourage problem-solving skills. The change of scenery and new environment can provide a fresh perspective and inspire new ideas. A study published in the Journal of Experimental Psychology found that people who took a walk in a natural setting performed better on a creative thinking test compared to those who took the same walk in a built environment.

Better sleep: Getting outside and getting some physical activity during the day can lead to better sleep at night. The natural light and fresh air can help regulate your body's sleep-wake cycle. A study published in the Journal of Clinical Sleep Medicine found that people who spent time in natural light during the day slept better at night compared to those who were exposed to artificial light.

In conclusion, outdoor fitness and connecting with nature offer numerous benefits to both your physical and mental health. So next time you have the opportunity, take your workout or leisure time outside and enjoy all that Mother Nature has to offer.

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The benefits of fitness.

There are countless benefits to being physically fit, and it's never too late to start working on your health and well-being. Whether you're just starting out on your fitness journey or you're a seasoned athlete, there are always ways to improve and reach new levels of physical and mental strength. In this post, we'll delve into the many benefits of fitness and explore why it's worth it to make time for regular exercise in your life.

One of the most obvious benefits of fitness is the positive impact it can have on your physical appearance. Regular exercise can help you lose weight, tone your muscles, and improve your body composition. This can not only make you look and feel better, but it can also boost your self-confidence and self-esteem.

But the benefits of fitness go far beyond just how you look. Regular exercise can have a profound impact on your overall health and well-being. It can reduce the risk of developing chronic conditions like obesity, heart disease, and diabetes, as well as improve cardiovascular health and lower blood pressure and cholesterol levels. Exercise can also boost your immune system and increase energy levels, making you less prone to illness and fatigue.

In addition to its physical benefits, fitness can also have a powerful effect on your mental health. Regular exercise has been shown to reduce stress, improve mood, and increase feelings of happiness and well-being. It can also help improve sleep quality and reduce the risk of developing anxiety and depression.

So, how do you get started on your fitness journey? It's important to find activities that you enjoy and that fit your lifestyle. This could be anything from going for a walk or run, to taking a fitness class, to doing bodyweight exercises at home. It's also important to set realistic goals and celebrate your progress along the way. Remember, it's not about being perfect – it's about finding balance and making positive choices for your health and well-being.

In conclusion, fitness is an essential component of overall health and well-being. Whether you're just starting out or you're a seasoned athlete, there are countless benefits to be gained from regular exercise. So get moving, set some goals, and start reaping the rewards of a fit and healthy lifestyle!

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Some parents are so weird lol

Yall really be keeping these kids teeth until you pass on.

"Yesssss" *opens hidden box*

"Now I shall look upon the pupa's mouth stones"

*leans in to the elder family and friends*

"One day I will fashion them into a necklace that we will use for protection on every 12th Friday but only when the sun shines dark and the crows gather for the murder."

(Beth-anne-marie pipes up even tho we all know that no one likes her cause of that one time she "home made pie" but actually it was from the Costco deli.)

"I always keep my pupas mouth stones. My pupas are known for the beeeest stones"

*the room rolls their eyes*

"Shut up beth-anne-marie!" Someone shouts from the kitchen.

Then almost as if she thinks no one will hear her. Grandma wispers ever so quietly.

"Nobody likes a double hyphenate."

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*questions and answers*

How the hell are you so positive all the time?! What helps you when you struggle? My last relationship broke me and I cant get past the feeling of not being enough and feeling down doing this parenting on my own!

Fuuuuuck well it's not always easy. But I have a ton to be grateful for. I have been in the worst positions in life. Did 2 and 1/2 years in jail. Had many addictions to many different things. But every day I wake up is a new chance for me to be better. To be smarter. To take a chance on me.

Life is always hard no matter how you look at it. It's how we handle those difficult moments that make us better people. You are a strong person with so much love to give. But you have been hurt and taken advantage of. People are shit sometimes. But there are sooooo many more good people than bad and you just have to believe that they exist.

Lean on the positive things that you have in your life. All the way down to the smallest things like having a place to live. Or food. When we realize that our situation could be much much worse we find it is easier to cope with life and harness our power to take control.

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#welcometotheoasis2022

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The beginning

 In November of 1990, on a snowy winter evening, a baby weighing 9 pounds 7 oz was born (Damn!). His destiny and success written in the cosmos, but how could he know? This child was born in a time where adversity and struggle where the name of the game! A time for him to grow and learn from his parents about what it should be like to be an adult. He knew not of his own parents struggles. He didn’t know that every day was another day that we where just happy to be in a warm place with food on the table. As a child you don’t recognize these things. The world is so full of wonder and excitement that all of these huge things in the adult world seem silly to a child.

 My life was happy as a child. It was filled with love and laughter and its fair share of craziness. Now was it all sunshine and daisy’s? Absolutely not! But we always loved each other. Our family struggled very hard early on. Breaking generational curses can be the hardest thing to overcome. Especially when no one sees a problem. See my family are a long line of alcoholics and drug addicts. We have all individually struggled with our own addictions throughout our lives. (They say it is passed down in your DNA and it is very rare that you come out untouched by the long dark fingers of addiction and I believe this to be very true.) I thought that the alcoholism and drug use happening all around me my entire life was normal. As this was an everyday occurrence it never seemed to me to be a bad thing. It wasn’t until later in my life (When i was committed to the state of Idaho) did i realize that this was just my own paradigm of the situation I was in. When asked by someone “Do you believe that everyone has smoked weed at one time in their life” I responded “Of coarse they have, how else would they deal with society at large?” The man responded “Well young man, i can tell you this. i have been alive 58 years and of those years i have never indulged in any marijuana”. My immature brain blurted out “Well that’s probably why you are so boring”. He went on to tell me that a lot of the things in our lives that we believe are a product of the environment that we are raised in.

The environments that we are raised in, the situations we endure and the struggle we must overcome to become better than those before us seems like a daunting task. The chips are stacked against us. We start behind. And it is all because of the lack of information those before us had. The lack of abilities and knowledge they where given to teach us. The generations before us FUCKED UP, like, a ton. But a lot of that has to do with their lack of access to the information we have now. Could you imagine if your grandparents had the access to mental health experts the way we do today? We would be so much further! But life happens in moments. Small, large, medium and every size in between. We give those moments meaning. All of them. So, when we are out here in the world just willy-nilly giving moments their meaning individually then we are all set to experience life different based off of our ENVIRONMENT that we where raised in and our life experience up until that point. We aren’t meant to play the blame game and point the finger at our parents. We are meant to stand up and take accountability for our actions. Own our decisions and grow from them. 

This is the beginning. The beginning of my story and the beginning of me opening up my life’s book for you all to see. This is not a story simply of just addiction and strife. This is a story depicting the struggle of a boy becoming a man in todays world. The story of a young man making his way through adversity. The story of a young adult trying everything he could to just feel like he mattered and the story of a successful man who cares deeply for his community and the people closest in his life. A man that can be revered. A man that has the the strength to go on. The strength to fight and the will to never give up. A man that is worthy of being looked up too. 

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The beginning

 In November of 1990, on a snowy winter evening, a baby weighing 9 pounds 7 oz was born (Damn!). His destiny and success written in the cosmos, but how could he know? This child was born in a time where adversity and struggle where the name of the game! A time for him to grow and learn from his parents about what it should be like to be an adult. He knew not of his own parents struggles. He didn't know that every day was another day that we where just happy to be in a warm place with food on the table. As a child you don't recognize these things. The world is so full of wonder and excitement that all of these huge things in the adult world seem silly to a child.

 My life was happy as a child. It was filled with love and laughter and its fair share of craziness. Now was it all sunshine and daisy's? Absolutely not! But we always loved each other. Our family struggled very hard early on. Breaking generational curses can be the hardest thing to overcome. Especially when no one sees a problem. See my family are a long line of alcoholics and drug addicts. We have all individually struggled with our own addictions throughout our lives. (They say it is passed down in your DNA and it is very rare that you come out untouched by the long dark fingers of addiction and I believe this to be very true.) I thought that the alcoholism and drug use happening all around me my entire life was normal. As this was an everyday occurrence it never seemed to me to be a bad thing. It wasn't until later in my life (When i was committed to the state of Idaho) did i realize that this was just my own paradigm of the situation I was in. When asked by someone “Do you believe that everyone has smoked weed at one time in their life” I responded “Of coarse they have, how else would they deal with society at large?” The man responded “Well young man, i can tell you this. i have been alive 58 years and of those years i have never indulged in any marijuana”. My immature brain blurted out “Well that's probably why you are so boring”. He went on to tell me that a lot of the things in our lives that we believe are a product of the environment that we are raised in.

The environments that we are raised in, the situations we endure and the struggle we must overcome to become better than those before us seems like a daunting task. The chips are stacked against us. We start behind. And it is all because of the lack of information those before us had. The lack of abilities and knowledge they where given to teach us. The generations before us FUCKED UP, like, a ton. But a lot of that has to do with their lack of access to the information we have now. Could you imagine if your grandparents had the access to mental health experts the way we do today? We would be so much further! But life happens in moments. Small, large, medium and every size in between. We give those moments meaning. All of them. So, when we are out here in the world just willy-nilly giving moments their meaning individually then we are all set to experience life different based off of our ENVIRONMENT that we where raised in and our life experience up until that point. We aren’t meant to play the blame game and point the finger at our parents. We are meant to stand up and take accountability for our actions. Own our decisions and grow from them. 

This is the beginning. The beginning of my story and the beginning of me opening up my life's book for you all to see. This is not a story simply of just addiction and strife. This is a story depicting the struggle of a boy becoming a man in todays world. The story of a young man making his way through adversity. The story of a young adult trying everything he could to just feel like he mattered and the story of a successful man who cares deeply for his community and the people closest in his life. A man that can be revered. A man that has the the strength to go on. The strength to fight and the will to never give up. A man that is worthy of being looked up too.