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We must embody love. Let love fill us all the way up and love will surely find it's way to us from every corner of the universe.

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From June 7-13, the sun will be in the 45th Gene Key (Gemini) Lapis Lazuli helps you to better delegate and share responsibilities. It has a positive effect on working relationships, friendship and love relationships. Lapis lazuli has a strong effect on the throat and throat chakra (5th). It stimulates the expression of your opinion, emotions and things that bother you.Lapis Lazuli corresponds to 17 to 22.37 degrees Gemini, the 45th Gene Key and the 45th hexagram of the I'Ching: the Congregation. Read more: http://bit.ly/LapisLazuliGK45

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Traditional Skills To Learn

In a world ran by technology, business, and success, the art of learning traditional skills and homemaking has been lost. I believe we should all go after our dreams, no matter what they are, but going back to our ancestral roots is a great way to practice mindfulness. Working on traditional skills gives you a sense of satisfaction, wellbeing, grounding, and peace. Here is a list of some ways you can reconnect with yourself and the earth : 

Gardening

Cooking from scratch

Canning food

Pottery

Wood carving

Sewing

Baking bread & making cheese

Learn about herbs and make your own medicine

Crochet

Make jam

Learn etiquette

Decorate your home

Write in cursive

Paint

Make candles

Teach & care for children

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AESTHETICALLY PLEASING 🥰🤎

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I believe dates and traditional courting should come before anything else. The art of someone having to prove themselves worthy of your trust and affection and time is so deeply lost. To give someone access to you in intimate ways or even allowing them to be your primary or top priority without them letting you know they’re serious about you is insane.

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simple minimalist habits that will improve your life

focus on the essentials of your day.

start organizing your days.

write a diary to organize your ideas and thoughts, discard those that no longer benefit you.

focus on the things that are in your control.

practice detachment (things, people, situations)

make a list of your priorities, what you need at this moment (can be objects and situations too)

get rid of everything you no longer use.

purchase/consume items that will be useful in your daily life.

tidy up your room or the place where you spend most of your time, create a serene and inspiring space.

create a capsule closet

digital and mental detox

spend less time on social media or watching tv, instead read more or spend time outdoors.

leave out of your life everything that is consuming you or doing you any kind of harm (people, social networks, habits).

be grateful every day.

live in the present moment.

practice meditation and mindfulness.

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H A P P Y

M A R S

D A Y

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Mindset shift especially with food.

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10 Different Ways to Grow

1. Try Something New

The world has so much to offer. Experiencing new events can help you exit your comfort zone and explore new ways to apply your strengths. With so many activities available, avoiding new experiences can easily hold you back from finding all the ways to enjoy an authentic life. Applying this strategy exposes you to new activities and hobbies as well as amazing people who can boost your confidence and assist you in times of need.

2. What Can I do to Make Tomorrow Better?

This is an incredibly important question, as it helps you identify areas of need. If you ask yourself how to improve for the next day, do not view yourself as inadequate. Part of having a growth mindset is realizing there is always room for improvement, but still remaining confident in your strengths. Once you determine how to improve, you can take actionable steps to reach your goal. Thinking in this way discourages bad habits and encourages far more productive habits.

3. Learn to Really Listen

Give a voice to others and help them bring out their inner strength. Even if you are uninterested in a conversation or disagree with someone, give them the respect they deserve and truly try to comprehend what they state instead of making assumptions. Listening can become more natural if you visualize what the other individual states, and confirm their feelings after they finish speaking. This activity improves your relationship-building skills and builds upon your empathy.

4. Read More

Reading a book exposes you to many new cultures, ideas, and ways to possibly improve yourself. It is arguably the best way to start intellectual growth. Both nonfiction and fiction help boost your memory power and can also give readers a profound sense of enjoyment. Fiction increases one’s empathy as it puts you into the shoes of a character. Nonfiction can help you reflect on past tragedies or mistakes made by others, thus increasing your awareness and giving you a powerful lesson you can easily remember. Make reading a habit instead of unproductive activity.

5. Laugh

It is often stated that laughter is the best medicine. This thinking certainly applies to growth. Instead of fretting about your inadequacies, laugh at your mistakes. Acknowledge what you did wrong, but do so in a lighthearted way. Disassociate negative feelings stemming from missteps to your self-worth, another key aspect of the growth mindset. This keeps your confidence high but allows you to be in tune with your strengths and weaknesses, which is highly beneficial to your development.

6. Give Back

Giving back to your community boost levels of dopamine, thus increasing positive feelings and happiness. Donating time or money, helping out an elderly person, or simply buying more ethical products are all forms of giving back. Doing so aligns your actions with your beliefs and develops a sense of meaning.

7. Set Meaningful Goals and Take Ownership of Your Future

If you create vague goals, formulating a strategy can be difficult and ineffective. Develop specific goals and create a list of ways to achieve them. Ensure your goals are SMART: Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, and Timely. This means having deadlines, making goals achievable, and learning from any mistakes you make.

8. Get Grateful

Since we get used to the many wonderful aspects of our everyday lives, those items and people may be taken for granted. Create a habit out of listing all the individuals and items you are thankful for. Let others know if you appreciate them. Doing so makes them happy and builds a stronger bond between you.

9. Learn to Stand Up for Yourself

Letting your desire to be liked to overtake your priorities can lead to uncomfortable situations. You must learn to prioritize your wellbeing and happiness as opposed to always pleasing others, even if the latter is instinctual. Let others know when you feel unsatisfied or if they are too demanding; do not assume they understand your emotions. This turns a bad situation into an opportunity to express your thoughts and grow to reach a conclusion between both parties.

10. Forgive Others, and Yourself

You probably feel regret when recalling some events. Perhaps you may have even thought of what you would do differently if given the opportunity to change the past. While that is unfortunately impossible, you should find ways to correct the behavior which placed you in a bad situation. Additionally, recognize that you are only human and that a growth mindset does not demand perfection. Learn to keep your own humanity in mind when judging yourself or others. Of course, this is not an excuse to dismiss bad behaviors, but it is simply a reminder not to be overly harsh.

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All to often, tough circumstances are used as excuses for not investing in personal development. It seems or may seem impossible for someone to grow when going through a stressful event, whatever that may be. Luckily, anyone and everyone can take these steps to better themselves, no matter what their current situation is. I have faith you'll grow into the person you want to be, as long as you give it your all, at giving your all, all the time. Good luck!

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10 Ways to Show Up for Yourself

1. Commit to habits, practices, routines & rituals that are good for your well-being - even when you don’t want to.

2. Allow yourself to feel a multitude of feelings without labelling it as wrong, bad, or negative.

3. Practice listening to your needs & discovering different ways of meeting those needs.

4. Practice self-forgiveness; for mot being perfect, for forgetting, for your past, for what you don’t know, & for getting “off track” sometimes.

5. Let yourself start again, over & over, as often as needed.

6. Take care of your basic needs: stay hydrated, get enough sleep, move your body, and eat plentifully.

7. Give yourself permission to rest, to take breaks, & to have down time.

8. Spend quality time with yourself: reading, writing, creating & getting to know who are underneath who you think you should be.

9. Use a lens of curiosity & compassion with yourself as often as possible.

10. Remind yourself that you are as worthy of being shown up for as anyone else in life. Make yourself a priority in your own life.

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One last walk before it gets bitterly cold 🍂🌼

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A dream !

Cozy attic apartment / styling by Lingsell & photos by Laye

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“I’m not afraid of being lost. We all wander off from time to time. It’s the fear of never quite finding myself that keeps me up at night.”

—Sylvia Plath, The Bell Jar

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