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we have this app called toogoodtogo where restaurants/cafes/bakeries/hotels and so on sell their leftovers for really cheap to reduce foodwaste
i got all of this for €4 from starbucks

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Climate Change Anxiety Survey
Hi Tumblr!
So I just finished making a short survey on climate change, specifically climate anxiety and how it’s affecting people, but also on climate action and activism. I’d really appreciate it if you’d take some time to respond - you don’t have to, but it would be helpful to know your thoughts and feelings. Also consider reblogging this to share it with your followers - the more responses, the better.
Here it is:
Link to survey (edited: sorry if it wasn’t working before, works for me now)
Thanks in advance!
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What to do when your autistic employee has too many sick days
Let’s be honest: Unless you have a medical condition that messes with your immune system (and please make sure that this is not the case), then you shouldn’t be sick more often than three, maybe four times a year. So if you have employees that seem to be sick all the time, then you as a superior will (and should) start to wonder what is really going on.
And no. This is not about exposing employees that fake an illness out of laziness - in my experience, this pretty much never happens. This is about helping an employee that is obviously struggling.
For many autistic people, especially those that grew up undiagnosed, the sad reality is that they grew used to having to lie in order to be heard.
Did it work, when they as a child told their parents they couldn’t go to school today, because they were tired? Probably not. They had to fake an illness, tell them they had a huge headache or an upset stomach in order to get that day off from school, that they so desperately needed to keep functioning. They could feel that they simply couldn’t cope anymore, but couldn’t make parents, teachers and friends understand.
To truly understand how deeply rooted this behavior can be, you need to imagine what this looked like in the life of a child.
As I got older, my mom would openly accuse me of lying (which of course was true), yell at me and call me lazy and phlegmatic. She’d tell me I’d cause nothing but problems, that I was a bad child, that I finally needed to pull myself together, and “what will the teachers think”. She forced me to leave the house, even though I was shaking and crying, so I fled to the park or the forest, deeply hurt, feeling guilty and like a huge failure, which finally caused me serious depression and trauma.
If your autistic employee has a sick day every other week, chances are they are not sick, but mentally exhausted (and the reason could be the working environment).
Mental exhaustion can cause stomach ache, cramps, headaches, or even nausea for some people. Others simply feel overwhelmed, tired and depleted, but it doesn’t matter, the result is the same: They can’t concentrate anymore, they can’t do their job, and they know that if they don’t take a break NOW that they might become so burned out, that it will take weeks for them to recover. They call in sick, because they don’t expect anyone to understand.
In essence, your autistic employee is running out of mental energy too fast, so the weekend alone is not enough to recharge. As a superior, you want to make sure their energy is not depleted by unnecessary stressors.
You will have to talk to your autistic employee, and this requires a whole lot of sensitiveness. Maybe it doesn’t seem like a big deal to you, especially if you’re not autistic yourself, but remember what I wrote about what my childhood was like. You don’t know what your employee’s been through, if they have trauma or not, and how sensitive they are. I’ve met autistic people that had an amazingly thin skin as soon as things got personal, so you will want to tread very carefully.
Let your employee know beforehand that you’d like to talk about their sick days, but make sure to be very clear that they are not in trouble.
Don’t talk about whether they are physically ill when calling in sick. Simply express concern for their well-being, and that you’d like to make sure it’s not the working environment that causes them to feel sick.
Ask them if they are comfortable at work. Maybe there is too much light, maybe too little. Maybe they sit in a place where they feel nervous (people in their back, people walking past, too much noise, too cold, too warm, etc.). There are literally a thousand reasons, why an autistic employee could get stressed out by their physical environment.
Remember to ask about the work itself. Is your employee bored, or do they have too much on their plate? Are they stressed out because things are moving too fast? Do they need more help or training, or would they rather work on a different project?
Make sure there are no social issues and that your employee doesn’t feel isolated, ignored or even bullied. I’ve had a young woman skip lunch every day because she couldn’t handle going to the cafeteria on her own (she simply had no script for it and needed help the first few times), so these issues can be very real.
Some autistic people will know what is bothering them. Others will not be sure or not even be able to answer your questions.
Many might need time to process the conversation first, and some have trouble categorizing their own feelings, which can make it hard to pinpoint what is draining their energy. They might figure it out over time though, so it’s important to let them know that they can get back to you anytime. In the meantime, remember that it’s better to give your employee one day to recover and come back well rested, than putting pressure on them and keep them in a state of mental exhaustion (and unproductive) for days.
But what if you’ve made a lot of changes, and it’s still not enough? Fact is, for some autistic people just commuting and being in an office together with a few co-workers is stressful enough.
Here are a couple more things to consider, if everything else fails:
If your autistic employee is doing work that can be done remotely, let them work from home one day a week, or whenever they feel they need to. Most autistic people are extremely dutiful and reliable, and simply giving them the peace and quiet of their own home and removing the stress of traffic or public transportation might be the break they need in order to find a balance. This was the key to success for one of my employees.
I have an employee that only works four days a week and has every Wednesday off. After a lot of trial and error, we realized that he loved being at work (and did a brilliant job), but work, family life and everyday responsibilities were just too much in the long run. He needed this break after two days in order to function.
No matter what you do, make sure your autistic employee knows that it is fine for them to have special agreements. Some were mistreated in the past.
Let them know and feel that they are enough, that they are not lazy and not a burden, and that you are happy to accommodate them, so they can do a great job.
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everyone posting that “my generation lost hobbies” post is so stupid like no you fuckwits hobbies were stolen from you by a system that demands you work 8 hours a day to earn a tiny percentage of the profit you generate, leaving you too exhausted and brainwashed to enjoy exercising passion without financial incentive
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I always say ‘get a hobby’ on here but I’m not joking get a hobby it’s literally so good for you! Like you learn something new, get to reclaim passion and interest that you thought you lost forever to mental illness, it feels nice being decent at something, and it gives you something to talk about if you’re like me and have a hard time conversing with others. And basically anything can be a hobby? You daydream a lot well now your hobby’s worldbuilding! You like going for walks now your hobby’s local sightseeing. This is a pro-hobby blog 100%
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10 Lessons from a Decade of Writing
Over the last decade, I graduated from high school, got a bachelor’s in writing, earned an MFA in fiction, and started working as a copywriter.
In that time, I grew a lot as a writer — so I thought I’d share the lessons that helped me most along the way!
How does one from each year sound?
2010: Don’t let high expectations be a barrier to good writing
As a teenager, I had unhealthy expectations for my writing. This not only made writing painful, but also held back the quality of my work. Thankfully, in my last year of high school, I had to crank out a short story for a class, with no time to revise as I went. The result? I had fun, and ended up writing a story that was better than anything I’d written before it. That’s when I realized how toxic lofty expectations could become, if left unchecked.
2011: Good stories often depict, or inspire, change
In my first college writing workshop, our professor (of “It’s never about the bread” fame) told us that a good story often does one of two things: it either depicts a change in a character, or inspires a change in the reader. While a bit simplistic, that guidance was invaluable to me at the time. The first option gave me a clear target to aim for in workshop, while option two exposed me to the full, baffling mystery of what makes a story worth telling.
2012: Clear, specific language brings scenes to life
As a sophomore, I fell in love with Raymond Carver’s minimalism and was particularly struck by the following description from ���What We Talk About When We Talk About Love”:
Mel handed me the saucer of limes. I took a section, squeezed it over my drink, and stirred the ice cubes with my finger.
The description struck me as remarkably vivid, yet lean — making me realize how a small description could breathe life into a scene when written with clear, specific language.
2013: Personal experiences fuel good writing
After years of avoiding the genre, I took my first poetry workshop as a junior, and SURPRISE. I loved it. It was the first time I’d ever really tried writing about my own experiences, and it brought an invigorating sense of reality to both my poetry and my fiction. It also inspired me to become more observant, which fed back into my writing and made me better appreciate life’s little moments.
2014: Never mow the same grass twice
Throughout college, I had a trumpet instructor who’d often say, “Michael, I hate to mow the same grass twice!” You can find a full explanation here, but long story short, he encouraged me to fix flaws in my performance immediately upon discovering them, because if you repeat mistakes, they become habits. Bad habits that only get harder to break over time.
I didn’t take his advice to heart in my music, but I did apply it to my fiction. In the coming years, it would be instrumental (ha) in honing my craft.
2015: How to tie plot to character growth
In high school, my stories were all plot. In college, my stories were all character. During the first year of my MFA, I learned how to merge the two, by writing narrators with:
Emotions that drive actions,
Actions that trigger consequences, and
Consequences that compel growth.
This structure is simple, but effective, particularly when your character is motivated by a clear emotional struggle. More about this structure here.
2016: Write the stories that excite you
Throughout college, I almost exclusively wrote non-genre stories, because I wanted to pursue particular goals in that space. I learned a lot in the process, but it wasn’t until the second year of my MFA that I realized my stories themselves had lost a certain spark. So I switched back to writing the genre stories I loved. Like an old friend, the spark came back — and the writing got a lot more fun.
2017: Accept that you’ll never catch up to your expectations
The great irony of being a writer is that the more you hone your craft, the further away “perfection” seems. Why? Because as we improve, we not only overcome weaknesses, but also discover the flaws we never knew existed. So we fix those flaws. Discover new ones. Fix them. And so on. It’s a frustrating, never-ending cycle, and it wasn’t until my final year of the MFA that I was able to fully accept it — finding comfort in the fact that my dissatisfaction was a sign of growth.
2018: Be willing to let stories go
In my first year as a copywriter, the fast pace of agency life quickly taught me the importance of knowing when to “let go” of my writing. At work, it was because I had deadlines. But in fiction, I realized I couldn’t keep revising the same stories forever, when others were waiting to be written. “Art is never finished, only abandoned,” said Leonardo da Vinci, and it’s true. Our stories will never be perfect, so it’s our responsibility to decide when it’s time to cut the cord.
2019: If you want to write meaningful stories, start with what’s important to you
After my fiction professor gave that brief explanation (back in 2011) of what made a good, meaningful story, I became obsessed with finding a clearer answer. Something to grasp onto to guide my writing.
But this past year, I realized it was a bit of a fool’s errand. The things that make a story worth telling are incredibly subjective and different for everyone — naturally arising from their backgrounds, desires, fears, and more.
You can’t predict it. Or at least, you can’t predict it well.
So you just need to look inward. To find what you think is important.
And then write.
2020: TBD
Cheers to a new decade, everybody! May we keep honing our craft and fill the years to come with incredible stories.
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Your stories are worth telling. For more helpful tips on how to craft meaning, build character-driven plots, and grow as a writer, follow my blog.
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I love kids they’re all like.. “when i grow up i’m gonna be an astronaut and a chef and a doctor and an olympic swimmer” like that self confidence! That drive! That optimism! Where does it go
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Not my must aesthetic of pictures but I'm so proud of what they show.
100 days ago, I started writing my story. I had been wanting to write it for about four years but I never got around to it. 100 days ago I decided to give my story a go and to make a conscious effort to write on my commute to work.
Today my word count is over 32.5k!
I haven't done any proper writing since I was a teenager and I was worried I wouldn't be able to do it any more. In addition to this, I worried that I wouldn't be able to stay motivated since previously I've always written stories one chapter at a time and uploaded them online. I didn't know if I would be able to write if nobody was going to read my work.
Writing has brought me so much joy for the last 100 days and I'm so excited to see where I am in another 100 days
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Fic authors deserve more credit.
Story time: I started a book about 23 hours ago and just finished it. Also in that time I slept for 10 hours, spent time with family, was at work, etc. Anyway, I enjoyed the book (Simon vs. the Homo Sapiens Agenda). But it felt like it flew by, so after I finished I looked up the word count because what are pages? Pages are meaningless. I only function in word counts anymore.
The estimate I found was 58,580. My immediate reaction was “oh, that’s why. That’s nothing!” But what a shitty response. Because no. That’s not nothing. That’s a whole. Damn. Book. An entire novel! And Fic authors regularly bust out 30k, 50k, 100k, 150k words. AND THEY DO IT FOR FREE. WHILE WORKING AND LIVING THEIR LIVES.
So anyway, thank your favorite fic author today because they deserve it. Because they’re amazing. They’re the MVPs.
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30/12/19
went to a lovely café in edinburgh to get some studying done today 💕 hope everyone had a great christmas and happy new year!
🎶 - DHL / frank ocean
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Bujo trackers for getting your shit together
I typed a super long ass post about this and the accidentally deleted it before saving and now I’m lying on the cold hard ground
Yohoo potatoes, I’m back with another *whips out a megaphone out of nowhere* “long ass post” (is that my patent now?) for you guys! This one could help out with your studyjo/bujo (if you don’t know what a studyjo is don’t worry I’ll link it later) and organising that potato life to make the most of it!
Why should I use a bullet journal?
You’s a student
You’s busy
You’s got life you can’t handle sometimes
You will 120% forget about tat assignment deadline unless you’re reminded of it
You get to laugh at your past self after 20 years or so
It’s therapeutic and all that ish
You’ll like it because it’s being productive while actually kinda procrastinating (aren’t we bosses at procrastinating?)
Memories :)
Bolded ones are the trackers I am using and are potato proofed
1. Study related :
SYLLABUS TRACKER : finals can go a little smoothly if you have it all at one place
PROJECT PLANNER/TRACKER : deadlines + road map of how you’re gonna ace that project
STUDY SESSION TRACKER : time, date, subject and rating your session
GOALS TRACKER : realistic ones, like score 75% or more in this test, or master the concept of integration (ughh). Philosophy ones come later ;)
EXAM PLANNER : plan something for each day a week before your exam and see the magic
For solving based subjects :
PROBLEM TRACKER : shade the box every day you solve “x” number of sums
FORMULA QUIZ : the most difficult ones which you’ll never remember unless they’re carved on your ribs
Theory based subjects :
CONCEPT PLANNER : shade the box every day you learn “x” concept nicely
RANDOM CONCEPTS TO REVISE LIST : super helpful when you’re procrastinating and don’t know what to study - refer to this list and do you ish
READINGS LIST : shade the box every day when you read “x” number of paragraphs from textbooks/notes/books
Language based subjects :
WORD OF THE DAY PAGE : one word every day
PASSAGE OF THE MONTH : sort of like a journal but in your target language
FAVOURITE SENTENCES/QUOTES /SONGS/ETC IN *TARGET LANGUAGE* PAGE - similar to a journal thing, make it all aesthetic and cool so you’ll want to fill it in more
2. Entertainment related stuff :
MOVIES WATCHED SO FAR - all the movies, maybe stash a ticket or smthn?
MOVIE OF THE MONTH - can pick any one tbh
APPRECIATION PAGE FOR *FAV ACTOR/ACTRESS* - can you guess who’s appreciated by this potato?
SONG OF THE MONTH - only pick one and trust me that is very difficult
APPRECIATION PAGE FOR *FAV SINGER* - guess mine again?
PLAYLIST OF THE MONTH - best songs only
MIX TAPE FOR *FAV PERSON* - you can actually even make a real one and give it to someone you really like ;)
SERIES TRACKER - episodes/seasons number, shade the box as you finish it
REVIEW PAGE - review some movies/TV show you just saw
FAVOURITE MOVIE QUOTES PAGE - “you’re a wizard, Harry”
3. Mind related stuff :
QUOTES PAGE - motivational, sentimental stuff
MEDITATION TRACKER - this potato might try it
CROSSWORD TRACKER - shade the box every time you successfully solve an entire crossword/puzzle
RIDDLE TRACKER - shade the box every day if you solved 1 riddle
CREATIVITY PAGE - doodles, ugly poetry, cringy picky up limes, whatever floats your goat
BRAIN DUMP PAGE - every single thing on your mind transferred on this page. Suggested before sleeping so that you’re light headed and stress-free
IDEAS ORGANISER PAGE - give form to those abstract plots and connect all ideas to make a bigger one
PERSONAL PROJECT PLANNER - like maybe that book you always wanted to write
LIFE IN PIXELS - mad, sad or smad?
4. Health related stuff :
EXERCISE TRACKER - shade the box every day if you did “x” duration/amount of exercise
FOOD TRACKER - keep record of what junk you munched on today and try to avoid it sometimes
WATER TRACKER - ughh so important
CARBS TRACKER - kill a puppy next time you overeat
MOOD TRACKER - graphs look fancy tbh
ROLE MODEL’S PAGE - everything hermione granger does/says
5. Money related stuff :
BUDGET TRACKER - note down every little thing you spent on, figure out where you can save up
SAVINGS TRACKER - fill that little jar and buy those pens you always wanted to
Aaand that’s about it for now! I’ll be back with another long ass post so have fun bullet journaling till then!
Feel free to hmu if you aren’t clear about how to use a certain tracker!
Etudaire ~
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ADHD reward system? Please tell me your secret!
My therapist has been helping me find a reward system that works for me, and as it turns out, gold star stickers are really helpful for making me feel like a tangible goal was met, and helps give me that sweet, sweet dopamine release that comes with completing a task, something which us ADHD’ers really struggle to achieve and are already coming at from a disadvantage with our brains regularly not producing enough “happy” hormones as it is.
It was supposed to be “a sticker for every time you finish a chapter”, but after some revision, my therapist said that was too tall of a goal, and that I should pick something smaller. So instead I now get a star every time I finish a 500-word milestone, placing the sticker in my writing calendar/journal thing that I use to keep track of my writing, and ironically, I have started to produce more work than when I was stiving for one chapter a day.
To give you an idea of how staggeringly effective this has been for me, I’ve written over 30k of original fiction in the last week. (75k total if you include my social media and blog stuff, which I currently do not but likely should.)
So this is what it looked like when I was attempting to do a chapter of edits and revisions a day during the month of December 2019 (note: I was supposed to start this in Nov, so you can see how well that worked out for me lol):

ID: A calendar showing days of the month with a shiny star sticker showing a completed task.
And this is what my writing journal looks like now that I’m doing a star for every 500 words:

ID: an image of a handwritten journal with the dates mapped out, followed by a shiny star sticker for every completed 500-word milestone. There are 65 stars in total for the month of January 2020. It’s also tinged by a green light cause I’m doing a chronic pain experiment, so far with positive results!
So as of today, January 8th, with ever star = 500 words, then 65*500 = 32500 words totalled in 7 days. This does not include, like I said, my social media output where I am far more productive, this is just my fiction and some editing work for friends.
(Which side note: this is not to flex, or to say that others should be able to achieve this level of output. I am a professional writer, this is my main job and only source of income. And also, I was forged in the fires of understaffed editing hell where we would be expected to churn out 100k+ a week in edits and revisions to keep on track. I have the time and a learned skillset I have spent years amassing to be able to do this and am working towards a rigid deadline. I simply have not been healthy enough in a long time to manage it, and am finally working my way back up to speed after years of illness. Don’t look at this and think, “I’m not achieving enough”, every victory no matter how small is worth celebrating. And I say that with the utmost sincerity, as someone who spent most of the last 2-3 years unable to get out of bed.)
I’ve also started using it to help keep track of bills and chores around the home. So every time something gets done/done on time, whoever completed the task gets a star on the calendar. This includes Oppy the Not-A-Roomba, who does a very good job of taking care of the house on a daily basis:

ID: an image of a chore calendar denoting various tasks that have been marked off with a holographic silver star sticker, including our robot vacuum who does an excellent job and deserves all the stars. (Our names got blurred out cause ETD doesn’t want his real name out there in the world, so that’s what is blurry.)
This system is useful for several reasons, the primary one being a sense of achievement and continued motivation, and the second, to allow you to review each month to see where you are doing well, and where you might otherwise be struggling.
For example, if I have a bad day for writing or decide to take a day off, I write that down in the calendar rather than leaving it blank, so that I have a record of what went wrong (or right, if I am electing to self care that day and take a day off) and how my overall progress is doing.
In terms of house stuff, this has been especially useful for ETD and myself, as it shows us where we are managing to do a good job with the house, and where our executive dysnfunction issues really trip us up and where we need to make improvements. And I don’t just mean in an “I should try harder way”, I mean you have to actively sit down and be like “hey! What is preventing me from completing this thing” and trying to figure out effective ways to either get around it or resolve a larger issue at hand.
So for us, the biggest thing we tend to miss is doing dishes after dinner, meaning we get left with a pile-up of dishes to deal with first thing in the morning, and my ADHD can’t handle that. It won’t let me eat until I’ve cleared all the mess, but I usually don’t have the energy to clean up if I haven’t eaten, so it’s this awful cycle of ineptitude. We’re doing better with the star reward system, cause it’s showing us our progress loud and clear on the fridge door, but we are both usually so fatigued and exhausted by the end of dinner that doing dishes is just one thing too many for our mutual disorders. So, the solution for this would, of course, be a dishwasher, cause if we had one of those, we could load stuff in, turn it on, and let those dishes get done while we go to bed then put them away in the morning. We can’t afford to do that right now, and we have other appliances we need to buy/replace before we can do that (still don’t have a tumble dryer, or a washer I can access, rip) but it does give us a tangible goal to work toward, and also, the motivation to keep on top of things because it goes from “an endless task with no end in sight” to “there’s a solution for this, we can manage a while longer.”
Now you could be saying, but Joy, I’m an adult! Surely I shouldn’t expect rewards for completing every day tasks that I should be able to do?!
To which I say, neurotypical people get rewards all the time and get an unconscious dose of dopamine/serotonin from their brains every time they complete a task. They’re playing the game of life on easy mode, the gold star is your achievement for completing it daily on Nintendo 99 hard mode. IF THE STICKER WORKS, TAKE THE STICKER
YOU’VE EARNED IT.
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day twelve - december 21, 2019. 58 days til recital
haven‘t posted over the past few days but it hasn‘t been unproductive! it was finals week this week so i studied, practiced, and stuff until i left campus thursday afternoon. i‘ve given myself downtime, but i also cleaned up my room big time, did some more event organization, and started my 2020 bullet journal!
y‘all, you really don‘t need expensive stuff for bullet journals. i got this BEAUTIFUL $7 lil journal from michael‘s and i use papermate flair felt tip pens, which always last me a while. i am in love with this bujo and i can‘t wait to use it more!!
currently listening: “yesterday” by the beatles
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People who like rocks see cool rocks everywhere. People who like birds see interesting birds everywhere. The tree on your yard could be an exceptional specimen. The world around you could be amazing and magical, but you aren’t enough of a nerd to see it.
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