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Wow! I’ve gained a bunch of new followers over the last couple of weeks. Uh, thanks? 😅 I hope you’re not all bots??

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So I’ve been curious on and off about chastity play for a while, but never wanted to order one in case I didn’t like it. Thankfully I recently got a 3D printer so now I can try different ones as quickly as I can print them! Still not sure it’s my “thing”, but nice to be able to experiment without any real investment.

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Supportive women are the best!

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I officially have more matching bra/panty sets than my wife… 😅 idk what to think about that, but here’s a sample 😉 I still have 3 or 4 sets I haven’t taken pics in yet

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It’s amazing how just changing a shirt can change an outfit. Same shoes and jeans (new) but each shirt has a totally different vibe!

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Now I have my own credit card just for girl clothes 🫣

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Plaid cotton hipsters from Torrid, and now I’m full time panties only 😉

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It’s been a while since I posted! Life has been crazy busy, and I’ve had zero time to dress up or take pictures, but I had to share this fun moment! Last week my wife surprised me by donating three of her hardly worn bras to my girly wardrobe. Here they are, and one under a new dress i recently bought. They fit beautifully and are super comfy! My wife usually does not involve herself in my girly time, but it’s neat when I get these little moments of subtle acceptance and affirmation from her. That support means so much!

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Happy Monday! I was thinking about my answer to the bucket list question that a follower asked me last week, about wanting to go out in public as Danielle but worrying about passing. It got me thinking…

These are by far my two fav pics of myself in femme mode. Very little digital touch up to either of them, other than giving the wig a little more volume and upping the coverage of my foundation to make my skin smoother. Things that I could conceivably do in real life with better products and techniques than what I have currently. No overly shaped eyebrows, no super overdrawn lips, no making my nose smaller…

I think as crossdressers we often struggle with the idea of being “passable”, looking to women we consider attractive and trying to emulate that. I think the better metrics to judge ourselves with (if anything) are: (1) am I happy with how I look? (2) am I comfortable? Of course, “happy” is relative. Very few of us will look like models without surgery, but there’s value in just looking like the average woman if passing is your goal. You can be pretty and perfectly passable without looking like a Bond girl. In fact, it seems trying to look like one just has the opposite effect!

Just some thoughts on this busy Monday morning… For those of you who do go out in public, how do you handle passing?

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I’m a dad and a crossdresser. It’s a really tough balancing act sometimes! It can also be hard because you aren’t authentically recognized as both, since society in its limited tolerance of crossdressing has deemed that the two identities are mutually exclusive—you cannot be a crossdresser AND a father, it has to be one or the other to be acceptable.

Plus you have to deal with the question of IF you’ll ever tell your kids and, if so, when? How will you explain and contextualize it for them? How do you keep it hidden in the meantime? I think it’s easier for trans folks in some ways because at least they have a definite self-identity. Cishet crossdressers may not even understand WHY we crossdress, much less to such a degree that we could explain it to someone else. It’s all very complicating and exhausting sometimes!

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The weather is getting too hot for normal pajamas, even in the air conditioning, so I guess it’s time to break out the night gowns! I’ll be wearing this one tonight in hopes that I stay more comfortable.

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Question for the Community:

Are crossdressers really part of the LGBTQ community? And by crossdressers, I’m specifically referring to cishet crossdressers, not those with intersecting LGBTQ identities (i.e., bi, gay, trans, gender fluid, etc.). In essence, is crossdressing itself enough to qualify? It’s certainly gender non-conforming behavior and gender expression, but how much does that count for an otherwise cishet individual?

I recently came across this article that spoke to me as a cishet crossdresser. What are your thoughts?

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It’s a real shame that I don’t have time for a renaissance faire this year! I finally feel like I could go dressed with a COVID mask on, because I’d at least look mostly passable. *sigh* oh well, maybe next pandemic…