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friENDs

You might have met some of these people. People you thought would be there for you, were there for you, or are there for you. But one night, you found yourself asking, your own self, if they are there for you. And you realized, they’re not.

You are freaking out, tripping out. The person who you’ve always thought were your friend was not there, not in your frame, not in your reality. You have realized this because you see that person standing in another bubble staring at you while whispering to the other person who is on your opposing side.

You’re shocked, you’re hurt, you’re helpless. There’s nothing  you can do but to stay still, and tell yourself that you’ve made a big mistake, a huge one. By starting to call that person your “friend.” But now you’ve realised, you are trying to move on, although that person has not yet realised that he has never been a friend to you.

It is not your fault, that person has probably made you feel like you are a competition to them, either by trying to act cool, making you feel small, or simply just being full of themselves it makes you sick and feel like puking from your eyes, its normal, a lot of people are like that, a lot.

Now you are alone in your room, thinking, what to do? what to say? And the answer is, nothing. Leave, walk away, don’t do things they want you to do simply because you think they are your friend, if they can’t appreciate your time, effort and energy, or even you as a person, simply walk away. You will have  better things to do and better options to keep yourself sane and happy.

People like mentioned above are why we stop trusting people, but it is normal. These people are everywhere, and they are liked by most people because they can lie through their teeth, they always do, and that’s okay. One day they will fall into their own trap and trick and there you are, thanking yourself that you didn;t fall into that trap.

For those of you out there who are hurt, betrayed, and disappointed by either your friend, spouse, or whoever it is. Please know that you are not alone, a lot of people are feeling the same and its okay. You are okay, know that these people are everywhere and they should not stop you from pursuing your goals and dream, or simply being the person you wanna be.

R.

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Again, #coffee saves the day.

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The #bajaj experience #enjoyjakarta #myjakarta #jakarta

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A bit too in #love.

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Throwback to short #wine101 course with @paulwjm Thanks for such a great #lesson bro!

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How I spend my #birthday ;)

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They call us the #dreamers but we're the ones that don't sleep.

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How many of you all can do this? You know you've got a cool #childhood #memory if you've got a #broken #bone

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Our first #warehouse ever in Bitung, Serang.

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An #unconditional love for night flights

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#Throwback to SDM Gala Dinner, the day where I learnt so much about tiles. Now its #time for me to pass the #knowledge. #teachtolearn

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Is Salt Really Bad For Diet?

As a normal human being, salt might be a crucial part for us to have on a dish, the taste of the salt really cannot leave the list of ingredients to have a tasty dish that would not kill our appetite. But when it comes to dieting, most people say, salt makes you fat, salt interferes with your diet. Most commonly, people will say "You can't have salt in order to lose weight!"

I'm sure it got all of us thinking "How am I going to ever be able to survive this?." Well, to be honest, I too don't know. Now, maybe these pieces of information about salt below will put a relief into your concerns about salt intake on your diet.

1. "Can I Have Some Salt, Please?"

Oh my, yes you can! "But wait, I am on a diet!". What if I tell you, sodium deficiency can cause more water retention in your body? Some of you might be skeptical about this, while in fact, the right amount of salt will do just right to your body, even while you're dieting.

It is true that salt causes water retention, but one thing that you might be missing out of is that 80% of our body consists of water! And our body is an automated machine that runs daily on our macro and micro nutrition intake. So what will happen when you are water deficit? Your body retains more water, now I know it got you thinking "How in hell is that possible?". Our body, is a perfect creation, while we deprive on water and cut our sodium intake literally, our body produces a natural hormone called Aldosterone.

Aldosterone, is a natural hormone produced by our body when our body deprive water, what will happen is that our body will retain even more water when we lacks water, which is why salt is also essential on diet. I can assure you, it is okay to have some saltiness on your diet if you know just the right amount to have. I will explain to you on the next section.

2. What Is The Right Amount Of Salt?

Here's a good news to everyone who is about or already on a diet! Yes, you can have some salt on your diet! In fact, you need some salt to have a well-balanced diet. An average adult person needs to have between 1400 mg - 4000 mg daily sodium intake, so keep that in mind that 1400 mg of salt is the least amount you need to have in order to have a well-balanced diet.

I will make it easier for you to scale the amount of sodium you should have on your diet. 1400 mg of sodium is equal to 1 tablespoon of salt, and yes, now you know just how tasty your diet can be. A good nutritionist will never tell you to take out sodium intake for your diet, on the contrary, a good nutritionist will suggest you the right amount of salt to have according to your body stats. Many people nowadays are still scared to have salt on their diets, which leads to many health problems. Lack of sodium can lead to several health problems such as muscle cramps, hair loss, etc.

I hope these little pieces of information can bring a little taste to your healthy lifestyle.

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One great #topic to start my #morning. Never stop #learning because even the greatest #jumpers fall sometimes.

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Love Takes Time

I as a person, am not perfect. I admit that in the past, I've also made mistakes, over the last relationships that I've had. I'm not a relationship guru, neither am I a person with enough experience to give suggestions when it comes to relationship. But I have learned a thing or two from my previous experiences. I have learned that relationship can help us do business more wisely. In business world and in life, we are often faced to a situation where you have to make fast, smart, and wise decision. Of course, I believe, you my friend are very intelligent to do so. But we also often find ourselves regretting a lot of choices we've made because we didn't use that extra second we had during our decision making process. In relationships, just like a company. You have to stay true to your partner, keep transparency and hold onto the value of honesty in order to make it work, put trust in each other and never break them. But there's one difference that I have recognised, while in business, you are often pressured to make fast decisions, in relationship you are pressured to hold yourself and take it slow, because love takes time. As fast as you can possibly move, make decisions or as smart as your decisions can be, love takes time. Like a plant, love grows overtime and if you want it to be healthy, you have to keep balance of the amount of time to water it, the amount of sun exposure and so on. Because if you give too much, it will eventually die, so would love. Love takes time, give wisely.

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Carefully choose who you #invest your #time in because even your own #shadow leaves you in the #darkness #wasted time is worse than wasted #money.

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A perfectly #chill day. Know when to take a #step back from your #work and have some #fun.. Some people work too hard they ended up hating the things they used to #love. Its #sad to hate the things you love.

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Closed #2014 with the last pages of this #book. A great book written by @howardschultz and Jeanne Gordon. An engaging story about @starbucks #turnaround which we all could learn from.