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Omg THIS wow I struggle with this so much. Like how do I ask to cuddle without making it weird and awkward and stuff?????????

Sensual culture is having no clue how to initiate physical touch

always so awkward, saying “can I touch you?” is too weird, asking for specifics like hugs kisses or holding hands is too, ughhh 🙎🏽

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I added some more flags :)

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Comic where Oliver traumatizes his friends for the funsies and for the halloween spirit

I can't believe I haven't posted this comic here, I made it in october last year and I don't want to wait until october this year to repost it so I'll just do it now lmao

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teto pre leaving the polycule :(

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ralseis beautiful eyes

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Requested by ace1diots

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If you claim to be a safe space for queer people, but then bully anyone with a queer identity you don't understand, you are not, in fact, a safe space for queer people.

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You know what? Forget the discourse. This is no longer my hill to die on.

You wanna ship canonically aspec characters because “aro/ace people can still date/have sex”? Okay, then. LET’S DO IT.  I wanna see an aromantic character with an alloromantic love interest. I wanna see that confession of undying love and the moment when the aro character says they will never feel the same way—not romantically.

I wanna see the asexual character with their allosexual partner. I wanna see that moment when the ace characters tries sex with their partner for the first time because they want to make them happy only to realize that they are 100% sex repulsed.

I wanna see the two demiromantics who don’t even know if what they feel is romantic attraction, but they adore each other and just want to make healthy snacks together and destroy each other at Mario Kart.

I wanna see the two aces who love sensual affection and are figuring out what they define as sexual or not.

I wanna see the romance + sex neutral aroace who happily and consensually does whatever makes their partner happy…but their partner still struggles with feeling undesired. 

Oh, babe. You thought shipping an aspec character would be just like shipping an allo character? 

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best friends who barely hang out anymore, but know they can tell each other anything

!! <3

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My family went on a trip to LA and i found so much vocaloid stuff! My small town could never!

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Aro culture is feeling a difference between couples who are just couples and couples who are friends, and that (subjective) distinction is often the determiner for if I'm annoyed by it or not. Idk like you gotta be able to shut off the romance switch and be chill (+ not single out your partner as the only person you seem to care about) or else I'm lowk not hanging around you.

now i am wondering how many alloromantic people might be aplatonic and not know it

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Good reminder

aro culture is having small incidents that scare you because its like "oh god am i actually aro or have i been a late bloomer this whole time????"

fun thing: you can be both! you can be aro right now, and a "late bloomer" who does later experience romantic attraction. it's genuinely okay. our system was ace until nearly 20. that is way past the norm. we are no longer ace. and it's okay! sometimes things change, and honestly, what matters is that right now you feel like a part of a community.

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Today I was talking to my close friend who I wanted to be in a QPR with about relationships and stuff and I mentioned how I don't really wanna be alone in life but don't know that I want romance (being aro and all), so they asked if I had ever heard of QPRs. I ofc said I had and that I thought they were pretty cool and probably what I wanted in life and asked what they thought of them. They said that they have nothing against them but didn't want one themself.

I just feel a little sad now because I had a squish on them for like a year now and was finally gonna ask them. At least I can stop worrying about it now, but yeah. That's life I guess. They're still one of my closest friends. This will in absolutely in no way change that, just needed to get this off my chest and for some reason Tumblr seemed like the right place to do it lol

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Once I saw someone in an ace chat group saying "No one deserves to live and spend their life without a lifelong companion*"

*in context: someone to be a couple with.

Someone pointed out that this could cause FOMO for people that didn't even know of they wanted or if it made sense.

I agree, but people there were silent and happy to talk about anything else.

I'm in a couple of ace groups in facebook and it's heartbreaking when someone talks about how they're going to endure an allo relationship because they're scared of being alone.

It's just so... weird. Why is it so unimaginable being ok on your own? Especially since EVERYBODY knows at least one couple that are obviously miserable being together. (but people don't tend to judge that)

OOF that last point is felt. The double standard is seriously INFURIATING.

Honestly, I'm not sure I'm one to talk since I got married with my queerplatonic partner and I'd be lying if I said being afraid of being alone wasn't one of the reasons. But I wouldn't say it's a primal thing that came about on its own. I was always happy with having friends left and right and only got afraid of being alone because societal, allonormative rules will make those friends put you as a second thought as soon as a romantic relationship enters the picture. So I always had that back-of-the-head sadness/fear thing going on. That being said, I never pursued life-long companionship either. My QPP basically stumbled upon me and suggested everything on their own, and the reason I went along with it was because we happened to vibe so well to begin with. It worked. It was a lucky happenstance of sorts. But I'm pretty sure even if it hadn't happen I'd still have been pretty happy. Way happier than if I'd forced myself into anything. And yeah, it does feel a bit icky seeing how quickly and readily everyone will accept me in that same-gender-assigned-at-birth queerplatonic relationship as opposed to when I was like "yeah I don't want anything, I'm happy like that". Because like... My level of happiness hasn't exactly changed that much from one to the other all things considered?

I guess it's different for every person. But it IS hurtful to assume everyone needs the same thing, and it's weird how much more forgiven it is to judge someone for NOT wanting something than the other way around. Both options should be considered as possibilities at the exact same level.

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do I want a romantic relationship or do I want someone to promise to stay by my side and then not only take that promise seriously but also keep it

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miku binder.

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HAVENT DRAWN ANYTHING STRAIHT UP IN A WHILE HOW YALL FEELING ABOUT ABSTRAGEDY