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Your trauma doesn’t deserve the credit for you “getting stronger” or “being strong”. You deserve that.

And another important point is that some people don’t feel strong. They feel weak and they are still completely valid. There isn't anything wrong with you if you didn't come out "stronger" or "kinder" or whatever other things people say "at least your trauma made you.." It's okay if you came out hardened, bitter, broken or whatever else. It's okay if you came out worse. Especially before healing. It's actually really normal, and I'm sorry if you've been made to feel that it's wrong.

(If you cope with your trauma by saying it made you stronger, you’re valid. I'd never judge you for that. This post is just against others pushing that narrative on other people.)

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To those who have to accept they will be ill/ in pain/ disabled the rest of their lives:

You will still have good days, fun moments, and fulfilling times. You will still have days you are okay, happy even. Life is a cycle, its good, then bad, then good, so one thing you can always count on is no matter where you are in life you are always in the way to a good and happy day or moment, you are always on the way to seeing the bad end.

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And here’s what makes complex PTSD uniquely miserable in the world of trauma diagnoses: it occurs when someone is exposed to a traumatic event over and over and over again — hundreds, even thousands of times — over the course of years. When you are traumatised that many times, the number of conscious and subconscious triggers bloats, becomes infinite and inexplicable. If you are beaten for hundreds of mistakes, then every mistake becomes dangerous. If dozens of people let you down, all people become untrustworthy. The world itself becomes a threat.

Stephanie Foo, What My Bones Know: A Memoir of Healing from Complex Trauma

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Hey. I'm saying this very gently in my friendliest tone. Some people (namely mentally, developmentally and intellectually disabled people) are just straight up not able to understand politics, and that's perfectly okay and not a moral issue on their part, so don't treat it like it is.

Some people may need you to explain it to them in a very simplified, easy to understand way so they can maybe get it, some people just won't be able to understand no matter how you word it and I need you to not blow up at them for it and think they're being "willingly obtuse and ignorant of the world they're living in" or whatever. Politics is a very complex and nuanced thing that nearly everybody is gonna explain differently and have wildly different opinions on what some words or stances actually mean or should mean. And some of us just simply can't deal with that and cannot be made to do so with just the right arguments and definitions.

I'm autistic (+ my schizophrenia makes my thinking very disorganized and sometimes incomprehensible which adds to that too) and I have a LOT of difficulty with understanding and learning these kinds of very complex and nuanced discussions, and a lot of the time I'm just not able to. And that's fine and doesn't make me stupid or not putting in enough effort or imply I'm "looking away" from all the problems in society. Can some of yall stop trying to make us feel guilty or even evil for not engaging in things we are not able to grasp well or at all

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I think some of you forgot that autistic people sometimes act strange and say things that are poorly worded and speak with incorrect tone and misunderstand or miss social cues because they are autistic

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daily reminder that if you do not provide the same amount of care, respect and support to people with gi issues, to people who have to use the toilet a lot due to their disablility, to people who are incontinent, to people who vomit a lot, to people who have ibs, to people with chronic nausea, to people with bladder or bowel control issues, to people who use diapers, to people who cannot control their bodily functions, to people who drool, to people who smell bad due to an aspect of their disability, and to people who have any "gross" aspect to their disability that you do to those who have more "conventional" disabilities then you are not an ally.

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You couldn't have "known better" as a kid

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"I was diagnosed level 1 and told I'm LSN because I can hold a job and live alone and drive and care for myself and mask successfully and when needed, but you see, if I don't mask, all this goes to shit, so I must be level 2/MSN or level 3/HSN!"

Don't know how to tell you this, but LSN/level 1 still very much a disability, and also HrSN people can't just mask away our support needs. Whole point is that either can't do it at all, or can but struggle is so severe that can't do it consistently. It not the same as "can do but when burnt out/unmasking it's a lot harder". We need help even on our good days.

Being LSN/level 1 is not a bad thing! And everyone deserves all the support they need. But there are levels and support needs labels for a reason.

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think more people need to realize that two space between words is common in AAC . because if accidentally put space in word button then will show up when copy paste

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Like you know what is much more sociable, actually, than expecting everyone to adhere perfectly to your pet social conventions? Adapting your interactions, especially if it's clear that you are significantly more adaptable than your conversation partner. It's deeply unfriendly, actually, to assume that someone who's very quiet or awkward or whatever is just not trying.

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daily reminder that diagnoses are clinical tools not ontological categories ❤️

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I feel so out of place in the mainstream autism community. When I found out I was autistic I thought I'd finally feel understood by other people but just like my whole life it feels like another club of people I'm too weird and disabled and different to fit in with.

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Supporting disabled people means supporting all disabled people. People with Factitious Disorder/Munchausens, people with the “bad” cluster B personality disorders, disabled people who are violent or “gross” or smell bad because of their disability. Disabled people who can’t understand things easily, disabled people who communicate “weirdly”, people with annoying compulsions, vocal stims, etc.

Yes, even if they suck for you as a disabled person. I struggle a lot to be around people who do/have a lot of these things, despite doing/having most myself, because of my disabilities. That’s not an excuse to be exclusionary or ableist or an asshole.

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Hey, if you’re not as mentally quick as you used to be because of your illness- that’s okay. If you’re can’t think as fast or handle as many tasks that’s okay. You aren’t stupid, you aren’t unintelligent, and you aren’t less worthy of love or respect. It’s okay that your brain won’t or can’t go back to how it used to be. It’s different now, but it’s okay.

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Dunno if any other moderate support autistics like me worry they would never be able to have a long term romantic relationship.

I def did but guess what!!!

IM MARRIED!!!! Yippee we’ve been together for five years and married for a year and a half. We both still live with my parents because of the support I need. He takes such good care of me and is super understanding of my needs. We’ve been talking about getting a care taker when we move out for me.

It’s not impossible to find love if you have higher support needs. We can have fulfilling romantic and sexual relationships. We are not less deserving of love because of how much support we require!!