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Dear victim blamers & rape apologists... * ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ * ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ * ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ * ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ * ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #essencesas #tellthetruthtuesday #endrapeculture #survivor #isupportsurvivors #stripawayfear #rapesurvivor #sciencefacts #factsarefacts #opinionsdontmatter #themoreyoureadthemoreyouknow #readmorelearnmore #teachertalktuesday #tuesdaytruths #neurological #humanphysiology #psychologicalhorror #traumabonding #traumahealing #neveryourfault https://www.instagram.com/p/BuorvqmlWA3/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=21t9ji3hi1y0

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A belief is just a practiced thought. Do your practiced thoughts lead you down a pathway of high self worth? Are you contradicting your desires with incongruent thoughts? Society trains us to think of ourselves as less than for too many reasons. This is why it can be a challenge to rewire our brains. Join the #zerofzone Don't believe the hype!!! #STRIPShift #CreateYourPersonalPractice #ZeroFucks #InsideOutNOTOutsideIn https://www.instagram.com/p/Bt6D5Y4lmqf/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1r6vrpnd91tqk

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Tip? Start each day with 15 - 60 min of time just for you doing something you enjoy or wish you had more time to do (yes, before you ever look at your phone). I believe in survivors #reclaimingyourmind #STRIPshift #selfactualizationstrategist #practiceoverperfect Join my closed #ZeroFZone FB Group 👇 https://www.instagram.com/p/Btjg36-g7D-/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=6hmjcqjoe0n6

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You're having the same experiences just with different people. It's easy to be hard on yourself because you have been practicing that for such a long time. Started at blaming yourself for what happened to you and continue to this day. Synapses in our brain have wired that as "normal". That's why it is challenging to shift thought patterns on your own. You can create a new normal with consistency. Embrace the challenge. Even if it doesn't seem like it, it is worth it. Challenging doesn't mean impossible. How do I know? Because I was a people pleaser I hardly ever said no. I mean, I'm capable, right? I Never wanted anyone upset with me I wondered why what I wanted always dodged me I would've rather become invisible than to ask for something P.S. When you think about what we've gone through, it makes sense, right? We prepare for disaster. That's what we do without even thinking about why. It is worth penetrating the pain to strip the discomfort and shift our spirit, body & brains to the other side because THAT is where your #WIN lives. If you don't get this, honor where you are on your journey 👍. But if you feel this, I'm talking to you. Let's STRIPShift. Link in bio👆. #STRIPShift #ReclaimingYourMind #No3EasySteps🤷‍♀️ https://www.instagram.com/p/BtjAUwtgsFu/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=z0udd4dt7u00

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That face when someone says you should give a f**k about what others think or have to say about you. NOPE. 2019 & beyond is the time for a S.T.R.I.P. Shift in mindset for survivors of sexual violence. Being a survivor may come with long lasting challenges within our own minds. Have you done therapy? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Do you not understand why your mind still fearfully holds you back? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Are you ready to create ways to go from shame & second guessing yourself to dicovering how to tap into courage & put high value on what YOU think for your life? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Do you need support & someone to keep you accountable so you end the cycle of lots of starts no finishes? I can help. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The #ZeroFZone is a first step in your mindset reset so you can build what you want to build, create what you want to create, say what you want to say, do with your body what you choose to do with your body, ask for what you want to ask for, ignore what "they" think, say or think you should do. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ See you there! www.facebook.com/groups/ZeroFZone/ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #ZeroFZone #STRIPShift #reclaimingourbodies #ReclaimingOurMinds #dailypractice #structureyourlife #commitments #actionaddict #imperfectcourage #consistencyoverperfection #finishes #goalgetter https://www.instagram.com/p/BrDbDlsF8GL/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=dfofhahze4pt

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I have questions!!! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Do people realize that often times survivors try to overly control things because what we experienced was NOT under our control. We want to control everything & know the outcome first. Perfectionism, much? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It just doesn't work that way. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You'll likely hate the first thing you attempt. But that first thing tells you how to improve & be better. You'll hate the second thing less. You maybe will like the fifth thing. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Jump. Let's start thinking: It just may work!! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Then you'll be wondering why you spent so much time stalling at all! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #ZeroFZone #ibelievesurvivors #shift #STRIPshift #refocusing #jfdi #daretosuck https://www.instagram.com/p/BqrPpYqlljU/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=bobxr9nd8q9m

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Survivor ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The journey to survivor is a long & often ongoing effort. [Dear, "why does it still matter now", folks, because it's effects can last a lifetime, that's why. Please don't @ me.] ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I am able to speak up now with no shame but that was not always the case. Once I truly felt like a strong survivor, I spoke up. Not everyone can. Not everyone is ready. Not everyone is there yet in their healing process. We have to be where we are at. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Where are you? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Ready to discover ways to create your own personal #ZeroFZone? Are you ready to discover ways to embrace brazen self acceptance? You have to be at a place in your journey where you are committed and ready to take action. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I've put together structures for myself to stop my thoughts from stopping me. It takes practice & consistency. I have no 3 easy steps. I have no 5 quick solutions. I have no way to do the work for you. I CAN show you what works for me & how you can implement it for yourself. I can lead & support you in that with no judgement. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I'm starting a private FB group. Comment "I'm In!" or DM me if you want to go into the #ZeroFZone Closed FB Group. #selfacceptance #selfactualization #selfdefinition #commited #consistencyisthekey #imperfectcourage #STRIPshift https://www.instagram.com/p/Bqny49ql-t6/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1if0ojv4pn3ej

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I was at a party once (in ancient times before IG stripper pics were normal). A group of folks we're standing in a circle chatting. The conversation turned to jobs/careers. It's NYC, so a mix of artists & business careers. My turn: "I'm a stripper"! *HUGE bursts of laughter erupts* Me & my then girlfriend look at each other & smile. Did they laugh because they thought that being a stripper was so aspirational that I couldn't possibly be THAT high on life's totem pole? Did they think strippers are so awful & I seem way too "respectable" to be one of THOSE?! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Outside Judgement. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ In some cases, it can affect life/livelihoods. But those aren't the judgements that you're avoiding when you choose not to start a project, not to do something you've been wanting to do but don't, not apply for opportunities, start but never finish things? The judgement you run from is judgement from peers. Humans like to take action AFTER social proof that it is accepted by the masses. It is just how we're hardwired. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Thankfully, we can be re-wired!! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So, again, what is it that happens if you're judged? I can tell you 2 things from experience for sure: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 1. "They" almost never say it to you directly so you will likely never even hear it. Let em talk amongst themselves🤐! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 2. Typically, you are never going to be judged by someone trying to accomplish anything big/meaningful💅. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Which leads to my next question: *mouf smack* How much is "they" opinion worf👂? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Answer: Zero Fucks, it's worth Zero Fucks, Ma'am🚫. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This pic of me living my best life creating things I enjoy BECAUSE I chose to do something WITH SO MUCH outside judgement anyway. S.T.R.I.P. Shift thru the discomfort. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Come wid me to ze joy filled #ZeroFZone 🤸!!! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #STRIPshift #survivor #shamelesslife #ibelievesurvivors #brazenselfacceptance #shamelessus #selfactualization #shameless #judgementdetox #nojudgementzone https://www.instagram.com/p/BqnOFSLFF8I/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1h6fmbuizbber

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Did you know his name is now a resource for survivors? Cuz, well, uhmmm, He didn't buy his name so Fix The Court DID. #ZeroFZone #ReclaimingOurMinds #survivorresources #webelievesurvivors https://www.instagram.com/p/BqbsQx-lEHs/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=xdftmyy9g7ji

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We all know ladies out here doing their thing. Show em some love! ❤❤❤ Tag a #bosslady you love below today! #happyfridayyall https://www.instagram.com/p/BpH9dU0Hs8b/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=lq5c6if63qwf

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HI👋! A funny thing happened on the way to my first essencerevealed IG page. I got hacked!! So, I had to leave my 6600 supporters 😐. BUT Fresh starts can be good, right? Pleased to meet you. I am Essence Revealed, an author, performer & teacher (I prefer that to coach cuz student is the teacher, teacher is the student. 🎼Cuz Weeeeeee in this thing togehvuh🎶)😁. 👑I'm a crowned international burlesque performer & producer🌍 🎭Actor🎤 📗Author of S.T.R.I.P. - A Stripper's 20 Life Winning Lessons👠 ...coming soon... 🎓Teacher of 6 week Online Course: 40 Day S.T.R.I.P. Away - stripping away the no's, negatives & not enoughs💻 With the combo of my MA in Education, the unexpected life lessons I learned as an exotic entertainer the club (observing & moving amongst business men teaches a lady a thing or two about navigating life), plus all of the 💲💸💲I've spent on self help, brain function books, weekends, trainings & coaches I've had, I can show you: 🤸 How to step into more yeses, positives & an incalculably high sense of worthiness🙌 🗓 Structures, Practices & Systems so you get out of your own way. Set yourself up to win. 🕙 🗣 Advocate for yourself boldly in your own head & to folks in the world. 📢 🤔 How to reframe the fear of rejection & failure & render them nothing to fear or avoid.👏 🤐 How to quiet the negative voices/self talk & imposter syndrome. 🙉 So you can take action despite fear or outside judgement. 🏃Finish that project you started but never finished. ☑ Sell that product you invented at the price you want. 💵 Create a career you love. 😍Learn from fails because the most priceless lessons are there. 💯 Speak your own truth freely. 🗣 Ask for what you need or want with courage.🙋🦁 Be authentically you.✨🤗✨ I am currently choosing the last 8 students for my Nov 26th group. 2 spots spoken for & many interviews already scheduled yay! Click the link in the bio & schedule your interview to see if we should work together now! #couragetochange #boldisbeautiful #consistencymatters #consistencypaysoff #completionist #completions https://www.instagram.com/p/BpAEqcRBZ8F/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=akwraol5zngq

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Do damage. Escape. Live to testify in an attempted murfer case cuz the way this sexual survivor on trail thing is set up... #RepostSave @jacqthestripper with @repostsaveapp ・・・ Pretty much the only way to guarantee they won’t be a repeat offender 💁🏼‍♀️ https://www.instagram.com/p/BoQeT3Zh8An/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1i9i4gg5yne2m

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#RepostSave @therapyforblackgirls with @repostsaveapp ・・・ This is undoubtedly going to be a rough week in terms of the news cycle y'all! Please make sure to take care of yourself. Here are some tips that might help. Make sure to share it with others as well. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #therapyforblackgirls #selfcare #selfcareis #metoo #sexualassault #psychology https://www.instagram.com/p/BoK54owBsFp/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1pc8wj4kvgkvj

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#RepostSave @jesicahuefner with @repostsaveapp ・・・ A good reminder. https://www.instagram.com/p/BoCB_l3Bmwz/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=czs1w16ebn3x

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What are you doing Friday, baebey? Come to @bizarrebushwick (9:30pm doors, 10pm showtime)for @hotfaceshow by @divinagransparkle!!! Swipe to see the line up. See you Fri Night!! (at BIZARRE Bushwick) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bn8relaBpmb/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=9bm61p9ejiuw