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Hi! This is a little random lol but a series I recommend watching is the lgbtq/coming of age series called I Told Sunset About You. It’s made in Thailand and besides the acting which is really great, the cinematography is beautiful. All episodes with English subtitles can be found on Venmo and dailymotion. I laughed, cried, got angry at characters and just fell in love with the show. If you have questions just lmk!

Omg thank you so much for the recommendation!! Always looking for queer media❤🧡💛💚💙💜

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Fall in love with a demisexual who has been listening to Taylor Swift's new album Evermore on repeat all day

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Happy Hanukkah to all my friends celebrating the first night tonight!💜💜💜

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Dunno if this is the right place to ask, but here we go. For asexuals there's the black ring you can wear, is there anything specific like that for demisexuals? I like the idea of wearing something that represents a part of me. Or is the black ring for the asexual spectrum and includes everything that's part of this term?

Hello! I'm no authority on anything I can only give answers based on my experience and what I know lol but im so glad you stopped by to ask!! I LOVE ace rings. I love seeing them I love hearing about them, if anyone has pictures or drawing or ideas of their own ace ring PLEASE SEND💜💜💜 I'm not sure if there is a specific demi ring that is widely instantly recognizable or distinguishable within the acespec community the way the classic solid black band is. But if anyone knows otherwise please do share! I love learning new things!

This isn't to say someone couldn't make one! That would be awesome!

Stay safe, take care, I love you, and thanks for asking💜💜💜

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Hi, young demisexual here, (20 Y/O) female. I'm I the only demisexual who actually HATES been demisexual. I wish I could enjoy my sexuality with other people now that I'm young and single just like majority of my frinds. I've tried hooking up with this really really cute guy but at the end of the day I felt indifferent and honestly I wasn't even "in the moment" Any tips to accept who I am and not feel like I'm wasting my youth? Thanks.

Hi friend!! I'm so sorry you've felt this way. My best advice is that youth isn't about having all the sex and partners you can before time runs out. I know media likes to show that the only way to have a fun carefree youthful experience is to hook up and all, but (and im still in my youth lol I'm a few months shy of 25) the most memorable and exciting and amazing moments of my life have been just kicking back with my friends. You can be wild and live fast and free if thats what you want, but without the pressure of sex.

Getting dressed up and doing each others makeup and going dancing with my pals and just getting drunk and silly together was amazing and not once do I look back thinking it was a night wasted because I didn't hook up with anybody.

I'm a bit of a homebody and so we'd have a lot of nights of just playing a card game or board game and share snacks and stay up until 5am and I never look back wishing that I had been in bed with someone else instead.

How you have fun and enjoy the time you have is up to you, and I hope you don't let the pressure of our over sexualized society prevent you from living how you want and forming the types of relationships you want.

Stay safe, take care, I love you💜💜💜

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Fall in love with a Demisexual that took 22 yrs to come to terms with the fact that her sexuality is not her just 'being difficult'😅

HELL YEAH LIVE YOUR THRUTH LOVE YOURSELF CONGRATULATIONS 💜💜💜

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can you please tag xmas related posts? i love your blog but xmas is a huge trigger for me

Hi! Yes, I'm so sorry, I'll be sure to tag any holiday specific post in the future, the recent post has been updated.

Take care, friend💜💜💜

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Fall in love with a Demisexual who finally got to put up their first Christmas tree this year!

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Y'know, whenever people want to talk about why aspec people 'count' as an oppressed identity, they tend to go for the big stuff like corrective rape and conversion therapy. And like, we should absolutely talk about that stuff. Obviously those things are terrible and important and we need to raise awareness and deal with them.

But I feel like people often gloss over how… quietly traumatising it is to grow up being told that there is only one way to be happy— and that everybody who doesn't conform to that norm is secretly miserable and just doesn't know it— and then to gradually realise that, for reasons that you cannot help, that is never going to happen for you.

You're not going to find a prince/princess and ride off into the sunset. Or if you do, then it's not going to look exactly the way it does in fairytales. You're not going to get a 'normal' relationship, because you are not 'normal', and everybody and everything around you keeps telling you that that's bad.

You see films where characters are presented as being financially stable, genuinely passionate about their work and surrounded by friends and family, but then spend the rest of the plot realising that the real thing they needed was a (romantic and sexual) partner, to make them 'complete'.

You absorb the idea that any relationships you have with allo people will ultimately be unfulfilling on their side, and that this will be your fault (even if you discussed things with your partner beforehand and they decided that they were a-okay with having those sorts of boundaries in a relationship) unless you deliberately force yourself into situations that you aren't comfortable with, so as to make uo for your 'defects'.

You grow up feeling lowkey gaslighted because all the adults in your life (even in LGBT+ spaces. In fact especially in LGBT+ spaces) are insisting that it's totally normal to not be attracted to anybody at your age, and then you go to school and everybody keeps pressuring you to name somebody you're attracted to because they can't imagine not being attracted to anybody at your age.

And then you get older and realise that one day you're going to be expected to leave home, and that one day all your friends are going to be expected to put aside other relationships and 'settle down' with a primary partner and you don't know what you're going to do after that because you straight up don't have a roadmap for what a 'happy ending' looks like for someone like you.

(And the LGBT+ community is little help, because so many people in there are more than happy to tell you that you're not oppressed at all. That you're like this because you don't want to have sex, and/or you don't want to have any relationships, that your orientation is some sort of choice you made— like not eating bananas— rather than an intrinsic part of you that a lot of us have at some point tried to wish away.)

Even if you're grey or demi, and do experience those feelings, you still have to deal with the fact that you're not experiencing them the 'normal' way and that that's going to effect your relationships and your ability to find one in the first place.

If you're aiming for lifelong singlehood (which is valid af) or looking for a qpp, then you're going to have to spend the rest of your life either letting people make wrong assumptions about your situation (at best that your relationship is of a different nature than it actually is, at worst that the life you've chosen is really just a consolation prize because you 'failed' at finding a romantic/sexual partner) or pulling out a powerpoint and several webpages every time you want to explain it.

This what being aspec looks like for most people, and it is constantly minimised as being unimportant and not worth fighting against— even in aspec spaces— because we've all on some level absorbed the idea that oppression is only worth fighting against if it's big, and dramatic, and immediately obvious. That all the little incidents of suffering that we experience on a daily basis are not enough to be worth bothering about.

I mean, who gives a shit if you feel broken, inherently toxic as a partner, and like you're going to be denied happiness because of your orientation? Shouldn't we all just shut up and thank our lucky stars we don't have to deal with all the stuff some of the other letters in the acronym have to put up with (leaving aside the fact that there are many aspec people who identify with more than one letter)?

So you know what? If you're aspec and you relate to anything I've said above (or can think of other things relating your your aspec-ness that I haven't mentioned) then this is me telling you now that it's enough. Even if we got rid of all the big stuff (which we're unlikely to do any time soon because— Shock! Horror!— the big stuff is actually connected to all the small stuff) we would still be unable to consider our fight 'over' because what you are experiencing is not 'basically okay' and something we should just be expected to 'put up with'.

No matter what anybody tells you, we have the right to demand more from life than this.

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Hi friends! As Early Voting is starting in many states, and Election Day is approaching, please make a plan to vote. You can find your local polling station and check your registration with the link. This election is so so important. Go out and vote💜💜💜

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i’ve said it once and i’ll say it again.  queer people need to trust other queer people.  

don’t question someone else’s labels.  TRUST that they’ve done that already.  if they ask you for advice, fine, but DO NOT go in swinging.  don’t go up to a straight trans man and ask why he doesn’t identify as a lesbian.  don’t talk to non-binary people and tell them that their identity is a sham if they don’t transition.  don’t ask bi people when they’re going to pick a side.  don’t assume that someone who is ace is just repulsed by their own internalized homophobia.

like just… have respect for your fellow lgbtq+ folks because there are so few of us in an OCEAN of hetero-cisnormativity.  we don’t have to chip away at each other until only the Cardinal Few remain.  there is no reason that we can’t have space for the people who question, the people who change their minds, the people who dip a toe in and pull back out.  i am HERE for those people, just as much as i am HERE for the people who can write a dissertation on their attraction and knew from the moment they were born that they were Hella Gay.  

there is nothing simple about self-discovery and frankly, i’m not here on this earth long enough to scrutinize my fellow marginalized peoples.  there’s no reason to do that shit.  it does not, in fact, hurt queer people to be wholly accepting of any wayward identity.  non-dysphoric?  demi-gray-ace as hell?  don’t care, as long as you’re fighting on my side, because i’m fighting on yours.

inclusivity all the way, yo.

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@ all trans people about to attend online school:

This will visually remove your deadname from any webpage. Obviously switch it off if your parents wanna check up on your work, but yee here's the link below fam!!!! BOOST THIS!!! SEND THIS TO ANY TRANS PERSON YOU KNOW WHO WILL NEED THIS

EDIT: it has been brought to my attention that this will not work if you have an online school program/assigned laptop that blocks you from using extensions. Please check with your own situations b4 you get your hopes too high up, and I apologise and feel for those who already were.

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Fall in love with a demisexual who is immune deficient and is terrified right now. The support would be appreciated.

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Is it bad that I feel uncomfortable that most of the "pro-ace" posts put such a big enfasis in the fact that some of us are okay with having sex?

Sometimes? I’m absolutely not here to shame you so give me a second to explain, okay? Is it bad you feel uncomfortable when pro-you stuff feels overwhelming not for you? Absolutely not. I think that’s very human. You just gotta remind yourself that aces are so diverse not all pro-ace stuff is going to be something you need to hear. I’ve seem this cut both ways. So it’s okay to be like ‘I was sad and this isn’t the balm I needed =/’ It’s not okay to be like “f this shit, always and only about aces who have sex.” That’s when it becomes unfair to your fellow ace siblings. And I think if we respect our personal feelings and remind ourselves not to be that birb meme we can better support each other no matter what our personal choices my be. We need enough ace stories out there so people can more easily find the story that speaks to them when they need to hear it. 

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I’m so sick of seeing “Blue Lives Matter”, “All Lives Matter”, and “Not all cops” all over the internet, so I decided, every time I see a post or a comment or an article with those phrases or that sentiment, I’m donating to Black Visions. I encourage you to please join me in giving whatever you can to them. In addition to all the good work they do to combat police brutality and promote healing and justice, they are a black led, queer and trans centering organization.

Black Lives Matter.

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Hey there😒.. I need your  help 😭

My kid Sister is diagnosed of a deadly Lower respiratory infections. She's at the hospital now I'm need of help but To cure her will cost me a whole lot of money we can't afford on our own as our parents disowned us a long while ago because we are lesbian. I'm begging a LGBT, Gay and  every human who believes no one should be hidden in a closet out there to come to our rescue, save one of us... please save my sister...don't allow us to be put  to shame ...every $1, $5, $10 or more donated counts.. please help me save my sister with anything  you can afford  ( no amount is too small right now!! Even a cent counts).

 she's  just 21  and she's all I've  got.

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 +13478967197