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I want people to understand. Being visibly autistic, being low masking, it isn’t fun.

I want people to understand this before they go on their unmasking journey. I want people to understand this before they start “acting more autistic”. I want people to understand this. It isn’t fun. It isn’t all rainbows and butterflies. I understand completely that I live in a more unaccepting area, but this is the reality for many people who are visibly autistic everywhere!

It isn’t fun. We get yelled at, called slurs, stared at, infantilized, talked over, ignored, etc etc. it isn’t fun. It HURTS.

Please please, if youre masking then realize your privilege, it’s a HARD privilege to have. I get that. It’s hard to mask, it’s hard to be passed as NT, it’s HARD. But it’s also hard to be visibly autistic. It’s so so hard. 

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hi! i noticed in one of your recent posts you mentioned you can’t make yourself do stuff you don’t want to, and i was wondering if there was ANYTHING that helps? i’ve done occupational therapy for a couple years for this problem and it hasn’t worked, my occupational therapist didn’t know what to do and i don’t think she’s seen that before

Frog no is have way solve all problem, but have some thing can say that maybe will help! Also do want say that Frog also have ADHD, which make it more hard, but also give more ways deal with, so sorry if accidental mix up what cause what 😅.

Two thing that help is have other person make do, and have they help with some or all part to make less thing to force self do. This most work for more simple thing like brush teeth. Frog can ask mom to help with lot or all step, because "stand in bathroom" lot less work for brain than "go bathroom, take toothbrush, take toothpaste, etc.". Is lot more easy make self do.

Mom be there to help also make Frog able start do it, because is make it simple command to do instead of long list to choose to do. In a funny way, take away Frog choice in this make able do what want lot more.

Other thing Frog do is try to make the thing part of a routine. Because of Frog autism no do make habit so that no help, but if can get thing no want do as part of routine, lot time Frog need to follow routine will let Frog do thing it no want to. Am do this with thing like small math homework. Am get most day, so make it routine do it at one time. This kind thing make it not good if Frog no have math homework, but that happen less and shutdown (or other thing happen from no follow routine) is less problem if no have thing need be do.

Frog no is have more specific thing, am try to think of more but most either are similar to first two or just. No happen unless can make self want to. Hope this help least little, and sorry for late response tumblr did eat the ask XD

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Frog so cool.

Thank you thank you!!!

Am have folder on phone where save picture of people send nice thing like this, love love look back at- make Frog so happy happy :D

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Frog no can mask lot thing. One thing can mask though is voice stim, which is big privilage for place like school.

No can do for long time and do mess up, but can make most voice stim not happen at school, and that keep lot people from be mean. Most time when am do this no can talk any, is more hard focus, and make Frog feel sick sick. Sometime Frog think it would be more good if no was able mask voice stim, because do so is so bad but no can stop because no want people be mean.

But, Frog know this would no make thing better. Even be able mask little thing like this make people treat Frog lot more nice. No should have do it, but because can am more safe in public, and am try be greatful for.

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Frog mom has be read lot book about autism, and at start was nervous. No did know what book would say, could say bad ableist thing and no would no. But after how Frog mom be recent, think is maybe good thing.

At breakfast mention how even make mac n cheese, which have make many many time with help, get so nervous and mess up. And that is simple recipe lot time get help with. After Frog say that, mom mention how with book she be read it say that some autistic people no cook ever, it just too hard, and that okay. Frog say sound like Frog, and she okay with it! No get mad or think Frog need try more hard.

Is little step, but is feel so big

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Don’t have to have any skills to be valuable.

Have value because you exist.

Love you and hope your day is easier.

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Autism is a disorder, right?

I was sent asks by people saying that i am wrong and autism is not a disorder.

Tell me, am i wrong in thinking it is a disorder?

Yes, autism is a disorder. When people say it not disorder is ableism.

Frog was try to write about some reason it happen, because think is important know about, but no can put into word so if anyone read this able explain that would be good good!

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Hi Frog!

I also don't know tone tag shorthand and would rather people just write out the whole word. Glad to see I'm not alone in this!

- Gardenia

Yes hello! No see lot people think same is Frog but is so so more easy than remember what all they mean. Also because some time 2 people use same letters but are mean 2 different thing! Is so confuse 😵‍💫

(Also tumblr say this ask from August but no did show Frog before today so sorry)

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Sorry sorry have be gone so long, lot big mental stuff be happen, lot change and lot other stuff think about so no be spend lot time on tumblr.

Have be put in more easy math class, which has be lot better than before and actual most understand what is happen! Am go to have take hard class again next year but am hope will be less hard then.

Frog think is little more easy than was, no know why but word work more good in brain.

One big bad thing did happen, no amount of go to say lot about but Frog think will talk little about later, because autism did make different than is normal.

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ok i need. need. NEED. you all to understand what high support needs autism actually is. not just higher support, but highhhh (high) support.

& honestly me, am not even fit to talk about this!! but knowing popular (often low support) autism content creators & authors tokenize me & include me in justification “well i listen to high support needs people and they need—”

high support needs not just need remind take meds, not even need remind eat, need remind shower. if you think “high support needs” & those struggles come first in mind & see those as most represent of HSN, most classical way of be HSN, then you wrong. you wronggg.

many HSN autistic, not even “advanced” enough (for not have better word) to able use reminders. on average day often need physical help. for a lot, need complete physical help. need complete physical help hold spoon n fork, or not able be a part at all and need other people do it. need be told open mouth chew swallow sometimes. need other people clean up drool & spill from mouth & mess.

they have worth. deserve all the fucking help they need.

“difference between low & high support is not actual amount struggle because all struggle inside same but that high support show more external outside struggle & those struggle more annoying for people around them” hear this so often and make blood boil because cannot be farther from truth yet some you all so loudly proclaim.

then tell me why only hear LSN say this. why only hear LSN on internet. why all big content creator big authors big autistic speakers all LSN.

tell me how someone nonverbal and no robust communication no functional language struggle even nonverbally communicate not even AAC not yet or not ever ever, how that same inside as someone who able speak who speak fluent who able communicate want needs dreams have conversation with words

both struggle. but not fucking same struggle.

many people in between. but you not get use people like them like me to give self shiny credential of “i know high support needs because i listen”

don’t use me. you embarrass me.

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Am want to talk about school as autistic person (no low support need/high mask).

Frog no is in special education. Think maybe would help, but no is option so am in "normal" class, and is very hard.

During class sometime will get too loud and just. Walk out room sit and rock in hallway for rest of time. Am get trouble for this and other time brain hurt too bad and no go class. Frog friend also no like that happen and ignore that no is thing Frog choose :(

Listen teacher and pay attention also very hard. Lot time no understand what taught. Happen most in English- no know what mean when say about book. No even can read book all because no understand! Most class is spend daydream because no am go to pay attention to class no can understand!

Homework also very hard. No can make self do thing no want do, so only do it if both want and can do and that no happen lot.

Way Frog do school different- but no make Frog bad. Am try, am try lot, and no is Frog fault that it no look like lot to you.

No thing is wrong with no good at school.

(also want make post about what help do get in school and what other thing would be good, so maybe you see that soon)

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Semiverbalism is such a beautiful thing with a wide spectrum of people. I love meeting different people who describe themselves as semiverbal.

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AAC no is more bad than mouth word, and is so important for parent and other adult let child know this. Child no should be scared talk to parent because think parent hate they voice. Child no should think is unsafe in way make more comfortable. Child no should be unable communicate what can because parent no help with AAC.

If are parent read this, and have child use AAC, make sure they know it no make you love they less. Will help lot, Frog promise you.

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Frog want to talk about how understand money as autistic person.

No real can understand how much thing cost- know if number is more big it need more money, but not any more than that. No can realize "this thing cost this much" or "if spend money have less" or "no have all money ever, take time energy get it".

Is no big thing in Frog life now because parent are the ones buy stuff, but if stay this way when become adult will be big big problem.

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Sorry no have be on as much, school and mental health are so so hard again, no have energy do thing like post tumblr lot days. Might try and finish old draft to make new post sometime, but don't think will be lot new ideas from me for little time.

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hi frog. want good things to happen to you

Thank you lot!! Hope lot good thing happen to you too too too!

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That so cool!! Order food is so hard and scary, am happy happy you do it!

going out have food soon. going try use AAC so can order for me on my own ! am scared because havent ordered own food ever by talk before.