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Do you prefer Socionics or MBTI? What theories do you use?

Heyyy so funny you ask me this while I'm writing my next post, because that's going to be very theoretical. I don't follow a particular theory; I tend to swallow everything I read, and then I vomit my own thing lol as a good Ti user.

I enjoy reading about both Socionics and MBTI, but I think both of them are rather... dooming. Maybe that's just me! I think Socionics is incredible, full of amazing studies (in particular interpersonal ones), but there are too many details. You can get lost in those and lose the primary focus of typology, which is individuation. Growth! And MBTI is very uhhh idk man sometimes it feels like a collective madness because everyone can write about it online and half the time their observations don't make a lot of sense — which I guess it's my case sometimes lol.

If you're asking this because you're looking to study more, I highly recommend looking at other theories such as CPT and whatever this INFP had going on here (Casual Cognition on Youtube). Also please give the holy father Jung a try and read Psychological Types. Squeeze your Thinking and Feeling juices and try to type without fitting people into little hyper-specific boxes, but thinking about how they can move towards being well-rounded individuals.

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Socionic moodboards | pt. 2: dynamic IMEs

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Socionics moodboards | pt. 1: static IMEs

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Self proclaimed empaths will lack basic understanding of the human brain and completely discredit disorders they don't understand while misusing psychiatric terminology and refusing to educate themselves on mental illness that doesn't fit their idea of suffering, dividing people in abusers and victims with no inbetween, throwing around words like "gaslighting" when they're literally spreading misinformation and generalizing already stigmatized disorders by using terms such as "narcissist" and "sociopath" to describe any kind of bad behavior that could easily just be called shitty, thus connecting every aspect of harm and abuse to mental illness. Keep up the good work, truly empathetic and wise to keep people uneducated <3

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MBTI & Eyes by Jung

“The axes of his [a senser’s] eyes will have a tendency to converge and come together at one point. When you study the eyes of intuitive people you will see that they only glance at things, they do not look, they radiate at things because they take in their fullness [i.e. the fullness of things], and among the many things they perceive they get one point in the periphery of their field of vision and that is the hunch. Often you can tell from the eyes whether people are intuitive or not… . When you have an intuitive attitude, you always take in the whole situation and then something suddenly crops up out of this wholeness.”

-Carl Jung, Collected Works 18, p. 18.

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going off the list from acnh bc it’s what i’m most familiar with !

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Rant incoming 🌈🌼🧚🏽 You know this rule is not made for the kids, it’s for the ppl that can’t take a bit of skin or sexual innuedo. There‘ve been so many sexual references, jokes & hints in movies and songs the past decades (probably for all of humanity lol) and what is the universal experience of children growing up? Watching the thing as an adult and suddenly understanding there were tons of references that flew over our heads. As a kid you don’t realize it, you don’t care, you don’t try to imitate it either bc we don’t get the joke, they don’t stick out to you as a child. Also we have junior Eurovision, if parents are worried, they can let the kids watch this one… probably is more entertaining for them anyway

I‘m not a fan of society sexualizing bodies to the point you can’t show skin or talk about sex without people, ADULTS going crazy like little teenagers giggling and clutching pearls when you mention the word dick

“EBU wants Eurovision to be more family friendly and has asked the artists to tone down the nudity and inappropriate references this year. That went to hell immediately”

- Edward af Sillén, Swedish commentator, about Australia

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the Lolita effect present in our pop girlies

Trigger Warning: sexualisation of young girls, discussions of paedophilia (though mild), abusive relationships, daddy issues, that whole gist.

I know a million people have talked about the lolita effect and I know this isn't my typical kind of borderline essay but I just needed to post something about it

I also won't be censoring anything. if I'm going to talk about something, I'm going to talk about it. So reading some parts may be disturbing, because that content is disturbing.

So, what am I talking about? I'm going to be talking about the pop culture impacts that Lolita 1997 has had. When speaking about Lolita, I will be referring to the 1997 movie unless said otherwise because that's what's relevant and what I know the most about. I watched it recently after hearing about it for years in discussions like this one and think it's relevant again.

there may be typos and whatnot, I apologise, reading on screens already wigs me out (I think I need glasses maybe) so proofreading sucks

What is the Lolita effect?

The name Lolita coming from Vladimir Nabokov's book, Lolita, that depicts a paedophile's (the paedophile's pseudonym is Humbert Humbert) obsession with this 12 year old girl, Dolores, through his unreliable gaze. He calls her Lolita as his version of nymphet, a sexual attractive young girl, like minx; a flirtatiously mischievous girl. It should go without saying that Dolores isn't a minx or nymphet. She's a 12 year old girl who is actually quite gross at times, like a 12 year old girl would be. Stomping around, picking her nose, pulling out wedgies in public. But throughout the whole book Humbert Humbert is trying to convince you that no, she isn't a 12 year old little girl, and I'm not a pervert, she's this sex symbol and I'm just a weak man she's manipulating with her body.

Sickening. Disgusting. Gross in every way.

The Lolita effect describes the sexualisation of young girls. A girl with heart shaped sunglasses and pigtail braids sucking on a lollipop while watching the boys, being lusted after by the guys? Lolita effect. Quite literally given this is the cover of many copies of Lolita, despite Vladimir Nabokov's own direct wish for no girl to be ever depicted on the cover.

Vladimir Nabokov's desired cover design of Lolita on the left.

"aesthetic" version on the right.

Well, when did this change happen? Lolita 1962, directed by Stanley Kubrick.

Stanley's movie adaptation of a book that its own author asked for it to never be made as a movie was the spark of this controversy. Then came Adrian Lyne.

This rubbed so much salt in the wound of Lolita being romanticised it became the romanticised Lolita adaption. Blue print if you will. Just read the poster to see why. "Erotic" "stunning and emotionally gripping" "a forbidden love" "an remarkable/unmistakable attraction" "the ultimate piece"

Adrian Lyne himself called it a love story. People had been misunderstanding Lolita for decades, such as in 1959, Robertson Davies, a novelist, said that the theme of Lolita is "not the corruption of an innocent child by a cunning adult, but the exploitation of a weak adult by a corrupt child." which not to get angry, BUT THAT FIRST STATEMENT IS LITERALLY WHAT IT IS. DOLORES IS 12. TWELVE. So, it's not like this adaptation was why people believed this story was okay to romanticise, but the aesthetic sold it.

Lolita 1997 aesthetic

here are some examples of outfits throughout the movie.

very aesthetic, very cute, very 50s americana

defined with pigtails and braids, two piece sets and an American flag colour palette, it was made a very "aesthetic" movie when the contents are literally horrifying. Like I felt ill watching it. As you should because this is a movie about paedophilia. Not love.

Now, how is this relevant? As I showed with the first 2 images of this post, it's become an iconic aesthetic and reference. A 50s Americana aesthetic isn't a Lolita aesthetic, it's an aesthetic that Lolita in the 1997 adaptation shares. However, you'd be remiss not to acknowledge the parallels. Which is where everyone's favourite pop girly right now, Sabrina Carpenter, comes in.

Just aesthetic wise, you can see similarities. Sabrina's aesthetic recently has been very 50's, Americana, gingham, matching sets, red/white/blue/yellow.

There is nothing inherently wrong with this aesthetic. However, there is an issue into feeding into the sexualisation of young girls.

First of all, I just want to say that Sabrina's height and youthful appearance have always been a thing. There's been short jokes made about her since she popped out I'm sure. But there's a difference between "I'm so short" and saying "I'm full grown but I look like a niña" implying that she's a little girl that's legal "come put something big in my casita" casita being a small house, referring to her vagina, and the "something big" referring to a penis. "Mexico, I think you are bonita" for her nonsense outro Mexico n3 of the eras tour of which she was an opener. Already weird, but continuing, in her lyrics, we get "when I love you, I'm sweet like an angel, drawing hearts round our names and dreaming of writing vows, rockin cradles" which there is nothing inherently wrong with, even if it is a bit more child like, like a school girl crush, because she does follow it with "don't mistake my nice for naive" basically saying "no, I'm not this little girl. I'm a woman." which is great. but that goes down the toilet when she chose Juno, a movie about teen pregnancy and a teenager coming to age through that, for the movie she wanted to base her want to get knocked up on. Weird.

But hey, she isn't the woman in the industry we should worried about selling a sexy baby act.

Addison Rae

Addison Rae has come from tiktok, now trying to cement herself at a pop girly, I think she has a market, however, her brand is what's throwing me off.

I've seen endless interviews where she's dressed up in tutu material and bright colours like a kid, speaking in kid like tone, pouting, just really little girl like. Which isn't a crime, until her songs are about sex. she sells 2 narratives in her music. "I'm an innocent untouched girl" and the whore/slut, both words she uses herself.

examples include "losing all my innocence" "untouched" "young" "young, dumb, and cute" "do I provoke you with my innocence?" but switches it around with calling herself a "dance whore" in New York or "with a cigarette pressed between my tits, you know I'm not an easy fuck, but when it comes to shoes, I'll be a slut" in high fashion. Now I am not at all suggesting someone can't be cute and hot, or desirable and adorable, but when promoting a song, which is all about a loss of innocence, implying a loss of one's virginity, "my cheeks are red like cherries in the spring" "im your baby" "losing all my innocence in the backseat" "untouched" "young lust" for reference, playing into this innocent little girl act is weird. She played up that act because its what the public likes. Seductive, yet innocent. 'Make us wanna sleep with you, but dont you dare just give away your virginity, its an important virtue for a young woman.' Does part of this come from the public's madonna/whore complex? absolutely. But there is a difference between coexisting as cute and hot, and sexualising youthfulness. Which is what Addison Rae has done.

"how do you know that she's not just like that?" because she drops it as soon as she wants to be respected. Which I'm sure many women can relate to. Speaking "more like a man" when you want to be listened to. "And I wonder what it says about me that I feel pretty in a dress, but powerful in a suit" as Blythe Baird expresses in her poem Girl Code 101. However, Addison makes sure she's still pretty, hair down, make up on, still youthful looking while I think you'll find women ditch "young" and go for "mature" for a business meeting.

But to tie this all together

Why is this aesthetic and these motifs so prevalent?

Surely not all of these women watched Lolita and said "yep, im going to feed into that" so why are there so many parallels?

well, as Addison says in times like these "am i too old to blame my dad?" referencing daddy issues as the basis of her issues, while on only track 3 of her self titled album saying "wanna roll one with Lana."

and as you can see, Sabrina can be seen here using a Lana Del Rey song while promoting her new song, Manchild, that 2 of those images for that aesthetic example from earlier come from the music video for said song.

Lana Del Rey.

from having a song called Lolita romanticising such, to romanticising such in another song called Off To The Races where she uses lines from Lolita like "light of my life, fire of my loins" which is what Humbert Humbert refers to Lolita as, to romanticising abusive relationships with older men steming from her daddy issues, Lana Del Rey is guilty of pushing this aesthetic and these themes into the mainstream. The similarity between the men and what they are seen doing with the girls to how they're described to the 50's americana aesthetic getting claimed as "so Lana Del Rey" during the born to die era, this is where it comes from. Lana Del Rey's Lolita, 50's americana, sexy baby aesthetic. As Billie Eilish said to every pop girl out there today, "she made you." Lana Del Rey is the blueprint for so many in the industry. This whole rant proves her mark on pop culture. Good or bad.

okay, that's it, I could discuss this further but I mostly wanted to lay this all out so I didn't feel crazy with it all up in my head. byee!!!

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People fundamentally don’t want women to seek justice against men who abused them because if we held every violent man accountable for his behavior, the patriarchy and how society in general functions would collapse. It’s easier for people to twist themselves into knots to justify why they think every woman in a high profile case is lying than to justify what they really think, that men should be allowed to beat and rape and shoot women with impunity.

When a woman doesn’t seek justice or settles a case because she doesn’t want to be abused all over again by the legal system, misogynists rejoice, because she’s been frightened back into submission and the man gets away with it—exactly how they want the world to work.

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that one substack piece about heard/depp was one of the best things ive read all year tbh. maybe even the best opinion piece ive ever read in my time on the world wide web

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OKAY. I THINK I SEE THE VISION NOW.

No wonder the solo transformations felt choppy: they were supposed to transition into each others' sequences!!!

When Aisha's jump transitioned to Bloom flying through the sky, I thought that was really smooth! Then they just kept happening: Flora to Tecna, Tecna to Musa, then later Stella to Aisha to Bloom. They were meant to complement each other!!! 🥹

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Winx Club Reboot | Musa New Transformation

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New look at the Winx reboot.

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Imo it wasn’t meant to be as a happy ending..It was meant to reflect reality, of people that aren’t healing from trauma, of women that are caught in the wheel of patriarchy, poverty + abuse

Simone doesn’t make a good decision, she just makes the "safe" decision (not having to go back to her home with her dad, and loosing that "safe" place she build for herself), that good bye scene with Devon was definitely meant to make us uneasy

I‘d argue it’s more a "happy" ending for Devon bc she accepts/ has to accept that her sister makes bad decisions, and she can’t actually safe her. She can’t make decisions over/for her sister. She has to let her, she can only be there for her if she wants her to.

Simone isn‘t happy, and I think it’s meant to show that the rich old man is the figure that basically has the power over their wives/women’s life’s (like regarding poverty patriarchy etcetc)

Okay okay I'm about to drop a hot take

I absolutely adored Sirens- I loved everything about it from the cinematography (which was especially brilliant) to the writing to every single one of the characters

HOWEVER.

I absolutely have to say this right now

....I really didn't like the ending at all

I mean what the FUCK was that?? It just felt like it came out of absolutely nowhere? It wasn't satisfying, it definitely wasn't the best route they could've gone down, and honestly I was really disappointed with how flat it fell after such a strong four and a half episodes 😭

I had a very long voice note convo with a friend when I finished it to try to unpack it and the conclusion that I got to was that it was too sudden and out of character to be a satisfying or good ending imo

I'm so incredibly happy for Simone OFC but I am NOT HAPPY ABOUT HOW THE PLOT GOT THERE AT ALL. FUCK PETER FUCK THAT GUY HOW ARE WE MEANT TO BE HAPPY ABOUT SIMONE SPONTANEOUSLY LYING TO A MAN THIRTY YEARS HER SENIOR TO GET HIS MONEY THAT WAY IN A SNAP OUT OF CHARACTER DECISION. AND THIS IS ALL IN THE LAST FIFTEEN MINUTES??

No I'm not having it I'm not having this

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Never thought I would say this, but Sweden was absolutely ROBBED.

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“2015, they came last. 2016, the came last. But in 2017, they changed it up and came second to last”

- Edward af Sillén, Swedish commentator, about Germany

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Yes 😭 and maybe get rid of the semi finals? Seems just unnecessary stressful and.. idk. to get everyone excited and then disqualify some countries from participating :(

Eurovision Fact #996:

When asked what his three wishes would be if he found a genie in a bottle, Theo Evan (Cyprus 2025) said that one wish would be to have more counties join the Eurovision Song Contest.

[Source]

"The best kept secret in Cyprus: Who is Theo Evan?" Eurovision.tv.