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I've never had the chance to wear something pretty for a partner and get to watch as their face shifts from waiting patiently to complete shock and awe as they watch me enter the room.

I really think that would just make me melt...

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did you know? you can meet people who will love you unconditionally for who you are. but watch out! the distance

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Small painting, bit messy, didn't focus on details that much, hope you guys like it c:.

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I'm missing city-based lesbian fluff again: Imagining being a masc who works in the city who spoils my fem. Moving into our high-rise apartment. Spoiling her with gifts every week. Taking her to the best food spots across the city. Wrapping my arms around her when we're on the balcony.

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It's me and my legion of tumblr asexual fems against the world!

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i didn't have "i'm broken" teenage asexual angst i had "i'm literally being the only reasonable one about this concept and the rest of you are behaving like fucking freaks" perception issues

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Asexual femme who wears a bikini thinking 'wait is this too much?' x 'wow she's hot' asexual femme

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moths i made for my website!

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Asexual lesbians who love to call women hot >>>>>>>

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The aspec community's hell bent stance on saying romance and friendship are the same just feels like another form of puritanism to me but with a restriction and aversion towards intimacy instead of sex itself. I think a lot of aspecs on here are averse to the idea of physical desire bc they think it will lead to sex or they can't divorce physical desire from sex yet. I think it's easier for them to equate romance as friendship, just hanging out and doing fun stuff so they don't have to acknowledge the physical actions and desires for said physical actions that come with it. This explains the constant equations of friendship with purity too. The idea that a relationship with no physical touching, like kissing or hand holding, or when touching is present like hugging but will not lead to any sensual or erotic moments is 'clean' and 'pure' compared to romance. The idea that friendship is morally pure because of this lack of sensuality and won't lead to abuse, toxicity or 'drama', even though friendship abuse exists and so does abuse in QPRs.

I think it's also why they put so much emphasis on platonic kissing, platonic sex, platonic touching etc. whilst shunning the romantic versions of all these things, even though it's the same action, because platonic intimacy doesn't require being physically attracted to someone in a way, romantically, sensually or erotically. When we're not around the aspecs who are deeply against kissing, touching and caressing because they equate it with sex, I could say I wanted to kiss or even fuck a woman and that would be okay. But to class it as romance puts certain aromantics on edge, because that puts attraction on my action. I could kiss or fuck someone without being attracted to them and some aspecs would get it, but to say I romantically desired the person I did it with becomes a no for them.

And that's why when alloaces (who are attracted to the same or similar genders) talk about our romantic attraction, they feel the need to equate it with QPRs or close friendships. They are okay with acknowledging we want people to hang out with and chat to like a regular-degular same gender friendship, but they are uncomfortable with the idea that we *want* people who are the same gender as us. We want their bodies. Just not sexually.

It's even more frustrating from a lesbian POV, because I have no attraction to men. I can deeply care about a man, but that is not romance. I've always been disgusted when my friendships with men were considered romantic for this reason. I can platonically love a man, but I'll never be in love with him romantically. The friendship I have with men is not the same as the romantic desire I have for women. Romance and friendship can never be the same for me and other ace lesbians for that reason.

The aspec community can divorce sex and romance, but can't divorce romance and friendship. It's ridiculous. It's replaced the concept of 'everything in life is about sex' and 'everything is romantic' to 'everything is platonic and about friendship'. This is not relationship anarchy, it's just relationship replacement i fear.

Also... what about aplatonics? I thought you lot gave a fuck about them? What's an alloace aplatonic person supposed to get out of u lot saying romance is friendship? What are aplatonics supposed to get out of being told their romantic attraction is actually platonic? That their romantic relationships are just extended friendships? What do alloaces get out of being told our desires aren't real?

What is the erasure, dismissal and dislike of romantic desires if not puritanism?

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I love being a mean ace lesbian who hates lesbophobia and compulsory sexuality who defends acebians all day <3

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Happy birthday to me! My gf made a reservation for us at a cat cafe and she gave me my presents exactly at midnight. Also I just got two bonbon boxes from my future in-laws??? I'm crying I'm serious

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Going to gf's for a week. Gods' know I need this

Also hihi ✨wife✨ (not yet)

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I went to auditions for a new project by a VERY experienced duo in the music industry. I'm talking about whole wiki pages and lots of articles/interviews experienced.

I met with the woman and a short meeting turned into a 3,5 h singing session. She said so many nice things about my voice and wants to rework her songs to fit my range better. Like she wasn't sweet for the sake of it, she was quite professional (duh), but still made me feel so validated...

So I will be meeting with her again to think about this more and maybe record my lines if everything goes well

My friends and girlfriend are so excited for me. My love said she is so proud of me especially since the impressed person is that big of a fish.

Well my father only asked about the money aspect and said it's all useless if I don't get any.

This is my chance to work with someone who means business and wants to make the most popular girl trio in Poland. My chance to start a career. And even if it doesn't work out, that's still an achievement, to make someone like her fall in love with my voice.

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not to be weird or anything but we could be kissing and dancing together to slow music in my dimly lit kitchen at 1:00am if you even care

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Yes homo AND yes romo :)