#ace sapphic

[leikeliscomet]

I've grown tired of posts that 'affirm' queer sexuality that throw asexual queer people under the bus. I'm tired of puritan sanitisation being blamed on the boring sexless frigid queers and not the long history and system of sexual puritanism which, spoiler alert, never supported sexless queer people ace or not regardless. I'm tired of 'progressive' compulsory sexuality being promoted and supported with a 'oh yeah some people are ace' slapped in at the end. I'm tired of every single post about how the sexless uwu pink sapphics and flowercrown gay boys or whatever scapegoat we're picking today is causing the downfall of the community and representation and not y'know, actual lesbophobia, homophobia etc. I'm tired of everyone assuming to be an asexual and/or sexless queer person means being white, feminine, delicate and soft because they can't imagine Blackness and masculinity as something compatible with being ace and/or sexless. I'm tired of asexual and/or sexless queerness being acknowledged as long we accept we're a niche minority and different from 'normal' and 'real' queerness. I'm tired of every recognition of asexual queerness being adlibbed with 'this is valid but remember most queer people are NOT like this' 'you're valid but remember the real queers fuck and we're not boring like these lot!' because the idea of a lesbian, gay, bi, pan or trans asexual is that uncomfortable and 'bad representation' for people to comprehend apparently. I'm tired of asexual and sexless being used as insults to attack other queer people and characters who 'fail' to live up to their queerness. I'm tired of queerness being that needs to be lived up to in the first place and not just something you are. I'm very tired of every post that's supposed to affirm my identity always degrading the other. I'm tired of being an other in a group of others.

EDIT: Obviously any aspec can and will relate to this post but I'm specifically talking about the erasure of lesbian asexuality and gay asexuality in general and how despite there being a rightful push for destigmatising gay desire, gay ace desire isn't seen as real or it's seen as lesser. This isn't an aroace post it's an ace lesbian one please don't remove that.

[girlflux-sapphic]

To all of my fellow asexual lesbians:

I adore you

You will find a girl that is right just for you, trust me

Don't do anything that makes you uncomfortable, there is a better match for you out there

You can present in any way you want, you don't have to be a cute cottagecore girly (that doesn't mean being so is bad, I match that stereotype partly myself). Butches, nonbinary folks, we can all be asexual lesbians in our own way

Happy pride month

Spend this month in a good way. Celebrate yourselves, because all of you are beautiful and valid

-your local bambi lesbian

[ace-lesbian-culture-is]

Destigmatising lesbian desire applies to ace lesbians too. Our desire isn't 'redeemed' by puritans just because we're asexual. We're still seen as predatory lesbians bc lesbophobes don't care about distinguishing whether or not we're ace before being bigots.

It's not gross or disgusting to want women romantically. It's okay to kiss women and express that you want to kiss women. It's okay to hold hands with them. It's okay to touch them. It's okay to read lesbian smut and erotica even if you have 0 plans to do it irl. It's okay say you want a partner. It's also not wrong to desire women aesthetically. It's okay to express that you like how women's bodies look. It's okay to say you like their features and that you want to touch them and look at them. It's okay to say women are hot even if you have no sexual context behind it.

You're not ruining or corrupting ace characters when you headcanon them as being ace and lesbian. You're not 'perverting' the aspec community for simply having romantic attraction. And lastly, you're absolutely not 'corrupting' your own asexuality for being a lesbian. Generations of lesbian activists fought for our right to express ourselves. Even if it's just holding hands please don't be afraid to take up space. It's ours too, remember that.

[everyone-is-emptyy]

[nona-gay-simus]

For all my TLT girlies (gender-neutral), please read Tamsyn Muir's standalone fantasy novella Princess Floralinda and the Forty-Flight Tower.

There is:

Subversion of classic fairytale tropes

A princess protagonist who starts out just like all the other girls and slowly morphs into a murderous bimbo

A secondary MC who is very Harrow-coded

And a non-binary icon to boost!

Graphic death and violence

General gross stuff

TazMuir's trademark sense of humour

[geospark]

I SAY LOVE YOU SAY WOMEN

LOVE

WOMEN

[vesperosy]

we wish you a merry lanamia and a happy new yuri

[spectatorglitch]

I don’t wear pride merch to tell you whose in my bed…

I WEAR IT TO TELL YOU WHO ISN'T! I’M ASEXUAL THAT MEANS NOBODY! (Except… UR MOM)

[anarcho-catboyism]

A lot of discourse could stop if y'all stopped approaching every situation with this idea that your experience is the default one

[evil-jennifer-hamilton-wb]

wow, miorine is literally me fr

We stan our ace lesbian queen.

[girlflux-sapphic]

Don't you love it when you two are into academics, info dump to each other constantly, have mentally stimulating, deep conversations

And you also are just two cute femmes, who like to dress up and dance in the woods after writing poetry and playing songs together 💕

[anonymous-leemur]

The booping paws are queer now

[blue-dragon-has-a-pen]

Birds of a feather!

(Pride 2019) | (Pride 2020) | (Pride 2021) | (Pride 2022) | Pride 2023

Wow, can't believe I've been doing this for five years! Thanks again for the support! I'm thrilled to finally get feedback from you guys on polls. 🌈

Anyway, you can make requests for different flags for 2023 designs. I'll do them if I'm available!

Links: [Gay] / [Lesbian] / [Ace] / [Aro] / [Bi] / [Pan] / [Trans] / [NB]

It's almost tradition that I write something here every year, but wow good lord, this year is really trying isn't it? Even Rainbow Capitalism™ is under fire and giving in to transphobia and homophobia. It's rough out there man... It's most important that we don't divide and fight among ourselves at these times. We are stronger together as a flock.

I'll see all of you next year, hang in there! Also sorry I'm late again...

[geospark]

Leaning on and resting your head on someone's shoulder after something stressful or strenuous; is so underrated, it's shows that you can be physically vulnerable with them. Just completely relaxing into them, Arms limp at their sides, sighing heavily as you let the anxiety and emotions sink away.

Please Sappho, let this be me and my s/o when I meet her/them.

[snitforsnat]

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