#ace lesbian

[starsthewitch]

“you can’t be asexual.. relationships like that are basically friendships, you need to have sex in one”

a REAL quote from my mother

it was said after i explained asexuality and just as i was about to tell her that i was ace myself, she said this

and somehow, shes okay with me being a lesbian, but somehow draws the line at me being an asexual one

literally how do i tell her a relationship can still be romantic just without all the sexual aspects

like YES i want to kiss a girl a lot so very very bad and we cuddle on the couch watching our favorite movies

YES i want to be cooking with my future girlfriend and she comes up to me hugging me from the back and kissing me

relationships without sex just sounds so peaceful? like no pressure to one day have sex with that person or to not expect anything like it

allosexual people just dont get it and it sucks

[bumblingbee1]

Shout out to the lesbians who thought they were strictly aroace before realizing they’re lesbians!

(This inclides asexual lesbians, aromantic lesbians and aroace lesbians.)

[starless-gaze]

i want to go stargazing with a girl and say something along the lines of "the stars are so beautiful" and them saying "yeah, they are" in a soft voice and i turn and they're looking directly at me and they have a small smile on their face and then we kiss

[aardvaark]

we need a bunch more lesbian / aroace girls solidarity. gotta love that childhood experience of feeling like there’s something wrong, immature, and cold about you because all your friends have crushes on boys and talk about which famous guys are hot and you’re just… not built the same, and you don’t know why. in fact i think we probably share a lot of experiences and it should be talked about more. i love all my aroace peers in our community!!

[sanyu-thewitch05]

The ace, lesbian, aromantic lesbian, and ace lesbian girlies gathering around to discuss our weekly topic of swords,cake, and how we don’t like men:

@thisismisogynoir cus you’re my lesbian bestie!

[gray-ace-space]

happy lesbian visibility week to acespec lesbians!

💜 to gray asexual lesbians

❤ to demisexual lesbians

🧡 to aceflux lesbians (and all lesbians whose sexuality is fluid)

🩷 to trans, nonbinary, and multigender acespec lesbians (transfem, transmasc, and those who are neither!)

💜 to bi, pan, and all mspec acespec lesbians

❤ and specifically mspec lesbians who are acespec in different ways/to different degrees for different genders

🧡 to intersex acespec lesbians

🩷 to acespec lesbians of color

💖 to disabled and neurodivergent acespec lesbians, and especially those of you who are autistic - happy autism acceptance month! ❤🧡💖🩷💜

💜 to acespec femmes and butches and gnc lesbians

❤ to acespec lesbians whose sexuality is influenced by trauma

🧡 to sex repulsed acespec lesbians, sex favorable acespec lesbians, and everyone in between

🩷 to lesbians who feel alienated from lesbian communities due to their asexuality

💜 and to acespec lesbians still figuring themselves out!

i see you. you are appreciated.💖

[pepper-butler]

someone kiss me on the lips for couple seconds i'm begging you i'm desperate

[thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra]

”dni bi lesbians/bi gays!!!”

me (bi straight) and the besties (ace/aro lesbians and gays, non-bi mspec lesbians and gays, other mspec straights, mspec mspecs, mono monos, etc) on our way to interact (they never said we couldn’t):

[violottie]

to celebrate lesbian visibility week, all lesbians have legal immunity and thus are allowed to, and encouraged to, freely kill every man and lesbophobe who dares open their steaming gob to spew lesbophobic bullshit inside and outside the wider community, and especially around our own.

stay safe, protect each other, and have fun out there ❤️🧡🤍🩷💖

[moradollie]

The racist origins of nonman and nonwoman

Image text: Gordon, Lewis R.. Bad Faith and Antiblack Racism. Humanities Press, 1995. ISBN 9781573925150.

"Our descriptions of sexuality in an antiblack world pose a gender problem. From the standpoint of an antiblack world, black men are nonmen-nonwomen, and black women are nonwomen-nonmen. This conclusion is based on our premise of whites-white men and white women-being both human, being both Presence, and our premise of blacks, both black men and women, being situated in the condition of the 'whole, being both Absence."

[pride-flag-planets]

Lesbian + Oriented Aroace

[v-tired-queer]

Happy Lesbian Visibility Week to:

❤️ Trans and enby lesbians of all kinds and their fellow lesbian allies

🧡 Lesbians who have a complicated relationship with gender and self expression

🤍 Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Pagan, Wiccan, Hindu, Buddhist and every other religious and or/spiritual lesbian out there

🩷 Lesbians who are people of color

💖 Neurodivergent lesbians

❤️ Disabled and mentally ill lesbians

🧡 Femme lesbians, butch lesbians, androgynous lesbians, and everyone in between or who don't use those labels at all

🤍 Lesbians reclaiming words that were once used to hurt us

🩷 Lesbians who have always know they were gay all of their lives and lesbians who have discovered it later

💖 Lesbians who are still in the closet, lesbians who have just come out, or lesbians who have been out for years

❤️ Leabians who are on the asexual and/or aromantic spectrums

To every single lesbian out there, happy Lesbian Visibility Week! We're pretty freaking awesome, if I do say so myself 😘❤️🧡🤍🩷💖

[urpurplehairedsage]

🌙 bambi lesbians 🤝 aphrodite lesbians 🌙

having cute terms to describe their

experience as an aspec lesbian 🔮

[tooaceforthisspace]

[starsthewitch]

facts about asexuality since some people still see it as a black and white thing

ASEXUALITY IS A SPECTRUM not every ace person will have the same views on sex and sexual media

ace people can still masterbate and get horny, some of us don’t want to be involved in the act of sex but are just okay with preforming self pleasure

asexual people can still have sex, like i said it’s a spectrum. Demisexual people are only comfortable having sex with someone they have both a platonic and romantic relationship with and Fraysexual only have sexual attraction to those they don’t know very well

komodo dragons, sharks, starfish, and snails are known for reproducing asexually

not every asexual person is aromantic and not every aromantic person is asexual

asexual people can still experience romantic attraction, for some reason, aromantics and asexuals are often seen as the same when they’re not

asexuality is not a new term, we’ve always been here. it was first recognized in the late nineteenth century, but that doesn’t mean it never existed before that time

NOT EVERY ACE PERSON HAS SEXUAL TRAUMA. this is a big one. some of us just don’t like sex or the idea of sex and that’s okay :)

hope this was somewhat educational to some allosexual people who are still confused about us and i hope you enjoyed these facts!

feel free to reblog and add to these if you wish ^^

[leikeliscomet]

The reason I feel disconnected from the term alloace and its tag is bc it's just not specific enough and bc of that a lot of commentary on alloaces falls flat to me. The specific gender(s) you have romantic attraction for greatly determine what type of experience you will have. There are so many straight ace experiences I can't relate to. Can you safely express romantic attraction in public? Are depictions of your romantic attraction banned in books and TV/film? Then there's race too. When your race is sexualised and your asexuality is denied, how can you then express romantic attraction freely? When your race is simultaneously desexualised, are you even allowed conventional romance to begin with? When you are seen as a sexual being against your will how can you decentre sexual attraction when no one has ever believed you?

Aroallo on the other hand is used to describe the collective experience of aromanticism without asexuality so there's a consistent community for that that's grown but go to alloace and its less active and a series of random posts, not really 'collective community' stuff. Most alloace content isn't called alloace like aroallo content is called aroallo, but just asexual. There's many ace posts that would fit the label but aren't under the tag. Not sure why but I don't think it's that deep. A lot alloace posts aren't even about alloaces specifically, they're posts about arospec experiences either comparing alloaces implying there's a type of privilege or actively blaming us for arospec erasure. The erasure is real and their anger is justified but again it's assumed under the banner of alloace that having romantic attraction automatically guarantees a certain experience when it doesn't, historically or systemically. The most visible alloaces are predominantly white and cishet. The 'allo asexuality' they have is one a lot of alloaces are actively denied and so we actually have more in common with arospecs bc we both have relationship models and exploration of romance that goes against what is societally expected of us. I relate to Black arospecs bc we share the history of how Black people are sexualised and desexualised. I relate to lesbian arospecs bc our attraction to women is unconventional, experiencing 'half' and not the other.

I'm then left scratching my head being asked to use the privilege I don't have and use the visibility I don't get. Does the aspec community ask aspecs to stand with gay, bi, pan and lesbian aces? Do they make posts on how biphobia and acephobia overlap to protect bi aces? Do they ask aspecs to learn the history of how gay romantic lit was censored? Do they ask aspecs to support alloace victims/survivors with the sexual violence they experience from non-ace partners? Do they ask aspecs to unpack compulsory sexuality? Do they do the community support they wish to see themselves?

So yeah, I'm frustrated. With other parts if my identity and if I don't see certain posts about it I'd be like 'well stop complaining and be the one to say something then'. I could do up 'allo aces are valid' content but again, who would I be referring to? Would anyone care? Is it even possible to make a catchall post that fits the whole experience? It's looking like no. Again I need this community to start to looking outside the scope of their own personal aspec experience cus community is in the name but it doesn't feel like it.