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The Loneliness Epidemic

It feels harder and harder to not only make friends these days, but to also nurture the friendships we have now. Either our friends aren’t reciprocating our efforts or our own cups are so empty we can’t pour into others’. What can we do? How can we make friends and keep them? First let’s remember that friendships are like any other relationship, they take work. We also need to get a bit out of our heads and realize that while we are the center of our own lives we aren’t the center of everybody else’s lives. By that i mean sometimes we have to do the approaching and initiate the check-ins. I also mean that we should extend grace to our friends like we do for ourselves, our friends aren’t perfect they might give you “Icks” and there might be rough patches along the way but as long as the valuable elements of the friendship remain we should fight for our besties. Now make no mistake, you’re a good friend not a pushover and should not take blatant disrespect. There is such a thing as alone-sided relationship and they can be very lonely.

Now how do we make friends? Honestly i wish i knew the right answer because sadly I don’t have much friends either. But that’s why I’m here, to find or build a community. We all need a village and right now the only answer i have to find one is search in your favorite places, you’ll likely find someone with similar interests. The internet is the best example. Make your presence known in those spaces and show your authentic self to attract more authenticity. The journey is hard but in the meantime, I’m your friend. You may not know me and I don’t know you dear reader, but i believe everyone needs to friend (i know i do). And a village always starts with 1.

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Happy Valentines Day

Today is the day of love! I like to think it’s a day deeper than romantic love. There’s platonic love, and more importantly self love. So there’s always a way for us to participate!Sometimes we struggle with one or all three and you’re not alone. Your gal Jaimy is here to help with any anxieties that comes with this day. If a fellow girlie needs advice I’m available. You are worthy, and deserve more than you know because you are a light. I want you to remember that today and tomorrow and forever girly.

P.S. I also have some fun little ideas for date night, galentines or a solo night :) we can make a thread

Love you <3

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What does it mean to be a girl?

There isn’t just one correct way to be a “girl.” We are the ones that define girlhood, and being a girl is a very personal experience. And although we live very individual lives we do share common struggles that we can relate to and can come together to share our similar experiences. One thing I can say that all girls/women live through is being put in a box. We are constantly told what we are and who we’re not. Is it possible to build a community of girls/women that can break away from the stereotypes that label us and force us into boxes with limited space? I think so. I want the girl/women reading this to know that she isn’t alone in her struggle to becoming the type of woman she is worth of being. That her way of expressing her feminine and masculine side of herself is valid. And that being a girl means being yourself