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The fine balance between portion control and maintaining a great fat arse.

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Got a good grade at the dentist today despite eating so much cake and sweets over the weekend. Also does anyone else count their teeth?

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i really do believe that the answer to a lot of people's self hatred is not to try and reassure them that they are wonderful and okay and enough, but instead to remind them theyre a completely unremarkable regular ass person who is not the center of the universe or especially important so why would they expect themselves to be some superhuman savior. like there really is a kernel of out of control self importance at the heart of thinking youre an evil lazy piece of shit. because why would you expect you be anything but just like some guy. if you wouldnt expect the guy who works at the vape shop or your mailman or whatever to be able to do something then why would you expect yourself to? youre just some random ass person. its fine

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forever grateful i was simply too lazy to let the makeup industrial complex get its hooks in me. I was just like im not doing all of that. in fact. im doing none of that

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🧶 Cow hitch increase

Unlike all other single-stitch increases I know, this one is perfectly symmetrical. I’ve been seeing it a lot in my feed lately, so I thought I’d share it. Haven’t tried it yet in a project though.

It mimics the structure of a cow hitch knot - hence the name.

🎥 🧶 👀✨

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✅ C's birthday. We saw loads of animals and I got him this mac n cheese candle lol 🍝🧀

I really have to start romanticising my life. So Summer List is returning.

Summer List 2025 Edition

✅ June beach trip

Hockey tournament 1

July beach trip

Hockey tournament 2

Awards nights x2

✅ Boards games with friends

✅ Get ice cream

Museum exhibit

My birthday

Friend's birthday

✅ C's birthday

Quiz with brother

Cricket

✅ Do so many puzzles

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Never understood the phrase "fits like a glove" because I've never had a glove that fits well? I have such wildly differently sized fingers that standard glove design mean the little fingers are way too long or the middle finger is way too short.

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movies will have you believing that it's possible to work a sock flat with two regular ass needles. no stitching, no seaming, no heel-rounding, just knit/purl on two straight needles.

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every single fucking thing on earth exists solely to put a dent in your newly applied nail polish

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I am forever grateful to an archivist mentor I worked with in grad school for some resume advice she gave me and thought maybe others would also benefit from it.

Keep a Master Resume.

This is not the resume you send out. This is a detailed resume of every job (with dates and location, supervisor and location phone number are a bonus) and as many skills/duties/accomplishments you can possibly think of for each and every one of the jobs and education programs you can think of.

She showed me hers, it was about 25 pages long, and formatted exactly like a regular resume for ease. Every time she would learn a new program/skill, she'd add it. Change in title or duties, add it. Complete something big/special/complicated/new to her/professionally significant, she would add it. This way when she went up for a promotion or raise, she had a detailed record of highlights to pick from to show she deserved it. There was no "when was that? Did I submit that last round of reviews?"

Applying to a new job? Pick and choose items from your Master Resume to plug in to the resume or CV you will be sending based on the job posting. You don't need to rewrite it, just cut and paste relevant details.

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Round 5: The Quarterquarterfinals

(Poll 8 of 8)

@dailypokemoncrochet

“theyre actually a wizard how do they make them so good”

@shittysawtraps

“Funny even if you’ve never seen a saw movie”

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I like to weave in as many ends as possible as I go.

This is how I do it when I join a new colour.

‼️ For a better result: Fray or break the yarn to taper the end.

Works both for knitting* and crochet.

*Does not work so well if you are knitting in the round or in intarsia or colourwork, as it will distort that first stitch. Saves you loads of time though, if you are knitting a striped scarf or shawl.

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If you haven’t changed your url in years tell me why as someone in your same boat it’s for science

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Started using phone time to read library ebooks instead of scrolling and it’s made me back into the crazy voracious reader I was at age 12. i’ve been averaging a book a day this week. everyone delete your social media and get your ass on libby

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Ice cream for lunch today. Found this cute little place near the water 🍦😋

I really have to start romanticising my life. So Summer List is returning.

Summer List 2025 Edition

June beach trip

Hockey tournament 1

July beach trip

Get ice cream

Hockey tournament 2

Awards nights x2

Boards games with friends

Museum exhibit

My birthday

Friend's birthday

Quiz with brother

Cricket

Do so many puzzles

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Workbooks to improve executive functioning

Since the post I made last night about improving executive functioning was so popular, I figured I should pull these out of my comments and give them their own post, in case it's helpful for people.

I have worked with the publishers of all of the books linked below and can vouch for their psychology books. The publisher of most of them, New Harbinger, is an extremely credible evidence-based psychology publisher.

Obvious disclaimer that everyone's brain is different and what works for someone else may not work for you.

Is there evidence that executive functioning can be improved? Yes. This book appears to be a very thorough overview of the field, and contains both advocates and detractors of cognitive training, for a balanced perspective. From the table of contents, I would really recommend jumping straight to Part 3: Developmental Perspectives for executive functioning (EF) writ large.

Certain therapy modalities are specifically designed for skill-building in areas like impulsivity, decision-making, emotional regulation, and cognitive flexibility, all of which are EF skills or very dependent on EF skills. Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is probably the best field to look at for these - skill-building in those areas is its core goal.

Some DBT workbooks:

The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotion Regulation, and Distress Tolerance

The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook for Teens

There are also a lot of workbooks for ADHD that are sometimes more broad but also can help with executive functioning:

The Adult ADHD and Anxiety Workbook: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Skills to Manage Stress, Find Focus, and Reclaim Your Life

The CBT Workbook for Adult ADHD: Evidence-Based Exercises to Improve Your Focus, Productivity, and Wellbeing

The Neurodivergence Skills Workbook for Autism and ADHD

General executive functioning workbooks:

The Executive Functioning Workbook for Teens

Executive Functioning Workbook for Adults: Exercises to Help You Get Organized, Stay Focused, and Achieve Your Goals

Hope these are helpful to someone!!