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Happy Birthday to meeeeeeeeeee! Love me some them! https://www.instagram.com/p/BrVD1zahc4U/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=eaz9sdn4lrxk

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Marching with my neicey.

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Ok, tonight I wanted to try and cook something new. I fried a few whole Pompano. I believe I put my foot in it, AGAIN!

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Sheet pan dinner! I put my foot in this.

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Chicken and green lentils soup. #chickenbrothwillsaveus #Hedyispatientzero (at Norfolk, Virginia)

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Visual representation of my current self realization. Cane + light saber = Eventual badassery but in MY timeline, not the world's.

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How we do snow days! #starwars #millenniumfalcon

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Happy Star Wars Hanukkah!

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Thanksgiving or Christmas dinner?

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Adding it to my list of possibles for the beans!

AFAR is a gorgeously illustrated graphic novel, set in a North African-flavored fantasy world, about a girl who discovers she has the ability to dream herself across the stars into different bodies and worlds.

Check out our review here.

– Petra

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New New New

I feel like I am at a crossroads agaaaiinnnnn. So many things that I want to accomplish and so much distracting noise all around me. I want to be productive but I must be intentional in my efforts. Now that the hard month, politically and emotionally, is over and the BLACKEST month of the year has begun, it is time to start formulating plans and making deals with my future self.

The girls need more glimpses of their heritage, ways to embrace the lovelies in their present and ideas for the possibilities in their future.

I need more comfortable ways and places to breath in the beauty of my surroundings and experience what truly giving back actually means.

If we are friends I will be seeing you this year more than ever before so GET READY. If we are yet to be friends, I look forward to meeting you and I know we will get on well.

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Never Assume

If you are ever in a meeting with me never assume my silence is a display of timidity. I typically speak when I have something to add to a conversation. To blather on in a meeting with no other purpose than to be seen or heard is one of the most loathsome displays of narcissism that I can think of. Time is precious to me. When I speak it is purposeful.

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Not Strong Right Now

I am typically strong in these instances but for those of you who voted for Trump your choice is clear. YOU don’t care what happens to my MIXED BABY GIRLS at the end of the day. YOU have rationalized the detriment to their existence away in an effort to address your own personal issues or to tow some faltering party line.

I fear for them now more than ever. There is strength is standing tall but at what point do I cut and run from the country that so clearly despises me and them? Where do I go when all I LOVE is here?

What do I say to them?

What do I say, when all I want to do is cradle their small bodies and protect them so fiercely that NO ONE dares to harm them.

I am deeply wounded in this moment.

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I'm on a Podcast! Brazen BFF

I have to say that this is somewhat of a dream come true for me, considering the amount of podcasts I consume on a weekly basis! Thanks to my entrepreneurial friend Jenifer Alonzo for inviting me to be on. It was a lovely experience and a delight to tell my lively work history story! http://stitcher.com/s?eid=45672581&autoplay=1

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From the Road

I am on a business trip and all I wanna do is cry. Every note, image, and/or thoughtful screed that have been made available to my senses in the last week or so have almost spun me out into a bout of weepyness. Not a silent sadness or controlled composed bout but a tamp it down for no one else to see weepy. Weepy is not me, I am stoic and unwavering, indifferent and damn near poised at all times. What is causing this need to release a seemingly abject despair? The current state of hate in this world possibly, the blinding glow of my girls sun kissed skin on their unstoppable lengthening limbs definitely, or maybe just the forgotten birth control pill from last Thursday, but either way it is there lingering. So don't ask me about whist full tales of my youth or what I ate yesterday because it is bound to come out in unending streams of emotion and there is nothing you can do but bare witness and wonder aloud as to what is going on. No worries, this too shall pass.

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Design, Inspiration, and Sleepy Eyes

How to achieve something, anything creative with kids

Since I have had the girls, there have been two main goals in my life. Goal #1: Make sufficient money to give children the same if not more opportunities that were afforded to me as a child. Goal #2: Do this whilst pursuing a career that I actually love. This will make me a happier person hence therefore reflecting this happiness onto my children and the others around me. Happiness for EVERYONE! I must say that I have spent most of my business career prior to the girls simply existing in a work environment with no real opportunity for future enhancement or encouragement to better my skills. This was all tacitly accepted by me due to my other noble and dogged pursuit of the ever elusive successful music career. There have been MANY opportunities in the pursuit of music as a career that have come along but in the end there was no concrete event that solidified the status of "I'VE MADE IT!" at least not enough to support twins. So after the girls were about 1yr old and I felt that I had a good handle on the mommy-hood thang it was time for a seriously drastic change in my professional life. So I struck out into full-blown web design and I have essentially not looked back. There have been some trade-offs in this new endeavor and overall it has taught me more self-reliance that even birthing kids could have taught me. With that being said here are a few rules that I am trying to live by in order to make this new job reality of creativity and kids work better for me. I am sure these are no-brainers, but no matter, sharing is caring soooo here you go, because I care: 1. Just Sleep - sometimes you want to get that extra creative thing done and you know you can do it if the kids would just go to bed and you finish those last few dishes and fold that one load of clothes. Then at the end of it all you are so exhausted that you just want to go to sleep. If this is the case then my advice to you is to JUST SLEEP. Whatever you are trying to do creatively will still be there tomorrow and I guarantee it will turn out better when your mind is fresh and ready to complete or achieve it. 2. Write it Down – This should of probably come before the Just Sleep rule but, no matter. I am a big proponent of writing things down. Ideas, feelings, words to your next big hit single. Write it down, hum it in your phone, put a post-it on your nightstand, this ensures that some action will be taken since the initiation toward your creative goal has already begun. 3. Let it Go – This is the most important rule of all! I have a habit of believing 90% of what I create whether it be, web design, music and cute unfinished crochet projects (you know my lifelong passions) are probably not worth the effort. Doubt creeps into every crevice of my process and sometimes takes hold so tight I barely want to shed the light of day onto these creations for anyone to else see. Repeatedly I have to tell myself to "Let It Go!" because when I do, I gain so much more insight to my piece, to my process, to it all. So “Let It Go!��� and watch your creative motivation flourish into the things that you have worked so diligently to create! There you go! I hope they push you towards something new, rewarding, and creative sometime soon!