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I hope everyone helps even a little, thank you everyone for your humanity

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I remember being about 13 in an online webcam chat with a man who must of been in his late 40s.

It was the usual situation.

I was naked and he was saying all these things to me which again I had been doing this for years with different men but what keeps making this particular night stay in my head no matter what is that his two sons came down the stairs saying "Dad! Dad look what we did at school"

This man minimized the screen, he didn't end the chat. He didn't exit the window. He said to them that he was doing work stuff and would be up in a minute. The kids sounded disappointed and then went up stairs. The man then said "where were we?"

I disconnected.

People will go on and on about not all men but I always think back to my time in these places. That man was a father. To kids my age.

How many of the other men I chatted with were fathers? Husbands?

I know at least a couple men who were receiving explicit photos from a 15 year old me while at work, while at family gatherings or meetings.

Sometimes I just have to laugh when people fight so hard for men because their jakey is special and would never.

I have so many stories about these kind of men and I want to document them. As evidence? As catharsis? So other women will know that they aren't alone. I don't know. How should I tag them? Should I be giving a trigger warning? If anyone reads this I'd like to hear what you think.

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You're the epitome of a bitter lesbian LMAO. Let me guess, male figure in your life hurt you and now anything male adjacent makes you repulsed? Trauma reeks out of your posts and trying to make heterosexual women detach from men because of YOUR personal issues is so funny. It really does read as a 16 year old girl who never truly grew out of that black-white mentality. Seeing a whole rant about how PIV sex is "evil actually" and "needs lube" when sufficient foreplay and a gentle hand is all that's needed as the fluids that come out with arousal is PLENTY. You disconnect the inherent emotional weight sex comes with.

There's a reason why women and men who get raped have a stronger psychological reaction than if they were beat. Sex comes with a million barriers that directly wire to your brain that drastically alters when it's taken without consent. You can easily delve into research that doesn't abide by your inherent biases by saying "it hurts!" When it easily can NOT hurt. Or adjust with, again, the gentle hands of a partner.

Let me guess, you advocate for women and men to whore themselves out with no clear direction? Having meaningless one night stands that leave them devoid and hungry for more, an ACTUAL relationship? Humans are social creatures. Much of the real pleasure is found in that connection, and sex is like a physical manifestation of a love between two; callously removing that makes you no better than a wild hedonistic dog with no grasp of conscience. Mindless pleasure that just brings a brief, superficial boost in dopamine that subsides in an instant when you're just using "a self warming toy" 💀

(Also, telling women not to have PIV sex while suggesting toys that serve to directly mimic PIV sex is genuinely so fucking stupid and defeats the entire purpose??? were you ACTUALLY thinking a thought or was past trauma that you can't glam up for Tumblr hitting your face again sweaty?)

Statistically, 75% Woman experience pain in PIV:

And I am not at all triggered. Foreplay and natural bodily fluids still won't help with the fact that PIV will start to hurt right after the threshold of 5 minutes in and you will need additional lube to take care of that or else you will end in serious Vaginal wall injury.

If you penetrate with mere bodily fluid it will start to hurt while inserting as you will be able to feel the rough skin texture and inside of Vaginal wall is sensitive and can cause irritation. Depending on your hymen size it will hurt from a little bit to downright bleeding and excruciating kind of pain. If you have a naturally big opening at birth it might slip easily or else you will have to do manual exercise for at least a couple months before actually pursuing it.

Also, You are the one writing coke rant on my month old Tumblr Post where I am showing people the reality of PIV Sex. If anyone is showing signs of clear trauma it's frankly you. And I am not traumatized by any man. I never fucked them. I am a Lesbian. I just know about how sex actually works and the people I fuck manage to get me off without making my vagina Bleed out in a insufferable level of pain in order to jerk their pee pee inside my hole and treat me as a broodmare rag doll.

Maybe you are a trad wife straight woman with insurmountable and parasitic level of attachment to the phallaus even though you never knew how it feels to have your mind going high at the moment of your 20th orgasm and that makes you bitter at lesbians who simply tell you to grow a spine and try alternatives like rose toys and vibrators. In that case you should get over your personal past trauma of being called a cock sucker whore for being such a ardent defender of PIV by some random terf tumblr account so that you can make peace with the fact that majority of woman and their body isn't accommodated enough to deal with PIV sex and there are plenty of sexual activities that are objectively much more erotically and physically pleasurable than PIV, and much more safer, healthier, better, and things that actually make you come, if you are a Female.

Either this or the last portion of your writing sort of gives off this weird impression that you are a straight man. So in case you are a straight man, umm..... your ex gf or gf or wife or whatever woman that bothered sleeping with you- lied about loving it and having a orgasm. She probably just wanted to be nice. You probably saw her releasing body fluids and then basically thought that is the marker of orgasm. When that's not even how orgasm works. The physical marker of orgasm is something only the woman who experienced it can tell. Majority of straight woman don't even know how a orgasm is supposed to feel because they never experienced it in the first place. You seriously think you made her climax? Really? LOL.

And about that sex toys comment,,,,,, I think you should know how sex toys actually look like. Since you are illiterate and that's probably because you are a man , here are a couple pictures of female accommodated sex toys. They range from vibrators to rose toys to Vagina Shaped Flesh Light for the purpose of Vaginal Scissoring and sensation of oral sex.

Anyways, It was a very sudden message. Putting radtwt tags on my post so that Our Radfem Ladies, Lesbian Girls, Femmes, Dykes and Knight in Armor and Prince Charming Butches can read it and have a good laugh out of it.

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Women and girls are oppressed on the axis of sex:

Economic

 Around 2.4 billion women of working age are not afforded equal economic opportunity and 178 countries maintain legal barriers that prevent their full economic participation, according to the World Bank’s Women, Business and the Law 2022 report. In 86 countries, women face some form of job restriction and 95 countries do not guarantee equal pay for equal work.

Globally, women still have only three quarters of the legal rights afforded to men -- an aggregate score of 76.5 out of a possible 100, which denotes complete legal parity.

Gender inequality is a major cause and effect of hunger and poverty: it is estimated that 60 percent of chronically hungry people are women and girls. (Source: WFP Gender Policy and Strategy.)

Less than 20 percent of the world's landholders are women. Women represent fewer than 5 percent of all agricultural landholders in North Africa and West Asia, while in sub-Saharan Africa they make up an average of 15 percent.

In the United States, the labor force participation rate among females is 56.5% and among males is 67.5% for 2022

Vulnerable employment among women [in the US] has remained nearly the same since 1991. Workers in vulnerable employment are the least likely to have formal work arrangements, social protection, and safety nets to guard against economic shocks; thus they are more likely to fall into poverty. Vulnerable employment among women is 3.9% and among men is 4.6% in the United States for 2021.

In the United States, women spend 1.6 times as much time on unpaid domestic and care work than men. In 2019, women in the United States spent 15.3% of their day and men spent 9.7% of their day on unpaid work. 

A 2013 study revealed that 7.6% of lesbian couples in the United States live in poverty compared to 5.7% of married different-sex couples. Similarly, one-third of lesbian couples without a high school diploma were in poverty compared to 18.8% of different-sex couples.

Study: Stereotypes of middle-aged women as less ‘nice’ can hold them back at work.

Women hold 66% of all student loan debt. 41% of women undergraduates take out student loans, compared to 35% of male undergraduates. Women take an additional two years on average to pay off student loans.

Education

Women make up more than two-thirds of the world's 796 million illiterate people.

While progress has been made in reducing the gender gap in urban primary school enrollment, data from 42 countries shows that rural girls are twice as likely as urban girls to be out of school.

Male violence against women

In the United States, the share of women who have experienced intimate partner violence is nearly the same as the world average, 27%. Intimate partner violence is by far the most prevalent form of violence against women globally and is defined as the percentage of ever-married women (ages 15-49) who have ever experienced physical or sexual violence committed by their husband or partner.

35% of women worldwide have experienced either physical and/or sexual intimate partner violence or non-partner sexual violence.

1 in 3 women, around 736 million, are subjected to physical or sexual violence by an intimate partner or sexual violence from a non-partner – a number that has remained largely unchanged over the past decade.

Globally, 7% of women have been sexually assaulted by someone other than a partner.

Globally, as many as 38% of murders of women are committed by an intimate partner.

200 million women have experienced female genital mutilation/cutting.

Violence against women in Mexico rises to over 70%, study finds

7 in 10 human trafficking victims are women and girls.

Women and girls represent 65 per cent of all trafficking victims globally. More than 90 per cent of detected female victims are trafficked for the purpose of sexual exploitation.

Politics, power, and Influence

28.7% of seats in national parliament were held by women in 2022 in the United States

Metadata analysis shows biographies of women on Wikipedia are deleted and marked non-notable at a significantly higher rate than those of men.

Women continue to be underrepresented in the fields of science, technology, engineering and mathematics, representing only slightly more than 35% of the world’s STEM graduates. Women are also a minority in scientific research and development, making up less than a third of the world’s researchers.

Medical discrimination, medical violence, and female healthcare

 Women 32% more likely to die after operation by male surgeon

Women are over-medicated because drug dosage trials are done on men.

Women are sometimes forcibly sterilized, without consent, across the globe.

Mental Health

A 2016 study investigating physical and mental health, and experiences of violence among male and female trafficking survivors in England found 78% of women and 40% of men reported high levels of depression, anxiety, or PTSD symptoms.

Female people in the US attempt suicide more frequently than men.

Adult women have higher rates of mental illness than adult men

Discrimination, bias, and sex-based stereotypes

 UN report finds 90% of men and women hold some sort of bias against females.

Men were 93 percent more likely to have their loans discharged when disclosing a medical condition, as compared to women who disclosed medical conditions.

We historically are not included in research, and when we are, are grouped in with men which is unhelpful (bonus question: What does this mean, then, if male people who "identify-as-women" are grouped in with women and not considered a separate category?)

The Madonna-Whore Dichotomy (MWD) denotes polarized perceptions of women in general as either “good,” chaste, and pure Madonnas or as “bad,” promiscuous, and seductive whores. Men who reported higher endorsement of the Madonna-whore-dichotomy rated their partner as less entitled to sexual pleasure. Women who reported higher endorsement of the Madonna-whore dichotomy devalued their own pleasure by rating their partner as more entitled to sexual pleasure than themselves.

“Their Great Shame is Poverty”: Women Portrayed as Among the “Undeserving Poor” are Seen as Deserving Sexual Assault

The Impact of Media Use on Girls' Beliefs About Gender Roles, Their Bodies, and Sexual Relationships: A Research Synthesis.

Mothers in China for decades pressured their daughters to bind their feet - often destroying the function and formation of their feet - in order to please and service men.

My one disclaimer to this post is that there is a tremendous amount of information left out of this post. This is because it is impossible to capture the vast amount of research and details within studies illuminating the sex-based oppression of women and girls. I have not gone into depth on the impact of media on teenage girls' body image, the role of trauma in girls influencing them to hate their bodies, FGM, the Iranian protests, etc. I hope others reblog and add more information.

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been seeing other women saying this too but I cannot stress enough how important it is to not base all of your radfem beliefs on “women = good people 100% of the time, men = bad people 100% of the time” for several reasons but particularly because that’s just not a strong foundation for anything to be built upon. that will make it so that the moment you meet a man who is nice or a woman isn’t, your entire belief system will crumble.

you’re going to meet men who are nice people and you’re going to meet women who are incredibly abusive people, neither of those things change the fact that all women deserve complete liberation from male control.

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Some reasons not to date or love men, for radblers who still do so:

More than 90% of cervical cancer diagnoses can be traced back to PIV sex. Approximately a third of all men have human papillomavirus, which is transmitted to a woman during sex and the one single reason why almost all cervical cancer cases exist.

In the instance where you and your man break up, you will be the last radical feminist (or even just feminist) woman he'll ever have dated. Your man does not want to date another radical feminist. His next girlfriend will have none of the same class consciousness and understanding of feminist theory as you do, and she will make him happier. Your feminist thinking will not be missed.

You are always working extra in order to make sure your man stays as "one of the good ones". You work extra to make sure he's aware of your feminist thoughts and that he respects them. You work extra to make sure he doesn't slip and become more misogynist. You work extra to make sure he lives by lowest bar expectations you have as a feminist who desperately wants to imagine that this is an "equal" relationship. Your relationship is not equal. You being a feminist and trying to integrate that into a heterosexual relationship only makes it less equal because of all the extra work you must put in for someone who you know won't stay in line without persuasion. You are not a bad, tough, nasty strong woman with her grip around the perfect unicorn man. You're working yourself to exhaustion for someone who doesn't care.

Your man benefits from misogyny against other women than you. Maybe your man hates porn, maybe he hates kink, maybe he's never used words like "bitch" or "whore", maybe he supports abortion. But when your man leaves the house he will benefit at his job when he gets an ambitious promotion instead of his female colleague. He will benefit when his male friends take his side instead of a woman's side in situations you have zero awareness of. In order to keep tabs on your man so he doesn't benefit from misogyny when you're not near him, you will have to do extra work.

Feel free to add

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the women are waking up

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My statistics database

Up to 1 in 10 men are serial rapists (2013 study, usa based)

Women are victims of 80% of sexual assault cases (2017-2022, england and wales)

Men are perpetrators in 98% of sexual assault cases (2017-2022, england and wales)

Men are perpetrators of 98% of mass shootings (1982-2023 december, usa based)

Men are suspects in 91% of homicides (2011-2022, england and wales)

Women are victims in 82% of domestic violence cases (2020, england and wales)

48% of transwomen (amabs) in usa prisons are there for sexual offences (2021, usa based)

59% of transwomen (amabs) in uk prisons are there for sexual offences, compared to the 16% of cis men (2021, uk based)

This database is always updating!

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I think what really gets me about this stupid debate about whether you can be a feminist or contribute to feminism while having a male partner is just that... you simply can't. Y'all are simply wrong.

The bottom line of patriarchy is men having sexual access to women. That's it. That's why you'll still see some men supporting abortion or some men supporting women's right to work and an education. Many don't think to isolate women from their friends. Because while they're objectively good things, men can still benefit from them.

A woman who works can support her deadbeat husband. A woman who gets abortions still has sex with men. Women who gather together complain about men but still ultimately support each other's decision to fuck them.

But what you'll never see is a man supporting women not partnering with men. Because there is no way a man can benefit from that.

Okay sure. You voted in favor of abortion. You're still fucking a patriarch. Don't you see how that's counterproductive? Patriarchy can still exist if abortion and education and good working conditions are all provided to women. What it can't survive is women completely separating from men.

The difference between het partnered rads and separatists is one is putting out certain fires while lighting others. And the other is completely submerging the area in water.

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noting it for later use

Reasons not to get pregnant/have a child/raise children. From girlwiththelist1 on tiktok