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he said it was sad that I wanted to become a sea witch and stay away from people but turns out he's the exact type of person I most want to get away from!!!!!

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it doesn’t matter. you will still have fun baking a distastrous looking bread loaf. you will still have fun painting a technically bad painting. you will get happy brain chemicals dancing like a weirdo. be bad on purpose.

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on a scale from wild but not a bad decision to absolutely insane and ridiculous, how crazy would i be if i broke my lease and moved to the beach?

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i recently got back on dating apps after a few months of giving up and y’all...i should’ve stayed off of them

i talked to this dude for most of this week and we talked about getting together and he asked for my insta and i gave it to him and he fucking ghosted me right after as though all of the pics on the dating app weren’t on my insta so there were no surprises lmaoooo wtf dude

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y’all i’m gonna need people to get vaccinated bc it’s time to go to europe and make ~questionable decisions~ and make out with random dudes while wandering through beautiful cities. it’s time, i need it

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I'm about 10 seconds away from applying for some jobs where i would take a 30k pay cut and live in the middle of nowhere iowa or alabama BUT i would get to do food styling. worth it???

can someone just pay me to cook and bake and take pretty pictures all day so that I don't have to deal with this horrible woman every day anymore?

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can someone just pay me to cook and bake and take pretty pictures all day so that I don't have to deal with this horrible woman every day anymore?

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i told a guy on a dating app that i don’t trust people who don’t put ricotta in their baked ziti and uhhhh this is why i’m gonna be single forever

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hey everyone im claire we’re in my home kitchen and today we’re giving bon appetit a run for their money

absolutely obsessed with claire “im cutting ties with ba” saffitz stealing Everything about the format & editing style of the bon appetit videos down to the youtube thumbnail and the camera man to produce an astronomical 11k likes to fifteen dislikes ratio that bon appetit will never again achieve

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😭😭 I love piggies so much

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banish the idea that platonic love is a lesser form of love

if you go through life not investing in your friendships the same way you invest in romantic relationships, you will always be looking for love, feeling lonely, completely blind to the love all around you

friendship is not a lower level relationship. it is not a lesser form of love.

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If none of them married, how desperate would the Bennett girls actually have been?

Well the only dowry they have is £50 apiece from their mother’s small inheritance, per year; so that’s a total of £250 generated by Mrs. Bennet’s inherited investments per annum.

The Dashwoods (four women) are living on £500 a year when they are forced to live in Barton Cottage (with good-will making the rent presumably ridiculously low thanks to Sir John Middleton’s good nature, to say nothing of all the dinners and outings he invites the ladies to, which will help them economize on housekeeping costs for heavier meals.)

So there would be six Bennet women left to live on half as much as the Dashwoods are barely scraping by on. £250 is roughly considered enough to keep ONE gentleman at a barely-genteel level of leisure (presuming he does not keep a horse or estate or have any major expenses beyond securing his own lodgings/clothes/meals at a level becoming of a gentleman.)

None of the Bennet girls have been educated well enough for them to be governesses to support themselves, so…yes, their situation would heavily rely on mega-charity from others to just help them survive, much less maintain them in the lifestyle they’ve been accustomed to. The Dashwood women have NO social life beyond the outings provided by Sir John and the offer of Mrs. Jennings to host the older girls in London–otherwise they’d be stuck in their cottage, meeting absolutely no eligible men, creating a cycle of being poor and unmarried and too poor to meet anyone with money they could marry.

If the Bennet girls don’t at least have ONE of them marry well enough to help the rest before their father dies, they are really, truly, deeply fucked.

They may joke about beautiful Jane being the saviour of the family, but…it’s true. Mr. Bennet failed his daughters several times over in A) presuming he’d have a son, B) not saving money independently from his income to support his family after his death when it became clear he wasn’t going to have a son, C) not educating them well enough to enable them to support themselves in even in the disagreeable way of being a governess, D) not making any effort to escort his daughters to London or even local assemblies to help their matrimonial chances because he just doesn’t feel like it, E) throwing up his hands and shrugging when faced with the crises of Mr. Collins and Wickham.

Much as we are relieved on a romantic level that Mr. Bennet’s support of Elizabeth saves her from parental pressure to accept Mr. Collins, Mrs. Bennet is NOT A DICK for pushing for the match, because on a material level it very much means they get to KEEP THEIR HOUSE and gain a connection to the powerful patron Lady Catherine de Bourgh, which could be VERY advantageous for the other unmarried girls.

And the scandal of Wickham very nearly scuppers the chances of ANY of the other girls, and Wickham is a further DRAIN on the family finances, not a man who is going to substantially be able to support them. It is SUCH a disaster, and of course there’s not much Mr. Bennet can do until they are found, but he’s away in London and doing…what, exactly? Mr. Gardiner takes over and manages everything and Mr. Bennet seems happy to just let him.

Mr. Bennet does the ABSOLUTE LEAST, and actively damages his children’s futures by his inaction AND by his one action to support Lizzie’s individual needs being prioritized over the collective gain, which…I mean, Lizzie is going to be JUST as homeless and destitute as her sisters when he dies, so much good being Dad’s Favourite is going to do her. :/

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hey kids if ur parents are abusive, dont be surprised if they suddenly change all their behaviors when u finally move out, if they start acting very nice and never even allude to all those times Before when they were treating u bad. this is a form of gaslighting and if u plan to keep distant from them as an adult, this may well be the defining characteristics of ur interaction w/ them. it’s tough to navigate this, because u will almost definitely wonder: was i abused? listen… when u sit in ur own home someday, maybe w/ a loved one, and things feel good, and the past feels far away, ur abuse was not made up. ur parents really did those things, and whether or not u want to keep them out of ur life or form a new dynamic w/ them, that’s up to u. but never let them make u believe they were always good to u.

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do you ever read about clean eating and intermittent fasting and cleanses and all that shit and just think about how good the wellness industry is as repackaging dangerous and disordered eating habits as shiny wellness routines and become literally enraged

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you need to sit back and analyze just how privileged you are if you get to say "i dont want to talk about or look at what's happening right now. i dont want this negativity." poc, especially black people, cant just decide that like others can. they can't just close their eyes and ignore posts and be comfortable and sheltered. theyre forced into this situation. theyre the ones experiencing the murders, the abuse, the racism, that youre so damn privileged to be able to just click away from. silence is violence in it's own way. use your voice to uplift the downtrodden instead of pretending it's not happening just outside of your picket fences.