iamshay

[iamshay]

Don’t ask me to message you on here - that will never happen. I don’t use DMs and I definitely don’t use social media to chat. If you try, I’ll probably ignore it or block you.

This is the only service I use to talk one-on-one:

If you really want to connect, say something real, or just shoot your shot - that’s your one chance. Otherwise, keep it moving.

[iamshay]

You look like a very interesting lady to talk with, may your roads be smooth & burdens light, may you find dreams and touch a star & never forget how special you are! Hope you're having a great day, just like your gorgeous smile! I tried sending you a message, but it didn’t go through. Plus, I hope you don't mind sending me a message from your side! Thank you 😊

Appreciate the kind words-really, thank you. But I don’t do DMs. If you’ve got something to say, say it here, That’s just how I roll.😊

[iamshay]

Life Update ✨

I'm finally getting fully settled in soon. The last room is actually my setup room. The kitchen and bedroom are done. The only thing missing is the bed, which I can’t afford right now. Both closets are filled. Now it’s just the office/setup room left.

In the meantime, I’m setting up the alarm and security system-someone’s coming next week to handle that for me. I have to wait on garage security until I get an internet connection run out there. Then I can set up security there too.

There’s still some small stuff left in the living room. It’s just me moving boxes around and opening them. Everything will be settled soon, and I’ll finally see the living room floor.

Balcony furniture will have to wait-probably next year I can really enjoy it, especially since I’m getting a Weber grill too next year summer. I’ve got way more space than I’ve had the past seven years in old apartment.

I can finally feel at home now. No more cluttered paper boxes around my bedroom or setup room. I’ve got a storage unit inside the house, plus a tiny room in my office room that I use for cleaning products and storing extra food that doesn’t need to go in the fridge or freezer-also laundry products. I love my bathroom is big enough have my washing machine in there. I don't like sharing. I love everything is near me. Neighborhood is super nice. Around nature. After I am settle I will go for hours walk to get know the streets and learn the road to the stores.

I’ll get back to content creation in July. I need this whole month to finish settling in, relax, and recover from the pain. My body’s super sore from lifting heavy stuff. Financially, it’s a mess-this move created a lot of bills because of the contract with my old apartment. I have to juggle bills and delay some things until I’m back on track.

I’ve got a lot of overdue bills. Now that I live on a new street, I need to secure my home. I need this security system. Luckily, the company I’m going with is open to splitting the bill and delaying part of it. I used this company years ago when I lived in a similar house-they were so kind.

I told them I wanted the package setup to be black, with two pink and two black key fobs. He giggled and said he’d make sure I get the color combo I want. That’s just the feminine side of me. Pink isn’t my favorite color, but I like having a cute keychain-and it’s easy to recognize what it’s for. This company is amazing. Best in Norway, honestly.

I also need to get a doorbell with a camera for the apartment. Things are slowly coming together-starting to feel homey. I plan to live here for more than 7 years, unless the landlord decides to move in himself. I want to stay here until I’ve saved enough money to buy my own house.

I’ll probably end up buying a place around here. I’ve seen some really nice, affordable houses in this area. Oslo? That’s just for doctor appointments or spa treatments-I’ve never been a city girl. I’m from the countryside in Iran, surrounded by farms and nature. I’m a freakin’ Taurus-it’s in my blood. I just can’t live where it’s crowded and full of bad energy.

I love living in a good environment, in a family-friendly and much safer city. I live in an area where neighbors look out for each other, and there are dogs that bark at unfamiliar faces-makes it easy to tell if someone’s acting sus. I already said hi to my neighbor below me; she has more than one dog that barks a lot. I even offered to babysit if she ever needs help.

I’m only allowed to have visiting dogs-not allowed to own one myself :/ I’ve told a lot of people that my last apartment didn’t allow dogs either, and I lived there for 7 years. Renting just sucks when it comes with those pet rules, especially when the apartment doesn’t even come furnished. Like, what exactly is going to get ruined? The floor? And even then, it’s not like I’d let anything sit there- plus the dog would be potty trained, and I’d take it for walks.

I really, really want a dog :/ A dog would help me on so many levels. I guess I was just born to be petless. Back in Iran, I had pets-so many animals-and that’s why life has felt empty without them. I’d rather have a dog. I’ve dated, but I never really enjoyed being with the people I dated. I love dogs more than boyfriends. More than humans, honestly.

I’ve got more love and respect for animals than I do for people. There, I said it. Animals are just so pure and kind. Best believe that. I’m a dog person, and they say dogs are a human’s best friend for life.

My life’s been flipped upside down, and I miss my childhood. All those animals I had back in Iran brought more joy to my life than anything in adulthood has. There’s just something about animals- words don’t do it justice. Some of them show more humanity in a single day than most people do in a lifetime.

Xo,

Shay

[iamshay]

The Frustration of Dealing with Unprofessional Landlords

Renting an apartment can be a stressful process, especially when you’re a responsible tenant armed with a polished application, verified credit checks, and glowing references. You’d expect landlords to appreciate the effort, but too often, you’re met with silence, excuses, or outright unprofessionalism. From ignoring messages to choosing short-term tenants for supposedly long-term rentals, some landlords make the process unnecessarily frustrating. Here’s why this behavior is a problem and what tenants can do about it.

The Ghosting Game: Ignoring Messages Without a Reply

Picture this: you find a promising rental listing, spend hours crafting a professional application, and hit send with high hopes. The landlord sees your message-you can tell from the read receipt or platform notification-but days pass with no response. Not even a polite “Sorry, the apartment is rented.” Just silence.

This isn’t just rude; it’s lazy. Responding to a message takes minutes, yet some landlords can’t be bothered. They peek at your application, decide you’re not their pick, and move on without a word. For tenants, this ghosting is demoralizing. You’ve invested time and effort, only to be left wondering if your application was even considered. A simple acknowledgment would go a long way, but too many landlords lack the basic courtesy to provide it.

Failing to Update Ads: A Four-Second Fix Ignored

Another common issue is landlords who fail to update their rental ads. You message about an apartment, only to hear-days later, if at all-that it’s already rented. Why wasn’t the ad marked as unavailable? Updating a listing takes seconds, often doable right from a phone. Yet, some landlords leave ads active, wasting tenants’ time and raising false hopes.

This laziness doesn’t just frustrate applicants; it reflects poorly on the landlord’s ability to manage a property. If they can’t handle a simple ad update, how will they deal with maintenance requests or lease agreements? Tenants deserve better than this half-hearted approach.

Choosing Short-Term Tenants for Long-Term Rentals

Perhaps the most baffling behavior is when landlords claim they want long-term tenants but choose renters who stay only a few months. You submit an application showcasing your stability-verified credit, solid references, and a desire to stay for years-yet the landlord picks someone who moves out shortly after. This makes no sense for a property advertised as a long-term rental.

Why does this happen? Some landlords skip proper tenant screening, prioritizing quick deals over quality. They might choose the first applicant who responds, even if their background suggests they’re not in it for the long haul. Others may not verify tenants’ intentions or financial stability, leading to a revolving door of short-term renters. This not only disrupts the landlord’s income but also frustrates tenants who were ready to commit long-term and got overlooked.

The Bigger Picture: A Lack of Accountability

At the heart of these issues is a lack of accountability. Some landlords act as if renting is a side hustle they can half-ass without consequences. They don’t communicate clearly, sometimes barely speaking the local language, making it hard to trust their judgment. When you call to follow up, you might get vague excuses or a dismissive “It’s rented.” Worse, you’re left wondering if they even checked the chosen tenant’s papers or references.

This unprofessionalism isn’t just annoying-it’s unfair. Tenants put in significant effort to present themselves as reliable, only to be ignored or outdone by less qualified applicants. Landlords need to step up: screen tenants properly, respond to messages, and update ads promptly. If managing a rental is too much work, they should hire a professional property manager or reconsider renting altogether.

Your unprofessionalism and lack of accountability cause you to rent to first person was in viewing without background check. You skipped a reliable tenant with five years of solid references, eager for long-term renting. That’s your loss- hope those you chose don’t stay, in long term and don't pay the bills in time. that will reflecting your poor mindset.

"I’ve found a couple of houses, and they replied promptly about viewings. One landlord called right after reading my application, checked my references and credit report, and confirmed fiber internet. He’s keen to rent to me. I’ll view his large house with a garage soon. That’s professionalism-carefully selecting the right tenant, not just renting to the first viewer without considering better options"

Wish me luck, and I hope that cold landlord just few mins ago, unprofessional landlord who rudely just peak the message. faces karma for their lazy, careless behavior.

xo

shay

[iamshay]

Life’s Testing Me Again - Right Before My Birthday

Anxiety is through the roof right now. Like, sky-high. Anything - literally anything - can set me off. The wrong word, the wrong glance, the wrong question. Boom - spiraling. And you know what? I’m done pretending I’m fine.

If you’re family, or acquaintance or friend of mine don’t come at me sideways.

Don’t be judgmental or try school me. Don't gaslight me with “intentions.” Right now, I need prayer, support, and help packing. if you a family That’s it. Nothing more. Nothing less. That all a family can be there for me for the packing and clean this apartment and settle in new house. And they can go by their own life.

This shitty thing happened to me: I lived here for five years. Five years of scraping by, surviving, breathing life into a space I made my own. I got this apartment in pure survival mode - when I was inches from being homeless. It wasn’t glamorous. It was tough. But it was mine. And now? I’m losing it.

Not because I failed. Not because I disrespected the blessing. But because life just... rips shit out of your hands sometimes, no matter how tightly you’re holding on.

I don’t need anyone’s judgment. I don’t need questions like, “Why are you moving so far?” I need a roof over my head, period. When you’re fighting to stay afloat, location snobbery doesn’t mean shit. Peace means more. Safety means more. Having fiber internet, a store nearby, buses and trains — that’s my checklist now. Not some fantasy about staying in the city that didn’t even have my back when I needed it most.

And y’all didn’t visit anyway. Five years. You came when it was convenient for you. Never for me.

I’m tired. I’m tired of carrying the weight of my own survival and dodging guilt trips at the same time. I tried to leave before, and my own mother told me, "talk me out of it and said won't find better." Bet your ass I did. Just not in the city I grow up in. Sacrifices have to be made when you want peace more than you want proximity.

Even my landlord was sad about this when they gave me the news. Said I was the best and the most nicest and honest person tenant they ever had. Always pay rent on time no drama no sound nothing and super disciplined and amazing communication

Told me not to ever think this was my fault. It’s not because I was bad — it’s because their daughter needed the space.

It’s not fair. It’s not right.

But that’s life. Sometimes it punches you in the teeth even when you were playing by all the rules.

And what makes it worse? This all hit me a WEEK before my birthday. Literally the worst month for it to happen.

Norway’s tough enough in April - weather’s still shitty, energy’s low, costs are high - and now I’m out here going to fighting for an apartment, stressing, packing, cleaning, moving.

Trying to hold my life together with bloody knuckles.I’ve got two debts I'm still paying off. almost debt free i had plan here.

One almost gone when come to my debt, but the other things dragging behind me like a broken chain. I had a plan - to stay, save up, and finally grab my own piece of the world. AKA house. So i just need do that from new place.

Now? That plan’s on fire. And I’m rebuilding from the ashes in real time. Packing after five years of my life a place i could finally call home feels like a funeral. Every box I tape shut is a goodbye. Every scrub of the floors is another goodbye.

And not a single person is here helping me carry the weight. I found this apartment in the blink of an eye — pure luck. I almost went homeless once, and I never want to feel that way again. If I don’t secure a new place within the next three months, I'm fucked. I have nobody to turn to.

My family always looks away when I need them, but expects me to show up when they need something. The second I told them what was happening, they all went super quiet. So no - I’m not going to feel bad, and I’m sure as hell not going to listen if they start bugging me about moving to a city far away from them.

MFERS - I lived near them for five years and they never visited ONCE. Mom only came around when it was convenient for her.

So honestly? I don’t give a fuck if I move far away. That’s exactly what I want - distance. They were never there for me anyway.

My dad was my safety net. When he passed, I lost the only parent who truly had my back. I’ve always been the black sheep of the family - just like he was.

Each time I moved, my dad was my rock. He helped however he could -even if it was just staying on the phone for an hour, believing in me, telling me I could do anything. He always said, "You can always come home when you need to."

When I lived in Oslo as a student, I was home at my parents for six months out of the year and at my own place for the other six. It worked because he was there, keeping the door open.

When he died, everything fell apart. Not even a month after he passed, my big sister threw me out. I haven’t spoken to her since.

When the cops showed up because of the drama my 3rd big sister caused, they said straight up:

"Y'all are shitty siblings. The fact that your mother - the elder of the house - didn’t even speak up? She just lost her father, and y’all couldn’t wait to toss her out." When you as sister don't even have right say anything in this matter you don't even live in this house. how can walk in here and make that call to toss her out. So they worry for my own safty and took me out of that fucking house put me into foster home for while til found my own place.

Exactly what the cops said. Word for word. that when i had find quickly apartment while living in foster home. which didn't last long and also this current apartment found in stress of moment too.

They waited for that moment - because while my dad was alive, they couldn’t touch me. He was my shield. My protector. The only parent who loved me for real, without conditions.

Anyone who tried to harm me had to get through him first. He protected his daughter like a wolf guarding his own - because he knew the jealousy that ran deep in that house.

I was his favorite - not because of favoritism, but because we understood each other. We were both black sheep. We were both honest, loyal, and respected each other.

I obeyed his house rules. I never acted out like my other sister, who had no respect for him or his home. I was one of his good daughters - like my other big sister was too, she got married and found her dream man.

And now here I am. Still standing. Still fighting.

Carrying it all without him. I had to build an entire wall around myself, because he used to be my wall. When he passed, that’s when I lost my purpose - my safety net.

I had to figure it out alone. But he raised me so well that I’m capable of carrying on without him. Even if it breaks me sometimes.

I haven’t moved on. Not really. just bottle all pain deep down. I refuse let him go! i will move on when i meet him again!

Life without him is still the hardest thing I faced. And this month - it always cuts the deepest. It just got a little worse this year - more stress, more weight stacked onto my shoulders. with this temporary i have to move out and find new apartment because in Norway these two months always hardest. And super expensive!

Life can throw every damn storm it wants - I’ll keep walking through it with pain.

Because I have no other choice. Because I believe - even on the days it feels like a joke - that somehow, somewhere, I’m headed toward something better i hope and wish for!

This isn’t the ending, i hope! It’s just another brutal, unfair chapter. That came out of my control!

And trust I'm gonna try survive this. Like I always do. Like I always fucking will.

It’s just... this is the last fucking thing I needed.

All this stress. Moving ain't no fun.

Even if I secure a new apartment, it’s the settling in that wrecks you - Getting used to a strange place, losing more sleep because everything feels unfamiliar. It’s like...

BOTTOM LINE: I am a turtle, a black cat (especially a rescue or stray), a hedgehog, and an owl - all rolled into one. I don’t just "adapt." I feel everything first, I analyze, I guard myself, and I only open up when the energy feels right.

That’s survival. That’s wisdom. That’s strength.

It takes time to get used to a new place. The first month is always the hardest - until the walls stop feeling foreign, until the silence stops feeling empty, until you finally feel home again.

Xo.

Shay

[iamshay]

DM Disasters: Why You Need to Learn How to Talk to Women 🛑

Let’s talk about something that’s been irritating me lately -guys who have absolutely no clue how to approach a woman. I’m Persian, living in Norway, and just trying to make friends online. But instead, I keep running into these clowns who think they can win me over with the most off-putting, cringe-worthy messages. Spoiler alert: This is exactly why you’ll never get a girl like me.

The latest disaster? Some guy named Ahmed slid into my DMs, and within minutes of saying hello, he’s calling me “beautiful,” asking about massages, and talking about marriage. Excuse me? We just started talking, and you’re already acting like I’m your wife? 🤢 I told him I’m only here for friends, but clearly, he didn’t get the memo. Instead, he doubled down with his creepy vibes, thinking that’s the way to my heart. Newsflash: It’s not. It’s the fastest way to get blocked.

This isn’t just about one guy-it’s about a whole type of guy. The ones who think throwing around pet names like “beautiful” or “baby” is going to make me swoon. The ones who come on way too strong, acting like they own me before even knowing me. The ones who can’t hold a respectful conversation to save their lives. Let me be crystal clear: This behavior is a massive turn-off. It’s desperate, it’s immature, and it’s why you’ll never stand a chance with someone like me.

I know what I want, and it’s not this nonsense. I’m into older men-real gentlemen who actually know how to treat a woman. Men who don’t need to resort to cheesy nicknames or weird, forward comments to get my attention. I’m talking about the kind of man who can have a proper conversation, who respects my boundaries, and who knows how to act with class. Not some boy who thinks “massage therapist” is a pickup line. If you can’t bring that energy, don’t even step into my inbox.

So, to the guys out there who act like this: Do better. Learn how to talk to women with respect. Stop with the nicknames, stop with the creepy vibes, and stop thinking you can fast-track your way into my life with your awkward, pushy messages. I’m not here for your games, and I’m definitely not here to teach you how to be a man—that’s your mom job or you need grow the fuck up. If you can’t figure it out, don’t be surprised when you get left on read or blocked. I’m a queen, and I deserve a gentleman, not a clown.

To the ladies reading this: Don’t settle for these types. Know your worth and demand respect. And to the next guy thinking about messaging me: Take a long, hard look at yourself. If you can’t bring respect and maturity to the table, don’t even try. I’m not interested. 💅

[iamshay]

🔥MESSAGE TO KICK STAFF & ADMINS (at the top of the blog post, loud and clear)

💬 Message to Kick Staff: Let’s Talk

To the Kick team- mods, admins, whoever's pulling the strings behind the curtain:

This is bigger than hurt feelings. This is about suppression, favoritism, and the open secret of viewbotting that you continue to ignore while punishing creators like me who speak up. You removed my achievement milestones with zero explanation, while others- some of them literal cheaters-got to keep theirs. I've submitted reports, evidence, screenshots, logs, all the receipts. And what did I get? NPC copy-paste replies and silence.

I’ve been with Kick since 2022. Day one. Built everything from the ground up. No bots. No shortcuts. Just pure hustle. But lately, it’s felt like I’ve got a target on my back just for calling things out.

Let me say it straight: this ain’t just negligence. This personal.

Support tickets go nowhere. The same biased staff respond every time. I've got logs. I've got timelines. If needed, I’ll leak it all. My support were ignored. Viewbotters I reported are still verified and thriving-some of them literally shown using bot software on stream. Nothing happened.

If your idea of “creator support” is brushing real problems under the rug and punishing the ones speaking truth? Then maybe it’s time people know what’s really going on behind the green logo.

📝 The Blog Post: "The Mask Is Off: My Truth as a Day-One Kick Creator

I didn’t want to write this. I wanted to believe in Kick. I wanted this platform to be different. But when silence becomes suffocation, the only thing left to do is speak louder.

I've been on Kick since 2022. Day one. I didn't migrate from Twitch or follow a wave-I was part of the tide that helped this place rise. From scratch, with no bots, no help, no clout handed down. Just community, consistency, and hours of unpaid work.

So when I say I’ve been suppressed by this platform, I don’t say it lightly.

🎯 What Happened to Me

Out of nowhere, Kick removed all my achievement milestones-without reason. These weren’t just stats. They were proof of the grind. And guess what? Other streamers? They got to keep theirs. I talked to multiple people on kick . Their metrics carried over just fine.

So why me?

It’s impossible not to feel targeted. Especially when botters are getting checkmarks and platforms like mine-organic, honest, loyal-are being stripped down. Especially when people like Gloria, openly boot up viewbotting software live on Twitch and only plafrom whom took action while kick rewards her, and still walk into Kick with open arms and full support. Make it make sense. and many other people swatbest (botting just get verified since his boys got like that) peteycottonmouth, lilskamlive etc... and petey and lilskam yet verified through that botting even kick knows about this and fully aware their metric is based on lies.

🚨 The Viewbot Epidemic

Let’s talk about PeteyCottonmouth, Swatbest, and the army of botted chat accounts they ride in on. The same clowns who brag in Discord about running alt accounts and restreaming people’s content to weaponize it against them. I banned Swatbest for harassment and suddenly? My viewership tanked. He cried in Discord. Then? Viewbot attacks.

And Kick? I gave you everything-screenshots, logs, timestamps. What did I get? i am happy leak all support have with kick and so people can see how actual kick staff acting.

"We’ve forwarded this to the correct team.”

Weeks passed. Months. Those same botted accounts? Still active. Still protected. The ones doing the dirty work? Still verified. Still on front page. Still untouched.

🥀 Where’s the Accountability?

I watched Kick grow. I stayed loyal while others laughed it off as a Twitch knockoff. I believed in KCIP, in the dream of a platform where creators actually mattered.

Instead, what I found was:

Admins messaging mostly female streamers privately, encouraging them to apply for verification. if they mention their name which Andrew you guilty of doing yourself. lets not deny that.

Verification given not based on merit, but on social circles—a Discord fast-pass system.

Botters openly thriving while those reporting them get ghosted.

I’ve seen names like TheJoker flip-flop, break every rule, slander other creators, get removed from KCIP, and still walk away verified. You know what would've happened if I did that? I'd be banned before I could blink. if did half shit most these mf has pulled. But yet i am getting suppressed and you guys remove all my hard work milestone and its time everyone knows this how you treated your OG from 2022 THAT getting robbed daily basic.

🧩 Let’s Be Honest: It’s a Rigged System

I've seen the inner circles. The favoritism. The bias. Verified accounts that don't stream, that have fewer followers than me on their social media most botted followers on IG and they get verified, still got the badge. Why? Because they knew someone. Or because someone on staff liked eddie or you andrew aka santamaria.

There’s even a public website by Whiz built on kick API, showing who's clearly viewbotting. You can't even say it's speculation—it’s data. And still, you do nothing.

So no- this isn’t “drama.” This is a culture problem.

💔 To Other Creators: This Could Happen to You

If you're on Kick and you think staying quiet will protect you? Think again. The second you speak out, you become a threat. Your numbers dip. Your reports disappear into a void. Your milestones vanish.

That’s what happened to me.

And if you think I’m bitter? Nah. I’m awake. There’s a difference. i was robbed since day one and still getting robbed as people walk on kick and get verified without earn it or people not even active streamers.

💀 Kick’s Soul for Sale? wanna eat shit to get shit.

Is that really how you want to be remembered- as a creator who sold their soul just to sleep well at night, robbing from others while hoping the same never happens to you?

That’s not the legacy of a real one. That’s the path to irrelevance. You’ll fall into the void, forgotten. Because no one respects a narcissist who stood silent while others were wronged- just because you had a checkmark and a KCIP badge.

If that’s your stance, then may God bless your soul- because karma’s got a perfect memory.

God will remember the creator who stood by and said nothing while others were robbed of what they earned through loyalty, grind, and integrity. You may be thriving now, but that spotlight fades fast—especially when people realize you never once stood up for what’s right. You never challenged the system. You just played your part and kept your mouth shut.

When that happens? You're no better than the platforms we all left behind- Rumble, Twitch. You become a hypocrite. Just another Joker, shouting “me, me, me” while fellow creators are silenced, struggling, and buried beneath injustice.

As long as you’re fed and you can sleep, it’s “fuck everyone else,” right?

Mothers with mouths to feed. Creators with bills to pay. People who gave their all for this platform while it gave them nothing in return.

Yeah- fuck them, huh? my fellow creators?

I don’t care if this pisses people off. I’m not here to kiss ass or chase clout. I’m here to tell the truth.

Because when creators who've done nothing wrong get punished, and people who game the system get protected because they choose sell their morals and principles and meat ride over money , that’s when the mask slips.

And you know what’s underneath?

A creator who’s willing to sell their soul for numbers and a platform that won’t lift a finger when shit hits the fan—is playing a dangerous game. These companies don’t care about you. They’re a business, and businesses always protect themselves. But the fellow creators who feel your pain? They’re your real community and you chose not to stand with them.

When push comes to shove, and legal action is on the table, trust and believe: they’ll throw you straight into the lion’s den to save their own skin. If Kick ever gets legally forced to expose who the botters are in FTC for example and who enabled it, they’ll fold in a heartbeat and some of y’all verified and KCIP creators are so gullible, thinking this company will have your back when the fire starts. U dumbest person on this planet.

🗣️ Final Words

To Kick: you had a chance to build something real. You had a community willing to stand by you. But instead of protecting your foundation, you chose to reward the fakes.

I don’t care if this gets me blacklisted. Because the truth? Deserves the light.

I’m not afraid to speak it.

I never was.

✊🏼 Stand up. Speak out. The real ones are watching. I will expose any platform's wrongdoings, and those creators who ride the wave just to sleep well at night. Let’s make sure people know exactly who they’re supporting and watching.

Don't pick kick. PICK YOUR MORALS and stick with it. But if degen bad human being ofc u just like them.

[iamshay]

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[iamshay]

Why I Don’t Need a Man to Complete Me

Since I was 17, countless boys and men have asked for my hand in marriage, but my father denied them all. Now, as an adult, after finishing school and building my life, I realize I was never interested in relationships the way most people are. Why? Because my father raised me to be self-sufficient. He taught me everything I need to survive and thrive, so what exactly would a man bring to the table that I don’t already have?

Independence Was Instilled in Me Early

My dad left big shoes to fill. He raised me to be independent, self-reliant, and highly skilled. He didn’t raise me as a delicate daughter—he raised me like a son, with strict discipline and high expectations. And because I obeyed him, I followed his lead.

I can cook. I can fix things. I can change my own tires. I learned mechanical work just by watching my brother. I’ve been providing for myself for years. So, I ask again, what does a man offer me?

Safety? I don’t put myself in dangerous situations. I don’t club or engage in reckless behavior. I was raised better than that.

Kids? I don’t want them. Sure, I have nieces and nephews, but they’re grown now. I’d rather have dogs; they’re loyal and will stick by me until the end.

Money? I have my own.

A house? I can get one myself.

I don’t need millions or billions. I’m a village girl at heart. I wasn’t raised with a Western or European mindset, so material wealth doesn’t impress me. Honestly, it’s my dad’s fault for over-teaching me. Growing up during wartime, I didn’t have the luxury of being a carefree kid. I matured fast. My father raised all his daughters the same way he raised his sons—with strict, military-style discipline.

Society’s Lies About Women Needing Men

Society pushes the idea that women need a man to be whole. But I am living proof that this is false. I built my life from the ground up, and unless someone can genuinely add value beyond what I already have, why would I settle? I already have everything I want.

I’ve dated before, but it never lasts. Why? Because men nowadays lack so much. They think from their private parts, and I have an adult brain that doesn’t entertain that nonsense. I inherited my father’s mindset and old-school traditional values. This new generation? It pisses me off. Most guys annoy me so much that even if one sticks around for a bit, he eventually gets cut off.

My Failed Attempt at Having a Male Roommate

I even tried living with a guy friend when I was renting. Huge mistake.

One day in, he started acting weird. He was making noise late at night when I wasn’t even home. Turns out, he was putting a bed together, and my landlord texted me about the disturbance. I had to explain that I wasn’t even there. He had zero respect for people trying to sleep. I had to yell at him like I was his mother—and we had just signed the lease.

On top of that, he was lazy. He couldn’t even wash one plate after eating his own disgusting food. He used my tools without permission. And let me be clear: we weren’t dating. We were just friends. But even in a friendship, he had no basic manners. That was the final straw. I went solo again.

Men today lack discipline. They’re overly feminine. Society is full of degenerates trying to normalize side chicks, dysfunctional families, and men thinking with their private parts instead of their brains.

I Am My Father’s Daughter

I don’t know—maybe I’m just too much like my father. Every family member tells me they see him in me. I have become him. I act like him. I think like him.

And honestly? I have zero patience for this new generation. Dysfunctional families are a massive L, and I refuse to add that headache to my life.

From my perspective, men today bring nothing of real value. Most of them have a degenerate, self-serving mindset. They glorify dysfunction as if it’s a win when in reality, it’s the biggest loss of all. If a guy ever came at me with that energy, he’d be gone in a day. I’m way too disciplined for that.

This is exactly why my dad rejected every single man who asked for my hand. He knew they were scrubs. He knew they would only bring unnecessary drama into my peaceful life. My dad put too much effort into raising me, made too many sacrifices, and constantly reminded me of my worth. No man deserves me unless he can fill my father’s shoes. So when men came asking, my dad said HELL NO every single time.

I trust my parents’ judgment. They see red flags before I do. They know best. They raised twelve kids and never split up—not even after my dad passed. My mom is a widow, but she still carries that strength.

Unshakable Since Day One

Since childhood, I’ve always been this way. I was never easy to manipulate. That’s why insecure men target minors and young girls from unstable families-they’re easier to control. But I come from a strong, stable, bold family.

This isn’t just how I think as an adult. This has been me since day one.

If a man wants to be in my life, he needs to bring something real. Something exceptional. Not money, not a house, not empty words. Real value. Otherwise? I’m perfectly fine on my own. ofc we all love be spoiled but that just not what most important.

Women don’t need men. Society just convinced them they do.

And that’s where they got it all wrong.

[iamshay]

Taking Time to Heal: A Personal Reflection

Tomorrow���s stream won’t be happening. I’ve got to step away from the screen, from the noise, and take a moment to breathe in a different way. I’m heading out to visit my dad’s resting place. It’s something I haven’t done in a while, and I’ve been avoiding it. Maybe “avoiding” isn’t the right word—more like “not being strong enough.” You get it, right? Sometimes you just need to give yourself the space to feel what you feel, and right now, that’s a lot.

Ramadan, for my family, is always tough. It’s a mix of emotions we try to juggle every year, and this time, it feels heavier than usual. You see, my dad passed away right after Ramadan, during Eid. So every year, right around the time we should be celebrating, we’re reminded of that absence, that empty chair at the table. It’s like the pain gets amplified, and while the rest of the world is filled with joy and gratitude, we’re just trying to hold it together.

Talking to my mom over the phone today, I could hear it in her voice. She was holding back tears too. It’s hard not to. Every visit to my dad’s grave is a reminder of what we’ve lost, and no matter how much time passes, it always hits like a wave.

This year, I’m taking a pause. I need this break. I’ll be away from everything for a bit, spending some quiet time with my mom. We’re going to stay with my sister for a while after Ramadan, just to be with each other, to heal in the only way we know how. Sometimes you just need that- time with family, time to reflect, time to let the grief flow and make its way through you.

I’m sharing this with you guys because sometimes it’s important to remember that it’s okay to take a step back. It’s okay to grieve. It’s okay to feel heavy. It’s okay to not be okay. And it's okay to take time to heal, whether it's with your family, or alone, or however it comes to you.

So, I’ll see you when I see you. I’ll be back when the time feels right, but for now, I’ve got to do this for me, for my family, and for the memory of my dad. Peace, love, and all the things that make us human

[iamshay]

Just applied as a Community Notes contributor on X! 🔍

Time to bring unfiltered truth & transparency through verified court documents. No sides, no bias - just pure facts. When it comes to justice, sugar-coating isn't in my vocabulary.

Check out my full commitment post:

[iamshay]

X and Creator Program: A Platform Built on Lies and Botting problem

Why I’m Cancelling X After March

I’m done with paying X. I don’t see the point in continuing to pay for a platform that is blatantly robbing its users- taking money straight out of our pockets to fund frauds who bot their accounts. These so-called "creators" are raking in cash, not because they provide value, but because they game the system, and X enables it. That doesn’t sit right with me.

Starting in April, X is hiking the price of Premium+ yet again, pushing the cost past $40 in some regions. And for what? I’d rather invest in AI software that actually benefits me long-term than continue to fund Elon Musk’s billionaire schemes. He’s making sure his money stays untouched while regular users get scammed. Meanwhile, X’s staff- especially these Indias staff or guys in their 20s simping - turn a blind eye to the rampant botting and fraud.

The Lie of "Premium+" and Free Speech

X markets Premium+ as the highest-priority tier, promising an ad-free experience and better engagement. But let’s be real- they’re lying. Shadowbanning, deboosting, and algorithmic suppression are happening right under our noses. Calling this a "free speech platform" while unfairly demonetizing critics? Make it make sense.

If Elon Musk is silencing users for speaking their minds- whether through bans, demonetization, or algorithmic suppression- then it’s not free speech. It’s selective censorship. And yet, the price keeps rising, with the excuse that it’s funding Grok AI and supporting creators. But let’s break down what we’re actually paying for:

The Real Reasons Behind the Price Hike

Ad-Free Experience – X claims that Premium+ removes all ads for a better user experience. But at what cost? More money for a site that is actively exploiting its users.

Enhanced Features – The so-called "exclusive tools" like Radar (duh we got linkedin which is free btw (for spotting trends) and priority support are just gimmicks also you get ignored and bot respond. Meanwhile, Grok AI isn’t offering anything groundbreaking that free AI tools can’t do. chatgpt

Support for Creators – X wants us to believe we’re funding "quality content creators." In reality, we’re just paying people who manipulated the system by botting their followers, impressions, and likes.

Streaming Behind a Paywall – In a move that shows just how desperate X is to milk every last dollar from users, they’ve even locked live streaming behind Premium+. Imagine calling yourself the "future of free speech" while putting basic content creation behind a paywall. It’s laughable.

LET THAT SINK IN. Even YouTube, Twitch, or even the biggest fraud like Rumble don’t charge you to stream on their platform anymore. They removed that restriction because they realized it was suppressing creators and making their platform look embarrassing-especially when there are so many free streaming options available.

So no, we are paying for their free speech- we’re the ones footing the bill for a broken system.

Exposing the Bot Problem

Let’s be honest: a massive chunk of X’s so-called "creators" only made it to the top by botting their engagement. That’s why they cried to Elon to hide likes and impressions- because they don’t want anyone investigating how many bots are inflating their numbers. And X? They’re complicit, refusing to address the issue, which only proves how deep the fraud runs.

Look at the rise of e-girls and other accounts magically pulling in high engagement. Many of them are botting their way into the creator program, securing payouts that honest users will never see. And yet, users are willing to get scammed just to make a few hundred dollars-without realizing they’re being played. It’s pathetic.

The Harsh Truth: X Isn’t Worth It

The saddest part? For many people, X is their only source of income (ehmm GET A JOB). Instead of wasting money on a broken platform has zero integrity and ignore your report when you discover because staff are simping behind doors, they could be investing in AI, learning new skills, and monetizing through crypto or trading just anything. But they’re too busy chasing clout and validations to see the bigger picture.

I don’t care about Grok. I was using ChatGPT to help me code way before Grok even existed. X is a sinking ship there a lot uhappy people that i notice have cancel their premium + , and anyone who still thinks they’re getting a fair deal is just fooling themselves.

Lets that sink the fact they put live stream on paywall is such

Just think about all the lies, and yet you’re still meat-riding X’s staff instead of protesting the price hikes and the fact that your impressions have tanked-even though you’re tweeting just like you always did. They gaslight small creators, making them think it’s their fault, but let’s be real-that analytics data is fake.

You don’t just go from all green to negative overnight while tweeting and engaging the same way. No, that’s intentional. X’s staff is actively suppressing creators they don’t like. They did it to me, and I’ve met plenty of people this year who had solid engagement before suddenly getting buried. It’s not because they changed-it’s because X changed the rules to keep them down.

This kind of gaslighting, making creators feel like they’re the problem, is straight-up messed up.

Do the math. From day one of paying for X, you’ve invested way more than you’ve ever gotten from payouts. This applies to all small creators. You’re essentially handing over money for no reason-funding grifters who blatantly bot their accounts while X robs us blind.

Some people have their checkmarks through affiliate programs or because their business pays for it, but for those actually investing their own money into X, it’s a complete scam. The inflation on X is out of control-I’ve never seen a billionaire as greedy as Elon Musk. Worse, he’s handed control over to 20-something-year-olds who are clearly simps, looking the other way when their favorite creators are botting.

And when you get hit with a generic support message, they tell you they need to speak with another team-because they’re clearly incompetent and have no idea how to figure things out themselves.

I’m not saying all X staff are bad. I’ve been fortunate enough to speak with Dan-he’s actually a super decent guy. Even when something isn’t his responsibility, he listens to small creators, hears them out, and genuinely understands us. Maybe Elon Musk should give him a raise and more power on X. Clearly, these guys in their 20s -virgins are just simps. Let an actual adult man, who’s married have children and won’t simp for anyone but his wife, handle things-he might actually do a better job then whom ever got so much control and power tripping anyone holding them accountable.

The real question is-how much longer will you let yourself get scammed and just accepting it? You want to be door mate? not have balls speak out. They’re already talking about raising prices again in april. So all the money you’re making from payouts? It’s just going right back into paying even more to these frauds and you be buried in algorithm.

X doesn’t care about small creators. The algorithm is always flooded with so-called "big accounts" that are botting, while real creators get buried. You can’t trust this guy’s word. He promised a free checkmark to anyone who gained 2K verified followers, but that didn’t age well. He also said he would push small creators in the algorithm, but all I see are scams, viewbotters, and big accounts. How many lies is it gonna take before you wake the fuck up and speak up?

You’re all letting yourselves be walked all over, and it’s honestly frustrating to watch. It's time to stop being passive and start holding people accountable. The system keeps failing us, but if we don’t speak up, nothing will change.

I’m done. After March, I’m canceling and putting that money into my own pocket, posting on RAD and other AI platforms instead. Myron Gaines was right-if they did that to him, they can do it to anyone. When you don’t follow their narrative, you’re just feeding into their agenda. It's time to stop blindly supporting the broken system.

Twitch is my main platform, but I’ll be streaming on Twitch, Kick, and all my links are in my X bio. I’ll still post on X to announce when I’m live, but I’m branching out and expanding. Catch me across multiple platforms. Just know, I can’t DM you if you have DMs restricted to verified accounts. But you can reach me on IG DMs, or just drop your Telegram or Discord. If not, feel free to DM me and I’ll open the conversation to grab your info. I’m super active on both Telegram and Discord. Telegram is the only free speech platform that doesn’t ask for money. See handsome like Pavlo, he don’t need to chase validation or buy love. or are greedy like Elon increase. Telegram premium i never seen them increase the price that much. Not even meta does that. and they not even self claim free speech platform. Do better Elon and X staff!

Will I be back? Maybe. If it’s convenient for me.😉

Xo.

Shay

[iamshay]

Cleaning, Setup, and The House Dilemma

I’ll be streaming after I clean up this room. Gotta get these chores out of the way first. Once a month, I do this to avoid dust buildup on my setup. The worst part? How messy it gets while cleaning, especially when I have to make sure each cable stays with its respective PC and doesn’t get mixed up. Then, of course, there's cable management afterward. 😩

Another thing I can’t wait for is getting rid of that brown cabinet. I'm getting a new white one with a glass door. It'll likely go up to the storage room upstairs to store cables and all that extra stuff. I live in a house with four floors, and the upstairs is used for storage. 😉 It’s your typical European-Norwegian house.

However, I’m planning on moving with a heavy heart. If my rent goes up again, I’ll move out for sure. The current price is my limit- it's just not worth it anymore. I’d rather pay for a bigger place worth 13k, not this house. Not when the bathroom is this small. I’d prefer to find an apartment with a larger bathroom, one where I could have my own laundry inside it. But since my landlord refuses to put mine there, I’ve already told him I’ll never pay more than what I’m paying now.

Honestly, it's not worth the money anymore. I know I can find a better apartment elsewhere. The landlord hasn’t even fixed everything he promised over five years ago. So, why stick around? I'd rather pay 13k or 14k for a newer apartment. I know I could find one tomorrow if I wanted. It’s frustrating because he denies a 1000 NOK increase just because some potential tenants had kids. He doesn’t like loud people, but I’m quiet. If he wants to keep the peace, he better not push it.

Before

To be continued...

Cleaning up look...

Xo. Shay

[iamshay]

GOOD MORNING

Morning Stream Vibes & Calling Out the Fakes now pretending be fan o the tates

Another morning stream. Been on moderation watch, couldn’t sleep, so I thought-why not? Let’s stream. Multi-stream, no webcam-I just wanna vibe. Enjoy the walkthrough gameplay. If the stream crashes, y’all already know-my PC got f’d again and rebooted. No worries, I’ll be right back, reconnecting with the same stream key for X stream-unless StreamElements decides to act up again.

Watch Dogs & The Copycats

Gonna play the game I promised y’all. I said I’d stream all of Watch Dogs-we already ran through Watch Dogs 2 a million times. Almost done, but I wanna start fresh with the story for the new one. And just watch-my haters will hop on this game right after I do. 😉 Every time I play something-new or old-they suddenly "discover" it too. Straight-up leeches. Zero originality. Can’t think for themselves, just waiting on me to make a move so they can copy. Years of ignoring a game, then boom-soon as I touch it, they’re all over it.

Let’s be real-y’all ain’t my haters. Y’all are my biggest fans. No taste, no vision, no clue what to stream until you see me do it first. Keep watching, keep copying. I stay leading, y’all stay following. Leeches. 😎

Fake Snakes & Clickbait Clowns

Also, I see a lot of new faces and the same old fake snakes suddenly clickbaiting. I don’t believe a thing until the actual people themselves confirm they’re free. A bunch of weirdos with stake logos are out here clickbaiting like crazy. I’d rather hear it from them directly. I don’t follow fake hype. I don’t chase false hope-I’d rather get the joy from real sources. When they come out, post about it, and say it themselves, that’s when it’s real.

People are really desperate, using their names just to farm clicks like the sad clowns they are. Honestly, I’d rather trust it when they actually film new footage-not old clips-showing that they’re truly free. As an adult, I’m just going to wait for them to post about it. Meanwhile, you all are out here leeching and clickbaiting, pretending you’ve been fans for a long time-celebrating as if you’ve been here since day one. If this clown from Kick-yeah, TheJoker-starts running his mouth, I have the receipts. I’ve got video proof of him talking trash about Andrew Tate and making hate videos when Andrew was accused. I’m about to expose how fake and snake thejoker really is. I’ll even post the entire video. Where was everyone when they were all being attacked by the public? I’ve already shown this to one of the brothers, and now I’m posting it on X. I’m going to expose and debunk how much of a snake TheJoker is. If he tries to hop on the bandwagon and act all as he was one of us, saying, “I always knew they were innocent,” just know that I have a 4K video of him talking badly about Andrew on his alt YouTube account. Keep trying, Joker! I have the 4K receipts. Try me, bitch.

Anyway, guys, I’m getting ready for my stream and I’ll link the multistreams

[iamshay]

Rumble Exposed: The Truth About Viewbotting, Favoritism, and Corruption

How Rumble Staff Punished Me for Speaking the Truth

I called out Rumble staff for simping and viewbotting in the gaming category, and just like that-my checkmark was gone. No warning, no discussion. They stripped it away out of pure pettiness. And where did they do it? On Discord. Even the head admin was mocking me, openly laughing while handing out checkmarks to low-following accounts like party favors. That’s the level of unprofessionalism we’re dealing with.

And to top it off, “Fat Mario” decided to shadowban me simply because I called him out for it. Imagine being that insecure.

They Targeted Me Personally

I was a Rumble partner for 30 days, and despite their promises, they intentionally left me out of the featured section. Every partner was supposed to get exposure, but I wasn’t willing to be a meat rider like the rest, so they shut me out. The head partner manager made up excuse after excuse to justify their blatant favoritism.

But it gets worse. They actually tried to viewbot my channel-to make it look like they were promoting me. Their head partner staff claimed he needed a “30-minute head start” before promoting my stream. That’s not how real promotion works. A tweet, a front-page feature-those are instant. So what was he really doing? Giving bots time to roll in. I saw right through it, and when I started questioning things, he ignored me.

Meanwhile, his staff acted like children, personally attacking anyone who didn’t suck up to them.

TheJoker and Sponge: Two-Faced Fraudsters

I remember back in 2023, I was in a Discord call with TheJoker and Sponge- both known viewbotters. They mocked Rumble, called it trash, and hyped up Kick. They even questioned why I was still on Rumble. Fast forward, and now TheJoker is Rumble’s biggest meat rider.

Why didn’t he want me on his stream to talk about what really went down? Because he’s a fraud. He was trash-talking Kick for handing out partnerships, yet that’s exactly what he did with Parti-handing deals to his inner circle before getting kicked out of their staff. And of course, he lied about it, claiming he “left.” No one just leaves after that much effort. Something happened, and he’s scared of getting sued.

I have all the receipts. They can lie all they want, but proof doesn’t lie, Rumble 😉.

Rumble's Shady Partner Program

I met all the requirements for my checkmark. I have the email to prove it. But now, they’ve locked verification behind a paywall. Imagine having to pay just to stay in their partner program. Who falls for that? Oh right- clowns like TheJoker, who flip-flop between platforms, viewbot wherever they go, and play the victim when called out.

He got kicked off Kcip for viewbotting (among other things), ran to Parti and lasted two weeks, then jumped to Rumble-where he’s now kissing up hard. This is the same guy who made a video on X calling Dr Disrespect a pdo, and now he’s pretending to be his biggest fan just to fit in. And the same idiots who followed him before are still eating it up.

If someone has a history of flip-flopping and lying, why trust them now? Zero self-awareness.

Rumble’s Gaming Takeover? More Like a Fumble.

What kind of platform makes creators pay just to stay in the program? Even YouTube doesn’t do that. I streamed for hours every day during my 30-day partnership and made just $500. That same effort on Kick? I’d be making way more.

Rumble’s so-called “takeover” is actually a fumble. They’re in 7th place for a reason. Their gaming section is full of dead chats because they’re botting their own creators. Even some of their political streams have dead chats.

And then, they shadowbanned me. I’m not even searchable on rumble. And I’m not the only one. Just check the testimonial to people: https://www.trustpilot.com/review/rumble.com

Another creator had to wait a whole year to get paid, and they weren’t exactly nice to him either.

Rumble Encourages Harassment

Rumble doesn’t just allow viewbotting-they encourage it. Their fanboys harass anyone who speaks out. Look at TheJoker-he’s openly viewbotting on Rumble, and their staff doesn’t even care.

He used my Rumble partner email to stir up drama with Kick and make them jealous, then deleted everything that could expose him.

Too bad for him-I’m always ten steps ahead. I took screenshots. I know exactly what kind of liar and opportunist he is.

The Bottom Line: Rumble is a Scam

Rumble is corrupt. Their staff is unprofessional and biased. I’ve had my issues with Kick, but never since 2022 have they spoken to me with the same level of disrespect that Rumble staff has. A scam, built on lies and fake numbers?

The Bottom Line: Rumble is a Scam

Let’s get one thing straight: Rumble doesn’t care about creators. They care about controlling the narrative. They claim to be a "free speech" platform, but anyone who dares to expose their shady practices gets silenced. The hypocrisy is thick. They’ll delete your channel without hesitation if you speak out, even if you’re a creator who’s been there for years. If they delete my account, it’ll be an obvious statement about their true intentions.

It’s not just a theory—real people are losing their channels without warning. Active, inactive, doesn’t matter. They get erased. Rumble throws stones at YouTube for doing the exact same thing, but guess what? They’re no better. They’ve built their entire platform on pretending to be the “free speech” haven, but behind the scenes, they’re silencing those who expose the truth. Classic double standard.

Let’s talk about tactics: Rumble doesn’t just delete accounts—they send their army of minions to mass report and attack creators on other platforms like YouTube and X. I’ve been targeted myself—shadowbanned and banned just for speaking out. That’s the type of manipulation they’ve got going on. It’s not about truth or transparency; it’s about protecting their reputation at all costs.

Then there’s LumpyPotato and SilverFox—Rumble’s poster children. Let’s be real, these two are the embodiment of everything wrong with the platform. LumpyPotato fakes a pro-gaming background (he’s nowhere near what he claims to be), and SilverFox? The guy plays the victim while using his wife as some bizarre marketing strategy. But what really stands out is how their numbers are artificially inflated by Rumble. Viewbotting is the name of the game here.

You think those big view counts are real? Think again. Rumble is propping them up, pushing fake engagement. Their chatrooms are silent unless the streamers themselves are talking, and the followers they have are fake too. The only reason LumpyPotato ever got a raid from Doc is because Rumble's staff is pushing them. Without that behind-the-scenes help, these guys wouldn’t even have an audience. They’re not gaining real subscribers or real followers-they’re just riding the coattails of fake numbers.

You know what else is hilarious? The copycatting. These guys are so unoriginal, it’s pathetic. They straight-up copy my content-whether it’s the games I play or the style of my streams. They always jump on games I’m playing, almost immediately after I start. It’s lazy, it’s tacky, and it shows just how little creativity they actually have. And don’t get me started on the thumbnails they use-cheap, uninspired, and straight-up lazy.

I called out LumpyPotato for his so-called "millions" of views. You know what happened? He instantly hid his subscription tab on rumble like coward that he is. That’s right, the guy with “millions” of views on rumble and supposedly a massive following couldn’t even show how few subscribers he actually has. The numbers don’t add up. It’s clear as day. He’s not gaining any real traction. But none of this matters to Rumble- they want to create the illusion of success, no matter how fake it is. He also went his way after get reject by epic and Ubisoft he went bought some following on X just get into that epic partnership because rumble was not even on their list so he used X since X dummy don't check people that botting their followers.

Here’s the truth: without Rumble’s constant pushing and viewbotting, these so-called creators wouldn’t have anything. The fake views, the followers, the raids-they’re all fake. It’s all manufactured by Rumble staff. They’re not growing organically; they’re artificially inflating everything, and the whole platform is built on that lie.

But here's the kicker: I’ve got the receipts some i have post on here onmy blog on the viewbotter creator on their platform they feature. I’ve got all the proof, and I’m dropping it soon. Rumble is a fraud, and everything they’ve built is a house of lies. The truth is coming, and when it hits, it won’t be pretty for them. Stay tuned.

Xo shay

[iamshay]

Arranged Marriage vs. Forced Marriage: Know the Difference

GIRLS news flash for y'all dummies. Whom confuse these two.

A lot of people hear "arranged marriage" and assume it means being forced into something against their will. But that’s not always the case. There’s a huge difference between arranged marriage and forced marriage, and it’s important to understand what they actually mean.

Arranged Marriage: A Tradition of Family and Choice

In many cultures, arranged marriages are about families helping their children find a compatible partner. It’s not about control it’s about guidance. The key difference? Consent.

Your family introduces you to potential matches.

You have the right to say yes or no.

The final decision is yours.

Many people who enter arranged marriages do so willingly because they trust their parents’ judgment and believe in the idea of marrying someone who shares their values, culture, and goals. It’s a collaboration, not a command.

Forced Marriage: A Violation of Rights

Forced marriage, on the other hand, is when someone-whether a parent, relative, or society-pushes a person into marriage without their consent. This is wrong and illegal in many countries. No one should ever be forced into a marriage they don’t want. Signs of forced marriage include:

Being pressured, manipulated, or threatened into marriage.

Having no say in the matter.

Feeling scared to say no.

My sisters had arranged marriages, but they had the choice to say yes or no. They chose yes because they trusted my dad and it turned out he were right. The guy shared our values. and they have kids with the guys they married with. They amazing brother in law.

As a father, his role is to make sure his daughters marry into the right family-one that shares the same values. Parents have better judgment because, let’s be real, women can get blinded by love and miss the red flags. WELL, DUMMY, your father sees right through the guy!

"Not Just Tradition: How My Father Shaped My Marriage Path"

I've had guys asking for my hand since I was 17. My dad always said no. "No, she needs to focus on her studies." Even after I finished school and was ready, none of them impressed him, and he didn’t approve. My dad is a very God-fearing man who doesn’t like scrubs or degenerate men. His standards were high, and he expected a lot from any man for me. He wanted someone who thought like him. He didn’t like anyone with a closed mindset, who thinks a dysfunctional family is a flex when it’s actually a huge loss. He wanted a man who would be loyal, with eyes only for me, nobody else. NOT even death do us part. Just like how he and my mom were in their marriage, he wanted the same for all his children. I was never forced. It’s simple: the men who came asking for my hand had to go to the man of the house. This practice exists in Christianity too, not just in Islam. A lot hoes dont understand ideal on arrange married. The woman has to say no. Their dad give their input and say this man is this way and good or not. So my father knew my brother in law family and also a lot his friend speak highly of them. So its not just easy and what he background check them like freaking Spy or something My dad was in army nobody would dare fool him or lie he had always a way find the truth about them. Still this day there guy from far distance family last time my mother told he still waiting for me. LMAO.

My father had a lot of daughters, and he raised us all well. Everyone was waiting to get one of his daughters for their son. Even now, my mom’s friends are asking about my sisters. One day, she was at my place with two of her friends and one of them said to my mom, "Let’s match my son with your beautiful daughter." He was actually super handsome too; she showed us pictures of him.

A lot of us are taken, but I’m the one (and 3 of my sisters) who are still available, so they keep trying, LMAO.

I’m over here like Neo from The Matrix, dodging them all like bullets. 🤣🤣 Stay away from me. You ain’t filling my dad’s shoes-you’re not for me. That’s all I expect from a guy: he has to fill those big shoes dad left behind in every aspect of life.

xo

shay

[iamshay]

Why I Only Post Selfies (And Why That Bothers Some of You)

I take selfies. That’s my choice. And yet, every day, I get dudes asking, “Why don’t you post full-body shots?” The answer is simple: I’m not thirsty for attention like some girls who think their only value is their body. That’s not me. Y’all can settle for just my selfies.

I don’t live for validation. If my husband wants to see all of me, that’s for him and only him. Yes, I’ve taken full-body pictures, but you won’t catch me flashing my body for likes. Unlike most of what y’all simp over, I was raised with morals.

And let’s talk about these so-called "red-pill" men. They spend their time complaining about how women are “selling themselves” for attention, yet they’re the first ones in my DMs crying because I don’t. The irony is wild. You claim to hate these “304s” (y’all’s favorite word), but those are exactly the types you chase. Then you turn around and try to gaslight women with self-respect into thinking they need to do the same. Nah, I’m good.

You just exposed yourself. Acting all high and mighty while whining like the same dudes you claim to hate. Complaining that I’m not thirst-trapping for views like the girls on X or streaming sites? That’s an easy way to get attention, but I don’t need it. I actually respect myself.

And let’s be real—some of y’all don’t even want grown women. You want girls who started posting like that at 15 or 17 because you’re afraid of real women with morals and standards. You can’t handle a woman who carries herself with dignity because it reminds you that you have none.

So don’t come crying to me when you’re the one chasing the hoes. And definitely don’t try to turn real women into what you claim to hate. I was raised with values, in a stable, loving family. Unlike y’all, I don’t contradict myself every five minutes.

Some of you love to say, “If she did this, she’d get more views.” Newsflash: I’m not here for views. I’m here because I have something to say. I don’t need to use my body to be relevant. The values my parents instilled in me are worth more than any amount of online clout.

Just because I don’t wear a hijab doesn’t mean I’m not a God-fearing woman. I respected my father in life, and I respect him now that he’s passed. I would never disrespect his legacy by throwing away the principles he raised me with.

And before y’all ask-no, my body is not for public consumption. My full nude? That’s for my husband’s eyes only. He’ll be the first and only one to experience that. So all you get is a cute selfie and a modestly dressed Shay. Deal with it.

If that’s a problem, go chase the same 304s you claim to despise. Clearly, that’s what you really want. Just don’t come crying to me about what I don’t do. The good cookies? They’re reserved for my future husband.

And let me add one more thing...

My future husband can walk with his head held high, knowing he has a wife with zero shameful history. No OnlyFans, no nudes, no half-naked pictures floating around online. Meanwhile, millionaires and billionaires out here are constantly getting clowned for being with women who have a messy past. That’s a huge L for any man with a wife or girlfriend who’s got skeletons in her closet.

But my man? He’s winning. He found a woman with real self-respect, no past to haunt him, and nothing to be ashamed of. He can flex on me, and guess what? It checks out. Nobody can say a damn thing.

xo

shay