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I hope I live until I die

When death pokes you in the ribs As a rule I don’t respond to No Caller ID. But for some reason that afternoon I did. I immediately regretted doing so. It’s very serious, said a foreign sounding voice. Your heart is only working at 25-30% efficiency. You need to come in immediately for a scan. We’re going to put you on four different medications. You’ll need to take these for the rest of your…

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Everything but the grill

An interview I did back in 2018 with former two-time heavyweight champion George Foreman. Well worth the price of a transatlantic phone call.

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Stealing Sgt. Pepper

Reblogging this. It’s an old one. Almost 10 years old. One of the difficult things about having kids – in my case having one kid – is being forced to defend immorality. Specifically, my own immorality. This morning while walking my soon-to-be-twelve-year-old-daughter to school I took it upon myself to get all misty-eyed and nostalgic. We were talking about music: and my sentimental tears were…

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Poem

Some may have blamed you that you took away The verses that could move them on the day When, the ears being deafened, the sight of the eyes blind With lightning you went from me, and I could find Nothing to make a song about but kings, Helmets, and swords, and half-forgotten things That were like memories of you—but now We’ll out, for the world lives as long ago; And while we’re in our laughing,…

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On the nature of betrayal

On the nature of betrayal

And this type of reaction, I will learn, is in the very nature of betrayal. This is what betrayal can do to a person. Because after you discover that the one you trusted more than any other in the world is capable of such profound deception it is inevitable that you will seek out further examples of equivalent duplicity. And in doing so every memory that you share or have created with this person…

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The Queen is in the altogether

The Queen is in the altogether

More often than not it’s been to my detriment that I happen to have been born with a personality that naively tends to question everything. Rather like that little boy in the Hans Christian Anderson story who refuses to deny the evidence of his own eyes, I tend to blurt things out without thinking if they don’t make sense to me.  I got myself into trouble in junior school, for example, when one…

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Showreel

https://vimeo.com/734979242 A short showreel of some of the music I’ve produced recently. If you want to hear more there are another 350+ available to download for free at https://sidetrax.co.uk or https://soundcloud.com/user-149883042.

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New watercolour

I’m back painting a little more regularly for the first time in about two years. This is one I did last week of my daughter, Sofia. She was about 3 at the time. It’s one of my favourite photos of her.

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First watercolour in two years

First watercolour in two years

Well… We’ve all been busy, haven’t we?

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Sorry seems to be the easiest word – what a real apology looks like

Sorry seems to be the easiest word – what a real apology looks like

Too many people think that simply mouthing the word ‘sorry’ is enough to absolve them of their sins and let them off the hook – no matter how horrendous the things they have done. Want to know how a real apology should look? I’m linking to this excellent article from the Chumplady website, which explains things in her usual brutal but succinct…

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For Kate to read

For Kate to read

Put this up just for Kate to read. So don’t bother reading it if you’re not Kate. Prologue For anyone out there interested (and I’m not entirely sure that even I’m that interested) I visited my therapist for the second time this week. (Although I don’t know why I’m calling her ‘my’ therapist; she certainly doesn’t belong to me.) Once again I didn’t learn very much from her (does one go to…

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This is how you can send spam emails denouncing the war to Russians

This is how you can send spam emails denouncing the war to Russians

This is the address you need to go to in order to send spam emails denouncing the war to 100s of Russians. Just follow the instructions on the site. https://mail2ru.org

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5 things you need when leaving a cheater

5 things you need when leaving a cheater

https://www.chumplady.com/2022/02/5-things-you-need-when-leaving-a-cheater/

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Sue Gray Report

INVESTIGATION INTO ALLEGED GATHERINGS ON GOVERNMENT PREMISES DURING COVID RESTRICTIONS – UPDATE 31 January 2022 This page intentionally blank 2 INVESTIGATION INTO ALLEGED GATHERINGS ON GOVERNMENT PREMISES DURING COVID RESTRICTIONS – UPDATE On 8 December 2021 the Prime Minister asked the Cabinet Secretary to carry out an investigation into allegations reported in the media relating to…

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Middle-Class tosh from The Guardian

Middle-Class tosh from The Guardian

Utter tosh such as this piece in this week’s Guardian makes my blood boil. No matter how ‘bad’ a relationship is there is never any any excuse for sneaking off and secretly rubbing your genitals against another person’s genitals. Particularly when statistics tell us that in almost all cases the partner of the person happily getting their genitals rubbed is blissfully unaware that the…

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What is an apology?

What is an apology?

Interesting debate here on what actually constitutes a real, genuine apology. Like the song says, it’s More than Words. https://www.chumplady.com/2021/12/he-apologized-now-what/#comment-668804

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Things people say…

As the recipient of exactly this comment, today’s Chump lady post took me back to the dark days of three years ago. Well worth a read: https://www.chumplady.com/2021/12/being-compared-with-an-affair-partner/#comment-668035