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FREEZE!! Can we stop pointing fingers and start doing something about it instead. Everyone is slinging shit but people need to rise above it, and if we see someone who can't we help them. 

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Are you still around?

Yes...

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I really need an opinion. I was talking to a friend about how I don't want to be obese and she told me I'm a closet fatphobic. I have fat friends and family members, and I love them all. I don't judge them or assume they're lazy or anything. But when I think of myself being fat, I can't stand it. I would hate it. Is this wrong of me?

At first I was going to say yes, but after a little thought, no. 

Try to explain it to her in terms of something else maybe. Like I would hate to dye my hair bright green but that you wouldn't judge anyone else for doing so. Or something like that. People have a hard time separating personal preference from greater opinion usually. 

Hope this helps!

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Facebook did a thing and I did not agree with the thing.

What I wrote: 

This is such BS. I'm the light blue, but guess what, I eat right and I exercise. Some people who are the red do the same. To all the people saying that one is less/more sexy than another: who frickin cares? Do yourself a favor and take care of yourself and just love the body you have.

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Let me get this straight: You complain about the teacher bring up obesity in your sports and leisure class and when someone suggests something you can do about it you say, “No thanks, I don’t want to look weak.” Honey, at university, depending on the size of the class it’s actually encouraged to engage your professor in discussion. Not only does it show you are paying attention, but that you are also self aware and assertive. 

One of my professors makes jokes about ADD but you don’t see me bitching about it on here. And if it does get to a point where it really bothers me, I’ll just talk to them and explain the situation. I know breaking that barrier is hard at first, but it will do wonders not only academically but in general as well. 

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Hi I just want to say don't listen to the people giving you shit and telling you that this blog isn't important. I'm a guy trying to get over anorexia and this is really helpful, thankyou so much :)

Thanks, and keep up the good work! I know it's hard. But the very fact you are trying is HUGE! 

If you ever need to just talk, the inbox is open. 

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your "read now" and "about" are full of bullshit hypocrisy. its cute what you're doing, but , you look real dumb.

Ummmm so stating how this blog is about me and my own body image and how I deal with things is "dumb" and makes me "full of bullshit hypocrisy". Newsflash, everyone is hypocrite. You know what though? I'm OK with that, I try to avoid it as much as possible, but we ain't all perfect. 

What might be more helpful than going around and calling people "dumb" would be to help them out, point out where they can improve. So if you can point out any instances then send me  new message. 

Also, off anon would be awesome. If you really are "afraid" then get over it, this is the internet, people are probably not going to come hunt you down or even give a rats ass who you are. 

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Just gently reminding a friend that body shaming goes both ways. Also, I find this is a good comeback when people call skinny people Skeletor because I think most people have no idea that Skeletor is not skinny. He's huge and muscly as hell.

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Someone is being a dick on FB. I'll post the convo later. I want to punch him in the face....

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I am sorry to say I find this tattoo absolutely disgusting. I do recognise the work put in, but.... As someone who has struggled with eating this I find this incredibly disrespectful. No, I can't stop people posting what they want, or getting what they want tattooed. But this is actually a trigger. It brings back horrible memories and takes me to a place that I never want to go. 

It just makes me sick to my stomach to think that this is permanently on someone's skin. 

"A moment on the lips, a lifetime on the hips."

It is the perfect reminder to be mindful of all things that grace my lips: food, drink, words, breath, etc.

Done by Jeff at Inksomnia in Alpharetta, GA. 

http://inksomniatattoos.com

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I wish I was naturally skinny :(

It's OK anon. 

Being naturally skinny is awesome, I'm not going to lie. But so is being whatever shape or size you are. There are pros and cons to every side it's just a matter of retraining your brain to look more at the pros than the cons. 

As people, we want to look for faults so we can fix things. I just think that's human nature. It takes a lot of time and energy to retrain yourself to think in a new way but you can do it. Just start by telling yourself to love and accept who you are. Even if you don't mean it at first you will some day. :)

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WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU?! 

I fucking love to cook and everyone I know loves my fucking cooking. FUCK YOU BITCH!

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i cant find if this has been mentioned on here but i wanna say it to you in particular. ive been mocked by family and strangers for my body, theyve snuck supplements into my food, ive been rejected romantically and have to make most of my clothes myself because of my size, people who believe in thin privilege think thats all ok because at the end of the day im thin as and thats all that matters. but thats exactly what my ed told me every day: everything is ok as long as im thin. WHAT THE FUCK

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Lot of the language is problematic titp. Not just "whore rips"

Thin) privilege is basically everything in the damn fashion industry I just want some fuckin jeans for less than $30. But I can’t get any that can go over my thighs or if they do half my ass is hanging out. Even in sweatpants this happens. Excuse you designers, but not everyone has a pancake...

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The thin privilege is oozing out of my textbook...

"Chandra: I don't see anything beautiful about a body like a pencil. Why do white girls want to have stick figures? I sure don't, and neither do the girls I hangout with. Guys don't like it either. The guys I know like girls to have some curves, some substance. It's more feminine." 

Yeah, I can really see the thin privilege there...

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Long-ish ranty thing about communications and TITP

So I'm taking an interpersonal communication class for summer session and I just finished taking notes on the first chapter of the book. As I was reading I couldn't help but relate some of it back to TITP and now I realize why I loath them so much (YES LOATH). Listen to this: 

One of the key things we need to competent interpersonal communication is to engage in a dual perspective. "When we adopt dual perspective, we can understand how someone else thinks and deels about issues. To meet another person in genuine dialogue, we must be able to realize how that person views [themself], the situation, and [their] thoughts and feelings." Then the book goes on to say, "we also need to understand and respect the other person's perspective." Guess who does none of this. This is the very reason no one, with any brains, takes them seriously. 

Then I continued to read and I got more of an "ah ha" moment. "People who cannot take the perspective of others are egocentric. They impose their perceptions on other and interpret others' experiences through their own eyes." This is spot on for TITP. Although they may say they are not "God" they act like it. It's their way or the highway so to speak. 

I could go on and bore you guys, because most of you probably don't want to read my interpretations of my text book, but basically my book is a guideline of what TITP does not do. I find it rather hilarious. I'm taking a class about interpersonal communication and how to do it effectively and TITP is a prime example of how it can all go wrong. 

Woooo for communications majors!!!

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Thank you do much for this blog. I get harassed online and in person because I'm underweight due to a medical issue I can't control. Even my best friends say things that hurt me. I'm really glad that there are people telling me it's okay to be on the thin side.

It's always Ok to be who you are. :)