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Fostering a Positive Mindset in Children: Essential Guidance for Parents

In this era of self-interest, where conversations, transactions, or other dealings are taking place, most people appear to be dissatisfied with the negative attitudes of others.

This negative attitude can manifest in lying, quarreling, benefiting at the expense of others, plotting, or deceiving.

The question arises: how is this negative attitude/thinking transmitted to children?

It happens when parents express negativity about someone in front of their children when they disagree with someone. When children hear all of this, they learn to have negative thoughts or attitudes towards anyone from here.

Thus, other negative attitudes also become part of children's personalities through society or parents.

Prevent negative thinking:

Spouses should not express each other's negativity in front of children. Nor should they engage in quarrels. It greatly affects the personality of children. They love their parents equally and consider them a unit and a strong support. When parents complain or express negativity about each other to the children, the children stop trusting both. Therefore, it is better to resolve your differences in the absence of children.

Do not speak ill of relatives, neighbors, or anyone else in front of children. If children see their negative behavior, prevent them from thinking negatively and tell them that at that time that person was tired, worried, or sick, so this "negative attitude" emerged from them. It is important to instill in children a hatred for inappropriate behaviors (negativity) rather than for that person.

Children often complain or make negative comments about their teachers, friends, or classmates. Caution is also needed here. Discourage the habit of making negative comments or complaints about children.

If there is indeed an important issue, listen to them, but do not form an opinion without knowing all the facts, and do not deal with your child's affairs with bias.

Efforts should be made to instill positive thinking and attitudes in children as much as possible. Preventing negative thinking and attitudes is crucial; otherwise, they become part of their personality.

Stop negative conversations. For example, phrases like "You are worthless... You always lie... You get low grades..."

To give positive thinking, the style of conversation needs to be changed...

For example, if you study hard, you will definitely succeed. I feel good when you consider my opinion. I feel confident when you tell the truth. When you help your younger sister, she feels happy... Above all, Allah is pleased with your behavior.

Efforts should be made to keep children in positive energy. Think positively, see positively, and learn positive attitudes.

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Good person or successful person!!!

The social fabric of every society revolves around a few concepts. Some are fundamental while others are secondary. However, all these concepts are interrelated in such a way that a change in one concept leads to a change in another. This change can be positive or negative.

When the solid environment of a society changes, human behaviors change, indicating that the central concepts or ideas of that society are changing. The problem with prepared societies is that instead of looking for the causes of the changes in the central concepts of society in society's central ideas, ordinary people look for them in social institutions that are themselves the products of those central ideas. For example, the ongoing crisis in our society is sometimes attributed to the instability of political institutions, sometimes to social slavery, sometimes to dependence on others in science and technology, and sometimes to the deterioration of the educational situation. This perception is common that if we correct the functioning of all these institutions, our society will start to resemble paradise. In my opinion, this is a simple, if not foolish, perception.

In my opinion, the cause of the ongoing crisis in our society is not the failure or malfunction of those institutions, but the real reason is that our concept of humanity has changed. We have rejected an ideal concept of humanity and adopted an imperfect concept of humanity, whether we admit it or not, but that is the truth. The debate on the concept of humanity is somewhat philosophical, but since some of my readers complain that my columns become too heavy, I will try to present this discussion in simple words as much as possible.

It is believed that in our society, the idea of a "successful person" has replaced the idea of a "good person." We need not good people but successful people. Parents, siblings, friends all aim to make society a seeker of successful people. A successful person is an ideal person.

Generally, when one central behavior of society replaces another behavior, it first rejects it before replacing it. Until it can provide a logical basis for its existence. But here in our case, this did not happen under the concept of humanity. The concept of a successful person replaced the concept of a good person but was not rejected. This is why there is so much mental turmoil here. It is human nature that one cannot remain mentally stable and healthy by being associated with two similar central concepts at the same time.

Here you can ask that we first said that the concept of a successful person has become prevalent in our society, while in the previous paragraphs we said that we are associated with both good and successful people. What does this mean? In fact, what I mean is that although practically we have accepted the concept of a successful person, but since this concept has not rejected the concept of a good person on philosophical or logical grounds, it is also present as a concept in our minds. The mental turmoil of our society is fundamentally caused by the tug of war between these two concepts.

The short story is that the concept of a successful person has become prevalent here. Here it is necessary to explain that by a successful person, I mean a socially successful person, in which the economic aspect is of fundamental importance.

The yeast of this successful person rises from competition and rivalry. The concepts of victory and defeat are born out of competition. In competition, someone's victory is born from someone's defeat, and someone's defeat is born from someone's victory. The winner is successful and the loser is unsuccessful, meaning the determination of the importance of a person is from victory and defeat.

You may know that when hockey started, the team that had the most physically powerful players used to win. The rules and regulations of the game had not yet been set. Therefore, the player who was physically strong used to push the players of the other team and score goals. But gradually, this game developed its rules. When the rules were made, the attention of the players shifted from strength to skill. Thus, craft was born in the game, but this process took time.

Since the game of success and failure is new here, its central principle is also strength. It is legal to push someone down and move forward. As Nadia Fazli says:

No one shows you the way here If you can fall and move forward, then go It is possible that after some time this game will also create its rules. But experience shows that in those societies where this game has also created its rules, even there the era of peace in human life has not come because fundamentally this is an inhuman game.

Now let's look at some other aspects of this issue. The issue of a good person being less or more good. There is no arrogance of victory or defeat in it. However, happiness and sorrow are obtained from the struggle for maximum goodness and failure. But this happiness does not come from someone else's defeat and this sorrow does not come from someone else's victory. The competition is with oneself, not with others. His thought comes not from conversation but from self-talk.

You will think that if you want to bring about change in your society, change your concept of humanity. Since I am not eligible to do so from any aspect, I request the learned scholars to please try to see if our society's "concept of God" and "concept of religion" are the same as they used to be? Or have we made a change in it too.

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The Future World and Humanity

In the way the world is progressing in the fields of science and technology, what will be the implications for humanity and this planet? Let's try to understand this. Firstly, we need to assess the changes happening on this planet. In the next hundred years, there will be a significant increase in the average temperature of the Earth and a rise in sea levels, in addition to changes in weather patterns. Coping with this changing environment will require dealing with severe shortages of human and animal deaths and food. The elimination of insects will affect all creatures, ultimately impacting human life, and the chain of human deaths will accelerate after a century.

According to research estimates, by 2050, the rising sea levels will cause many cities and islands near the sea to disappear from the Earth. The advent of robotic machines will result in the elimination of 50% of jobs, with every task being performed in a smart and autonomous manner.

Both robotics and technology will transform the nature of all industries, and there will be further advancements in drone flights, whether for civilian or military use, making human life easier. Human society will undergo a transformed society. Many languages spoken on Earth will become extinct and obsolete. Due to the advancement of technology, there will be an impact on human evolution, leading to changes in its structure. According to scientists' estimates, human race extinction will occur within a thousand years.

By 2025, according to a research estimate, there will be a 1.5% increase in the Earth's temperature compared to the pre-industrial era, and this will continue to rise unless addressed. The environment of 2050 will be very different from today's environment, with changes in education, income sources, and human living conditions. Due to scientific progress, means of income in the 21st century will be faster and more effective. Human means of income will be through rockets, providing better facilities for humans in space and becoming their new habitat. The dreams of the present era will become a reality in the next century.

Due to the advancement of scientific progress in medicine, there will be an impact on human health and lifespan, and diseases like cancer will become treatable. Patients will be able to receive treatment from doctors without leaving their homes, thanks to technology. The speed of computers will be many times faster than today's computers. With the advent of 3D printing technology, anything can be easily manufactured and molded according to its construction. Interactive holographic television will adorn homes by 2050, which can be activated with the press of a button on mobile phones, allowing for viewing 3D and virtual films.

In the current era, some jobs provide convenience with all information displayed in front of the driver's screen. In this era, students will no longer be seen carrying large bags for education; instead, they will carry tablets and laptops. All the syllabi of students will be available on them, freeing them from carrying heavy books. Touchscreens will replace blackboards, allowing teachers to create shapes easily. Future humans will strive to improve their defensive, mental, and physical abilities through technology, which will reduce the use of natural factors.

There are some positive developments in this human advancement, including the creation of new antibiotics and vaccines, and the establishment of democratic societies. However, when looked at negatively, a new era of nuclear weapons and fascism is also emerging. Environmental and societal changes indicate a fear of overcrowding by 2050, according to an estimate by the World Bank. Human evolution will continue as long as they continue to advance their race and protect it. Human evolution is affecting the current environment in three ways:

Increase in population rate,

Environmental changes, including smoke from burning petroleum products obtained from land and seas, and

Melting glaciers.

This is leading to deforestation, poor air quality, and the scarcity of clean drinking water. Human progress is showing its impact on the environment, such as changes in land construction, plant species, and the carbon cycle. Due to the increasing population and construction of buildings, there will be a shortage of agricultural land, affecting food shortages. Forests will start disappearing from the page of existence. According to scientists, this environmental change will lead to changes in human evolution and its structure.

Visible changes in humans, such as dense hair, large heads, and pronounced wrinkles, will occur. According to scientists' estimates, human race survival is visible only in such a vital environment for a thousand years. Otherwise, this race will be extinct even before that. Due to the earth's proximity to the solar orbit, the temperature will increase to an unbearable level. Significant changes are expected in the backs and necks of humans, and changes in the structure of their hands and eye sockets will also be visible.

And their structure will have undergone significant changes compared to the current human structure. There will be changes in the agricultural sector, and vertical farming will increase due to the scarcity of land. Tall buildings will be used for agriculture, and vertical farms and genetically modified crops and meats will be common. New fields of employment have already been introduced, such as space tourism companies, computer and genetic engineering fields, and experts in vertical agriculture. In addition, many other new fields of employment will emerge, while old fields will become obsolete. The world will be based on artificial intelligence, mobile cameras, and autonomous structures.

In the future, the focus of scientists' research will be on the moon and Mars. The world in which we live will undergo a transformed society after a century. Seasonal and temperature fluctuations will be more frequent and longer, leading to food shortages and droughts. Migration from one place to another will be faster, and the incidence of infectious diseases will increase. Environmental changes will occur rapidly. No scientist can predict the next century accurately; all these are speculations and scientific estimates.

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How did the marriage among the children of Adam (peace be upon him) become permissible?

Atheists demand logical reasoning for everything. They are asked only one logical question: there are so many rational benefits in the marriage of siblings, please provide logical arguments against it. But these people, in the meantime, mix ethics. On one hand, they twist ethics, and on the other hand, they demand to prove laws based on the ethics of the Quran with rational reasoning. Here, the rationalists have two kits installed, one for petrol and the other for CNG. Wherever they get stuck, they switch to the ethical mode, otherwise they are rational. It should be that they provide rational justification for opposing sibling marriage with the same intensity with which they present the rational justification for denying the Creator.

Examination of atheist arguments:

Atheists usually present this rational argument against immorality with a sister or mother that according to scientific research, there is a high risk of disabilities in children born from this act, etc. Therefore, this act became morally repugnant. But the problem with this argument is that the non-birth of disabled children here has been accepted as a good thing as a premise (and obviously separate evidence is required for this), if preventive measures are taken to avoid pregnancy, then according to this argument, there will be no disgust in such immorality. It is impossible to definitively determine goodness and disgust from reason.

Another reason given is that parents and society are displeased. The answer is that this seems to be happening because a society is being assumed where immorality of siblings is considered bad. But if a society is imagined where this act is common and everyone considers it normal, then there is no reason for parents to be worried. It is just like in our society, a father is worried about his daughter hanging out with her male friend, but in European societies, he is not worried. Those who don't fear God but fear society are not considered good, this is outright hypocrisy! Constantly inciting others against Allah day and night and being afraid of society? They should get married because every reason of reason is inclined towards it. They criticize us for sitting under social constraints and creating God under compulsion, they themselves do not marry under social compulsion!

They also say that we do not consider the marriage of siblings permissible in any way, but religious people believe that the children of Adam and Eve used to marry each other. In fact, such arguments are only made to evade the real question; this is not a rational argument for the impermissibility of sibling marriage.

According to us (religious people), the definition of good and evil is what God calls good and evil. If God has made the marriage of Adam and Eve's children permissible at that time, then it became permissible, and if later He declared it impermissible, then it became impermissible. We believe in every action of Allah with submission and obedience. Because our reason accepts the divine order, therefore we find disgust in the relationship of our daughter and son. The question is, for those whose reason does not accept this divine order, what is the pure rational reason for not marrying?

"To whom do you turn?" To establish a verdict (whether permissible or impermissible) on something through reason, it is necessary to assume a divine order beforehand, this is a limit of reason that must be recognized. The trick of the atheist is that they present their pre-rational divine order as synonymous with reason and thus try to throw dust in the eyes of the religious people that you believe in faith, we don't.

In reality, after eliminating the inspirational basis for ethics, a person is stranded in a desert where his reason is unable to guide him, and his reason seems equally limited here. The Prophet is the only hanging rope of God that when grabbed, a person finds the right path.

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Islam and the Enlightened Thought of Moderation

The religion of Islam is a comprehensive collection of beautiful ideas for the eternal and lasting well-being of humanity. Clear evidence of its universality is found in the uniform principles and system of conduct it provides for global humanity. No other religion in the world bestows such supreme qualities, ethical values, mutual respect, and principles of equality that Islam has embraced for humanity. Since Islam is a religion of nature and offers teachings in accordance with human nature, it is not unjust to call its teachings universal, meaning that from eternity to infinity, Islam is the shining beacon that dispels the darkness and heralds an infinite and boundless bright future.

All corners of Islam serve as a torch of guidance for adherents of all religions until the end of time. Islam is a great, moderate, and equality-based religion whose comprehensiveness is unparalleled. It provided an excellent system of conduct in the form of the Noble Quran and exemplified the practical conduct in the life of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). In the present age, we need to transfer the spirit of its teachings to the minds of humanity so that the world can become a place of peace, love, brotherhood, justice, and fairness.

In the current era, characterized by various ailments, humanity not only bears a physical blemish but also a deadly poison for humanity. Solutions to all these ailments exist, and these solutions can be found within the bright framework of moderation and balance that Islam promotes. First, we need to examine what concept of moderation and balance Islam holds, which is the best solution for all of humanity's issues. In this regard, the Noble Quran provides explicit guidance.

"We have made you a just community, a balanced community."

The Quran uses the term "balanced" to describe the Ummah (community) of Muhammad, which translates to "moderate" in English. This means that the Quran clearly defines the Ummah of Islam as a balanced and equitable community. This concept of moderation is not limited to a few aspects but represents the Ummah as a whole. It establishes the Ummah as a community of moderation and equality.

The concept of moderation in Islam is not confined to a few specific areas but extends to the entire society. It fosters transparent, pure, and just thoughts and decisions through mutual consultation. Moreover, the Quran encourages reflection on the creation, heavens, and earth, appreciating the craftsmanship of nature, and nurturing a bright and balanced mind.

The Quran seeks to instill a spirit of moderation and balance within individuals. By acknowledging the oneness of God and prohibiting following base desires, it urges individuals to look beyond their selfish desires and directs their attention toward an all-encompassing, supreme being. It establishes that only God is supreme, and all other humans are equal. It introduces the concept of striving for righteousness and establishes Prophet Muhammad as a model for humanity, providing guidance until the Day of Judgment.

During his mission, when the Prophet declared his message, people sought evidence. He provided evidence not through miracles, supernatural acts, or spontaneous events but by setting an example through his character, ethics, and actions over 40 years. His life demonstrated the highest values and morality. He exemplified truthfulness, trustworthiness, and commitment to promises. When he invited people to Islam, they recognized these qualities in him and testified to his character.

The Quran emphasizes the importance of consulting and mutual counsel, reinforcing the idea that society's decisions should be transparent and based on justice. Additionally, the Quran encourages reflection on the beauty and artistry of the natural world, leading to enlightened minds.

In the present, there are various interpretations and theories regarding moderation and balance, with some opposing and others supporting them. However, Islam's concept of moderation and balance, along with the mentioned facts and evidence, provides several guiding principles.

Islam is a religion of enlightened moderation. Its teachings are based on the highest human and ethical values of peace, love, brotherhood, and respect.

Islam promotes moderation and balance in all aspects of life.

The protection of the rights of minorities is a shining example of Islam's status as a universal religion of equality and humanity.

Islam teaches us to speak out against injustice, cruelty, ignorance, oppression, injustice, and discrimination, so that the world may adopt a system of equality and become a bastion of justice and fairness.

Islam condemns extremism, sectarianism, bias, and divisions at every level.

Terrorism and suicide attacks are the antithesis of Islam's principles, and they are synonymous with the unjust killing of humanity.

Islam guarantees the life, property, honor, and dignity of every individual.

Islamic teachings emphasize religious freedom and interfaith harmony, allowing every person to practice their faith in accordance with their beliefs.

Islam teaches us not to abandon our beliefs or interfere with the beliefs of others, promoting the beautiful principle of coexistence.

Islam, through its Quranic evidence and the example of Prophet Muhammad, instructs humanity in the battle of love and brotherhood.

The above-mentioned facts and Quranic evidence, along with the mention of the life of Prophet Muhammad, establish that Islam is a contemporary and eternal religion, guiding humanity to its well-being and teaching them to adopt these values practically. May Allah grant us the ability to implement these principles. Amen.

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The Crisis of Ethics in Society

The term "Society" refers to the collective of individuals, and each person is responsible for keeping their society pure and clean. They should contemplate how to eliminate impure and negative elements from it. When each individual is concerned about the reform and improvement of society, all members of society will be integrated into a pure and upright framework.

In our society, there is a severe moral crisis that has made people victims of waywardness, as they have abandoned the distinction between what is permissible (halal) and impermissible (haram), and have neglected to discern between goodness and evil. Shouldn't we think about this? The disorder prevailing in our society has reasons. Are we fulfilling our responsibility? If we ponder, we will find that we are not fulfilling our duty.

Islam has not only assigned the responsibility of self-reform to individuals but also extended it to the reform of their families, offspring, and dear ones. In this modern age of technology, numerous changes have occurred in our society, leading to the corruption of the younger generation. However, the blame for this corruption lies not only with modern technology and media but also with all of us. We are quick to criticize technology, modernity, and the environment, but we do not take any action for their improvement.

Our favorite pastime is to hold others accountable and shift our responsibilities onto others, putting all our faults on someone else's shoulders. We criticize technology, modernity, and the media, but we ourselves are not taking any steps for their improvement. We are excellent advocates for the rights of others, even serving as judges for their rights. Still, when it comes to ourselves, we become the best defense attorneys, preparing numerous justifications for self-improvement. We have a multitude of arguments in our minds to prove ourselves the best but, unfortunately, get involved in falsely accusing others of being infidels and evildoers.

Fulfilling our duty involves advising others near us. This is the only task through which we contribute to the societal reform with full consciousness. However, we have forgotten that actions speak louder than words. Societal reform is not possible until we initiate it from within ourselves because people pay more attention to your actions than your words. Until you improve yourself, you cannot lead anyone on the right path. If we can make ourselves better, rest assured, the entire society will automatically improve. The command of Allah Almighty is: "Save yourselves and your families from the Fire."

It is clear that we must first save ourselves and then preach to others. This is the essence that requires us to reflect and contemplate. We need to introspect to see if the mistakes others are making are also present within us. If, God forbid, it is within us, then the first priority is to rectify it, not to curse and criticize others. First, eliminate the mistake that we ourselves are committing. If someone is making a mistake, it becomes our duty to inquire with our conscience whether we, too, are guilty of the same. For the societal reform, we need to be wise, knowledgeable, patient, and adhere to Islamic teachings and prophetic principles. Only then can we truly integrate into the framework of a pure society.

Our religion, Islam, is true, and Islam has taught Muslims to assess their surroundings and be concerned about rectifying the prevailing issues. Islam is a comprehensive way of life encompassing guidance for every class, and there is nothing in this transient world that Islam does not provide guidance on. After leaving this worldly life, there will be the Day of Judgment, and we will go through stages of accountability and retribution. Hence, we must prepare our children for this retribution as well. We need to establish a foundation of education for them and instill values in their minds from childhood, so that they develop a strong faith and a disdain for sins. We should ensure that the recitation of the Holy Quran is maintained in our homes, and dedicated time should be allocated for discussions about Islam among family members. We must correct our own actions so that, if our children follow in our footsteps, they can be proud.

All we need to do is establish a strong connection with our true Master and surrender all our desires before the command of Allah Almighty. Our society is not on the path of reform due to distancing from the teachings of Prophet Muhammad, deviation from prophetic principles. If we align ourselves with the principles of Islam, follow the established principles of Prophet Muhammad, and sincerely adopt the principles of "enjoining good and forbidding evil," then we can certainly build a pure society. We should pray to Allah Almighty at all times for guidance to lead our families and loved ones on the straight path and for the strength to act upon it.