justanothergreb

[justanothergreb]

The moment you realise the reason you took such an instant dislike to certain people isn't just because you can spot a faker a mile off ("I'm so complex" - no you aren't) but also because my hypervigilent ass is picking up they have changed the behaviours of people I am close to and nobody should have the power to change a person or feel compelled to change themselves for anyone. It's a big no-no.

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While I am on my soapbox - new red flag/ick realised - people who try and ingratiate themselves into their partner's life by trying to be friends with their partners friends. No. They are not your friends and deep down they never will be. You do not need to be surgically attached to your partners every move or activity. If what that activity is also doesn't suit you or is not to your liking, fine, have an evening to yourself. Don't go along and be unhappy. Same goes for hobbies - what is your partners interest does not also need to be yours. You are two separate people who should also be living separate lives.

I feel like it's a way of making yourself so embedded that you have that opportunity or feeling of "you'll never get rid of me, your friends like me" when in reality it's just making a situation more awkward if/when the inevitable happens. Friendship loyalty quite often outweighs romantic loyalty and that's something a lot of people do not want to admit. You should not and do not need to be so involved in your partners life.

I've seen two people of late do this, one as recently as this weekend where they decided they needed to go along to their husband's day out with his (all male) friends and was the only partner there (she is in fact "best friends" with the wife of one of these chaps - and she was at home with their kids). The other's most recent endeavour was making ill informed jokes at an event where they were introduced to her partners' friends' new baby (if you could see photos of these lot as a group - yikes).

There are exceptions to this when you and your partner went to uni together or even worked together, but a lot of people meet outside of these parameters and will have separate groups of friends. You do not need to adopt these people as your own and also don't feel entitled enough that you are part of this group.

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I can't figure out which is more unhinged - someone who tried to get a reaction by going to a motorsport adjacent event or someone deciding to go to a local festival to specifically see one band who I have seen multiple times previously to get a reaction.

If people don't realise you don't get a reaction because I already figured out what you're up to and nothing satisfies me more than not giving you a reaction, I don't know what to tell you.

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It's Juneteenth yall. And I'm not letting this day go unmarked.

Black people fight for everybody. We stand in solidarity with women, lgbt people, poor people all over the world of every skin color and background. Every religion and nationality.

Today, stand with us. Be with us. Tell a black person you love them. Hug a black person (with consent). Ask that hot black girl out today. Make a black person smile. Black lives matter to everybody and you matter to us.

Stand with us on Juneteenth like we stand with you all year round, and I hope a happy Pride month continues for all of us

💝

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what are you wearing rn and is it representative of your style

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Just realised I could do some serious trolling tomorrow when I meet someone for a walk and coffee at our rivals HQ (their main campus sits in a massive park). Maybe a no context story should just appear...

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bring back tumblr ask culture let me. bother you with questions and statements

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Christ the realisation my pattern recognition is actually both not in my head and hideously accurate is quite scary.

Therapy also making me realise today just how utterly selfish my parents are and that the level of control they have/had but also how independent I actually am has properly shook me today.

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Therapist throwing me deep into the feels with thinking about the memories I have of my childhood home and me realising that I have no overwhelmingly positive or negative feelings toward it and the best part of it for me was my room. My space. But even i'm shocked at how ambivalent I feel thinking back about it. Also unpicked a little of my dad and unlocked some tears reminding me of the fact I never saw my childhood dog again after my parents split.

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For those lurkers invested in the social media patrolling (and before I disappear to enjoy a festival these next few days) behind the cut as its a long one and has a photos

Correctly predicted to M we would probably see the first proper signs of life around today/when I was at said festival

Everyone I spoke to brought up how odd it was we had seen nothing as it wasn't like him - and how everyone has actually been worried about him for some time

Pointed out myself and M had seen he was online more than not some days (very out of character - when he's occupied or enjoying himself, this man is not online), has been liking all work posts - and what's worse liking them on LinkedIn within half an hour of being posted. Who is going on LinkedIn in when on a holiday?

He's viewed all of my stories but ignored majority of work ones

Today's post was a very 'pick me, oooh look at us having fun we got tattoos while away' story. You'd think these two just got them while out where we live, not on a holiday and his partners choice has made everyone go 'is that [restaurants] logo?! Why did she pick that as a vegetarian?!'

The last conversation I had with him was about how bad an idea it was to get tattoos on holiday and how I was planning one for next week

They have a day left on this break at a fancy hotel on the Algarve - what you going to do if you can't sunbathe, go in the pool or sea or the spa?

Bestie has found this all hilarious and pointed out we have matching things from this area - behold our matching Portugese cocks. Always trend setting us pattern spotters 😅

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Eep may have just briefed in one of my more nerdy and impulsive tattoo ideas but we are about 70% of the way there and the excitement is rising!

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I want to see the fall of LinkedIn during my lifetime

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Today has been a day of so many revelations, I'm not sure I can sleep from the excitement.

What do you mean my bestie and I came to the same conclusion about people but via different routes? What do you mean M came up with a theory so bonkers that it almost looks like it could be right? What do you mean I was right and correctly identified hidden bank accounts on a bank statement and have given my other bestie ammo in her divorce proceedings? What do you mean I wasn't invited to agility training because the nature of my role means I am naturally an agile creature?

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Someone I went to school with has just announced she's pregnant with her second child. There will be an 18/19 year age gap between her children. We are in our mid 30s. She was with her first child's partner until around 30. My brain hurts.

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there's always this year (oscar/carlos, 34k, rated e, complete)

“Wouldn’t it be easier to pick a seat for next year,” Oscar says. “If you knew how it was going to play out? Who’s building a fast car, who’s developing a working engine?” “I–yes,” Carlos says, warily following Oscar’s movements. “Of course that’s–yes, of course.” “What if,” Oscar says. “I could show you?”

gorgeous header courtesy of the wonderful @prettydangrotten