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So... about that....

Just shaven, I look at myself in the mirror after my hair dries.

I can have a somewhat feminine face from the right angles.

I dunno how to feel. It was odd in the way it didn’t feel too bad.

I highly doubt I’m actually trans. Very unlikely. But makes me wonder. What if?

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It actually happened.

The monosexual and transgender dilemma.

Here’s a problematic (hypothetical?) situation I’ve come to realize with a conflict between these two concepts.

Imagine a couple. For this example let’s use a married couple of a heterosexual man and a “cisgendered” woman (quote marks explained further down).

The man is 100% certain he is straight. He’s not transphobic, sexist, nor discriminative in general, but he is entirely and purely straight. He’d be ok with marrying a trans woman if he loved her like he loves his wife in this example.

Now, years after being married, the wife transitions into a man. He is a trans man out of the closet. He has no intention of denying his true self and still loves his husband. Here lies the dilemma: there are two options.

Option 1: The straight husband has to redefine his sexuality. He now has to define himself as bisexual, even though he has no remote interest in the same gender other than his now-husband, conditional heterosexual/bisexual, etc. He has to hide, mask, or warp his true self for the sake of the relationship or his partner.

Option 2: The straight husband terminates the relationship. He is exclusively heterosexual and he has no interest in having a partner of the same gender. They may still get along, be friends, live together, but they are no longer a couple. Divorce is optional, but likely.

Option 2b: The straight husband denies his partner’s identity. In this case, the environment can feel/become toxic to the trans man and he is the one to end the relationship.

Either way, at least one person ends up in a conflict. Is there a good solution that solves the problem for both?

This post is merely intended for a thought process and discussion. I cannot say which is the right answer. I don’t know.

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Gee, thanks for calling my post funny. That was truly its intent and it really boost my confidence in my writing.

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I crave the day where I look at someone who is non-cis and my mind doesn’t first try to identify them for their biological sex as their gender.

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The monosexual and transgender dilemma.

Here's a problematic (hypothetical?) situation I've come to realize with a conflict between these two concepts.

Imagine a couple. For this example let's use a married couple of a heterosexual man and a "cisgendered" woman (quote marks explained further down).

The man is 100% certain he is straight. He's not transphobic, sexist, nor discriminative in general, but he is entirely and purely straight. He'd be ok with marrying a trans woman if he loved her like he loves his wife in this example.

Now, years after being married, the wife transitions into a man. He is a trans man out of the closet. He has no intention of denying his true self and still loves his husband. Here lies the dilemma: there are two options.

Option 1: The straight husband has to redefine his sexuality. He now has to define himself as bisexual, even though he has no remote interest in the same gender other than his now-husband, conditional heterosexual/bisexual, etc. He has to hide, mask, or warp his true self for the sake of the relationship or his partner.

Option 2: The straight husband terminates the relationship. He is exclusively heterosexual and he has no interest in having a partner of the same gender. They may still get along, be friends, live together, but they are no longer a couple. Divorce is optional, but likely.

Option 2b: The straight husband denies his partner's identity. In this case, the environment can feel/become toxic to the trans man and he is the one to end the relationship.

Either way, at least one person ends up in a conflict. Is there a good solution that solves the problem for both?

This post is merely intended for a thought process and discussion. I cannot say which is the right answer. I don't know.

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Just shaven, I look at myself in the mirror after my hair dries.

I can have a somewhat feminine face from the right angles.

I dunno how to feel. It was odd in the way it didn’t feel too bad.

I highly doubt I’m actually trans. Very unlikely. But makes me wonder. What if?

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I have no practical skills.

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Skillset:

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The essence of life

You probably were there, being in love. You know how it feels. And you also may had been here where I am. Feeling the solitude. I have been in a single relationship in my life, and now I'm not sure if what I felt was love. Maybe it was, and being alone made me forget, maybe it wasn't and it was just an illusion because I didn't know better. Year past. Maybe year and a half or 2 since we ended. Experienced crushes, but nothing sprouted from them. Too shy to confess, too afraid to face them after negative stuff happens. I feel this will be my life. Isolated, alone, on my own. I don't feel like someone that can be relied on emotionally. I don't feel like I can give more than my mere presence and emotions, while responding to someone else's. "Better to have loved and lost, than never had loved." I feel like I'm unable of the former, leaving me with the fear from the latter.

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i hear muslims all the time go "Islam is against terrorism!" but i never see any proof of it so

literally maybe u dont see it because your eyes are so far up your ass

murder is strictly forbidden in islam. “If anyone slays a person, it would be as if he slew the whole people: and if any one saved a life, it would be as if he saved the life of the whole people.” [5:53] and “Even if you stretch forth your hand against me to kill, I will not stretch forth my hand to kill you. Surely, I fear Allah, the Lord of the entire universe.” [5:28]

forcing someone into the religion/ harming if they are non-muslim is forbidden in islam “There is no compulsion in religion. The right way has become distinct from error.” [2:256]

engaging in aggressive war (as in not defense of own national security or other legitimate safety reasons) is forbidden “But if the enemies incline towards peace, do you also incline towards peace…” [8:61] also “Fight in the way of God against those who fight against you, but begin not hostilities. Lo! God does not love aggressors.” [2:190]

terrorism, or hirabah, is specifically pointed out as LITERALLY one of the highest possible sins in Islam, like literally the punishment for hirabah (rape, murder, robbery, ANY harming of national or individual security) is so terrifying in order to scare the people into not even engaging in terrorism in the first place google it its [5:32]

"sneak attacks"/ambushes are forbidden. Muslim commanders must give the enemy fair warning that war is imminent. The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) at one point gave 4 months notice to an opposing army.

the Prophet (pbuh) narrates “Do not be people without minds of your own, saying that if others treat you well you will treat them well, and that if they do wrong you will do wrong to them. Instead, accustom yourselves to do good if people do good and not to do wrong (even) if they do evil.” [Al-Tirmidhi] this speaks enough for itself

Allah swt said “O my servants, I have made oppression upon myself something impermissible and I have made it impermissible for you to oppress one another. [legitimate sourcing, recorded by  Muslim, Aḥmad , al-Tirmidhī]

“And do not let the hatred of a people prevent you from being just. Be just; that is nearer to righteousness.” [5:8]

bonus: if we’re getting into the technicalities of it, in islam not just anybody can declare war. war must be declared by the rightful leader of the nation, meaning since these terrorist groups are in no way leaders of their nations, regardless of everything above they are not allowed to call for and engage in war (aka mass murder of innocent peoples that they call war) anyways

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Darren Wilson just said he had a clean conscience over his actions. That he wouldn’t do anything differently. I literally cannot believe people would stand behind someone who not only killed a child but also shows no remorse someone who is proud of their actions.

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Reposting because , This is exactly what White Logic is.

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also can europeans please stop it with this “yeah, typical of america to be so racist” *shakes fist* judgemental and sideeyeing mentality because europe is equally as overflowing with institutionalised racism

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