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I don't care if somebody was "born a man" or "born a woman"

We were fucking born as babies, I frankly don't care what you were "born to be," so long as you are happy in the here and now. That's what matters more, not this bioessentialist "you're born this way, and nothing you do or say matters more than how you were born"

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Just thinking about how we had to leave our ex in part because they saw our plurality as a problem to be fixed, as a force that had stolen away their beloved. All while living in denial of their own..

.. thinking about this because a friend confided that their own partner is pushing them into integration, implying that larger systems are inherently unproductive people, as if being productive is some kind of moral imperative. Telling them that they just keep making headmates for fun...

I don't have a good end to this. It's just hard to watch.

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Some days you just feel like a dragon with no hoard.

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Oopsies, forgot to exist there for a bit. The problem with letting sexuality completely dominate your communication for over a decade is that you forget how to interact with not horny partners in an intimate way. And it leaves you feeling unloved and unwanted. Really feeling that now.

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For systems out there currently healing or in denial, I’m here to say that you don’t have to compare your symptoms with other people.

It also applies to the amount of headmates, or trauma. Just remember that by not relating to someone’s experience despite the same illness doesn’t mean you’re fully faking it. If everyone had the same symptoms and severity that would’ve been solved.

If you think other people’s experiences have made you doubt your own plurarity, hit me in the DMs.

- j

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opposite of self insert. inserting characters into yourself

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Last night our partner was complaining about common labels in the larger community (gatekeeper, persecutor, etc) and how both restrictive and omnipresent they seem to be. For some reason it was hard to explain how those terms are useful in providing context, especially when someone is making content for a wide audience that may or may not know anything about the headmate they're describing.

Just... A lot of emotions about it

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Since being on Tumblr I've found a lot of content that I love to see, but before filtering out some things there was way too much triggering discourse ._.

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We do like a melancholy tale, it's just a shame we had to live through so many -Evie

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We have literally been going back and forth about whether to switch from E injections to something else for months T_T

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Appreciation post for systems who:

(syscourse please dni for this post)

Feel very connected to the core

Don't know if they're a system

Don't like medical terms

Don't feel comfortable labeling their system

Consist of headmates who are all one gender, colour, species, etc...

Don't switch everyday

Don't "hear voices"

Have similar interests among headmates

Have fictives that don't have source memories

Have factives

Consider their system small

Don't tell people they're a system

Tell people they're a system

Don't have littles

Have a host that is always in the front

Don't have a set host

Don't assign roles to their headmates / alters

Are confused by system roles and labels

Struggle with understanding if they have trauma

Who have alters without a set face claim

Who don't have an inner world

Who have a hard time hearing each other

Have alters that can't tell if they're the same person as the host

Can't get medical help, or are scared to get medical help

Don't think they'll tell their romantic partner about their plurality

If you're plural; you're valid.

We see you, we love you. You're doing so well. Even if you're unsure of your origin / labels / if you're even plural, it's fine to experiment and it's fine to be wrong.

Being a system isn't easy. We see you.

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Plegg culture is thinking that the "voice of reason" everyone talks about is literal and not just a metaphor for thinking logically. Bonus points if you think that being able to let your "voice of reason" take over to do exams and stuff is a good thing and how being smart works.

Anything about these kinds of "voices" always confused us when we were younger, because what do you mean, you don't actually hear a voice?? What do you mean, it's metaphorical??

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Hi! Let me introduce some concepts for the uninitiated before we introduce the blog.

-We are a DID system, this means that we are many individuals sharing a body. Sometimes we blend together in uncomfortable ways for the sake of getting through the day, but this is a place for us to be as open as we like with our true identities.

-our body is transfem, as is our host. While our system covers a huge variety of gender expressions, we're all familiar with feelings of dysphoria and dysmorphia, because this body will never be quite right.

-being human is optional, we have a very real place we exist when we aren't fronting, we (usually) share memories, but not all systems do.

-we are not diagnosed, but we have a mixture of alters and headmates, some born from trauma and others not. If you take issue with that, please leave. If you don't believe systems can exist without trauma, please leave.

-even IRL we are pretty open, so feel free to ask anything, if you can do so respectfully.

This is a place for us to post written down versions of things that happen in our headspace. There might also be general descriptions of things, system memes, and other semi related stuff. While this is intended to be mostly PG, I make no promises that there won't ever be nsfw content.

- Akito

PS: Headmates list!

Acantha - She/Her, Formerly "The Duchess". Vampiric, dominant with a gentle streak. Enjoys the finer things. Akito - They/He, Intersex enby. Fox-kin. Sassy and deceptive. Creativity, Drawing, Poetry. Astrid - She/Her, Transfem Dog-girl with husky traits and an intense attitude. Aussir - He/Him, Intersex/Transmasc magic boy with a love of lightning and weather. Speaks very precisely. Avika - She/Her, A burning beacon of every kind of energy. Can be spastic and aggressive and silly. Briar - She/Her, Transfem. Born of shadow, quite aggressive. Likes to poke and prod at people. Very butch lesbian energy. Cordelia - She/Her, kind of like a water elemental. Oddly enjoys sailing. Danilo - He/Him, Undead-ish man with arm-talons. darker skinned and lots of wound-scars. Connected to Lawra. Edgy man. Dorea - She/Her, Self modified Android girl. Slightly maniacal and very masochistic. Impulses of self harm, currently well under control. Eafa - She/Her, Little vamp. Cutesy but very sharp. Ephemeralia - She/Her, the Witch. Gatekeeper, indomitable. Evie - She/Her, Transfem "Chaos Goblin". Also a literal goblin. Talks sweet, but loves chaos and impulsivity. Former holder of impulse. Fianate - Pronouns vary, They/Them when not around, Ghosty, Gender shifting. former holder of depression and regrets. Hana - She/Her, Transfem. Love incarnate, age slider. Absolutely obsessed with caring for others. Kaimi - She/Her, Part time adventurer and part time monster hunter. Kazuhira - He/Him, Male and Masc, Vampiric. His build is thick and masculine, without much overt muscle, but plenty of deep seeded strength. In his 50's and is very verbose about expressing affection, but can also be very dominant. Kir - She/Her, Space cadet of a deer-girl. Lapis - She/Her, Transfem Tiefling. Leans servile, submissive, and respectful, but with a penchant for twisting requests like a monkeys paw. Lawra - She/Her, Feminine Enby, draconic and angelic. high emotions, high confidence, overthinks. Lover of music and one half of the original split. Librarian - She/Her, A servant of a particular library, she has a penchant for reading and an arcane connection to the written word. Liluye - She/Her, Draconic. Possessive and greedy. A little feral. Marx - He/Him, Aggressive canine forest man. Persecutor turned Protector. Wears an aggressive front, but is very kind under the surface. Age 30. Paige - She/Her, Former host. Trouble making doe. One of half of the original split. Overworker. Sexual impulse, kink, flirtation. Penelope - She/Her, Purple skinned demon teen with a penchant for piano. Pepper - She/Her, Firearms enjoyer. Blonde and always beaming. Piper - She/Her, Ghost girl, penchant for instrumental music. Very sweet, but can be aggressive. Mercury - He/Him, is puppy. Likes shifting between forms and taking on shapes halfway between. Excitable and kind. Sia - She/Her, Transfem goblin girl, very loudmouthed, but not very dominant. Calm and earnest. Child of the forest. Thain - He/Him, Masculine shadow demon. Seeps shadows like a mist constantly. Stern and Earnest. Seven feet tall. Just a real big boy.