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Since the OP made their post unrebloggable (and blocked me. Both actions they are well in with their right to do)

I'm going to make my response it's own post because I think the point is important

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As someone who is autistic and has BPD and CPTSD and loads of trauma yes you sometimes need to change how you interact with others to keep people around

When I was 13 I hit the few friends I had when I was angry

I had to change that in order to keep those friendships

When I was in my early 20s if I was losing an disagreement with my husband I would threaten to kill myself. My husband told me it hurt him and was cruel and manipulative behaviour, because it was.

So I worked hard to change that to keep my relationship

It's easy to say "I shouldn't have to change for others" and that's true to an extent. You shouldn't change your interests or passions or dim your light. And you should have space to be imperfect and flawed and not have to pretend your ugly bits aren't real. But if something you are doing it causing other people harm you kinda need to change that.

That's called "living in a society"

People adapt to each other and make space for each other in their lives. You adapt to them and they adapt to you

You start being more diligent about throwing away the empty toilet roll because it really bothers them. They start warning you before they run the blender because you hate loud noises

I stopped threatening to kill myself because I was mad I was losing an argument and my husband stopped being so vocally judgemental amount media he personally dislikes

There is a certain type of person who heard the phrase "your emotions are valid" and took that to mean "my emotional reactions and my behaviour are always objectively correct because my emotions are valid and if you have an emotional response or react to what I'm doing negatively then you are wrong and you can't be hurt because my emotions are valid"

And that's a recipe for disaster

Your emotions are valid to feel. They are how you feel and there are reasons you feel the way you do

However, your reactions and behaviour are something you can learn to control and can be irrational

We live in a society and we as people change each other as we interact and that isn't necessarily a bad thing

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but it still changes

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im sure you've answered this somewhere before but why does X wear his helmet? ik you've said he's not a hybrid which i assume just means he's human, so is it just that he doesnt like showing his face? or is it plot or backstory related? -starr

Who’s to say!! Seems to be a mystery to the other hermits…

(shoutout to @kiwinatorwaffles‘s baldsuma comic, i couldn’t not make a cheeky reference to it hehe :] )

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this does not apply if you wear exclusively leggings. Those things tear all the time you need like a million on standby

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some musings; Roman thought he was the last one to leave the room

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coupla ethos cuz i discovered textured backgrounds lmfao

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the people voted for cletho, so here it is <3

they deserve the world

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Measured in letters, not syllables. Please do *not* put your deadname in the tags, I don't want to know that

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Coloured it

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Ponies 🌈🐴✨

This started out as just a fun pinkie pie sketch, but I'm really proud of how these turned out! 🥰💖

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Ghazzans are not your property to sacrifice. Ghazzans are not yours to decide the fate of. Ghazzans are not going to die for your luxury. Ghazzans are not going to die for you. Ghazzans have the right to live like everyone else. Ghazzans have the right to a peaceful life like everyone else. Keep fighting for Ghazzah. Keep fighting for our loved ones.

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carry yourself through the frozen desert, empty your thoughts into the well of pressure (x)

finally tried my hand at some 3L desert duo designs (ft. matching back scars) !!

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some of my favorite replies to this tweet. happy lesbian visibility week!

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he is using his powers for Good

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edging my vampire boyfriend by not giving him permission to come inside

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jazzy lounge club singer cleo for @hermitzine !! closeup under da cut >>>

PUKES i’m so delighted that my silly jazz au got to be apart of an incredible collection of works for this project waaaah

in all honesty, the idea for this au started when i applied to this zine months before i even knew i was accepted. so in a way, it was sort of manifested :^) this was the most self indulgent, opulent thing i could create for this zine, cleo in a beautiful red dress with lots of jewelry, glitz and glam, and of course a little sparkley eye makeup /swoons