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the chaotic urge to slip “good girl” into a casual conversation just to watch your reaction.

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Reblog if you have beautiful mutuals 🥰💜😍

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No! Not the whistling! I mean I understand, but still!

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Reblog it for:

Cinnamon rolls or breeding kink.

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Need to give her the sloppiest head ever, spit on her pussy then make her forget she has name besides princess.

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Remember guys if she’s being bratty, tie her to the bed with a vibrator on her clit and tell her she’s not allowed to cum. She will fix her attitude real quick or melt into the bed oh well

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Aftercare & why it’s not only important but ESSENTIAL

What is aftercare:       Aftercare is a form of providing comfort for your significant other, usually one who takes on the role of a submissive. It causes them to feel safe, and secure. It is a way to reduce the chance of Subdrop. Aftercare is common in the BDSM scene due to the intensity of the scenes or actions that take place. BUT it is also extremely important in the CGL community as well. 

    Using Aftercare after a punishment has been done is really important. It shows that while you had to punish them, you still love them! You still care about them and their needs and how they are feeling.

    It is also important to know that aftercare is needed by dominants as well, this is not something that is for subs only. Be aware of how your partner is doing before and after a scene or relationship experience. It’s important to be aware of these things to avoid a potential relationship damaging experience. 

     If you ignore subdrop or the needs of your partner, it is possible for them to lose interest. They will become distant. They lose their trust in you. They will begin to find less enjoyment in entering a scene or aspects of the relationship dynamic with you. 

Examples of Aftercare: 

Snuggling

Drawing them a bubble bath

Cuddles and a movie

Gentle caressing 

Just holding your partner

Giving them a bath

A massage

Using soothing lotions on bruises/marks

A short nap with your partner

Petting/soothing with words. (i.e. good girl/good boy/ you did so well)

Giving a treat (warm milk/tea/some goldfish, etc)

Brushing their hair

Watching a movie of your partner’s choice

Reading a book to them

Kissing their marks/bruises/wounds

Letting them know they’re safe

Wrapping them in their favorite blanket with their favorite stuffed animal

Ensuring their comfort item is within reach

Treating any potential injuries/wounds

Having a deep conversation/heart to heart

Reading them a story

Preparing a meal for you and them, ensuring they eat and hydrate

Answering questions they ask -remaining calm during it.

Ask how they are feeling and checking often

Validate them

Be emotionally available and understanding

For more information about aftercare check out these following links:

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Easiest way to explain healthy BDSM to a vanilla person who thinks it's wrong?

Imagine that you have a goal of getting in shape. After trying different diets and exercise programs, you find that you keep straying from them and inevitably you find yourself back at square 1.

You want it to be different this time, so you finally take the plunge: you hire a personal trainer.

You tell your trainer “ok, I have a goal to be able to run the Boston marathon by next year.”

“Ok”, says your trainer, “how much time do you have every week to devote to this, and are there any types of exercise you are unwilling or unable to do?”

“Well, I have an hour a day on weekdays and can make 3 hours on Saturdays and Sundays, and I have some shoulder problems so I can’t do too much upper body work and I’m unwilling to do stairs because I want to keep my knees healthy”.

So your trainer, working within those limits, draws you up a diet and exercise program, says “this is what I need you to do at minimum, and we’re going to start here work our way up”.

You start your program, and your trainer keeps you accountable. When you slip, your trainer reminds you of your goals and tells you how to make up for the missed exercise or the extra calories.

Now, the most important part of all of this is that even though the personal trainer may be the one giving the orders, ultimately that trainer works for you, not the other way around. And if that trainer steps out of line, you take your business elsewhere. You hold ultimate power, even if it doesn’t look like it in the moment.

Congrats, anon. You just described a power exchange relationship in completely vanilla terms!

Hope this helps!

-LMS

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“Be weird. Be random. Be who you are. Because you never know who would love the person you hide.”

— C.S. Lewis

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If you were at a restaurant and someone walked over and asked to sit with you and then started calling themselves Master or Sir or Daddy and calling you kitten or little one or some subbie nickname and telling you that you're a good girl and claiming they knew they were making you wet, etc etc etc

Wouldn't you leave as soon as you felt you could? Wouldn't you feel like it's deeply unsettling that this stranger thinks they can subtly dominate you already? Thinks they know you intimately enough to call you a pet name? Or even thinks they know what your turn ons are?

It should feel scary, because that's a lot of red flags. Interacting with doms who encourage that type of interaction through their anon inbox is really similar. It's not safe. They don't know you, and they're acting overly familiar with you to try to get you to open up quickly. Red flags galore.

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Music is my love language ❤️🎶

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I want to let you do such painful and overwhelming things to me that if someone saw the way I tense,

and scream

and struggle,

they would be very alarmed. They would say "Stop! You're hurting her!" They would see the pain on my face as I endure your torments and they would think- She doesn't want that!

But I do

We both know that. We both crave this release. I want to see how much I can take. I want you to test my limits. I want you to feel shameless freedom at taking pleasure in my pain, because there's nothing wrong with wanting to do this. I think it's beautiful, the way you want to leave marks on me. Achey little memories for me and you to admire later. I want you to enjoy the process. I love how you get turned on when you hit a spot just right and I cry out.

And afterwards, when we're spent and laying together, your hands and words soothing me, I want to kiss you, and tell you how much I enjoyed it. Put a hand on your face, and remind you that I chose to do this with you, knowing I could stop at any time- I chose every second of sensation. I'll stroke your body, and let you know that I still see you, all your love, your passion, your goofiness, your earnest heart, your sadism, your sweetness- all of that together is you, and that is who I love.

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Belt around my neck while you pound me into oblivion >>>>

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