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I'll never get over how depressing it is how most young girls are told their first time is supposed to hurt, how most teenage girls have a painful 'first time' and are just, expected to tolerate it and told it's completely normal and healthy and good. How callous the teenage boys they sleep with and give them bad painful sex are about causing these teenage girls pain and discomfort and even making her bleed from a chaffed or torn vagina. How many girls and young women push themselves into bad painful sex and tolerate it just because they're told that's normal and they need to. How fucking callous cis boys and men are to this, how cis boys and men just go "haha yeah sex is like pizza, even when it's bad it's pretty good!" because they didn't grow up being told they needed to tolerate pain and bleeding from sex, they didn't have to choke back tears of pain during their first time or first several times or during any unpleasant sexual encounter. I'll never stop being furious over how one sided sex is supposed to be in a patriarchal society.

I'll never get over how normalized coercion is. I'll never stop being furious how much I heard boys joking "50 no's and 1 yes is still a yes!" during my formative years, and hearing my friends talk about how they only had sex (that they hated and was painful) because their boyfriend wouldn't stop nagging them. I'll never stop being furious about all the coercion and pain teenage girls are expected to endure in their sex lives.

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Even if I didn’t have a solid plan, in the back of my head, I always assumed I’d kill myself.

Now I’m an adult and people my age have their lives in order and I’m stuck here, confused, because I never planned to be alive and I’m so far behind.

I feel like I’ll never catch up.

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Honestly the Dead Boy Detectives writers did something so unbelievably funny by interrupting a love confession with the confessing character being dragged to (super)hell and then immediately fixing it.

They really went RIP to Supernatural but we’re different.

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Being as Dracula Daily is starting up again in about three days, I think this is a perfect opportunity, as we follow along this year, to play the PG-13 game.

For the unfamiliar, the PG-13 game is as follows: you are allowed to insert one and only one instance of the word "fuck" into the text as written. For maximum impact, where do you put it?

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genuinely think charles is more repressed then edwin

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Catwoman: [flirting while wearing a backpack full of stolen art] always a pleasure to see you Batman

Batman: I know you robbed the exhibit. Put it back

Catwoman: [pretends to think it over] you know… I don’t think I will.

Batman: fine. Just one thing before you go.

Batman: [steps aside to show Robin (Dick Grayson), 8 years old] this is Robin

Batman: he’s been asking me to go to the exhibit since it opened but I haven’t had the time

Batman: I finally had some time off this weekend, so we were going to attend on Saturday.

Batman: he hasn’t spoken of anything else all week.

Robin: [blinks sadly]

Catwoman:

Batman:

Catwoman: [wavering] I’m not going to just-

Robin: [in a watery voice] it was all I wanted for my birthday

Catwoman: [throws her hands up] FINE I’LL PUT IT BACK

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I was at a courthouse once, and saw an indigenous australian woman in a dressing gown very carefully and gingerly making her way down the steps outside the courthouse, surrounded by family who were helping her down the stairs. We asked if she was OK, because she looked awful. She looked like she should have been wrapped up in bed with blankets and hot soup, not on the steps of a courthouse.

One of her family told us that she had given birth yesterday evening, but that Child Protection services had taken her baby away with no warning, claiming that she wasnt prepared to look after him. What had happened, is that she'd literally only just given birth -- hadn't even passed the afterbirth yet, is holding her blood-coated, crying, newborn baby to her chest -- and a nurse asked what her feeding plan was. She was tired from the birth and distracted by the brand new baby in her arms and thrown off by the timing of the question, but still, she managed to answer, and said she planned to breastfeed him whenever he was hungry.

Well apparently that wasn't enough of a plan for the hospital staff, who reported her and claimed that she was unprepared to look after the child, and claimed that had no social supports, and that the baby was at risk if left with her. All because a brand new mother, 30 seconds after giving birth, didn't have a PowerPoint presentation ready to go that cited the timing cycle she would feed her kid on, and instead simply said that she would feed him when he was hungry.

Child Protection services showed up, took her kid, and she was told to show up to court the next day to contest custody if she wanted her baby back.

So a woman who had given birth less than 24 hours prior was forced to rally her family and show up to court to prove that she a) had a feeding plan for the child, and b) had enough social supports to justify reclaiming her baby.

It was one of the most appalling things I'd ever seen. I don't even know if she won her case. They didn't know at the time we saw them, and after that brief interaction on the stairs, i never saw them again. I sincerely hope she got her newborn baby back.

That was about 5 years ago. And the exact same kind of thing is still happening today.

News broke today from a South Australian whistle-blower of the appalling treatment new mothers frequently receive, including hospital staff taking the baby away from the mother "for medical tests," only for the mother to then be told, with absolutely no prior warning, that the baby was not going to be returned to her.

Here's the article, and here are some excerpts:

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Clone Wars is a good show

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But There's No One Else That I Would Go To Hell For

murmur by cameron barnett // dead boy detectives (2024) // ocean vuong // dead boy detectives (2024) // to be haunted by jessie lynn mcmains // dead boy detectives (2024) // marjane satrapi // dead boy detectives (2024) // adonis, from selected poems (tr. khaled mattawa) // dead boy detectives (2024) // a field guide to getting lost by rebecca solnit // dead boy detectives (2024) // selected poems by leonard cohen // adonis, from selected poems (tr. khaled mattawa) // dead boy detectives (2024) // talk by hozier // dead boy detectives (2024) // everything is illuminated by jonathan safran foer

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i just don’t think “is dude gender neutral” is that productive of a conversation because a word can be gendered and still used regardless of gender. i call my male friends girlypop and my female friends man but i don’t think anybody would agree that those are somehow not gendered terms.

the real question is just “would you be willing to apologize and stop using a word if somebody told you it made them uncomfortable?” the answer to which in a surprising number of cases is no mostly because it seems like overall ppl r more upset abt getting accused of transphobia than they are abt being transphobic

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I love the old timey phrase "you forget yourself". bro that was so impolite like do you even know who you are rn

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A call for attention!!

Guys, the numbers for "Dead Boy Detectives" are bad, which puts us in the threat of cancelation.

This is a show with primarily non-white cast, of various identities with explicitly queer storylines. No queerbaiting or "maybe we can hc them as x or y". Real stories.

It's a fun show, too, to say the least. I know it is discouraging to keep talking about numbers, but the reality is that we need them.

Binge the show, tell your friends, tell your family, play it in the background as noise, let's rack up those numbers.

We and every queer kid after us deserve to see stories about them told in the most fantastical, spooky setting.

It would also be a wonderful plus to see Desire and the Cat King together, would it not?

+ look at them. Why would you disappoint them?

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i need Edwin to go feral over someone trying to hurt Charles in season 2

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Crystal: Do you ever want to talk about your feelings, Charles?

Charles: No

Edwin: I do

Crystal: I know, Edwin

Edwin: I went to hell

Crystal: I know, Edwin

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“what does it hurt to save one living girl from a supernatural threat” and it inadvertently got niko killed….. oh im going to be sick

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Ohh look, it's the dead boy detectives!