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From an asexual, that person isn't wrong.

You both are. You don't speak for all of us, give your boot licking a rest.

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I’m just going to leave this here…

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cis striaght aces who feel hurt by lgbt people telling them they don’t belong in the spaces of those they oppress deserve to feel hurt

So ace people should be told that their experiences of abuse, oppression and erasure don't matter because some members of the LGBTQ+ community don't care and haven't actually researched into it?

Because you know what the funniest thing is. You're wrong, because A (for asexual) is included in the acronym and asexual people are typically included in LGBTQ+ spaces.

Die mad.

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isn’t it amaIng that acephobia and heterophobia are just like the same thing.

they both are results of online jokes, they both cause nonlgbt people to whine about oppression, and theyre both solved by logging off of tumblr dot com!

wow!

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Don't @ me childhood please

Hey reminder that if throughout your life (mostly childhood and teen years) you’d “choose” your crushes and p much just decide who to have a crush on based of facts and opinions, chances are you’re probably arospec

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I'M DOING AN EXPERIMENT

To prove something to a friend, please

REBLOG IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES

LIKE IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS DON’T BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES

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Ace and aro people deadass show you a lot of ace/aro go through 'medica treatment' for our asexuality, because without self identifing (and sometimes even with) we're considered mentally ill. We have little medical protection.

And y'all sit there and go... 'thats not enough oppression because you can just lie and say you're straight, try again next year'.

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Hello stranger I need advice pls cause I’m slightly having a break down thank you

What advice do you want?

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I was sexually assaulted for being asexual, I was also threatened with physical assault because I am asexual. If I was not asexual those two things would have not happened to me. This is not a debate; this is not a discussion.

Bur because I know you don’t like listening to asexual voices Imma do this a different way.

Bogaert is one of the leading academics who have researched and written about asexuality, his publication ‘Understanding Asexuality’ (https://www.amazon.co.uk/UNDERSTANDING-ASEXUALITY-Bogaert-Anthony-1963/dp/1442201002) highlights that asexual people are somewhat invisible in modern society, they usually don’t draw attention to themselves and there is little research on them and their identity. His underlying message in his book is that asexual people keep under the radar because there is little support or community for them, they typically keep to themselves to keep away from the criminal and mental health departments which typically demonises them.

I would like to back this up with an article still available in the US National Library of Medicine, National Institutes of Health, called, ‘Asexuality: an extreme variant of sexual desire disorder?’ (https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/25545124) written in 2015 (after Bogaert wrote his book Understanding Asexuality in 2012) Brotto, Yule and Grozalka conducted a study of 231 asexual men and women. They concluded that Asexuality was a variant of HSDD and should be considered a sexual desire disorder. This was five years ago. The institute of health publishes articles that they believe are reliable, doctors, medical librarians and researchers use this collection to aid their own research. While yes this argument has been contested, there is still areas of the medical felid which believes this argument still.

While the DSM-5 have, in some cases, recognized Asexuality, it is only under specific situation (https://labs.la.utexas.edu/mestonlab/?page_id=1432). Such as if the patient self identifies as asexual, and you cannot identify as it if you’ve never heard of it. Some asexual people have had to undergo treatment or HSDD because they had never heard of asexuality at the time and therefore couldn’t self-identify. We can only prevent this if we have widespread awareness. And we currently don’t. There is also the fact that desk version (and other publications of the DSM) do not mention anything about asexuality. These are still in circulation and have not been called back or replaced. The DSM have continued to allow it. (https://www.asexualityarchive.com/asexuality-in-the-dsm-5/)

Want something more recent? I’ve got it. JSTOR is a collection of articles most used by historians, it is an incredible reliable and credible collection. In 2018 they published an education article called ‘The Political Provocations of Asexuality.’ (https://daily.jstor.org/the-political-provocations-of-asexuality/) while the article does start with understanding how feminist ideological concepts can alienate asexual women, it continues with mentioning DeLuzio who argues that there is political implications that any sexuality is better than being asexual.

The University of New York published ‘The Experiences of Asexual People with Microaggressions’ by Deutsch, which argues that asexual people typically experience microaggression and with little research into them (a running theme that one), there is not much large-scale evidence to help support them, because it hasn’t been researched into. (https://academicworks.cuny.edu/cgi/viewcontent.cgi?article=1050&context=jj_etds) She also continues to argue that there is an intersection between asexual people and marginalized identities, and this can harshen the way asexual people experience microaggression, and this leads to many of them seeking help from medical professionals.

I would like to end this off with experiences of asexual people, because theory is well and good but if we really want to show we care about asexuals we should be listening to their experiences. Galop, a UK LGT+ anti hate charity have researched into asexuality and state that the group has little research put into them and among the researched sexualities Asexual people face being dehumanised the most. (https://www.galop.org.uk/anti-asexual-hate-crime/). While most LGBT oppression is open and is more visable, acephobia can more personal because it typically happens when the victim and perpetrator know one another. It makes the hate crime less visible, linking back to Bogaert’s argument about asexual visibility in society.

In 2013 the Huffington Post published an article from Mosbergen about corrective rape asexual men and women face, she considers experiences from asexual people themselves and talks about their oral testimony. (https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/asexual-discrimination_n_3380551?ri18n=true&guccounter=1&guce_referrer=aHR0cHM6Ly9jb25zZW50LnlhaG9vLmNvbS8&guce_referrer_sig=AQAAAIrTBPcKLq5g_k46l4SMT2Tof7s5O_kwU0nRxB9qBl_dkK73uw_JzJrmkrwpA9GFvSYbfHN6s02DanUeiZquozNBvLR1aRIuiDY0E1h6UfJGwug-8OnPU1lruIpKYC_8t45GWBvSpsosuoGyeFCmoeIaxXLe-ExaL7M5jgkHU-VL). This article does feature people needing ‘fixing’, someone was told they ‘need a good raping’, for example.

So, all in all, there are lots and lots of examples of asexual oppression. While it has been established that asexuality is a group with little research about them, I haven’t even scratched the surface of the evidence about them.

These are some examples which could help you educate yourself. Now stfu you uneducated worms I don’t want to hear from you again now sit in the corner with the TERFs no one wants you around.

Here's some fat tea for you all today.

If you're allo, and you say shit like 'oh not wanting to fuck doesn't make you oppressed' just shows you have no idea what asexuality is and that you don't understand how it affects us.

You don't understand how being asexual can impact your life because you don't want to see it and it's never affected you.

Stfu and educate yourself you wet wipe.

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Thank you for existing.

I try.

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Here's some fat tea for you all today.

If you're allo, and you say shit like 'oh not wanting to fuck doesn't make you oppressed' just shows you have no idea what asexuality is and that you don't understand how it affects us.

You don't understand how being asexual can impact your life because you don't want to see it and it's never affected you.

Stfu and educate yourself you wet wipe.

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I don't need to be fixed.

When I was first sexuality abused I thought he was right. He told me he could fix me.

Something was wrong with me, maybe if I put myself in that situation again I could be fixed. Maybe he was right to do those things to me. Make me feel like that.

But when I found out what asexuality was, it was the first time I could really feel myself healing. I wasn't broken, I was whole to begin with.

And that fact some people want that taken away from people like me, so they do think they're broken, makes me fucking sick. Because they're ignorant and hateful.

And I'll fight every day of my life to make sure that other asexuals feel safe, feel loved, feel whole.

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i wish things were as bad for you as you pretend they are

You're so fucking pathetic lmao. Sending shit like this on anon 😂😂 grow the fuck up

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About 10+ years ago trans people were "straight ppl invading lgbt+ spaces", 7-5 years ago bi people were "straight ppl invading lgbt+ spaces", and then 5 years ago nb ppl were "straight ppl invading lgbt+ spaces", and now my old bi ass is watching people pull the exact same shit at a-spec ppl. I'm so tired of this shit, let ppl exist in our community and get the support they need without some random jackasses saying they're secretly straight.

Real shit.

I have so much respect for trans bi and nb people because they've fought this exclusionists nonsense and have come out the other end.

I fuck with this.

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Bi, pan and ace people aren't 'privileged' because we can erase our sexuality to survive.

If a bi, pan or ace person has to hide as heterosexual to survive, by only dating people of the opposite sex or not dating at all.

That isn't a privilege, it's survival and it's erasure.

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I m a g i n e an elf has gotten a job at a human institution. The humans think elves don’t need bathroom breaks, since they know they can hold it for days, but this elf has been traveling to reach their job, and has already been holding it to the point they are in pain. They ask for a break, but their job is time sensitive, so they admit they can still hold it when asked. After a full day of work, the elf tries to reach the bathroom in time, but no one ever told them where it is.

Imagine if you made sense lmao, what are you on about?