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HE'S BEEN THERE THE WHOLE TIME!!

#war flashbacks

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I feel like the reason a lot of people with ADHD are Obnoxious About It is because a lot of them spent a long time being blamed for things without knowing the cause. We spent years, possibly decades, being punished for forgetting things. Being told that we must not care enough because we missed an appointment. Getting called vapid, stupid, flighty, ditzy, what-have-you because we're constantly losing our phones or burning dinner. But now we have an explanation. We know what's causing it, we know how to combat it. We finally know what the deal is so we can build systems to help.

So yeah, I know it's annoying when that one friend starts every other sentence with "As someone with ADHD—" or "Because of the ADHD—". But try to give us some grace, we're making up for all the times we didn't have a name for it and just thought we were broken.

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The real thing with ADHD is not "I forgot", but that forgetting is this ongoing process. I remembered! And then I forgot.

At ten this (hypothetical) morning I remembered that I have a meeting at six. And then from 11 through 3 I worked on other stuff and had zero thoughts about that meeting. Maybe even thought about what I was gonna do with my evening at home. Got attached to the idea of taking the time to make a good dinner, maybe play some video games.

And then at three I said, "Oh! Fuck!" and remembered again, hopefully long enough to set an alarm. And then I went to the bathroom and remembered that I need to clean the counter and spent twenty minutes cleaning the bathroom and went to get a snack and then at five I said, "OH! FUCK!" and had to scramble to dress like a real adult and get out the door.

It isn't one clean forgetting. It's a constant process of forgetting and then, with an exhausting adrenaline spike, remembering. And then forgetting. Baby, I can forget the same thing more times in a day than you ever forgot your parents' anniversary.

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(shut up i know its more complicated than that)

helen “trans people are perpetuating gender steriotypes” joyce is now upset that the scientific american is writing about how women were hunters too back in the day, not just mothers and caretakers. feminist win!

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It’s shit being a superhero when you know that the multiverse exists. You spend all day saving people, you’re tired, you want to go to bed, and right before you fall asleep someone says “The High Evolutionary is going to turn everyone on earth into a werewolf!” and every bone in your body says “Fucking. Maybe we can be the werewolf dimension. The Universe Where Everyone Is A Werewolf. There are infinite dimensions where everyone isn’t a werewolf. It could be fine. It could be good even.”

And you fight the High Evolutionary and you win and your world isn’t the Werewolf Dimension. But the thought was there. God the thought was there

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τυρὸς δ’ οὐ λείπει μ’ οὔτ’ ἐν θέρει οὔτ’ ἐν ὀπώρᾳ, οὐ χειμῶνος ἄκρω·

"But cheese does not abandon me, neither in summer nor in autumn, nor at the end of winter:"

--Theocritus Idyll XI.36-7

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I wasn't even including household chores which modern humans under capitalism still have to do, thanks for the reminder.

Gotta love you ignoring >90% of my post (and 100% of the point) to nitpick about a disputed fact in a way that bolstered my argument.

(btw you're lumping together thousands of years of human history across the entire world, like it obviously varies wildly)

Anyway, have fun tilting at windmills!

"people were not made for 40 hr a week work cycles" people evolved to be hunter gatherers in the African savannah and spent 10,000 years doing agriculture. Both very definitely involved more than 40/hrs a week of labor.

That doesn't mean we can't build a better world, any more than "women were the ones giving birth in ancient times" means women simply must be breeding calves.

But it does mean you can't blame capitalism for the existence of work in and of itself; that shits been there since before history

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I am a huge fan of retiring to my quarters

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It's also important to note that the type of work was very different as well. Even if premodern humans worked 40 hrs a week (debatable) they did it doing what humans evolved to do: persistence hunting, foraging, child care, building stuff etc. not sitting and staring at a screen for eight hours a day (capitalist alienation yadda yadda). Beyond that, the regimented, consistency of the work isn't something we evolved for, we used to do work as needed not 9-5 (which is increasingly becoming 8-5). Neither agriculture nor hunting requires the weekly grind that modern capitalism requires. Agriculture has planting and harvesting which takes a lot of work its true, but also has growing time where there's not that much to do, and time where you can't grow stuff where you can do a bit of work prepping for next time but that's still not that much. Similar with hunting, the hunt itself is a lot of work, but then it's done and you don't need to do it again for a bit, especially if you preserve things properly.

Even if you're right I don't think any leftists are exaggerating to return to what? Feudalism? Hunter-Gathering? The whole right-wing retvrn thing is about trying to recreate an imagined past. Even if leftists are imagining this past, they're not trying to return to it, at most they're using it to inspire themselves or others about how the world can be better by demonstrating that elements of life were better in the past. Less return more renew or reinvigorate or revolutionize (I feel like there's a better re- word out there).

So, like, chill. Not everything in leftist spaces you disagree with is fascism.

"people were not made for 40 hr a week work cycles" people evolved to be hunter gatherers in the African savannah and spent 10,000 years doing agriculture. Both very definitely involved more than 40/hrs a week of labor.

That doesn't mean we can't build a better world, any more than "women were the ones giving birth in ancient times" means women simply must be breeding calves.

But it does mean you can't blame capitalism for the existence of work in and of itself; that shits been there since before history

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I want adventuring to be a real job, I'd be so fucking good at it you have no idea

malls are dying because they don't have blacksmith, apothecary, alehouse or peddler's

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The most intimate bonding activity you can do with a partner isn't sex, it's washing each others hair.

It activates the primal grooming part of our monkey brain and triggers bonding hormones.

The nice thing too is that you can do it with friends and family bc it's not sexual :)

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Why aren't there any clothes here?

Whenever I'm eating soup these days I always think of that one Adam Ragusea video where a nutritional scientist is like "yeah probably the first cooked food that people came up with was soup, soup rules" and I think of one of the points in that video that when you boil something in water very few nutrients just disappear but instead get transmitted into the water. And I agree, that's really great.

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I think it’s funny how a lot of people try and reconstruct a more sensible version of “porn addiction” that no actual organizations that advocate for the existence of “porn addiction” believe in. Like the whole “ok it doesn’t have to be like substance addiction” or “ok it’s rare but it does exist” like nah the religious rightwingers pushing for it and who came up with the idea do try to say it’s like drug addiction and that it’s a pervasive “public health issue” it’s just that they were so successful that people are tricked into thinking it’s common sense and not pseudoscience but also the claims being made are so wild and out there for normal society that they only work in a context where saying “I watch porn” is itself taboo that people still think “nah surely the idea can’t be that stupid”

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you don't "hate kids," you hate being forced into a caretaking role.

you don't "hate kids," you hate censorship passed off as family values.

you don't "hate kids," you hate the constrictiveness of the nuclear family.

you don't "hate kids," you're just not used to occupying fully age diverse spaces so you're not used to the noise or the many different kinds of needs.

you don't "hate kids," most public spaces just aren't built for kids, and so the few kids you see are always uncomfortable and distressed.

you don't "hate kids," you hate the intense social rules assigned to kids and anyone who interacts with kids.

You don't "hate kids," you hate how society reproduces its most restrictive elements and how kids are powerless to resist it.