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30º Fear!

All of us have fears, as it is a natural part of being human. However, it is important that we don’t allow them to control us.

Confronting our uncertainties is undoubtedly one of the most difficult things we can face, but the rewards of overcoming them are immeasurable. It is like breaking down a wall that separates us from our fears and empowers us to make decisions with courage.

Many individuals spend years, or even their entire lives, avoiding confronting their insecurities. The reason for this is that overcoming our worries requires stepping out of our comfort zones, and this prospect can be terrifying for anyone.

While some people may have to face their fears during childhood, it is not always a healthy experience. Children are innocent, and subjecting them to their deepest terrors at a young age can create significant challenges for their future well-being.

Those who have the ability to confront their anxieties and embrace challenges are often the most successful individuals. Even if they don’t achieve their desired outcomes immediately, they understand that with time and perseverance, they can attain what they truly desire.

Sometimes, all it takes is a gentle nudge to encourage us to embrace our concerns. The initial steps may be painful or unnerving, but the journey will undoubtedly be worthwhile.

Although it is natural to have fears, it is crucial that we do not allow them to dictate our lives. By combining the courage to face our panics, we embark on a transformative journey that leads to personal growth, success, and a life lived to its fullest potential. Embrace your anxieties, for they have the power to unlock a world of endless possibilities.

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29º Why does a heartbreak hurt so much?

It isn’t easy to face “rejection”. When you’re in a relationship, you are with someone, you can demonstrate your feelings, how you feel when you’re with that special person, and vice versa.

The problem is, if you give of yourself too much to the other person, you might end up suffering in case your relationship doesn’t work out.

Unfortunately, some relationships run into trouble due to problems that the couple cannot figure out by themselves, so they start asking their friends for their opinion.

There’s a saying “It’s easier said than done”. You will get lots of ideas from your friends, but those ideas might be useful nor easy to do.

Obviously, there’s no perfect recipe to get over it and if it were, people would be lining up to buy this special product.

I usually say that being in a good relationship is like winning the lottery. There are lots of people who play the game, but we usually have a couple of winners.

We have to be careful when we are in a relationship because when you love someone else, there is the possibility you might lose yourself.

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28º Addiction!

Being addicted to anything is an illness. Some people try to seek help, but others struggle to overcome their addiction.

It can be something related to food, drugs, sex, gambling etc. You cannot control it by yourself; that’s why you have to seek professional help.

Some people want to break free of an addiction, but others are used to it. So trying to get over it is not an option anymore.

Some of them have given up on themselves, so they’re slaves to their addictions, but we cannot give up on them. They deserve respect and all the help and support they need to heal.

Even if we knew their history and why they ended up like that, we should not judge them. On the other hand, we have to help them if we can, and if we can’t, we have to show them how to get some help.

You might not know all the pain someone who is addicted to something feels; they probably don’t care about themselves anymore, but their family members suffer a lot.

We must help anybody who needs some help in order to get over any addiction possible, but if we cannot assist them somehow, we can at least guide them to find the help they need.

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27º Cyberbullying!

Once, I was told that if we give power to someone, we will know who this person really is. It doesn’t matter in which scenario this person may be.

Some people need to be in control of some situations and cause others pain or suffering. Why? Some of them know, but others have no idea, and they always seek that.

These people hide their faces behind a screen and create masks to humiliate and make fun of others. They might be insecure or jealous of other people.

Probably, they might have suffered similar bias or faced a very difficult situation in which they felt humiliated, and they think they were supposed to make fun of the others to feel better.

As an educator, I always try to interfere with any kind of suspicious behavior, and although it isn’t easy to realize what kind of problem someone’s facing, I do my best to help them anyway.

It’s about time parents saw everything their children access in order to prevent problems like that, but only a few of them do that.

Whenever they see something suspicious, they have to talk to them to understand what is going on, and if it is possible, try to find professional help to get over any kind of situation or even trauma.

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26º Learning languages!

One of the best ways to get in touch with people from around the world is to learn languages. Speaking a language from a country you’re interested in is the best way to learn about their culture.

According to some studies, people who speak a foreign language have little or no chance of suffering from memory loss, because they’re constantly forcing their brain to remember the structure of a target language.

Having the ability to speak another language will help you to overcome challenges and situations which you wouldn’t be able to manage if you only spoke your native language.

Some people say that when you’re used to speaking a second language, you change the tone of your voice while speaking it. So, you get rid of your native accent. There’s nothing wrong with having an accent, though.

Nowadays, there are lots of people who can speak at least two languages fluently due to all the international media around us such as games, movies, TV series, songs, and so on.

Most of the games that kids play are in a foreign language, so it makes them get used to it because they are “addicted” to those games.

If you have a child, try to motivate him/her to start studying a foreign language, because it is really important for their future. It’s a good way to get connected with the world.

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25º Living abroad!

There are lots of reasons why someone wants to move to another country, such as the financial situation of his or her country, life experience, improving their language skills, or simply to explore the world.

There are two sides to the coin; we have to balance the pros and cons when we decide to make a decision like that. It isn’t easy, but deep down inside you, you know what you deserve and what you are looking for.

It will always be a hard decision to make due to the things we are used to. If you are closely connected with family members, I’m sure you’ll miss them a lot.

Everybody who makes this decision always says that it is a once-in-a-lifetime experience, but they miss all the things that are happening in their own countries, such as seeing their nephews and nieces growing up and their parents getting older, and when they have the opportunity to come back, things are totally different.

Creating a list of pros and cons may help you make a decision, but you can also ask a couple of friends for some advice before making your decision.

You can also visit the country you feel like moving to. Try to be there for at least two or three months; you’ll have the opportunity to see how your life is going to be when you live there.

Keep in mind that you only live once, so if your will is to have this experience, go for it. People tend to regret the things they don’t do. I’m sure, whether this experience is good or bad, you’ll learn something from it. So, you’ve got nothing to lose, right?

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24º Countries!

We live in a globalized world composed of a lot of countries. Each country has its own identity, culture, food, people, language, customs, and ethnicity. Wouldn’t it be incredible to explore these countries and learn about them as much as we could?

Visiting different countries is an incredible experience everyone should have. It is one of the best ways to learn and share culture and customs. Each country is full of diversity and being able to explore that is priceless.

When you have the opportunity to visit a country, you start seeing the world differently. It opens a wider way of new possibilities for you to grow as a human being.

Some behaviors might be quite strange for us due to our own way of doing and reacting to certain situations, but isn’t it interesting to see a problem with different solutions?

We have to explore this world as much as we can. It brings meaningfulness to our life. It’s like a two-way street, you can teach something to someone and you can also learn from them. 

Exploring other countries is pricey, but, we live amazing experiences which are the most incredible rewards we can get from each trip we have. 

Pablo Casals once said: “The love of one’s country is a splendid thing. But why should love stop at the border?” In other words, we can love our nation, but we have to consider others our brothers. Love should transcend all borders.

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23º Achievements!

Accepting challenges and working hard to achieve your goals is something some people can’t do. They can be hard-working people, but it takes them ages to overcome a new challenge in order to get what they’ve been waiting for.

It is understandable why some people can’t accept new challenges, it isn’t easy getting out of our comfort zone, but that’s the only way we can accomplish something, establish some goals and face new challenges all in the name of personal evolution.

Whenever you decide to try new things some people will back you up, but there’ll always be a massive number of people who won’t believe in your dreams and goals, at least when you get what you want or get where you’d like to, you’ll be able to know who your supporters really were in the first place.

You might feel like giving up on your dreams due to the difficulties you’ll have throughout the process of actualizing your goals, but keep in mind that nothing is easy, everything requires dedication and hard work, so be persistent.

One thing is for sure, you’ll always find people who will put you off, but don’t let these people hinder you. Keep your dreams and aspirations to yourself otherwise you’ll have to deal with jealousy from others.

Be ready to either let people down or experience some failure while working towards what you wish for. You might hear people telling you to give up, but get right back up and try again.

No matter how hard or challenging your goal may be, by being focused and doing your best, you’ll accomplish whatever you want to. When you feel like giving up, just remind yourself why you decided to follow your dream. I’m sure it’ll get you motivated to move forward and be rewarded.

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22º Life!

I find it is easy to talk about life as a whole. There are just certain topics within life that are hard to discuss, such as loss and death.

Even as science helps to extend the lengths of our lives, as it compares to the history of the universe, they are only a small, hardly noticeable blip in the entirety of space and time.

There are certain things that can be done to improve the lengths and quality of our lives, such as eating healthy, exercising regularly, and drinking plenty of water.

As we progress through life, we learn that as we face challenges and create goals, no matter how difficult they seem at first, we can achieve anything with hard work, patience, a strong mind, and the ability to work together with others.

While it is a well-known fact that life can be difficult, it is important to remember to face each challenge, regardless of how big or small, with everything we’ve got.  Giving up should never be an answer, for as long as we live.

When you grow up, you tend to believe that the world is the way it is. Your life is just to live inside the world. Try not to bash into the walls too much. Try to have a nice family life, have fun, save a little money, but that’s a very limited life.

Life can be much broader once you discover one simple fact which is everything around you that you call life was made up by people who were no smarter than you, but you have got to have this in mind, a new life requires constant risk, investing in yourself, time, energy, money, and effort. So, are you ready for it?

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21º Money!

You’ve probably heard the saying “Money doesn’t grow on trees”. Exactly, it doesn’t. We usually make money working hard every single day to receive it either at the beginning or the end of the month.

Some of us have the opportunity to work on something we are passionate about, unfortunately, some people don’t, so they work on something they dislike just because they need the money to pay for their expenses.

Either way, in order to make money, you have to work. That’s the price we have to pay when we live in a society. Everything we own, we had to spend some money to buy it.

If you make money easily, you tend to be a spendthrift, but if you work your ass off to receive your wages, you’ll think twice before buying something. You might be called or even considered a stingy person, but money has different meanings from one person to another.

I’m sure you’re familiar with the saying ” Money can’t buy happiness”. I agree with it, in part. There are some moments when money is essential and it is a solution to a lot of problems, but sometimes it doesn’t matter how much money you have, it won’t change the problem you face.

Money can be a good thing or a bad thing. It all depends on what you’ve got in your heart. Some people see money as power, but others see it as something that can be beneficial for people.

For those who are considered spendthrifts, think twice before spending your money on things you might not need, and for those who are stingy; when we die, we won’t take our money with us, so try to manage your money wisely and sleep on it carefully.

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20º Social Media!

Some people would say social media is a marvelous thing, but others would condemn it as a terrible thing. But I usually compare social media to knowledge, you can use it for good purposes or malevolent purposes as well. It depends on your intentions.

We all use some type of social media such as Facebook, Twitter, WhatsApp, YouTube, Instagram, TikTok, and so on. We are all interconnected somehow, but we need to know how best to use social media in order to not become addicted and enslaved to them.

To be online or offline that is the question. When you’re using any social media, be kind, helpful, spread good news and positivity. Don’t try to attack anyone like some haters do. If you do that you are neither going to waste your time nor hurt yourself.

According to some researchers, 90% of 18 to 29-year-olds are on social media. We spend, on average, two hours using social media. If we think about it, we don’t normally spend two consecutive hours on an important task, instead, we procrastinate.

Using social media takes most of our time. That’s why we say we don’t have enough time to do the important things. But actually, we do have time, we just don’t know how to manage it correctly.

Everything has its pros and cons, and so does social media. We have to analyze them precisely to avoid some types of problems. We gotta know our limits.

As you’ve read in the first paragraph, you can use social media for good purposes such as making new friends around the world and sharing great ideas. It is an amazing resource and helps us grow as human beings both personally and professionally. Then we can see the positive side of social media.

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19° Education!

I strongly believe that education can change a person’s life and also their mindset. Not only can the person benefit from their education, but so can everyone around them.

Through education, we can learn important things like how to live in a society and have mutual respect for one another. We are also taught to develop our job skills, cultural values, and to respect each other.

As far as I know, it would be impossible to live in a world without education. Education is one of the basic things that benefits social existence. It is one of the pillars of our world.

It is noticeable that the best countries in the world in terms of technology, medicine, industry, and so on are the ones that decided to invest in their education. So, if people get a better education, they can certainly change their countries’ situation.

Some countries don’t feel like investing in education because they know that educated people are aware of their rights and duties. If they don’t receive their rights properly, they’ll protest. They prefer to have uneducated people in order to manipulate them like puppets.

We’re living in a digital age, which means that we can learn anything at any time. A lot of schools and universities are offering more and more online courses. This in turn means that you can attend a university located in another country without crossing their border. There’s no limit for you to have a quality education.

As Nelson Mandela once said: “Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world”. You just need to do your part and use this weapon wisely to impact as many people as you can positively. I’m sure you’re going to be an inspiration for everyone.

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18º Forgiveness!

Being able to forgive someone is the hardest thing that we can do, but when we do it, we can look into the person’s eyes and forget what they did or told us that hurt us. It’s like we simply delete what happened.

Everybody makes mistakes, but we need to keep an open mind and learn how to forgive them. Some people say or do some things without thinking and when they realize they’ve hurt us, we must demonstrate humility and accept their apologies.

I can guarantee you that when you forgive someone, you are giving yourself another chance of being happy and allowing the other person to rethink their actions and mistakes as well.

Some people think they’ve already forgiven someone. They sometimes tell their friends, family, or even neighbors that they’ve forgiven someone, but saying you have forgiven someone is not the same thing as doing it. You need to mean it.

You can’t fake forgiveness. You can pretend you forgive someone around others, but deep down, you know you didn’t, so be honest with yourself and forgive whoever you must forgive from the bottom of your heart and be free.

Most of us try to forgive someone right away because it’s the right thing to do. Everyone wants to forgive quickly, so they can regain their sanity and move on. Try to do that, but if you can’t, ask for professional help.

Life is too short to hold grudges. Forgiving isn’t easy, but it’s the key to freedom. So, forgive others not because they deserve it but because you deserve peace.

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17º Motivation!

What motivates you to wake up in the morning and keep moving forward? What makes some people more successful than others? Have you ever thought about that?

Successful people say that they lost their motivation at a certain point in their lives. Do you know why they didn’t give up on their dreams and goals? It’s because they always remember why they decided to do what they were doing in the first place.

I believe we all need to establish some objectives in our lives to challenge ourselves in order to achieve them. We might not have enough motivation to continue pursuing whatever we want to, but we always have to find a reason to move forward.

Having your goals, dreams, and desires all set in mind will always motivate you to achieve them. But remember, we’re human beings, so be ready to fail at something and start over. Successful people rarely win on their first try, but they never give up and that’s what makes them winners.

Don’t compare yourself to others. People don’t follow the same paths. Your worst and also best competitor is yourself. Remind yourself every single day what your achievements will be and I’m sure it’ll keep you motivated.

Don’t try to find motivation in people’s opinions. Jealous people won’t do what you’re planning on doing, but they’ll criticize you and demotivate you as well if you tell them what you’re about to do.

Find people who have done things similar to what you want to do. Be inspired by people who are successful and study their journeys to get where they are right now. Remember, you may look up to someone today, but someone will look up to you tomorrow if you follow your dreams.

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16º Problems!

Successful people address problems as opportunities to grow and change their outlooks completely. On the other hand, unsuccessful people usually regard problems as the tip of the iceberg of a plethora of potential problems.

We can overcome adversity that we have to face if we simply change our perspective. The way we see and react to our problems will determine how big they will become.

Once I read that problems are like washing machines, they twist us, spin us, and knock us around, but in the end, we come out cleaner, brighter, and better than before.

Nothing lasts forever, sooner or later we’ll be able to overcome a big problem and come up with a great solution or even learn a lesson from it, but we always need to demonstrate patience in order to succeed.

Life without problems would be boring. Whenever we have to challenge ourselves in order to get over our problems, we develop patience, start accepting other people’s suggestions and ideas, consequently, we become more empathetic. So, eventually, problems go away and the ideas or solutions come out to us more readily.

I believe people can fully realize their limits and full potential while facing problems. Either they can look for a solution to conquer whatever needs to be done or struggle to accept the challenge.

There’s a saying, ” A friend in need is a friend indeed”. I couldn’t agree more. We can recognize who our true friends are every time we encounter a difficult situation or need support tackling a problem. Our friends are always there to back us up no matter how crazy our plan may be.

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15º Learning!

Steve Jobs once said ” Learn continually – there’s always “one more thing” to learn!” If we stop learning, we cannot evolve and if we cannot evolve, we’re stuck either in our comfort zone or in a time warp.

Learning is fascinating, but some people struggle during the process. That’s why some of them give up on learning due to a lack of patience and some difficulties they encounter on their journeys.

If we are open-minded, we can learn some interesting things from different people who surround us. It doesn’t matter how intellectual or smart we might be, we can always learn something new from them.

I love talking to elderly people. I learn a lot from them. Even though most of them didn’t attend college, they’ve faced and learned lots of things over the years, I can guarantee you even if they had attended the best universities in the world, they wouldn’t have learned everything they usually share with us.

There are some things we learn at school we call formal education. The things we learn from parents, neighbors, relatives, and also friends are called informal education. That’s why it is important to be open-minded to learn as much as we can because there’s always someone around us.

I’ve already said that life is the best teacher for all of us, but sometimes it teaches us very harshly and hurts us a lot. So, if you have the opportunity to learn anything from someone, do that. Otherwise, you’ll have to walk a painful path.

We can literally learn anything, but we have to ask ourselves “Why am I going to learn this?” The things we learn and don’t use constitute useless knowledge and sooner or later we’ll forget most of it. So, use your precious time wisely to learn something essential.

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14º Reading books!

Mason Cooley once said: “Reading gives us someplace to go when we have to stay where we are”. I couldn’t agree more. As a matter of fact, I’ve been to lots of places while reading books.

In the past, I have already been locked up in my room for hours reading an interesting book. I was extremely curious to know what was going to happen with all the characters. I couldn’t help reading it, I was totally caught up in that world.

Talking to people they came up with some “reasons” why they don’t read. Here are some of them: “I don’t have enough time to read”, “I prefer to watch a movie or a Tv series, or even play games instead of reading”, “Reading is a habit that only a few people developed”, “Reading reminds me the school and that doesn’t bring me good memories”.

According to some researchers, 27% of people read books either daily or on most days. This number might have been optimistic, but it is still a small number. If you are not included in this number, grab a book and start reading it.

Reading is a habit, and I’m sure you can add it to your daily routine. You don’t have to read 10 to 20 pages of a book a day. At first, you can read three pages or five. Remember, baby steps. It is better to read a few pages every single day rather than reading more pages once in a blue moon.

Some specialists say that you can add a new habit or get rid of a bad one if you do it in 30 days in a row. Certainly, it isn’t a piece of cake, but whether you challenge yourself or not, 30 days will pass by anyway, so why don’t you give it a shot?

You might not know that the reading habit gives us some benefits such as vocabulary expansion, mental stimulation, improves our writing skills, reduces stress, and also get memory improvement. Consequently, we develop our knowledge making our analytical thinking skills stronger, on top of this we improve focus and concentration.

There’s no excuse to not read nowadays. You can read using physical books, or if you are a tech person, read digital books on your tablet, cell phone, or even kindle. We have been living in a technological world, so it’s about time we learned how to use technology to become better human beings.