#blog

[3liza]

last time my mom visited I was talking to her about parenting and how I appreciated a lot of the choices she and my father had made about raising me and my brother and she agreed that just listening to the child and taking them seriously was the One Weird Trick to cutting out like 60% of conflicts between parents and children. and she said one time I was about three or four years old and we were all going to the grocery store, and at the threshold of the store I just had a meltdown. i was overwhelmed, I was crying, I was just at the end of my rope like kids get sometimes. and instead of dragging me through the store my mom and dad stopped what we were doing and just asked me what the problem was. and I was able to say I didn't want to be there, I couldn't do it, I wanted to go home. and she says she and my father just looked at each other and back at me and said "okay" and we all went home that day instead of forcing the grocery store trip. and I had so few public meltdowns as a kid despite being pretty autistic because, I think, I knew that if I ever really needed to leave, my parents would understand and back me up. and that was the case throughout my childhood. which paradoxically (one might think) resulted in me having fewer incidents of being overwhelmed in the first place, which then made me better able to handle increasing amounts of stress and so on. it also taught me that expressing feelings and communicating them to my caretakers wasn't going to be punished or ignored or called weird, so unlike many other autistic kids who get judged or rebuked for expressing sensitivity or opposition, I didn't need to constantly blockade everyone and internalize everything all the time.

it's a pretty simple concept whether your kids are autistic or not, but most parents don't seem to get it. their parents taught them to just force everything and let the child deal with it alone so they just repeat the cycle even though they know how it feels.

[catssavril]

[podidro]

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[purpledavina]

[chilicheesecreampuff-2]

One is still a number, what is your point? 🤣

Yeah you could say I’m doing numbers on tumblr. And that numbers? One

[3liza]

actually the rock im OBSESSED with rn is this semi-ugly, obscure and basically pointless mineral just called "grey agate", it has an occult juiciness to it that i cannot shake. i want eight pounds of this stuff in different polished shapes

it looks like frog eggs from a murky pond

stream where i go on the computer and look at rocks and talk about rocks

i like how the device clamps the juice moon gently

im doing petrosexual autism now but in a god-honoring, non-stephen-universe way

[lr3en]

I'm going insane

☕

[cigarettefawn]

Oh just shut up you’re only 16.

[ch3rrybl0ss0mfr34k]

Christianity isn't easy. In fact, for some of us, it's a daily battle. Most days I want to take the easy way out. I turn towards a diluted version of the faith because it's comfortable - but real faith, real saving faith? It's the furthest thing from comfortable. I am going to fight every day in my life, every day until I wake up in my Father's arms. Yes, it will be a battle, but it's worth it.

[somberinnseptember]

The answer for me, of course, is ๑۞๑,¸¸,ø¤º°`°๑۩ Ｎ𝐎 ๑۩ ,¸¸,ø¤º°`°๑۞๑

no so what

[gb-patch]

Hello, May! 🌷

We are in full spring swing and have a whole month of development plans ahead. Interested? Come on over! 🎉 This lovely guest art is by _marshiyan on Twitter!

[bluehairedspidey]

[sings-of-the-swarm]

Beautiful...

[succulentsiren]

Protect your energy by using your discernment. Not everything is going to be for you. Not everyone is going to be for you. There are certain environments that are not suited for you. Stop responding and reacting, to every little thing sent to trigger you. When it doesn’t sit naturally with your energy, let it pass you.

[spydr-scorps06]

Werewolf sona :)