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If the Shoe Fits, Would You Even Lace It?

Imagine treating someone exactly how they treat you – ignoring their messages, being dismissive, blowing hot and cold, only reaching out when you need something, or just being generally unpleasant. Now ask yourself: would they stick around? Would they want to be friends with you? Uncomfortable, isn’t it? Yet many people wouldn’t stomach even a fraction of their own behaviour mirrored back at…

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Grown But Not Grown Up

There comes a point in life when people stop asking your age because they can tell. You’ve got the job, maybe a few grey hairs, rent or a mortgage, responsibilities stacked like laundry – adulting premium in full swing. But does that mean you’re actually grown up? We confuse age with wisdom all the time. There’s this quiet assumption that the older someone is, the more emotionally intelligent…

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Boundaries Over Burdens

There comes a quiet but profound moment in life when you realize that you’ve been carrying more than just your own weight. That maybe, somewhere along the way, you convinced yourself it was your responsibility to make others happy, to fix their pain, or to live up to expectations that were never yours to begin with. And the weight of all that? It’s exhausting. It quietly drains you, leaving you…

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High Standards or Hiding Places?

We’ve all heard it, and many of us have said some variation of it:“I’m single because I have high standards.”“I know my worth.”“I refuse to settle.” These are valid statements, and for many people, they come from a place of self-awareness and a growth mindset. Cool, right? Knowing what you want and refusing to compromise on key values is a good thing. But let’s take a deeper look for honesty’s…

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Cancel Culture and the Question of Redemption

There’s something I’ve been sitting with lately: when someone is “canceled”, are we really holding them accountable or are we just casting them out? Right now we live in an era where outrage travels faster than facts, so it’s not always easy to tell the difference. I guess it’s always been that way throughout history. Social media has made it simple to join a conversation, but harder to pause…

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Revisiting Old Connections: Growth or Just Access?

There comes a moment when we feel the urge to reconnect with someone from our past. Maybe it’s an old friend, an ex, or a family member we distanced ourselves from. When that moment arrives, we might often ask ourselves: Have they changed? But the more important question is, How much have we changed? Our interest in the past is often a mirror reflecting our own growth – or our avoidance of it.…

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Criticism vs Self Reflection: Where's Your Focus?

There’s an ease with which we point out the flaws in others while overlooking our own. It’s almost instinctive – seeing where someone falls short, what they could’ve done better, how their choices don’t align with what we think is right. But what if that same energy was redirected inward? What if, instead of dwelling on someone else’s shortcomings, we examined our own? It’s easy to label someone…

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The Unspoken Reality of Expectations

It’s a new month and it brings with it fresh hopes, plans, and – whether we admit it or not – expectations. No matter how much we try to detach ourselves from them, expectations always exist in some form. Even someone who claims to have none still expects to be left alone, not relied upon, or to avoid obligations they never signed up for. That, in itself, is an expectation.When you really think…

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Choice, Respect & Accountability

We live in an era where personal choice is celebrated – sometimes to a fault. It’s common to hear people say, “I just want to be respected for my decisions.” Fair enough. But what happens when those same people refuse to be held accountable for the consequences of those decisions? More and more, we see individuals demanding respect while disregarding the impact of their actions, often dismissing…

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Matching Energy vs Matching Effort

Have you ever caught yourself adjusting your energy to match someone else’s? Maybe they were cold, so you became distant. Maybe they were dismissive, so you pulled back too. It’s a natural reaction, but does it really make us feel any better? Or does it slowly turn us into the very thing we dislike? From observation and experience, matching energy is reactive. It’s about mirroring someone’s…

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The Illusion of Vulnerability

Many people believe they are being vulnerable when, in reality, they are not. It’s easy to mistake emotional expression or transparency for vulnerability, but the two are not the same. Transparency means sharing a truth – sometimes even an uncomfortable one – but vulnerability goes deeper. It involves revealing something that could leave us exposed to judgment, rejection, or even personal loss.…

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The Truth Hurts... Or Does It?

Why is it that facing uncomfortable truths about ourselves feels so difficult, yet we have no problem offering “harsh truths” to others when they falter? Is it the truth itself that stings, or does the pain come from how it’s delivered – or even who delivers it? We often believe we’re helping when we point out flaws in others, but when the tables turn, it’s a different story. Truths about our…

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Going the Extra Mile

Human connections and relationships are an interesting dynamic. There’s a phrase often thrown around: “Meet people where they are.” It suggests being empathetic, understanding, and a willingness to compromise. But what does it really cost? Should we always be the ones traveling the emotional or relational distance to connect with others, or is it wise to stay put, conserving energy, and waiting…

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A New Year, A Steady Start

The glitter of the holidays has faded. The lights are packed away, and the hum of daily life resumes. January mornings feel a little heavier, like the world is still shaking off its festive daze. Some are already chasing their “new year, new me” goals with boundless energy, while others slip comfortably back into their usual rhythms. It’s a season of contrasts – hopeful beginnings for some, quiet…

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The Hidden Gems Around Us

Have you ever walked past a patch of wildflowers growing between the cracks of a sidewalk? Or noticed the quiet kindness of someone holding a door open for a stranger? These moments, so easy to overlook, carry a subtle beauty that often escapes us in the rush of daily life. Our world is filled with unnoticed treasures – people, ideas, and moments that quietly enrich our lives without demanding…

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The Bitter and Sweet: When Friendships Evolve

Friendships are like rivers – sometimes they flow freely, other times they meander, and occasionally, they dry up. The connections we form adapt to the stages we’re in as life happens. A high school confidant may fade into the background as a career or family takes center stage, while a coworker might become a soul ally during a challenging phase. The beauty and challenge of friendships lie in…

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The Snowflake Dilemma

Ah, snowflakes. Delicate, unique, and utterly irreplaceable. Or, at least that’s what we were told in kindergarten when our teachers tried to instill in us a healthy dose of self-esteem. If it wasn’t a teacher, it was probably Disney – yeah, definitely Disney *chuckles*. Fast forward a couple of decades, and that same metaphor has taken on an entirely new meaning, but one that’s not nearly as…