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Not that anybody asked, but I think it's important to understand how shame and guilt actually work before you try to use it for good.

It's a necessary emotion. There are reasons we have it. It makes everything so. much. worse. when you use it wrong.

Shame and guilt are DE-motivators. They are meant to stop behavior, not promote it. You cannot, ever, in any meaningful way, guilt someone into doing good. You can only shame them into not doing bad.

Let's say you're a parent and your kid is having issues.

Swearing in class? Shame could work. You want them to stop it. Keep it in proportion*, and it might help. *(KEEP IT IN PROPORTION!!!)

Not doing their homework? NO! STOP! NO NOT DO THAT! EVER! EVER! EVER! You want them to start to do their homework. Shaming them will have to opposite effect! You have demotivated them! They will double down on NOT doing it. Not because they are being oppositional, but because that's what shame does!

You can't guilt people into building better habits, being more successful, or getting more involved. That requires encouragement. You need to motivate for that stuff!

If you want it in a simple phrase:

You can shame someone out of being a bad person, but you can't shame them into being a good person.

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Sherlock and her Watson

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𝘏𝘶𝘢 𝘊𝘩𝘦𝘯𝘨 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘢𝘭𝘸𝘢𝘺𝘴 𝘩𝘢𝘷𝘦 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘶𝘮𝘣𝘳𝘦𝘭𝘭𝘢 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘥𝘺 𝘧𝘰𝘳 𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘎𝘦𝘨𝘦.

Aʀᴛ ʙʏ: ɴɪɴɪxɪᴀᴢɪ - Oʀɪɢɪɴᴀʟ Pᴏsᴛ - Pᴇʀᴍɪssɪᴏɴ ᴛᴏ Rᴇᴘᴏsᴛ

Pʟᴇᴀsᴇ ᴅᴏɴ'ᴛ ᴍᴏᴅɪғʏ ᴏʀ ᴇᴅɪᴛ ᴛʜɪs ᴡᴏʀᴋ, ɪᴛs ᴄᴏᴍᴍᴇʀᴄɪᴀʟ ᴜsᴇ ɪs ғᴏʀʙɪᴅᴅᴇɴ. Iғ ʏᴏᴜ ʟɪᴋᴇᴅ ᴛʜɪs ᴡᴏʀᴋ ᴄʜᴇᴄᴋ ᴛʜᴇ ᴀʀᴛɪsᴛ’s sɪᴛᴇ ᴀɴᴅ ɢɪᴠᴇ ɪᴛ sᴏᴍᴇ ʟᴏᴠᴇ ᴛʜᴇʀᴇ

 (⸝⸝◕ ヮ ◕⸝⸝)੭⁾⁾♡

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Healing wounds ❤️‍🩹

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“True kindness isn’t something we’re born with, it’s something we have to work at.”

Fruits Basket has such a special place in my heart <3

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people who write fics. how do you feel about comments on super old ones you wrote like 2+ years ago

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The summer Hikaru died

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This is the piece I contributed to 影咲く幽冥, a private horror-themed event that was hosted on Twitter.

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chase you to the end of the world just to say your name once more

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Only you and the devil know

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(...guess which scene it is 🫢)

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autumn

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posting fafa alone since I’m too busy for personal art atm 😭

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