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guys my mom’s new boyfriend is trying to be supportive of me being a trans guy and he said “i got you a gift, a boy gift”

it’s a mountain dew nascar trucker hat. i wanna scream, like it’s nice he got me a gift and it’s nice he’s trying but…. I wanna Sc r EAM

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guys my mom’s new boyfriend is trying to be supportive of me being a trans guy and he said “i got you a gift, a boy gift”

it’s a mountain dew nascar trucker hat. i wanna scream, like it’s nice he got me a gift and it’s nice he’s trying but…. I wanna Sc r EAM

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A must-watch: MSNBC’s Stephanie Ruhle reminds everyone of the known sexual assault accusations against Donald Trump, one by one, in detail.

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“For one thing, there’s Dido’ fetishization by the two Ashford brothers. While one brother sees her simply as an exotic “other” whom he can bed without forming attachments — very different from the attitude toward white women of the same time period, whose virtue was unequivocal and untouchable — the other is downright violent in his conception of Dido, calling her “repulsive” but still expressing a desire to rape her. The scenes in which that older, more violent Ashford brother addresses Dido directly, giving voice to his unbridled racism and at one point assaulting her, are indisputably disturbing, not just because they represent a disgusting and brutal history but because I see remnants of those attitudes today in the way the world perceives the bodies of black and brown women: exotic, sexual, sensual, different objects. We see it in the way Miley Cyrus and almost any given white pop star (Justin Timberlake and Robin Thicke, for example) use black women’s bodies as props in music videos: as something to be appropriated and used for one’s own pleasure and then cast off in pursuit of the next trend. In addition, the rape of black women still does not seem to carry much horror in 2014; it was most recently a punchline on Saturday Night Live, and last year Russell Simmons was forced to apologize for his highly offensive “Harriet Tubman Sex Tape.” None of this is too different from the way the Ashford brothers perceive Dido’s body: as an exotic “other” not worthy of love or respect but merely of lust, and lust framed in a particularly problematic racism.“

 Belle: A Lesson in the Timelessness of Racism and Misogyny Against Black Women by Olivia Cole 

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A must-watch: MSNBC’s Stephanie Ruhle reminds everyone of the known sexual assault accusations against Donald Trump, one by one, in detail.

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180218 SHINee World 2018 : Kyocera dome : MINHO & ONEW

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170218 Day 1, Kyocera Dome

while it was such an emotional concert and may seem like it was all a very somber affair, it didn’t take away from the fact that this was very well-thought of and it demonstrated how amazing SHINee is and how much hard work they put into it.

that setlist took me for a ride. amazing vocals, powerful choreographies, the handsome costumes, the way they interacted with the audience from all levels and distances within the dome, the honesty and sincerity of it all. i have nothing but utmost pride and respect for them.

the concert started with a short vcr. the sea, then a big moon came into view. we all pretty much lost it right there and then. colors of the season played, and then jinki’s voice. the last time i heard and saw him was 6 months ago, so to hear him again, his voice so strong and clear, clutched at my heart and suffused it with so much joy. i missed him so much. and then the stage cleared to reveal them. they were wearing bejeweled rich velvets. they looked so princely!

then it was one intense performance after another. stranger, everybody, evil, juliette. there was a dance break before everybody i think (or was it stranger? i can’t remember) and it was sooooo good! they were on the platform stage at that time so i couldn’t see how it looked like as a whole, but they all were going hard at it. evil was on the extended stage. they used these long, red fabric for prop. their dance and facial expressions were so intense!

everybody was.. hard. i‘ve been wondering if they’ll ever do this song again or how, but they did so now and when the concert just began too! i think there are already accounts of how they did this, like minho pointing the remote upwards when it was jjong’s turn. or that part when minho’s in front and the four were in pairs carrying each other, but now, while one pair was doing it, one person was facing them (his back to minho).

throughout this, and probably most of the concert, jinki was always on the side nearest our area. so while he naturally takes all my attention, him always facing us/near us made it easy and i couldnt see some of the boys sometimes unless they rotate positions.

after that strong set, they played a vcr - the end of the day and then pictures of jjong. it was… tough.

then the boys sang the ballads. they started with love. jinki was so near, i could see his left fist clenched so tightly. and then the whole set, his voice was breaking, and sometimes, he couldn’t stop himself from crying. jinki crying tears my heart. the sheer will power it is taking our boys to do this is so palpable.

after a break (they played songs like RDD, colorful etc.), they came back on stage and started with the more upbeat songs. i don’t know how jinki did it, but contrary to earlier, jinki was all smiles and so playful. and he was so full of energy. is this him, showing how much he missed the stage too? seeing him like that warmed my heart. felt like a lifetime, that i’ve longed to see his smile. this was when they rode the carts around the dome and minho/taemin went up in the balloons.

okay, enough for now. my hands are frozen from typing while in the queue.

in case i don’t get to finish this, i just want to say that i’m glad i’m here. i needed this. it felt to me like we were working through our grief together and keeping a promise to each other. but i know too that we have different ways of dealing with this and that’s perfectly okay. no one should dictate or judge how we deal with this.

i hope our darlings will continue to take care of themselves. i love SHINee.

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& then this happened..

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hehehe…Jinki stumbling😁

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Anne Hathaway’s character in Devil Wears Prada literally just starts dressing better and taking an interest in her work and her friends act like she’s an awful person who has “changed”. Like bitch THIS IS NOT A LINDSAY LOHAN MEAN GIRLS MOMENT all she did was get the new Chanel boots.

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@whisperjohn (instastory): so close TT_TT

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So much preciousness ;; ♡  

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my night manager (who is a gay man) and i sometimes sit down and exchange stories and tidbits about our sexuality and our experiences in the queer cultural enclave. and tonight he and i were talking about the AIDS epidemic. he’s about 50 years old. talking to him about it really hit me hard. like, at one point i commented, “yeah, i’ve heard that every gay person who lived through the epidemic knew at least 2 or 3 people who died,” and he was like “2 or 3? if you went to any bar in manhattan from 1980 to 1990, you knew at least two or three dozen. and if you worked at gay men’s health crisis, you knew hundreds.” and he just listed off so many of his friends who died from it, people who he knew personally and for years. and he even said he has no idea how he made it out alive.

it was really interesting because he said before the aids epidemic, being gay was almost cool. like, it was really becoming accepted. but aids forced everyone back in the closet. it destroyed friendships, relationships, so many cultural centers closed down over it. it basically obliterated all of the progress that queer people had made in the past 50 years.

and like, it’s weird to me, and what i brought to the conversation (i really couldn’t say much though, i was speechless mostly) was like, it’s so weird to me that there’s no continuity in our history? like, aids literally destroyed an entire generation of queer people and our culture. and when you think about it, we are really the first generation of queer people after the aids epidemic. but like, when does anyone our age (16-28 i guess?) ever really talk about aids in terms of the history of queer people? like it’s almost totally forgotten. but it was so huge. imagine that. like, dozens of your friends just dropping dead around you, and you had no idea why, no idea how, and no idea if you would be the next person to die. and it wasn’t a quick death. you would waste away for months and become emaciated and then, eventually, die. and i know it’s kinda sophomoric to suggest this, but like, imagine that happening today with blogs and the internet? like people would just disappear off your tumblr, facebook, instagram, etc. and eventually you’d find out from someone “oh yeah, they and four of their friends died from aids.”

so idk. it was really moving to hear it from someone who experienced it firsthand. and that’s the outrageous thing - every queer person you meet over the age of, what, 40? has a story to tell about aids. every time you see a queer person over the age of 40, you know they had friends who died of aids. so idk, i feel like we as the first generation of queer people coming out of the epidemic really have a responsibility to do justice to the history of aids, and we haven’t been doing a very good job of it.