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you have amazing opinions

My next opinion is that the human body is stupid and revenge shouldn't make me feel like throwing up

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Lil rant but a few months ago I was vague posting about an only friend of mine cuz of what he had said to me during our last conversation. I remember this the second to last bit being:

Me: (And I think I might’ve gotten mentally worse XD)

Friend: Oh yeah? Try having *Insert wut he had which, trauma wise, is technically worse*

I then took that as “Lol you can’t talk abt how you feel cuz your not MY level of mentally ill” and I kinda spiraled for a few days-weeks and even blocked him cuz he wasn’t responding so I figured he wouldn’t care

Spoiler alert, he did care but never bothered to do jack fuck about it until I unblocked him to get closure on my end and only gave him his closer about a week after. And like, dude- what did you expect? You don’t just say that to someone without them turning their back on you. Jeez… Anyways, timeskip a few days later and I find out I have npd..

He sounds like an asshole

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I despise people who passive aggressively tell you you're evil for not having empathy and being too broke to donate to causes that aren't important to your life

I have a life to live, asshole. Other people come second.

Ironic how people who say they support npd will tell you you're evil for having low empathy

It's not like I can rewire my brain to make me care

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Being a good person isn't determined by how much you care about things that don't affect you

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Everything is justifiable for the sake of revenge

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This blog isn't dead I'm just incredibly busy

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If someone you know is suicidal, and you tell them that by being suicidal they're hurting and traumatizing you instead of actually trying to help them, then you're much more abusive than you pretend they are.

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Ending every mental illness advocate post with "of course mentally ill people can still be evil just not all of them" only adds to the stigma and counters your entire point

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If someone tells you something traumatized them, maybe you should stop telling them how much you support it.

And then don't act clueless when they leave mid conversation to avoid being triggered more

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i haven’t read all ur posts sorry but u seem cool 🙏

I am cool

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Not NPD related but telling people they can't make jokes about their own mental illnesses is so fucking disgusting.

It's a coping mechanism. People who say they want to kill themselves are hiding it behind humor to make themselves feel better, not because they think it's funny or edgy

When my mental health was really bad, I often pretended I was joking to make people worry about me less, and if someone told me "you're not allowed to joke about that, you're being insensitive to real suicidal people" I probably would have injured myself and started spiraling

Don't tell mentally ill people what they can or can't say about their own mental health, and if you have a problem with it, it's YOUR job to set up boundaries, NOT THEIRS.

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Too many egotypicals have a victim complex

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Getting mad at people for not knowing things about you that you never told them is really shitty actually

Not my fault you don't tell me anything

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Very similar to accidental autistic representation, I find a lot of tv shows accidentally do great NPD rep without trying to.

Community as a series was mid, but Jeff Winger was great narcissist rep and not just because his character growth was about learning to navigate through his egotisticalness rather than being able to get rid of it.

There are quite a few episodes where he experiences narc crashes over things that seem miniscule (like his cholesterol being a bit high), but the characters then learn why it matters so much to him and sympathize with him (he had been obsessing over being "fit" and "healthy" since he was 10 yrs old and based a lot of his superiority on it.)

They successfully show through out the series that although Jeff seems to have a good grip on his charming personality & self-importance, he actually has to fight with it constantly in order to keep it under control. And he has a lot of anxiety surrounding not controlling it.

There's been a few times that episodes feature or are based around his maladaptive daydreaming

We see in flashbacks that Jeff has a childhood history of being overpraised, with his mom putting extra emphasis that he is inherently "special". And we can see how this actually does negatively affect him and his ability to learn/improve rather than frame it as Jeff being some "spoiled brat".

Jeff has a lot of shame surrounding his image which stops him from participating in things he enjoys, and there are episodes where Jeff overcomes some of this shame and gets to participate in those things. (There was a table pool episode where since pool is technically a sport, he has to wear the college's gym clothes - which he thinks makes him looks stupid and makes him want to quit altogether.)

Again, Community as a show has aged a bit poorly and is really only worth watching if you're rewatching it for nostalgia (and you skip the last season all together). But I could do a character study on Jeff. I have a lot of joy over the fact that they portrays Jeff as the typical narcissist, but wrote him with such compassion.

Sounds interesting

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After learning about how egos work, how my ego works, and what an unstable ego can do to you how view identity & labels, I feel like so much online discourse is just people with horridly unstable egos trying to make their own issues other people's problems. And I feel better than them for it.

I feel like when I look at people arguing about petty shit that doesn't matter, I can see exactly how insecure they are in their own identity & also in what way they are insecure.

Oh, that guy has a deep fear of being misrepresented and not having control over how other people see him. Oh, that guy is gripping onto labels so tightly because it's easier for him to form his identity around a heavily gate-kept term than to try to form his own identity. Oh, that guy has a superiority complex and feels as if he needs to guard a label to keep it "pure" so that other people who are unlike him won't "taint" it.

And although I feel better than them for it, I also do not nessecarily think they're bad people. I'm a narcissist, I have been there before. Sometimes I am still there. Struggling to form a concrete identity sucks ass and if you've found a predescribed term that somewhat suits you, it makes sense to latch onto it and become protective over it. After all, that label is "you" now. It's all you have in terms of being sure of who you are. But you can't make that other people's problem. Also, it's funny to watch them scramble to try to prove that their own personal issues and feelings are facts of reality that need to be strictly followed. Lol & heehee & what have you.

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"it's the thought that counts" my ass. You got that shit for $5 on Amazon. The only thought put into that was worrying about obligation.

Bitch I deserve better

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