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They are dyphoric then they are transgender in first part. Just because they don't transition doesn't mean they aren't.

For second part they can have another underline problem that makes they transition like other mental illness.

I believe in a way that can be transgender without dyphoria? But really depends on a case by case base. I definitely feel like you have to have dyphoria to be transsexual.

the thing I don’t get about transmed ideology is that dysphoria doesn’t really make anybody trans, the act of transitioning makes someone trans.

like if a dysphoric person decides not to transition, are they trans?

if a non dysohoric person does transition (socially, medically, ect), how are they “not really trans” despite literally transitioning??

idk man just don’t make sense 2 me

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Same goes for you ❤

The first videos that come up when you google Kalvin Garrah are "The Worst Transtrender I Have Ever Encountered", "We're Raising Our Child Genderfluid Reaction" (with a horrified face as the icon), "I bully people because I hate myself", "I hate SJWs", and other similar drivel. Is it any surprise one of his videos is also "Asexuals Aren't LGBT". Seems like an awful person with garbage opinions in general.

Kalvin is probably one of the most popular tru/scum out there, Nonny. I do follow discourses every now and again, so this guy’s a VERY familiar name for me. He’s a massive bully who constantly makes fun of NB people and non-dysphoric trans people (imagine the cringey Tumblr Trooscum, but like, with a much bigger platform that’s allowing everyone to join in the bully train). Like, how can someone be so hateful?? 

Despite never seeing any vids of his, I’m not surprised the slightest that he’d be an exclusionist. It’s a given at this point - since he likes to gatekeep trans folks SO much, naturally gatekeeping would exude into other parts of the community as well.

~Mod (Bringing up) H(is name alone makes me cringe)

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Making fun that I find freedom of speech needed and that you labeling a group of people like it has been done to the transgender community. Go for it love! I support you ❤

Really love this new truscum talking point that you should never let you binder show considering I have to choose every day between wearing a shirt that exposes my binder straps but is loose enough not to cling to my chest or a shirt that hides my binder but clings to my chest anyways, defeating the point. Also like sometimes a man wants to wear a tank top, damn.

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Didn't read my bio either did you love? I including tucute topics not being transphobic either. Its opinion

Really love this new truscum talking point that you should never let you binder show considering I have to choose every day between wearing a shirt that exposes my binder straps but is loose enough not to cling to my chest or a shirt that hides my binder but clings to my chest anyways, defeating the point. Also like sometimes a man wants to wear a tank top, damn.

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Calling me hiding? No. I just don't naturally need an audience to deal with people but hey if you want it I will. I never said that and again you are bringing your own personal stereotype to a group of people which is the stem of history to racism, phobias, discrimination, dehumanization to individuality.

I don't know if you looked up the definition to "transmed" or "truscum" but it entails the argument of dyphoria or no dyphoria when it comes to labeling someone as trans. Not on whether on following gender socially constructed stereotypes. That's a personal belief of people in general. It is not what makes someone who is transmed. I am a gay transgender male who frankly wears skirts, favorite color is pink, admires makeup because its an art with being a tool for developing shading techniques.

You personally have your own phobias. You are fitting a group into this little box which quite frankly is insulting because that what happens to the transgender community in society. So, go ahead and keep pushing for that attention you want with bringing this argument into the light. For me, I know I can sit at peace being happy with myself that I can have a civil discussion without calling for attention because I do it to learn. Not to label.

Really love this new truscum talking point that you should never let you binder show considering I have to choose every day between wearing a shirt that exposes my binder straps but is loose enough not to cling to my chest or a shirt that hides my binder but clings to my chest anyways, defeating the point. Also like sometimes a man wants to wear a tank top, damn.

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Its not transphobic

Just because I find neopronouns weird and no point in them doesn't make me transphobic.

Just because I think you shouldn't have hrt if you do not have dyphoria doesn't make me transphobic. It means if you are mentally healthy with a cis body, I find that you shouldn't take permanent social and health risks.

If I'm tucute or truscum it doesn't directly make me transphobic. Either side just seeking best for what they think the community needs. Its the person specifically that decides if they are transphobic. Yes a group may tend to lean one way or another but judging people on just stereotypes can be phobic. (ex. Racial stereotypes)

Just because I don't think we need as many gender labels doesn't mean I'm transphobic. I just find that express and be your gender. Don't always need to label all feelings. A umbrella term is fine for everyone doesn't fit into the perfect social binary. Can explain in detail if time arrives.

Having different opinions doesn't make you transphobic. To hate someone for no real reason is transphobic. To stick to one belief without at least listening is transphobic. To label a group of people without looking at the individuals is transphoic. TO DEHUMANIZE is transphobic. Gatekeeping is not transphobic by itself. For a doctor not diagnosing you with depression if you feel sad is not depressionphobic. They listen, they try to understand, they don't see your pain as something not to care about, they see you as a human. They respect you based on character and personality, not some underline aspect such as looks/physical being.

Stop over using the word if someone doesn't agree. Yes it can lead to transphobia. But its not transphobic. Making the word lose its real meaning just like the word t***** and q**** which actually needs to lose its power.

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Labeling a group of people

As someone who is truscum who has tucute friends, I have experienced when I have first met them that they saw me as a internally transphobic piece of crap. Without knowing about my views other then a label and not knowing my personality.

Again, I am truscum. I am a transgender male with a huge feminine personality. I like males. Make up. Dresses at some extent. Being submissive in a relationship at times. Things linked to my biological sex. I guess, if you go by the stereotype of a tucute belief, that does not sound right. In media and rhetoric towards the truscum community is that we believe that all need a form of dyphoria to be trans -pretty much true- but also have to fit into gender rolls, dislike non-binary people, gatekeepers, just transphobic in general.

Not all follow this. The ones with hate speak the loudest. Just like with tucute community. Just like the "cis-gender" community. So before you hate on a truscum person, hear them just like a truscum should be open to hear you. Not saying you have to agree. Just dont judge a group of people by some experiences just like cis towards transgender community in aspects. Hypocritical. .

Truscum doesn't mean we think that you have to follow gender rolls. Thats a personal belief that does not follow defintion of truscum. Personally, me, I find transgender more of a physical feelings then clothes and crap which is a social construct == gender non conforming. From experience I find people who do not have dyphoria are just either gender non conforming which isn't trans or that doing it by lgbt influences around them that make them think their feelings are that of being trans when in fact it isn't.

Dyphoria doesn't means hate body to everyone. A way to put it, feel like brain doesn't match body. Not personality doesn't match body. You feel like you should have biological aspects which doesnt relate to gender social aspects that are mainly socially constructed. You get euphoria from being trans? You are happier with wearing male clothes? Thats not what makes you male. You like male pronouns? Thats not what makes you male. You like male roles? That doesn't make you male. That's masculinity. That's not trans. Its a physical feeling almost that over takes you. That you are male. Not that you are masculine. It may be subtle or a lot. That's what transgender is and that's why it used to be called transexual because either way its linked to sex. For it is wrong body sex. Not wrong personality to a sex which is socially constructed .

This is where the idea that truscum dislike flamboyant trans male for example. We are -or at least most of my truscum friends- believe that can happen but if you have dyphoria. Why are you flaunting breasts? Why flaunting characteristics that you so happen to be uncomfortable with (because trans not social. Its phyical) then why go out of your way to make self uncomfortable? Its just a standard question. Can say you just didnt feel dyphoric that day. Okay understood. Can have a flat chest so nothing to flaunt in first place and looks male to you so in turn its not physically making you feel uncomfortable. Go ahead. When we ask, we are asking for some just don't get it. Some idiots out there who are means about it but... There is a lot that aren't.

Non-binary can have a form of dyphoria. It's real. I'll call people by pronoun they wish even if they don't have dyphoria.

Not all truscum follow every stereotypical belief like not all tucute follow every stereotypical belief. When you go to debate on a topic or judge a person, pay attention on that topic or that person belief in general. Not a whole group shown by the loudest and most drastic people. We all in end just want to feel like are feelings are accepted which can make us stray off topic because always want to be right but in the end just being the ones who you are fighting against.

Love y'all and thanks for reading

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My struggle

- Transgender people should die.

- Transgender people are freaks.

- They need mental help

- Body builders cant be on steroids so why should transgender people

- Gender roles created them.

- Not born transgender. Can fix it.

- You are going to hell for mutilation.

- You are pedophiles. Psychotic.

- You are not male/female enough.

- You will never be a real boy/girl.

- Stop thinking you are the wrong gender.

- You'll never get anywhere in life you freak.

I have been out as transgender about half a year now. I have heard all these things and most said to me. I did not state all of them.... I have come to point where I still feel suicidal... I've been even physically assaulted at school for sliding a credit card across my neck to pretend to kill me... I'm just so tired and sad and depressed. I try and wish that I can make these feelings go away. Some days I feel okay then other days it comes right back with rushing waters. The only thing that keeps me from ending it is because I don't want to hurt the ones who love me and to scared of death because I think there is nothing after... I just want to feel loved... I want people to see me as me... But I can't. It'll be a very long time till I get to that point but every day no matter what I'll try I'll see the hate. Transphobic people, if I am the real monster then why am I the one in pain and being punished with how I feel if its something I have to deal with. What is such a big deal of using another pronoun which words are created by humans anyway. Its not like you have to sleep with me... Transphobic people... Why am I the one crying myself to sleep because my mom yells dyke at me and screams at me for wearing clothes of the opposite sex... Why am I the monster because my demons are inside of me... Why am I the monster for trying to be happy and you are pushed to not take that away from me... Please.

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hey all i made a trans discord for adults theres only a few rules no pedophilia, racism, homophobia and of course transphobia

and of course u have to be 18+

nb people are welcome

fill out this form and reblog this post pls and thank u and if u have any questions my ask box is open