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Pda culture is constantly reassuring yourself that you're not lazy. (At least for me it is)

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PDA culture is having something you HAVE to do in the evening and spending the whole day leading up to it having a panic attack bc it's a demand to do it but u absolutely can't not do it

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pda culture is planning ahead of time to do something but then getting told to do the thing right before you were planning to do it so now you don't want to do it

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PDA culture is not being able to speak the moment someone asks a question without warning

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PDA culture is hating when people recommend a piece of media(songs/movies/series/books) unless you specifically asked for a recommendation because it feels like a demand from them to then try that piece of media even tho you know they are usually just being nice but it just ends up feeling like you have to and so you put off/never trying it because of that

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PDA culture is setting a timer for a task but then seeing the task as a demand once the time comes thus never doing it

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never feeling free and always feeling trapped unless you make really unhinged and sometimes dangerous decisions. only then being able to access a feeling of calm

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THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS BLOG!!! fr i was thinking for a while of doing one but i'm not sure i'm the best person for it for a number of reasons. quickest smash of follow. so glad you're here and can't wait to check out all your posts!

Thanks you as well!! /gen

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trying to do everything correctly the first time, because getting corrected or told off is overwhelming

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hating when people ask if you can do something, because no matter if you say "yes" or "no," you're not going to be able to follow through with what you said.

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Autospec culture is!

Hello! This is a culture is blog for identities under the autospec umbrella! I couldn't find one, so here one is! For those unaware of what autospec is, it's "experiencing some form of attraction towards oneself, exclusively or not". This is viewed by some, but not all, autospec people as an aspec identity!

This blog is accepting of all autospec experiences and identities, and encourages asks about all forms of autospec experiences. We do not tolerate exclusionism here, and discourse is banned. If you send media asks, please provide image descriptions if you're able to! (if needed I'll add proper rules here, but I really hope I don't need to)

Also, if you're questioning being autospec or have any questions feel free to send them too! Me or my followers might be able to help.

Who runs this blog? Well, it's ran by a polyfragmented system, who considers itself autospec in a plural way. It uses it/its or ve/vem/veir pronouns.

The main alter running it is Juno, who is autosexual and pan alloaro. You'll be seeing him the most, if not all the time. He uses he/him pronouns. Juno does have a typing quirk (all caps), but it'll probably rarely be used here

Hi! I'm tagging some culture is blogs I know are active in hope of spreading this blogs reach! No pressure to reblog, if you want untagging please let me know:

@autism-culture-is @posic-culture @fictive-culture @hyperose-culture-is @mestric-culture-is @pda-culture-is @ndcultureis @cluster-b-culture-is @narcissisticpdcultureis @plural-culture-is @misc-system-culture-is @funny-system-culture-is

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pda culture is wow i hate how my teeth feel but i can't brush them because my mum keeps ASKING me to brush them :(

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when you commit to something you're actually looking forward to but now it's a Demand so you end up stressing out over doing something you know you'll enjoy

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Hello, I know your blog is new and I immediately followed, I have a question if that is okay?

Is it PDA culture that at work when you do things a specific way and people try to intervene and it makes you mad so you either snap at them (and feel guilty) or go into a verbal shutdown?

I am autistic and have issues with reading comprehension so when people talk about stuff like this, they sometimes use words and stuff beyond my comprehension levels, so I have a hard time actually knowing what is what unless someone explains it in a way I can understand.

Thank you in advance

(Tone tags for this ask: /gen /genq /nf)

The example you stated does sounds like PDA.

On one side, someone trying to reccomend ideas (no matter how good their intentions are) triggers the idea of lost autonomy, especially since suggestions very easily sound like a demmand.

At same time it also seems to be from the autistic need to do something a certain way, but if I were to judge I'd say it could be a mix of both in fact. Either way it sounds relatable /gen

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Doing everything you can possibly think of so no one can tell you to do something

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About Blog

Welcome to pda-culture-is!

Inspired from other culture blogs such as @autism-culture-is @ndcultureis @cluster-b-culture-is @narcissisticpdcultureis and more!

This blog is for autistics with Pathological Demmand Avoidance to share their experiences.

Examples of starting off an ask:

PDA culture is

Autism PDA culture is

PDA + (other disorders) culture is

Informed self diagnosis is accepted here, even if you don't plan on getting a professional diagnosis

DNI

basic dni (racism, sexism, ableism, queerphobia, fatphobia, ect.)

transmeds, TERFs, exlusionists

anyone who demonizes stigmatized disorders, believes in "narcissistic abuse", participates in "cringe culture", misuse terms such as intrusive thoughts, narcissist, sociopath, ect.

pro-contact/anti-consent harmful paras

NSFW blogs, ED or SH blogs unless they are based on recovery

anti-self-dx

Other things to add:

don't say "going nonverbal/semiverbal" as they are pernament states, what you can use instead is verbal shutdown or speech loss

you can swear in asks but don't use slurs

in the case your ask mentions abuse, ableism, ed, s/h, suicide or anything of the like, please put a warning on top

in case you send an image with text, it is appreaciated if you add an image description if able, otherwise we will so don't worry

you can also add signatures (emojis, names), we'll keep track of them

we're open to questions but it is unsure wether we can answer

hate messages will be ignored and deleted

About Admin

Collective Info: Dave, he/they/it, Transmasc Non-Binary AroAce

We're a DID system with NPD, BPD, and of course Autism hence this blog. We won't be sharing much about us.

Our stance on syscourse doesn't matter on this blog so anyone can send in questions and interact