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Happy Pride Month! Don't forget that the founder of Pride is a bisexual woman, Brenda Howard aka Mother of Pride, who organized the first pride parade. Don't forget that two of the most key figures in LGBT liberation were Marsha P Johnson, a black trans woman, and Sylvia Rivera, a puerto rican trans bi woman. Don't forget that the person to start the fight against the police at stonewall was Stormé DeLarverie, a butch and gnc biracial lesbian.

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From newsweek, july 17, 1995

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fun facts about bisexuality

Bisexuality includes trans people by definition

 The “bi” in bisexuality refers to the fact that bisexuals experience attraction to genders like and unlike their own. The sum of genders like and unlike one’s own is all genders, including nonbinary ones.  

The bi in bisexuality doesn’t refer to “attraction to afabs and amabs” or “attraction to feminine and masculine presenting people”. Bisexuality includes trans people in a way that respects their genders. STOP SMOKING CRACK. 

Bisexuals don’t inherently have a preference.

Artificial terms like “pansexual“ and “omnisexual” are unnecessary specifically because bisexuality already includes attraction to all genders with or without a preference. 

Split attraction model-derived coinages like “bi lesbian“ have like, five mutually exclusive definitions, all of them biphobic, lesbophobic, and transphobic and for that reason are also completely useless. 

Defining bisexuality as “attraction to two or more genders”, in addition to being utterly ahistorical, undermines our commonalities with gay people and lesbians (the fact that we’re attracted to people of the same gender) and conflates us with straight people. 

“Polysexuals” who aren’t attracted to people of the same gender are just straight and shouldn’t be grouped with bisexuals. 

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A violent reminder 💖💜💙

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Another example that pansexuality is purely a biphobic label

Bisexuals were essentially accused of murdering women via HIV in the 80s, either because we were intentionally duplicitous or because we were out of control maniacs who couldn’t resist unsafe sex. For many people of that generation, this was their first time hearing about bisexuals. Now folks want to pretend that didn’t influence today’s perception of bisexuality. 

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Gaslighting someone into identifying with their own “oppression” is wild. It's actually incredibly concerning watching someone INSIST on shoehorning in an identity that legitimately has nothing in common with us— asexuality would be better off being co-tangent with misogyny and advocating for bodily autonomy, but I digress.

How many times now have I seen asexuals online openly state they don't agree with what the LGBT community stands for.

How many times have I seen recently asexuals openly admit they can tolerate homophobia and transphobia, but they draw the line at aphobia.

How many times have I seen asexuals claim they can be cishet as a defense against 'queerphobic' directed aphobia (bear with me please lol), yet turn around and insist they can't be cishet because they're ace.

How many fucking times are we gonna do this.

How many times are we gonna get stabbed in the back by people who wanna be part of the queer club so fucking bad they try to rewrite what our oppression looks like while also refusing to acknowledge their privilege.

How many fucking times.

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A lot of bisexual history has been erased so I figured I’d remind you all of some quotes and clear up any misunderstandings about bisexuality.

Bisexuality has been described as attraction regardless of gender for decades

“I am bisexual because I am drawn to people regardless of gender”

-‘The Bisexual Community: Are We Visible Yet?’, 1987

“In the midst of whatever hardships we [bisexuals] had encountered, this day we worked with each other to preserve our gift of loving people for who they are regardless of gender.”

-Elissa M., “Bi Conference,” Bi Women, 1985

“To be bisexual is to have the potential to be open emotionally and sexually to people as people, regardless of their gender.”

-Office Pink Publishing, “Introduction,” Bisexual Lives, 1988

“Being bisexual does not mean they have sexual relations with both sexes but that they are capable of meaningful and intimate involvement with a person regardless of gender.”

-Janet Bode, “The Pressure Cooker,” View From Another Closet, 1976

“Over the past fifteen years, however, [one Caucasian man] has realized that he is ‘attracted to people — not their sexual identity’ and no longer cares whether his partners are male or female. He has kept his Bi identity and now uses it to refer to his attraction to people regardless of their gender.”  

-Paula C. Rust, “Sexual Identity and Bisexual Identities,” Queer Studies: A Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Anthology, 1998

“In the midst of whatever hardships we [bisexuals] had encountered, this day we worked with each other to preserve our gift of loving people for who they are regardless of gender.”

-Elissa M., “Bi Conference,” Bi Women, 1985

“To be bisexual is to have the potential to be open emotionally and sexually to people as people, regardless of their gender.”

-Office Pink Publishing, “Introduction,” Bisexual Lives, 1988

Bisexuality doesn’t have to mean a person “sees gender”

“[S]ome bisexuals say they are blind to the gender of their potential lovers and that they love people as people… For the first group, a dichotomy of genders between which to choose doesn’t seem to exist”

-Kathleen Bennett, “Feminist Bisexuality, a Both/And Option for an Either/Or World,” Closer to Home: Bisexuality and Feminism,1992

“Some bisexual respondents bypass the issue of ‘degrees’ of attraction to women and men by defining bisexuals as a humanistic, gender-blind way of relating to others. They see bisexuality as a way of loving the person, not their sex, or being nondiscrimintory in their attractions to others. For example, Ludwica wrote, ‘I feel as if I’m open to respond to the person, not just the gender.’ ”

-“Bisexuality and the Challenge to Lesbian Politics: Sex, Loyalty, and Revolution” by Paula C Rust 1995

“I believe that people fall in love with individuals, not with a sex… I believe most of us will end up acknowledging that we love certain people or, perhaps, certain kinds of people, and that gender need not be a significant category, though for some of us it may be.”

Ruth Hubbard, ‘There Is No ‘Natural’ Human Sexuality, Bi Women’ ,1986

“Some women who call themselves ‘bisexual’ insist that the gender of their lover is irrelevant to them, that they do not choose lovers on the basis of gender.”

-Marilyn Murphy, “Thinking About Bisexuality,” Bi Women, 1991

“Some of us are bisexual because we do not pay much attention to the gender of our attractions.”

-Bisexual Politics, Quiries and Visions, 1995

Bisexuality is inclusive of all genders

“Who is this group for exactly? Anyone who identifies as bisexual or thinks they are attracted to or interested in all genders… This newly formed [support] group is to create a supportive, safe environment for people who are questioning their sexual orientation and think they may be bisexual.”

-“Coming Out as Bisexual,” Bi Women, 1994

“It’s easier, I believe, for exclusive heterosexuals to tolerate (and that’s the word) exclusive homosexuals than [bisexuals] who, rejecting exclusivity, sleep with people not genders…”

-Martin Duberman, 1974 “The bisexual community should be a place where lines are erased. Bisexuality dismisses, disproves, and defies dichotomies. It connotates a loss of rigidity and absolutes. It is an inclusive term.” -‘Essay for the Inclusion of Transsexuals’, Kory Martin-Damon, 1995

“Bisexual — being emotionally and physically attracted to all genders.”

-The Gay, Lesbian, and Straight Education Network, “Out of the Past: Teacher’s Guide” 1999

“Bisexuality is much more than, and different from, the sensationalized ‘third choice, best of both worlds’ phenomena it’s made out to be. Bisexuality is an inclusive term that defines immense possibilities avalable to us, whether we act on them or not.”

-“Bi Any Other Name”, Loraine Hutchens and Lani Ku'ahumany, 1991

“Bisexual consciousness, because of its amorphous quality and inclusive nature, posed a fundamental threat to the dualistic and exclusionary thought patterns which were- and still are- tenaciously held by both the gay liberation leadership and its enemies.”

-“The Bisexual Movement’s Beginnings in the 70s”, Bisexual politics, Naomi Tucker, 1995

Bisexuality historically and currently includes transgender and nonbinary people

“With respect to our integrity as bisexuals, it is our responsibility to include transgender people in our language, in our communities, in our politics, and in our lives”

-Bisexual Politics: Theories, Queries, and Visions by Naomi S Tucker, 1995

“Bisexuality is here defined as the capacity , regardless of the sexual identity label one chooses , to love and sexually desire both same - and other - gendered individuals . The term other-gendered is used here deliberately and is preferable to the term opposite - gendered , because other - gendered encompasses a recognition of the existence of transgendered and transsexual individuals , who may embrace gender identities other than [male and female]”

-“Bisexuality: The Psychology and Politics of an Invisible Minority” by Beth A. Firestein and Dallas Denny, 1996

“From the earliest years of the bi community, significant numbers of TV/TS [transvestite/transsexual] and transgender people have always been involved with it. The bi community served as a kind of refuge for people who felt excluded from the established gay and lesbian communities.”

-Kevin Lano, “Bisexuality and Transgenderism,” Anything That Moves, 1998

“Bisexuality means having the capacity to be attracted to people of both major genders ( don’t forget: there are gender minorities, too) .” “As with the word Bisexual, they usually also imply that relations with gender minorities are possible.”

-‘Bisexuality: A Reader and a Sourcebook’, 1990

“There were a lot of transvestites and transsexuals who came to [the San Francisco Bisexual Center in the 1970s], because they were not going to be turned away because of the way they dressed.”

-David Lourea in “Bisexual Histories in San Francisco in the 1970s and Early 1980s,” Dworkin, 2000 Journal of Bisexuality

“The actual lived non-binary history of the bisexual community and movement and the inclusive culture and community spirit of bisexuals are eradicated when a binary interpretation of our name for ourselves is arbitrarily assumed.”

-“Bi Any Other Name: Bisexual People Speak Out” by Lani Ka’ahumanu

“In the bisexual movement as a whole, transgendered individuals are celebrated not only as an aspect of the diversity of the bisexual community, but, because like bisexuals, they do not fit neatly into dichotomous categories.”

-“Bisexuality and the Challenge to Lesbian Politics” by Paula C. Rust, 1995

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A violent reminder 💖💜💙

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"With respect to our integrity as bisexuals, it is our responsibility to include transgendered people in our language, in our communities, in our politics, and in our lives."

"The Next Natural Step" by Naomi Tucker, Anything that Moves, No. 4, 1992.

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Same thing for bisexual in relationships with nonbinary, genderfluid, agender etc that people people call pansexuals. It's bi erasure and transphobic!!!!

Calling a canon bisexual woman a lesbian becuase she has a female love interest or is in a wlw relationship is bisexual erasure and biphobic!!!!

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Now this is what personal growth looks like kids. If you're not Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, or transgender, then you're not LGBT there is no 'A' for a reason. Please seek professional help if this offends your feelings.

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It’s almost as if pansexuality has consistently been used to actively erase bisexuality because people hate us so goddamn much

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So I learned that popular long time bisexual comic book character John Constantines' bisexuality (John has been bi in DC Comics since 1992) has been erased by biphobic writer 'Si Spurrier'. His so called explaination for this erasure said he believed "bisexuality to not be inclusive of trans or nonbinary people", which is 100% FALSE. This biphobic and transphobic erasure is exactly why bisexual visibility month exists.

In response to this outright biphobia a Change petition was create. Please feel free to click the link and sign it and let bisexual voices be heard!

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Know your Bisexual history; in the beginning! A fun and interesting fact about bisexuality is the term (Bisexual) didn't start out as a sexuality, but infact as a botany term! In 1792 bisexuality was used to describe flowers that had both male and female reproductive sex organs and characteristics. These flowers were seen as "perfect" as they were able to self pollinate and had very few issues. Bisexuality didn't make the jump to humans until 1842, first as a term used to describe people who we now call intersex, then in 1892 bisexuality was and still used today to describe people who experienced the two types of attraction of homosexual (homo meaning same as) and heterosexual (hetero meaning different from) which covers attraction to all regardless of sex or gender.

(Taken from Bisexuality Means Regardless of Gender, on Facebook)

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I saw your post saying that bisexuality is the attraction to men, women and nonbinary people (all genders) and it's NOT the attraction to men and women only. I always thought pansexuality was the attraction to men, women and nonbinary people (all genders) and bisexuality was the attraction to men and women only so I'm confused by this post. Does this mean pansexuality is the attraction to men and women only? Did I get them the wrong way round?

The best answer I have to explain this is from my favorite bi page on Facebook and a link to a very good article about bisexual history.

So I wanna start off and say that I understand your confusion. A lot of people I'm sad to say have grown up with a very limited understanding of bisexuality because with the exception of a lucky few, most of us didn't have access to bisexual history or activism and got the bare minimum and narrow description of bisexuality which is the common "attracted to men and woman."

While bisexuals being attracted to men and woman is a technically correct definition since bisexuality does include them, it's not the whole truth and leaves out about 99% of the entire story. What people think that pansexuality is, is in truth what bisexuality has always been.

When it comes to there being a "difference" between bi and pan, honestly there really is no difference between Bi or Pan that many bisexuals cis, trans, and nonbinary alike have pointed out, doesn't end up relying on biphobia, transphobia, bi-erasure of bisexual history or just a lot of misinformation.

The whole reason pansexuality even became popular is because a 2002 Live Journal post by a teenager who also had no knowledge of bisexuality or it's history, said bisexuality was transphobic and only included cis men & woman which ended up spreading biphobia, and transphobia from there because the overwhelming majority of people just didn't have anyone to say "hey that's wrong, this is what bisexuality is" and set the record straight.

In reality bisexuality has always included and welcomed trans, nonbinary, and gender non conforming people even before we had modern terminology to describe them.

The definition "Regardless of gender" itself was invented by bisexual activists to define bisexuality and the modern bisexual movement that started in the 70's. So regardless of gender is bisexualities real definition.

Many people inappropriately try to use the "bi" prefix to argue what bisexuality should mean, and that is called an etymology fallacy. The "bi" in bisexuality doesn't represent a quantity of genders and never has. It refers to bridging the attraction patterns of homo (same as) and hetero (different from) which covers all regardless of gender because it's not based on gender in the first place. People using etymological fallacies to define bi as binary to justify biphobia is wrong and in the end hurts bisexuals. Though I'm just explaining and in no way accusing anybody of doing so.

Unfortunately since a lie and misinformation spread faster than the truth it's taken 20 years to put the pieces of knowledge of what bisexuality truly means back together that were lost or buried due to bi-erasure.

To quote Bisexual activists Janet Bode who invented the definition of regardless of gender in her book (The Pressure Cooker) : "Being bisexual does not mean having sexual relations with both sexes, but that they are capable of meaningful and intimate involvement with a person regardless of gender" - 1976

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don’t you ever wish you could just be happy? isn’t it tiresome to hate so many people?

Don't you wish you had better things to do with your time than be a terminally online troll on Tumblr? Isn't it tiresome to be such an incel that you try to assume what people other than yourself think, feel, or have going on in their lives because you've got nothing better to do? Please go touch grass and find yourself a hobby, or better yet actually be a productive member of society 💅