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wtf is this disgusting shit

because you are a man🫩

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christians: god is formless, god can come across as anyone or anything

person: god might be a woman

christians:

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Saw that pic of the drag queen the other day called “miss toxic shock” and then came across (again) the video on the official RPDR account of the drag queen moid on stage, fake breasts, shaking them violently and whipped cream is pouring out. Which is disturbing and depraved.

It’s like. Not even a crude joke like limp dick or something. It’s literally for feeding a child, and many women find it hard to even get baby to latch. Or the exhausting and sore hours of pumping and feeding which only mum can do. Like.

I know it’s blatantly a hatred of women. And I know males have a sick fascination half the time with breastfeeding. But I really really don’t understand why the fuck anybody thought oh this is a hilarious and knee slapping joke we have here everyone is going to love it.

And I guess deep down there’s no second thought bc misogyny is just Oppression Lite™ to males.

I don’t even know what really or how to convey how genuinely batshit crazy this is.

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i've been working in a school for almost a year now and it makes me so angry to notice how girls and boys are socialized since the very beginning of their life, how boys are taught to be violent and strong and assertive and loud and how girls are taught to be calm and sweet and silent and to do what boys want to do, how boys are terribly mean and violent to other boys but especially to girls, how girls are always told to "stop running, just sit there and be nice while i am talking" when boys scream and run and play without anyone telling them to stop, how boys are always the ones to decide the game they're gonna play in their sport class today, how girls are punished and yelled at as soon as they are a bit loud or they cry or they get up from their chairs or do this sort of things that it's normal for kids to do when boys do these things and even more all the time without getting yelled at or punished or even looked at, how girls are punished for things boys are allowed to do, how girls are told to be silent when boys can be as loud as they want, how girls' boundaries are never respected because they're told to "be nice" and "let him do, it's okay" when they complain about boys doing things that annoy them, how boys are literally told to cross these boundaries because "she's being mean, ignore her and do what you want, she can't stop you", how most of the school's space is taken by boys, leaving a small corner for girls to play, how all boys have to do for teachers to congratulate them and give them compliments is to answer a question out of ten correctly when girls can be so smart and answer everything right all the time without never seeing a smile or hearing a "good job" from their teacher, how these same girls get yelled at when they make a single mistake in their homework when teachers are way more patient with boys and try not to upset them, how boys can annoy and even hit girls without being told anything very often when girls get punished for fighting back or telling them to leave them alone, how girls are told that they have to be nice and calm and mature to be an example for boys, how boys spend their time hitting and making fun of each other and of girls even more and everyone seems to think it's normal, how teachers try their best not to upset boys but don't care about basic girls' feelings, how girls are always the ones to help us cleaning and storing equipment and toys when boys are having fun, how girls are prevented from doing a lot of things because they have to stay clean and "pretty" and "ladylike", how girls are taught to take care of boys, how girls are taught to prioritize boys' feelings, how girls are told they're being dramatic when they cry.... i could give so many examples. i work with kids between 3 and 12yo and i can't believe how obvious their socialization already is. 3yo boys trying to force 3yo girls to kiss them. 5yo girl getting punished for crying. 7yo boys hitting a 7yo girl. 11yo boys watching porn. violence, sexism, bullying, mocking. you can't escape the socialization. it touches all of us. depending on our biological sex. male and female socialization. i hate it.

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"Masculinity" is identified with competence, autonomy, self-control— qualities which the disappearance of youth does not threaten. Competence in most of the activities expected from men, physical sports excepted, increases with age.

"Femininity" is identified with incompetence, helplessness, passivity, noncompetitiveness, being nice. Age does not improve these qualities.

susan sontag, the double standards of aging

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“Black men’s idealization of white womanhood is as rooted in sexiest woman-hating as is their devaluation of black womanhood. In both cases, women are still being reduced to the level of objects. The idealized woman becomes property, symbol, and ornament; she is stripped of her essential human qualities. The devalued woman becomes a different kind of object; she is the spittoon in which men release their negative anti-woman feelings.” - bell hooks (ain’t I a woman: black women and feminism)

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It’s really no wonder that men cling desperately to the institutions that don’t allow women out from under their brutality. Separatism terrifies them for good reason. Look at single-sex male spaces in prisons, schools, and industries. When men/boys are alone together, they quickly create castes where they treat their lowers like they treat women in broader society - and the abuse knows no limits. It’s often sexual, often fatal, and it always revolves around degradation. Males recreate patriarchy, even when they’re alone together. They’re terrified of their own brutality and need to use women as a buffer.

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Nonbinary people are the biggest hypocrites when it comes to gender theory. Aside from the fact that it's mostly women who are trying to escape oppressive gender stereotypes, nonbinary people frequently complain about how restrictive gender norms are, and these restrictions are what made them want to be nonbinary in the first place.

However, if you are implying to be outside of the binary, doesn't that imply everyone else is within the binary? Doesn't that push gender norms further onto everyone around you, assuming that they want to fall into the mold and oppression, while you do not?

Gender ideology is all wrong at it's core, but I decided to make this post especially about nonbinary people's hypocrisy, because you're not about to go around complaining about the very system that helps you continue being who you are.

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Every community is misogynistic. Every institution. Every belief system. Every so called progressive space. They all carry misogyny deep in their foundations but as an ex Muslim I’ll talk about Islam. Go to any mosque anywhere in the world. You’ll see how Women are shoved into a tiny back corner, behind a curtain, given barely 5% of the space. It’s deliberate exclusion and structural erasure. You’re told this is your religion, your place of worship, but it clearly it belongs to men. Might as well say women aren’t allowed. Meanwhile imams and sheikhs are always extremist men who spout vile, misogynistic rhetoric about women, and somehow they’re treated like prophets. As if they have the divine right to declare what’s a woman’s worth is. And they always have so much political power and influence. Don’t even get me started on the Quran allowing men to hit their wives, inherit double, marry four women and treat women’s testimony like it’s worth half.

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north korea is superior to south korea in every way. I'll even bet it has the lowest rape rate in the world

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if tarzan was female she would get raped, same with mowgli from jungle book.

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the thing is that they're so fascinated by sex, they love sex, they can't imagine a world without sex - they need sex to sell things, they need sex to be part of their personality, they need sex to prove their power - but they hate sex. they are disgusted by it.

sex is the only thing that holds their attention, and it is also the thing that can never be discussed directly.

you can't tell a child the normal names for parts of their body, that's sexual in nature, because the body isn't a body, it's a vessel of sex. it doesn't matter that it's been proven in studies (over and over) that kids need to know the names of their genitals; that they internalize sexual shame at a very young age and know it's 'dirty' to have a body; that it overwhelmingly protects children for them to have the correct words to communicate with. what matters is that they're sexual organs. what matters is that it freaks them out to think about kids having body parts - which only exist in the context of sex.

it's gross to talk about a period or how to check for cancer in a testicle or breast. that is nasty, illicit. there will be no pain meds for harsh medical procedures, just because they feature a cervix.

but they will put out an ad of you scantily-clad. you will sell their cars for them, because you have abs, a body. you will drip sex. you will ooze it, like a goo. like you were put on this planet to secrete wealth into their open palms.

they will hit you with that same palm. it will be disgusting that you like leather or leashes, but they will put their movie characters in leather and latex. it will be wrong of you to want sexual freedom, but they will mark their success in the number of people they bed.

they will crow that it's inappropriate for children so there will be no lessons on how to properly apply a condom, even to teens. it's teaching them the wrong things. no lessons on the diversity of sexual organ growth, none on how to obtain consent properly, none on how to recognize when you feel unsafe in your body. if you are a teenager, you have probably already been sexualized at some point in your life. you will have seen someone also-your-age who is splashed across a tv screen or a magazine or married to someone three times your age. you will watch people pull their hair into pigtails so they look like you. so that they can be sexy because of youth. one of the most common pornography searches involves newly-18 young women. girls. the words "barely legal," a hiss of glass sand over your skin.

barely legal. there are bills in place that will not allow people to feel safe in their own bodies. there are people working so hard to punish any person for having sex in a way that isn't god-fearing and submissive. heteronormative. the sex has to be at their feet, on your knees, your eyes wet. when was the first time you saw another person crying in pornography and thought - okay but for real. she looks super unhappy. later, when you are unhappy, you will close your eyes and ignore the feeling and act the role you have been taught to keep playing. they will punish the sex workers, remove the places they can practice their trade safely. they will then make casual jokes about how they sexually harass their nanny.

and they love sex but they hate that you're having sex. you need to have their ornamental, perfunctory, dispassionate sex. so you can't kiss your girlfriend in the bible belt because it is gross to have sex with someone of the same gender. so you can't get your tubes tied in new england because you might change your mind. so you can't admit you were sexually assaulted because real men don't get hurt, you should be grateful. you cannot handle your own body, you cannot handle the risks involved, let other people decide that for you. you aren't ready yet.

but they need you to have sex because you need to have kids. at 15, you are old enough to parent. you are not old enough to hear the word fuck too many times on television.

they are horrified by sex and they never stop talking about it, thinking about it, making everything unnecessarily preverted. the saying - a thief thinks everyone steals. they stand up at their podiums and they look out at the crowd and they sign a bill into place that makes sexwork even more unsafe and they stand up and smile and sign a bill that makes gender-affirming care illegal and they get up and they shrug their shoulders and write don't say gay and they get up, and they make the world about sex, but this horrible, plastic vision of it that they have. this wretched, emotionless thing that holds so much weight it's staggering. they put their whole spine behind it and they push and they say it's normal!

this horrible world they live in. disgusted and also obsessed.

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Next time that someone is arguing sex work is work, just say "It may be a good enough job for your mother or daughter and sisters but not mine, so I don't consider it work" and watch them twitch.

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“Make up isn’t about men! It’s for me!”

Make up is how we assure men they’re the default. Every default setting is reserved for men. Everything default in humans is the boy version of things now. A resting face is male. A smile is female. Textured skin is male. Flawless skin is female. Small, normal eyes are male. Big eyes are female. Colorless lips are male. Colored lips are female. Bushy eyebrows are male. Shaped eyebrows are female. Plain clothing is male. Pants are male. Good quality is male. Cotton is male. Covered up is male. Costumes are female. Skirts are female. Poor quality is female. Polyester is female. Naked is female.

Responsive is male. Quiet is female. Alive is male. Inanimate is female. Active is male. Passive is female. Curious is male. Stupid is female. Wanting is male. Desire-less is female. Self interested is male. Discontented from self is female.

Everything about masculinity can be summed up as “what is normal and neutral for all humans.”

Everything about femininity can be summed up as “marking women as ‘other’”

The entire point of gendered differences is to mark men as the default. Their thoughts, feelings, perspectives, health symptoms, needs, perceptions, and priorities are the default. Even when a woman recounts a story a man wasn’t present for, his account of it is seen as more reliable. Because he is who we default to. She is “other.” Toilet paper is provided because it’s needed by men. It’s default. Pads and tampons, just as important, are luxury or personal items. If anything, annoying to have to see because they don’t represent the default state. The presence of something female that doesn’t please a man is seen as something out of place that needs to be cleaned up and removed to restore life to its default, male state.

Make up isn’t about beauty. It’s about men hating the idea of women being as naturally occurring as they are, and having a right to our own realities. It’s deeper than looking pretty. It’s deeper than sex. It isn’t about whether your make up is natural looking, either.

When a man says he likes a natural looking woman, he means, “Textured skin and dullness and natural eyebrows are MEN’S THING a woman who has those is broken.”

It doesn’t matter if you’re a goth or you’re typically feminine. The point is that you don’t resemble the men.

In countries where a veil is required for women, does it matter if her hijab is kind of ugly? Is that the point? No. Most women aren’t wearing luxury fabrics or brand new hijabs. They’re wearing whatever they have. The point is that they are identifiable as female so men can treat them differently and not accidentally like equal humans.

When women aren’t required to wear dresses anymore, we start being required to wear make up. We are always required to do SOMETHING. Look at the Elf on a Shelf type dolls where they put lipstick on the girl ones. No matter what, the boy version of things is always the natural, unchanged, normal default. And if they make a girl version it’s that. There’s an elf. And there’s a girl elf. We are a spin off of men. That’s how they see us.

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Isn’t it telling that males will inject themselves with estrogen and think they’re more submissive? Maybe it’s because they subconsciously view female people as inherently submissive?

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unfriendly reminder that lesbians don't like dick and never will. if you call us transphobic for not wanting to date a TIM then that's just delusional. if you call yourself a lesbian and still date a TIM, then you're bisexual and not a lesbian. stop trying to include males and dicks in lesbianism.