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Beautifully said.

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To live in a little house with my wife...cooking dinner together every night...decorating for the holidays together wine-drunk with flushed cheeks and trading tipsy kisses...snuggling together on the couch with our blanket collection watching old movies...‘tis the dream

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viewing queer identities as “this is the label that makes me happy and feels most accurate now” rather than “this is who I am, was, and always will be” will definitely take the pressure off, friends. changing your mind is proof that you have one.

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apparently i have so much Gay Love for girls that it broke clean through the other side and became self love.

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anonymously send me assumptions about me based on my blog(s).

i’ll tell you if you’re right or not lol

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a still from footage of the san francisco dyke march and gay pride parade, produced by dyke tv’s linda chapman, mary patierno, and ana maria simo, june 1995

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Back at it with the elf & mermaid gfs 🧝‍♀️ 🧜‍♀️ 💕

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listening to the beach boys is like

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happy bi pride, my peeps!  💗💜💙 23rd september 2020

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Happy Bisexual Visibilty day! Whether you’re able to be visible or not, you are valid and you are loved!

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the deconstruction of the manic pixie dream girl trope is meant to remind moody assholes that wild whacky girls do not exist purely for their pleasure and then cease to exist/have rich inner lives & narratives when they’re outta sight 

the deconstruction of the manic pixie dream girl trope is NOT meant to say “whacky girls do not exist and they are bad and if you see a girl being whacky she’s perpetuating a sexist stereotype for the sake of pleasing men”. like how wrong could y’all GET that 

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“Relationships take work”

Some things “relationships take work” should mean:

It takes work to learn to identify, effectively communicate, and mesh your needs/wants with those of another person

It takes work to actively listen and learn the other person’s communication styles as well as their needs and wants.

It takes work to maintain a relationship by planning activities together and investing in time spent together

Some things “relationships take work” should never mean:

Relationships take an exhausting cycle of constantly fighting and making up

Relationships require you to compromise your core values or change core aspects of who you are

Relationships take conforming to the other person’s expectations even when you don’t want to

Relationships take constantly proving to the other person that you deserve respect and/or love

Relationships require you to try to make yourself feel and want things you don’t actually feel or want - or at least pretend you do

Simple truisms like “relationships take work” can be misused in harmful ways.

Relationships do take work, but that work is supposed to be a team effort to support and care for each other while still honouring your own needs and desires.

If your relationship isn’t a healthy partnership, don’t feel like you have to stick it out just because “relationships take work.”

You are not obligated to stay in any relationship you do not want.

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happy pride :-) i love you all

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pull up to the gay function and people are just dressed like this

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….they really had sex on that mountain with absolutely no lube