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My dear lgbt+ kids, 

Being outed against your will is wrong - even if it goes well. 

Let’s say someone tells your parents (or a sibling or a friend who didn’t know yet etc.) that you’re queer, and they do so without your consent. Luckily, the person they told turns out to be supportive and open-minded, so the outing has no dire consequences for you. In such situations, you may feel (or the one who told them may tell you) that you have no right to feel upset or hurt. After all, you just gained a new supporter, right? They may even tell you they did you a favor and saved you the trouble of having to come out. 

But that’s oversimplified. The decision how and when to come out is so personal. You had the right to choose the “how and when” (and also the “if at all”), and the person who outed you took that decision away without asking your permission. That’s upsetting and hurtful, regardless of the reactions and results of their actions. They broke your trust by telling a secret, it’s as simple as that. 

You deserved better than that. You deserved to tell it to the people you wanted to tell, at the time you wanted to tell them, in the way you wanted to tell them. It wasn’t fair to take that from you. 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Dad 

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"but aroaces can still feel lo-" shut up. it doesn't matter if we can feel love or not. why is this always your defense to why aroaces should be valid? it gets even worse with alloaces and alloaros. people constantly saying "aces can still have sex!!" and "aros can still have love and have partners!!" YES, they can, but you aren't bringing that up just to bring awareness towards aroaces. No, you are using that fact as a way to ignore and condemn the part that makes us aroace; the lack of attraction. I'm sick and tired of seeing aces and aros have to defend themselves by bringing up all the other ways they can love. Why can't we for once celebrate the parts of us that DON'T love?

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some of my favorite replies to this tweet. happy lesbian visibility week!

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happy lesbian visibility week

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Hello! I am conducting a survey to study transmisogyny online, specifically transmisogynistic harassment campaigns, and how they affect transfeminine individuals. This survey is for adult transfeminine individuals only, and any obvious troll responses will be tossed out.

Please share with any friends whom this survey may apply to. Thank you!

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shoutout to acespec and/or arospec people who still feel some amount of sexual/romantic attraction btw. shoutout to everyone who isn't fully aro/ace and isn't fully allo. shoutout to the aspecs who feel like they don't fully fit in aro/ace communities or allo communities because of it. i love you all i am baking you cookies

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i made some evil aromantic flags

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it feels like a lot of "progressive" online spaces have really latched onto this ooo boykisser pastel stockings kitty femboy image of GNC men and i have to admit i have concerns about how those spaces would respond to GNC men who either can't or simply don't want to look like that

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slightly late to the party buuuuut happy lesbian visibility week<333

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"being queer is about love" hmm actually being queer is about defying societal norms about gender and sexuality and does not depend on feeling love at all

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also what is with people tossing out support for nonbinary people when the nonbinary person is a celebrity. as soon as demi lovato changed their pronouns from they/them to they/she everyone, including supposed allies of the community, IMMEDIATELY dropped the “they” part of “they/she” and started referring to them as a woman again. then when “unholy” by sam smith and kim petras won a grammy people talked about how kim petras (just her) made trans history by being the first trans person to win a grammy. and yes this is something to be celebrated, but is sam smith not also trans by virtue of being nonbinary? did they not also make history? or do you not see them as nonbinary because they’re amab and not feminine enough to cross the man threshold for you? and yes nonbinary celebrities are not going to see you referring to them as if they were cis but your trans acquaintances sure as fuck are

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sometimes i feel like im the wrong Kind of aromantic. like, i see posts on tumblr all the time about other aro people talking about how all aro people hate romance in media, or hate shipping, or the like. and yeah, functionally i know that this isnt a general statement, and obviously they don't mean Every Aro Person Ever but. you know. its easy to feel like youre doing something wrong, even when youre just being a person

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Aromantic awareness week!!!!

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trans lesbian = tresbian = très bien (very good)

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i open the lesbian tag. i see 20 posts about gold star lesbians in a row. i close the lesbian tag

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Sry this took a while, i lost confidence and i had to pick it back up lmao